Am I on a good path to getting a gf?

>make 65K AUD (planning to move up to 80-90K in the next couple of months)
>train at the gym three days a week
>started learning how to play a piano
>reading at least one well acclaimed book every month
>saving up to go on a trip overseas to become more well travelled

Please let me know if I'm on a good path to getting a gf.

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You're pretty pathetic to be honest, brother. Don't do any of this shit to "get a gf". You live your life for you. Building yourself up to become a codependent is just going to end in disaster.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm doing these things for me and to find a gf.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Why?
        Because it's what you want, or because you think you'll be happy?

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >I'm doing these things for me
        Awesome start man, just make sure you're putting yourself out there and shooting your shot; I'm sure you'll find someone in no time. Sounds like you got your shit together, be confident and you're gonna do just fine.

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No
    To get a girl all you have to do literally is talk to them
    Simply talk to them. Don't try so hard. Be consistent, be yourself and talk to women
    That's all you have to do

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You're definitely better off than some shut-in NEET, but try to separate yourself from the idea that this is some sort of equation you can quantify, where you just have to tick off enough boxes to earn enough "points" to be eligible for a gf. None of the activities you mentioned actually involve talking to and being around women, and that's the most important factor, unless you're just expecting some woman to fall into your lap because you have good prospects. You'd be better off putting yourself in places where that can happen now, rather than buying into the cocoon mode ideology where you'll only try once you consider yourself ready.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      > None of the activities you mentioned actually involve talking to and being around women
      I don’t have any friends or hobbies that lead to this happening.

      Why?
      Because it's what you want, or because you think you'll be happy?

      What I want.

      No
      To get a girl all you have to do literally is talk to them
      Simply talk to them. Don't try so hard. Be consistent, be yourself and talk to women
      That's all you have to do

      You say this but it’s never worked so for most people on this board.
      It’s not like I have unrealistic standards. I don’t want a barely legal virgin trad waifu but a girl that’s not overweight, a drug addict and is cute will do.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    all what you're doing is good. a man's value and opinion on himself is based on what he does when he's all alone. as long as it makes you trust your own capabilities more (read: full of shit / egoistical / confident / high self esteem) it's good.

    but as the other guy said, that alone isn't going to get you a gf. but as long as it makes you TRUST yourself, you will attract women. it's hard to explain and no one can teach that to you. that's why many anons fail, they want lightning in a bottle. you can't ever fake confidence, but even the lowest scum can have it.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      So it’s helping build basic foundational blocks essentially?

      You could get a gf right now if you only believed in yourself and got out there. If you knew who you were, were comfortable in that knowledge and trusted that you have a bright future, that would shine through in every interaction. After that, it’s a matter of the number of interactions you have.

      You seem to be on the right path in terms of knowing yourself and having a bright future. What might be lacking is the second.

      How many women are you meeting, day to day? Do you have a group of friends you hang out with on the regular? What kind of activities are you doing together?

      I don’t meet any women regularly and I don’t have any friends.
      I’m in my mid-twenties so I’m not a zoomer in university either.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        The skills that go into forming and maintaining friendships are the same as those for forming and maintaining relationships. Both friendships and relationships take work as well.

        If you’re not good at one, you’ll really struggle with the other, even if you have everything else in life going for you. Look at Elon Musk. All the money and HGH in the world can’t win him real friends or help him maintain healthy relationships with the women he meets. He’s literally a billionaire and he’s on Twitter doing the divorced guy with no friends thing.

        My advice is to work on making some real friends. Some workout buddies, gaming bros or rock-climbing mates will help you like you wouldn’t believe.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I can maintain friendships at work. But real friends that hang out in their spare time is another issue. You don’t make friends as an adult, only acquaintances which is why everything is so hard.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Like I said - friendship takes the same skill set as dating. Next time you’re hanging with your work buddies in the break room, go “Hey, I was thinking of checking out [activity]. You wanna come with?”

            Doesn’t matter what the activity is. Could be a concert, could be a pub you haven’t been to, could be inviting a friend to join your gym and work out together. You want to take a friendship to the next level? Make a move. Spend time with them. Listen to what they have to say.

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You could get a gf right now if you only believed in yourself and got out there. If you knew who you were, were comfortable in that knowledge and trusted that you have a bright future, that would shine through in every interaction. After that, it’s a matter of the number of interactions you have.

    You seem to be on the right path in terms of knowing yourself and having a bright future. What might be lacking is the second.

    How many women are you meeting, day to day? Do you have a group of friends you hang out with on the regular? What kind of activities are you doing together?

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      So how to increase the number of interactions you have?

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You might add to that list "Meet actual women."

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You could get a gf right now if you only believed in yourself and got out there. If you knew who you were, were comfortable in that knowledge and trusted that you have a bright future, that would shine through in every interaction. After that, it’s a matter of the number of interactions you have.

      You seem to be on the right path in terms of knowing yourself and having a bright future. What might be lacking is the second.

      How many women are you meeting, day to day? Do you have a group of friends you hang out with on the regular? What kind of activities are you doing together?

      You're definitely better off than some shut-in NEET, but try to separate yourself from the idea that this is some sort of equation you can quantify, where you just have to tick off enough boxes to earn enough "points" to be eligible for a gf. None of the activities you mentioned actually involve talking to and being around women, and that's the most important factor, unless you're just expecting some woman to fall into your lap because you have good prospects. You'd be better off putting yourself in places where that can happen now, rather than buying into the cocoon mode ideology where you'll only try once you consider yourself ready.

      No
      To get a girl all you have to do literally is talk to them
      Simply talk to them. Don't try so hard. Be consistent, be yourself and talk to women
      That's all you have to do

      You are all moronic. How can he meet a woman if he's got no friends? You must be stuck in 50s if you think you can meet women organically in 2024.

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    https://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/31186498/#31186520

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I’m doing nothing related to meeting or attracting women, am I on a good path to get a gf?

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I did all those things OP when I was mid 20's with the difference being I learned piano since I was 12. Even learned another language fluently enough that I could go to that country and converse with the locals. I'm 32 now and none of it helped me make friends or get a gf. If you're bad at making friends now you'll still be bad at it after learning piano. I could go right now to a public piano and play an 8th grade or higher piece that would blow people away. But when it finishes and they come and talk to me, I would just completely sperg out and make a total embarassment of myself. It happens daily.

    Your time and money is probably better spent doing improv classes or something, go to open mic nights and try to make strangers laugh. It will be brutal trial by fire, sink or swim type shit but you might learn interpersonal skills.

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