Age gap parent problems

Figured one of you anons will have some good advice...so my GF (19) and I (39) have been dating serious 6 months now but her Father and Sister are pretty unhinged about it (death threats to me / throwing things at her) and are doing everything they can to end the relationship, GF loves her family but is getting very upset about the whole thing, what do? P.S. we are in love so get bent haters.

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    How did you meet her

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Hinge

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Put a baby in her

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Not a terrible idea, thanks anon.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Gross. A baby should nkt be skmething forced to save your shitty "old enough to be your kid" gf... It's a huma life not a toy or a tool.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Pretty sure ppl were joking about that anon.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    What could you possibly have in common with a 19 year old?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >just roastie questions

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      We go to the same high school

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Music tastes, humour, ethics, sex drive, love of nature, interest in conspiracies, etc, you know normal human things virgin.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Normal human beings also don't date people half their age, she's basically a kid.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Well I'm not normal according to you, tragic. Last I checked you can marry, smoke, drink, join the army, have a baby, work, and buy a house, you should maybe try going around town with a sign explaining why adults can't do what they like within the law, good luck with that pal.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah, I'm afraid it's atypical, my guy. You act like it's moronic to even ask what you'd have in common with her but you're a grown ass man, surely you're aware 20 year age gaps in relationships ain't common, you're practically in different life stages. It's going to raise some eyebrows.
            Now, does that mean I condone the father abusing his daughter, as you mention he's throwing stuff at her? Of course not, poor gal doesn't deserve that. I assume the family is trying to protect her from a potential abuser even if they're going about it the wrong way, so they're unlikely at best to listen to either of you. Like the other anon says letting time run its course may ease things eventually, but it's likely it'll get worse before it gets better, desperation kicking in and all.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Sounds dumb, but we honestly thought nobody would care if we are happy and treating each other right. Technically it's the Sister, throwing thing, he's just screams with death threats and stuff making her cry. Yeah I think we are in the desperation phase ring now as we're going on holiday soon then getting engaged and a place together soon. Sadly it does sound like time is the only play here.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Oh if she's basically a kid then she basically shouldn't be out of the house and able to have sex with people her age or younger.

          If she's not then you can deal with the fact that you're obsolete.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >19 year old
          >a kid
          buy an ad you fricking moron

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          And he is a mankid obviously. They clearly do have something in common thanks to his arrested development, anon.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          NTA-
          All of society
          >GIRLPOWER! WOMEN ARE SMART, TOUGH, AND CAN THINK FOR THEMSELVES! TRUST WOMEN! WOMEN CAN DO ANYTHING! LOOK AT THESE TOUGH, SMART, NO-NONSENSE 16 YEAR OLDS!
          Feminists and young women
          >IF THE MAN IS OLDER HE CAN CONTROL THE WOMAN BECAUSE HE IS SO MUCH MORE EXPERIENCE AND SMART! A 24 YEAR OLD WOMAN IS STILL A CHILD, ALMOST A *BABY*! WE CAN'T EVER LET WOMEN UNDER THE AGE OF 33 INTERACT WITH OLDER MEN BECAUSE THEY LACK THE CAPACITY TO HANDLE THE RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE WOMEN ARE SOOOOOO WEEEEEAAAAAAK!

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Hag detected.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This question never makes sense. What is so different from 19 to late 30s? I'm also in my late 30s and it's identical to life at 19, the ONLY difference is you worry about work a little more. At 19 you have a job, you have insurance to deal with, you have moving out to deal with, etc, unless you're an immature little frick-up you already are living the same life as someone is at 40 except with MORE stress because your life isn't just the monotony yet but trying to get there. Your interests don't magically change as you grow up either unless you're a vapid NPC (woman) - I still like games, film, music, same hobbies I always had since I was 10, etc.

      What kind of freak frick-up are you that you are so different magically now?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Nothing is different other than life experience. Love is love, however. Life experience is jobs, travel... and .... LOVE

        So an 18 year old is exactly the same as a 40 year old when it comes to experiencing love. Thats what relationships are.

        The vast majority of people who dogpile on a guy for dating younger are women who've been forgotten/ignored by men for one reason or another

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        A frick ton? Are you kidding? I'd say post-uni and with 2 years of experience or so is when someone reaches "true adulthood" so a 25 year old or so with a 39 makes sense, but these kids literally have no idea how life works.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >What is so different from 19 to late 30s?
        Not even late 30, I turned 30 2 months ago.
        At 19 I didn't have any large responsibilities. Other than studying, I spent most of my time out with my friends, traveling and having fun. At 30 I have a husband and two kids, and have a vastly different lifestyle. We still travel and have fun, but life is very different.
        At 19 I was rather naive, carefree, I struggled a lot with putting myself in other people shoes, I was more self centered and far more emotional. At 30 I don't, I grew out of those things as I matured.

        I can't imagine being 40 and still acting and living like a teenager.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Honestly life at 39 is very similar to 19, depending on what you do you can get a little more confident and intelligent, well it has been for me, the only real change is it gets harder, you can't eat and drink whatever you like, and there are more responsibilities such as insurance and tax etc, also people start to die.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            It really should not be and isn't for 99% of people.

            At 39 most people are parents of teenagers, not teenagers.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I appreciate that, I would have loved to have been a parent years ago, but my current GF has been the only one who even wants kids, lockdown was a b***h for me, I spent the last 4 years hiding away from the world on a mountain (too many close people died). If I had had a kid at 18-27 that kid would have had problems, I was hanging with the wrong crowd (low level gangster stuff).

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I don't have anything in common with any women of any age. I don't like the same music or things or anything. I don't even have anything in common with men my age even more because I hate weed, drinking and sportsball.

      What do you have in common with women and men your age? I really would like to know because I am perplexed when people pose your original question. In fact I never really considered younger women until I started seeing people say your question and realizing I have no shared cultural/career/social or whatever experiences with women of my own age and they would be even more put off by this.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Lifestyle usually (e.g. at 19 you're mostly in college partying while at 28 you're not), plans for the future ((at 19 you don't want kids in the immediate future, at 28 you probably do).

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          This.

          I don't have anything in common with any women of any age. I don't like the same music or things or anything. I don't even have anything in common with men my age even more because I hate weed, drinking and sportsball.

          What do you have in common with women and men your age? I really would like to know because I am perplexed when people pose your original question. In fact I never really considered younger women until I started seeing people say your question and realizing I have no shared cultural/career/social or whatever experiences with women of my own age and they would be even more put off by this.

          If don't have anything in common with people your age you are probrably going to have LESS IN COMMON witha teen.

          Like it's not that hard. Sure you may be a manchild with little worry besides what's on tv and what game to play.

          But wven the movies, tv shows and references won't be the same and won't fit.

          It's nkt that hard kf a concept to grasp. All these years are like a difderent country of difference in style, values and experiences.

          This question never makes sense. What is so different from 19 to late 30s? I'm also in my late 30s and it's identical to life at 19, the ONLY difference is you worry about work a little more. At 19 you have a job, you have insurance to deal with, you have moving out to deal with, etc, unless you're an immature little frick-up you already are living the same life as someone is at 40 except with MORE stress because your life isn't just the monotony yet but trying to get there. Your interests don't magically change as you grow up either unless you're a vapid NPC (woman) - I still like games, film, music, same hobbies I always had since I was 10, etc.

          What kind of freak frick-up are you that you are so different magically now?

          Even the jokes, humor and references are not the sane. You grew up with star wars and she grew up with tik tok.

          Those experiences are going to impact on how your behave, your outlook in life and even how you speak and communicate.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            For me and my GF the jokes humorous and references are surprisingly the same, she's often accused by friends of having Millennial humour, and I am told I have GenZ / Silent Generation humour. Star Wars never went away, could argue it's bigger now than ever. But I agree that stuff can and does have an impact, but for us I think the saving grace of our relationship is that we have great communication, we can always talk it out and help each other understand our perspectives, without that we would be dead in the water for sure.

            In all honesty I wouldn't suggest age gap relationships to people, 99.9% of the time I doubt it could sincerly work. But we are both a bit weird and we admit that, I'm not going to list all the things that are strange about us, but most people would probably call us 'a lot' or 'too much' from a relationship perspective.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >In all honesty I wouldn't suggest age gap relationships to people, 99.9% of the time I doubt it could sincerly work. But we are both a bit weird and we admit that, I'm not going to list all the things that are strange about us, but most people would probably call us 'a lot' or 'too much' from a relationship perspective.
            Well, that you are self aware is a great relief.

            If that trully is so I would focus on the fact you two see this as an exception, and how deep those synchronicities are compared to superficial bs most couples see on each other. Hiw does things won't be eroded with time.

            Be awere of the bad things and possibke regrets this choice will have in your life sich as her spending her collage years with you.

            And be awere some people jjst will never get it, and reflect if that is a big enough of anbissue tonoutweight the postives or if the positives outweight the issues.

            But knowing some people will NEVER see this as nornal is important.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Thanks anon. That's good advice.

            Yeah, it's super important to me that say this does go wrong (touch wood it doesn't) she won't feel like she wasted her collage years, whenever she has the chance I always encourage her to go out and see friends etc, and if some other age-gap fools are reading this I would strongly encourage them to do the same.

            Haters are gonna hate as far as I am concerned, if not our relationship then they will always find something to stay mad at.

            Just gonna have to accept that it will never be normal to some.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      What do you have in common with any women? Why do NPCs spout this line whenever age gaps are talked about

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I don't see a problem. It's all on them

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    older male situation runs into flak from a few different angles. one is he is older, more experienced, and is playing games with her naivety for easy sex

    another is that she should be with guys her own age so theres no power imbalance. manipulation, etc.

    and theres plenty of real life evidence that back up these worries

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Didn't ask, and for the record she initiated pretty much everything in the relationship, power imbalance is that I can drive and she can't, we also split bills etc. Didn't ask why do morons get mad, was asking for tips other than something like 'just beat up the Father Bro'

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You're very defensive in this thread. That means you believe you're somewhat in the wrong

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Nope just pissed that some sad c**ts are upsetting my GF, looking for a metaphorical face to punch, but preferably some good advice, I want her to have a great relationship with her family, but we are not looking to break up because other people have a perceived issue.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Ok. I have seen this play out in real life more than a few times. The family is worried about her being used, taken advantage of, etc. As long as she remains happy and its a relationship that doesn't exploit her, the family will loosen up about it in time

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Thanks anon. Don't suppose you've got an ETA on that loosening up, would sure make the GF feel better.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            As long as you treat her well... their emotions should be on a downward slope ever since learning of the relationship.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Honestly seems like they are getting more unhinged (the Mother being the exception).

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            well.. thats not good at all. i am at a loss. good luck

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Thanks for the good luck anon.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            She will absolutely complain at every instance to them, and in that terms relationships with girls parents can only get worse over time. The only way to avoid is to cut her family off or refrain from interacting with them. If they ever break up there is a non illusionary chance op will actually get assaulted in the alleway. Being a boyfriend to a woman with angry male family members is playing with fire.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Maybe. But also, If she loves this guy she probably wants him to look great to her parents, and therefore tries to speak highly of him

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            > But also, If she loves this guy she probably wants him to look great to her parents, and therefore tries to speak highly of him
            That studd is temporary, problems are inevitable down the line. You know just regular shit omg he looked at me the wrong way and then she will tell her sister instead that he called her a whole and that she feels humiliated in relationships and yada. Women exaggerate greatly the offences they take when they start talking about them.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          No, it means you don't belong in the thread, droopy breasts.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >YOU'RE A CHILD RAPING PEDOPHILE
          >I'm not, wtf are you saying?
          >You're defending yourself? This means you obviously are one, I'm very smart btw
          KYS

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Lol, thanks anon. This has been the most 4chins response so far, brought a much needed smile to this oldgays face.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I can drive and she can't, we also split bills etc.
        You're definitely taking advantage of her then. I bet her dad wouldn't have a problem if you had your shit together at 39. Why should she split bills with an adult that's 20 years older than her.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >roastie babble

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I'm not saying that 19 and 39 is bad, it's not, but why should she go 50/50 with you, you're taking advantage of her.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Why should anyone pay for a BF/GF? We surprise and treat each other to stuff all the time, but she's an independent lady and would never accept or want me to pay for her. If either of us were rich, different story.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >but she's an independent lady
            That b***h isn’t even 20 lmao

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Lol try saying that shit in the real world, you'll be picking up your teeth off the floor. She turned 20 this year, 19 when we met.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Watch out everyone, we got a badass over here! She’s a stupid b***h who thinks she knows what’s up just like every 20 something. Years later, she’ll say how she was manipulated into dating a creep twice her age. I’m not sure what you’re expecting?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I dated a guy that was more than 10 years older than me for years and he was fine.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            10 years isn’t too bad, you were both within the same generational era. You both were still in high school/middle school around the same time. Not too weird. But a 20 year difference? This dude already graduated high school and out for 2 years before this b***h was even born.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            He was in high school when I was in preschool and lived nowhere near me. Wtf are you talking about?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You were in preschool at 6? Special needs?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            He is more than 10 years more than me. You're special needs cause you couldn't even read my post correctly.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Well you didn’t end up fricking marry him. Had your fill then broke up, right?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            For normal reasons. I didn't feel enough emotionally for me to stay. He wasn't a temporary thing. I gave him a chance. He was the one who initiated everything.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I didn't feel enough emotionally for me to stay
            Typical femoid

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >sad I cared more about a man's personality than his good looks or what he could offer me

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >You could be wealthy and handsome, and a woman will still find a reason to leave you

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            That is because those thing never truly mattered in the first place.
            Anon when women say something along the lines of "I/you could do better" they do not meant as in you could have a higher status man, they mean that they could find a man that would TREAT them better. It was never about the man, it is all about your interpersonal dynamic

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Women like to be treated like trash. The instant you're nice and respectful they dry up like the Atacama because you're now "tame" and thus "weak".
            >nuu ur just n incel womxn aren't liek dat
            The majority of women dating dudes who can't even remember their name hints to the contrary. Actions speak louder than words, and the actions of women are such that nice guys are their free meal ticket and nothing more. You either learn this and start treating women like dirt, or you spend your entire life getting the "I like you as a friend/you're like a brother to me" routine.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Compelling text. Mostly agreed w/

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Compelling text. Mostly agreed w/

            Both of you aren't around women. The only women that stay with bad and attractive men are the women that can't get the nice and attractive ones.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Nope just a guy who would punch anyone in the face full force with an elbow for saying shit like that to his GF, it's happened before, luckily keyboard warriors are about as scary as ghosts.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            And I’m a guy who’d have your girl sucking on my wiener behind your back. Your point being?

            We live in England you dumb Black person, 18 for bars here and most of us start drinking at 14.

            Oh for frick-you’re fricking Engl*sh? A typical nonce and his “mature for age” slag. Who gives a shit?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Kek, good luck Black person, did this winkle biddy boy get aww upset by a word, kek, you sound like a gay virgin. No offence gays, this Black person just sounds closeted, somebody tell him when his local Pride is so he can R Kelly piss his way outta the closet.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Says I could have his girl on my wiener
            >Mind immediately goes to Black men
            White people, everyone.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You're honestly not black? Either you can't read text, or you have 0 black friends.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Backpedaling this bad
            Too late, you’ve already been found out, cuck.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Dude you're a gay Black person, deal with it, it's fine, nobody cares.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >No u
            Very mature. I can see now why you got together with a girl who doesn’t know shit about life. 7 relationships and couldn’t settle down by this age? lol

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I never said I was mature. Also w=as looking for the right one.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >no commitment longer than 3 years
            >"the right one" just so happens to be a girl 20 years his junior, with no life skills and unable to drive
            >OP is a self confessed manbaby
            This relationship is doomed. OP is purposely hunting for someone with inexperience because their standards will be lower.
            >muh true love
            Please.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >you can't have someone with less life experience that isn't faaaiiiirrr
            >you can't have someone with the same amount of life experience that isn't faaaiiiirrr

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Lol, dude the medieval times ended long ago, women are not property or objects, I'm not interested in dating kids who watched too many Disney movies and expect a simp to pay for all their bills. You should get help.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Providing for your partner is medieval lol. Can you not afford it or something, you had a 20 year head start over her. Anyways just ignore her parents. She sounds naive so I bet you could easily convince her to go low contact with them.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Lol, I could afford for her to play housewife if she wanted, but she's not that kind of girl, she's told me many times, and likes to pay her own way. You're right about the parents, I should just try to ignore them and not get so wound up. Not gonna try and convince her to go low contact though, I wouldn't be able to sleep at night.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          nta but do you really think that guys who married 20 years ago and are now in their 40s are sensible? that whole generation is fricked in the head. her father probably knows more about nintendo than about what makes a good husband for his daughter. same as you, sounds like

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          moronic. I couldn't drive until my late twenties and I had a gf who was 20 and could.

          https://i.imgur.com/NY4ZYKj.jpeg

          Figured one of you anons will have some good advice...so my GF (19) and I (39) have been dating serious 6 months now but her Father and Sister are pretty unhinged about it (death threats to me / throwing things at her) and are doing everything they can to end the relationship, GF loves her family but is getting very upset about the whole thing, what do? P.S. we are in love so get bent haters.

          Let me put it to you this way...would the parents give a frick if you were rich? Suddenly their pearl clutching would be thrown out the window. If you two truly love each other that's what matters.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Lol, I am trying to teach her how to drive, sadly I own a giant classic from the 60s (explain-brag I know) so it's going slowly, but I kinda agree who wouldn't want to learn to drive asap.
            And for sure they would care a lot less if I was rich, I'm not broke, but I can't pay for £50 meals every other day of the week at the moment. And thanks anon, I think the love is what really matters. Really appreciate it anon, means a lot to hear someone say that.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Hag detected.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Bro. That's an incredibly based 20 year aged gap. Good job.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I had an 18yr old gf at age 33 and her parents were really cool about it.

    The only thing you need to do is realize that what you both do is perfectly legal so you are good in that aspect.

    But you also need to show you are worthy and not just a creep that is taking advantage of someone. So show her parents that you really love her. Involve them in your dates. Invite them to your house (I hope you live on yourself) and have them over for dinner. Go to them and have dinner with them and bring parents. Show legit interest in them, even if they act mean to you, this is the only thing you can do.

    Hope you will treat her well though, and be careful that she might leave you at one point because girls that age dont always know what they want.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks anon, that's good advice, right now our families are struggling with basic conversation, but hopefully with time that will be achievable further down the road.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    what do you mean, what do?

    what are you trying to accomplish? Marriage?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I mean any good advice to get the Sister & Father to chill a little, if only for the sake of the daughter. Right now she went back home to stick up for me to them as it's breaking her heart having people she loves be so rude to / about me, less than an hour back her Sister threw water in her face. But yeah our plan is to get engaged soon, but wait at least 3 years before having kids.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        If i was her i'd just stop talking to my family wtf

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah this could happen worst case, it's just not what either of us want.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I mean any good advice to get the Sister & Father to chill a little, if only for the sake of the daughter.

        then you have to make them believe in your commitment level. Their worry is normal, and you know it. They don't think you have her best interests, and they think she is not being cautious enough against being used and discarded.

        If you're living together at all before mariage, because of her age, you will be fighting a nearly impossible battle to get them to chill.

        Do they know your family plans? Have you taken serious steps, like naming a date?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          True. Guess we never thought about that, we wanted to be engaged before moving in together at the end of this Summer, but she never told them that, only about us moving in together.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            That this hadn't occured to you at nearly 40 is also concerning. What the hell is your own relationship experience/history? You sound like you've got alot of work to do also.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Not sure what you want me to tell you pal, I'm above average with some things, kind of a moron with others. She's my 8th relationship, my max runtime was 3 years, never been married or engaged. For sure I've got work to do, self improvement never hurt nobody.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            ive been with lots of teen girls since i turned 35. i dunno if ure bragging or autistic. if you dont care she wont care either. the fact her mom doesnt care tells you all you need to know. her dad, who gives a frick. get her pregnant already, you want to be 70 when ur kids turn 20?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Lol probably autistic, she is too, guess we both just enjoy being morons together. Yeah not all that fair to a kid being 70 when they turn 20, we were kinda gunning for 64. She does actually really want a kid.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Unless you live in the middle of nowhere, this chick is going to leave you by her mid-20s
    >But we’re so in love
    Women these days, especially zoomer girls, are incapable of love.
    >But she’s not like other girls
    For frick sake’s, this is exactly something a groomer would say and I hope, for your sake, this isn’t your line of thinking.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      she will leave you even before her 20th

      my gf left me also after a year 18-19 and i was 30+

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Lol this, you're meant to frick these young b***hes, not date. At first she'll be impressed by your perceived maturity but eventually she'll get tired that you don't want to do all the late teen shit that they love to do. This b***h can't even go to bars yet so I dont wanna hear shit about loyalty. When this b***h can party, go out, and still be loyal to a 20+ yr man then we can talk, but statistically speaking she'll probably either leave or cheat by age 25.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          We live in England you dumb Black person, 18 for bars here and most of us start drinking at 14.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Oh so white trash island, have fun you putrid shit stain on the world!

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Can you read, she is 20 numb nuts.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          God I love morons.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Late night typo, jeez give me a break butthole lol.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Uh oh, then OP has like 2 years TOPS left in this relationship kek

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          i read 19, anyway, 18, 19, 20, 21 it doesnt matter much

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Your first point, possible, the odds have never been in favour of love for anyone. To me your opinion doesn't carry much weight if you're going to lump an entire generation of women together like that.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        She's 19 dipshit. She has no idea what love is so get ready for a whole lot of twists and turns as she figures out if you're the person she truly wants. You're not in the middle east.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Whoops just realised I wrote 19, not 20, my bad, it's late, I'm tired. Gotta disagree with you there 20 year olds can know what love is, life if fully of twists, shit happen, people die, and no I'm not in the Middle East.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >You're not in the middle east.
          >the west is where a man marries a 35 year old single mom who has years of experience, high body count and is way past her prime
          Grim

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >But she’s not like other girls
      >For frick sake’s, this is exactly something a groomer would say and I hope, for your sake, this isn’t your line of thinking.
      Did Twitter tell you that phrase is what groomers use?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You use Twitter?

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    my cousin broke up with his wife and married a woman the same age as his daughter
    that family is completely fricking destroyed and they all have mental problems now

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah, gotta say I would find it weird to date someone close to or younger than my kids age, though I don't have kids.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      life sucks

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Father and Sister are pretty unhinged about it (death threats to me / throwing things at her) and are doing everything they can to end the relationship
    great, no moronic family gatherings for you then. Make a baby, but prepare to be a single dad once she comes into the
    >I want to enjoy life while I'm still young
    phase at 23 and leaves you.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Lol that is one of the few upsides. Most ppl I know enjoy life at 16-19 then you grow the frick up, though we still enjoy life our idea of a good time is night drive karaoke, and the odd bottle of bubbly with some comedy cringe Dracula Role-play, but each to their own.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You still have to deal with her feeling bad about the family pressuring her though. One way would be a fake break up.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Fake break up? To what ends?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            not sure how much involved she is with her family. In mine if I never say anything about having a gf they would never find out.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            She's pretty close with them, mainly the Mother and Sister, the Father she loves, but he's a bit of an old grump army vet.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    All the “advice” here just boils down to
    >Just wait
    >Do nothing
    Wow, great thread guys, this totally wasn’t a waste or anything.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      To be fair I did try calling the Father a "c**t" after the last death threat rant on the phone, and it didn't help much.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're dating a teenager, it's normal that her family is protective of her and treat her like a kid. It'd be weird if her dad didn't care a man is age is fricking his 19 year old daughter.

    Keep being respectful to your girlfriend, hope they see you as someone who cares for her.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks anon, I really hope so too.

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I think you just have to accept that you're always going to be on their bad side. I have nothing against your relationship, if it works for the two of you, more power to you. But you have to realize that to the average person, a 20 year age gap is an enormous red flag. You're old enough to be her father. Most normal people won't raise an eyebrow at an age gap of up to ~10 years or so, but once you're old enough to be their parent, or are closer in age to your partner's parents than to your actual partner, then people start to get suspicious. I'm not saying you're a creepy groomer, but that's what the average person is going to see you as, given that relationships with such huge age gaps usually do have some less than pure intentions behind them. Again, I'm not saying you're a bad person, I'm a fan of age gaps myself (albeit smaller ones), but other people don't know your intentions, and they'll always assume the worst, especially when it's the girl's own family that wants to protect her. The best you can do is treat her well, wait, and hope that they calm down over time. But even then, they'll probably just tolerate you at most, and they'll be waiting for the moment you slip up to have a "gotcha!" moment.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks anon, you're right, I guess I arrogantly assumed people would just judge me by my actions, I treat her like a Queen and she treats me like a king, but nobody yeah nobody fully knows our intentions. Patience and best behaviour at all times really is looking like the only play here. I'm probably a bit too hot headed when people upset my GF and need to work on that when it comes to her family.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This situation doesn't actually exist does it? It's something you made up to farm (You)s isn't it?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Hate to be the one to tell you your Sherlock Holmes skills are not up to par, it's not a larp, and no I'm not. posting a picture of the two of us. Any details that would help you accept reality I'm willing to share, I know there is a lot of bait troll larps on here, but some people and their advice is real here.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I don't really care. If it hadn't been for the thread watcher I would have forgot I replied to this thread

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    There's not really much you can do, but there's not much they can do either. If they're threatening you, you could try and file something against them to get them off your back. Your gf may not like that escalation but you're not really with a wealth of options here. Sitting down to talk it out isn't practical.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah I kinda escalated it this last week telling her Sis 'how would you like it if I tried to break up your relationship' and calling her Father a 'c**t' :/ but you're probably right, sitting down right now isn't practical.

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    ... Bojack?

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Invite her to live with you. Problem solved.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're 40 and you're with a teenage girl. Of course her father and sister hate you - you're a loser, a creep, and a groomer. It speaks badly to your maturity and intelligence that you would even want to spend your time with someone who has 0 years of being an independent adult, while at your age you should have had 21 years of it. Grim.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Man you write like a bad Radiohead song.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    too many redditors in this thread
    if I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 18 and we are both first year uni students there is no "power imbalance" and if there was she'd love it

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Tell me about it, seems like a part time job for some of them typing here spitting their hate.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I have nothing against OP's relationship but there's a bit of a difference between a 6 year age gap and a 20 year one, those two situations aren't going to be treated the same. Only terminally online people (and irrationally overprotective parents) get upset over 6 years, but most people will at least raise an eyebrow at 20 years.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I have nothing against OP's relationship, but...
        that's not how it works

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I can respect his relationship while also acknowledging that the average person is going to think it's weird. Do you seriously think that understanding someone's point of view is the same as agreeing with them?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I can respect his relationship while also acknowledging that the average person is going to think it's weird.
            That's to whole point. It's already known, and not worth to mention at all.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I was just trying to say you can't seriously compare a 6 year age gap to a 20 year one, because some anon actually thought the two were comparable. But I didn't want them to think I was shitting on OP, because everyone on this hellsite automatically assumes the worst of you unless you spell things out for them, I was just explaining that the comparison doesn't work.

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    regardless of what you anon's moralities, there is actually nothing morally wrong if she's consenting. Who cares if she grows out of him? She's allowed to make decisions.

    As someone who started dating someone older at 19, I do think it's highly infantilizing to assume she doesn't have agency to make choices. It actually says more about you (you probably were a manchild at 19 and were not living as adults) than it does about this random creep.

    The guy is 39 but if he's in a relationship with her, presumably he didn't fricking throw her in a cage and steal her or something. Sure this has all the potential to go south, these relationships aren't usually long lasting because the younger woman will grow out of him, but it's her decision.
    Do you also try to stop young girls from having ONSs because you think they'll get their feelings hurt? Why is it all "yay and valid" until she actually consents to something you feel insecure about?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I think it's mostly older women who have their feelings hurt that young women are still being desired but I'm not sure entirely if that is the case.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Um...thanks? But I agree it's messed up to think young people can't make their own decisions.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    First off: nothing you're doing is morally wrong, and completely legal since you're consenting adults. Age gap marriages were the norm for all of history, until the rise of eternally single older women in the past 30 years. Only recently it is expected for older men to only date their own age.
    My parents have an age gap. My father was 32 when he met my mother, who was 18. He dealt with the exact same shit you're dealing with, and they're still together and happily married after decades. My mother had to end up cutting off most of her family pretty early on because they wouldn't relent, even after happily dating my father for several years. I only met my grandmother on my mother's side like 3 times in my life because of this, and never met my grandfather because he refused to acknowledge any children from the marriage. So expect the likelihood of something similar if you stay together and have kids.
    I'm sure you have your own place. Tell her dad and sister to frick off, she's an adult, and she can come and live with you if she feels unsafe with them. There's nothing her dad/sister can do to you legally, and If they press it, get a restraining order. If they resort to violence, you can resort to self-defense, or take it to the courts. Just tell them to accept their adult daughter's decisions or frick off.
    And to any woman or simp your age who tells you you're wrong for dating a younger woman: ask them "what does a 39 year old woman have to offer that a man actually wants?" Their answer will probably be laughable bullshit, or they'll just shut up quick if they're smart.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Thank you anon, that means a lot. I'm sorry to hear your Grandparents were not in the picture much, but for sure I need to accept and be prepared for that. It's nice to hear a success story though.
      If I get the chance I will tell them 'Accept your daughters decision or piss off' and I'll try and talk to her today about her moving in with me.

  23. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    this situation isn't salvageable
    either they are right about you, or they are wrong but it will poison your gf against you and there's not much you can do about that
    either way its doomed, just enjoy it while you can

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks for the pep talk coach.

  24. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    40 and 20 is the perfect combo.
    Only cucks and hags disagree

  25. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Keep it up, kang. I love seeing normies lose their little minds.

  26. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If I was her dad, I'd put one in your dome you pedo freak

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Congratulations, you win the most unhinged comment award. Try that up close and you get the blade, cowards get the slow death, GF would assist with a salt lamp to the head.

  27. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This is so dumb

    I see the same thing more or less with old boomer sugar daddies and mongers in Tijuana that fall in love with the prostitutes down there

    I mean that's basically what this is here

    Eventually she'll get tired of you once her friends get in her head or she sees a tik tok of a young couple or some roastie saying to be free and enjoy your 20s

    Anyway, you're the type of autist that I expect to be on this site

    Good luck though, maybe buy a rabbits foot or a 4 leafed clover

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah Tik Tok is cancer, but luckily she is Tik Tok famous.

      Still genuinely good advice to try and upgrade my luck.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      my guy you're like 29 and you constantly post about ytijuana when no one has brought it up, not a soul has mentioned prostitutes and you keep bringing this up
      is this your special interest or something? and it's always with asiaticshit pics or something. stop

  28. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >what do?
    Your only choice is too ignore them. There's a 99% chance they'll want to murder you no matter what.

  29. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    How dare you

    You should be dating women in your own age range you frick

    Wouldn't surprise me if you head off to Thailand to banged underage women after she dumps your ass!

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Soz Gretta.

  30. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    lol, i had an age gap relationship i was early/mid 20s she was 18 (met her at 17)
    Her family were really cool about it.
    But i gradually suspected her father as plotting to kill me.

  31. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Bro you a grown man.. just ignore them
    pushing 40 and asking for advice on NSFFW is fricking crazyyyyyyyyyy

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >40
      >seeking life advice on NSFFW
      >yelling at the parents of a 19 year old he is abusing
      >grown man
      Lol

  32. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >be me, dad with 20 year old daughter
    >great kid lots of potential
    >starts dating some 40 year old loser who still hasn't married
    >know he'll put a baby in her to try and keep her with him when she inevitably gets bored of the old man
    >best case scenario they marry and he dies when shes in her 40's leaving her alone with kids
    hmmm wonder why he's upset about it you fricking sperg. the fact that you're on NSFFW getting advice shows you need to date someone your own age to help you mature

  33. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If i had a 19 year old sis and you tried to date her at nearly 40 I would literally run you off gun in hand and take any charge that comes my way. If her dad wasn't a beta you would be single or dead by now.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Good luck with your imaginary gun, I've got a rifle and scope that says you'll be dead before you know you've had an accident, sorry to spoil your daydream pal.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      And if you had wings and GF you could fly her to the moon

  34. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Assuming this isn't LARP/bait.
    When they married my mother was 22 and my dad was 40. They'd been dating for 2 years. They met at a fundraiser for a charity a year after my father's first wife died of cancer.
    They were devoted to each other and were married for 47 years and had us 8 kids before cancer got my mom. Dad outlived her 5 years and was devastated the entire time. His last words were that he'd be with her again.
    Both families opposed them at first but within 5 years they were accepted and by the time I was 12-13 everyone envied their great marriage.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks anon, it's no LARP or bait. That's honestly heartwarming to hear, it's nice to hear that there can be light at the end of the tunnel, I should be more patient.
      Sincerely thank you for sharing that, it means a lot, you brought a smile and a tear to my moronic face.

  35. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're better off just going to Tijuana and fricking 18-19 year old escort/brothel pussy

    She's just gonna leave you're 40 yo NSFFW posting ass eventually

    You think she has life figured out at 19? She'll eventually see other girls "living it up" in their 20s

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >I have zero experience with women and I watch too much reality TV
      edited for accuracy

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Sorry dude, would never pay / be paid for sexo.

      I'm an Oldgay on here been posting since I was in college (where else would I have got my ripped Dreamcast JP titles from). Well my GF love my 4chin ass, she adores the insane conspiracies I recount to send her sleep. Stay mad bro.

  36. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Lecherous old one! if you laid one dusty hand on my young sister or daughter, why I would smote you in twain with my blade at once! Fye on you! A thousand curses on your name, we shall be enemies until the day you are put to rest!

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Then say my name b***h.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Voldemort

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Now I know where you are, dang your Mums basement is small.

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