Dealing with anger toward bf

I got into a fight with my bf. My cat got out because he left the door open (I told him a million times that she would try to get out) and she went missing for a few hours.
She came back on her own and my bf acted like that made everything fine and LEFT THE DOOR OPEN AGAIN. The cat didn't get out that time thankfully, but I got so upset I lost it. I left my phone and just went out to walk to clear my head, and went off into the snow. I spent like an hour walking until I was numb from the cold and my bf yelled at me when he found me. I yelled back at him and kicked his car when he tried to push me inside. I gave up and got in and rode home silent with him.

I'm so mad I don't even get it. Like I feel like its not even the cat getting out that has me mad now but some other thing and I want to just chill but I get so mad when he pops in to check on me every few minutes that it feels like he's trying to piss me off.

Is there a way I can just flush all this anger? I've tried to talk to him twice now but both times the anger just flooded up so much that I started ugly crying.

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >I'm so mad I don't even get it. Like I feel like its not even the cat getting out that has me mad now but some other thing
    Your gripe with your boyfriend stems from his repeated disregard for what is a minor request, and subsequent failure to atone for that. Although, he might be trying to do that by dropping in. Did you state your need to be alone? The main issue seems to come from a lack of communication or (if you've been perfectly clear the whole time) him ignoring what you said, which is not sustainable.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    break up with him

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're a woman right?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah? Like I'd have posted on the gay board if I was a gay

      when is your next period?

      my wife gets like this 3-5 days before her period and there's nothing i can do but throw my hands up

      maybe get some cranberry juice and a heating pad

      He said the same fricking thing it is not my period

      His fault for leaving the door open. You're right to be mad there. But since nothing bad happened it is irrational to be mad after the cat returned. That's on you.
      Doing it again is irresponsible but should not anger you enough to start acting like a grumpy child.
      He's in the right for being mad at you for leaving into the cold all huffy like an immature four year old.
      >I yelled back at him and kicked his car when he tried to push me inside. I gave up and got in and rode home silent with him.
      What do you get out of this? It's so immature and he's in the right here.

      >check on me every few minutes that it feels like he's trying to piss me off.
      God forbid he cares about you...

      >I've tried to talk to him twice now but both times the anger just flooded up so much that I started ugly crying.
      Over such a trivial argument? Sorry, but you may have some small issues.

      Ultimately, if he keeps leaving the door open despite knowing it could endanger the cat (which I doubt by the way. cats are smart and tough enough to last days outside, unless run over...) then that's just him being inconsiderate rather than forgetful (and I think he was simply that, forgetful) and is grounds for a break up.
      In my opinion you are both wrong in this situation to some extent.

      I know I was wrong for kicking his car. I was just so mad I couldn't think straight, and then he just startled picking me up into the car because he knows he can lift me easy and it just fueled me into more rage. I was making a point of trying to get some distance to cool off, and yes it was dumb to go out in the cold, but like just grabbing me and trying to load me in his car instead of letting me calm down got to me. Like in the moment that I'm furious, he just ignores my feelings to put me where he thinks I should be.

      >Doing it again is irresponsible but should not anger you enough to start acting like a grumpy child.

      Explain why. The cat could have died, didn't and then he almost caused its death again

      It wasn't even the cold that worried me most, we have tons of traffic and so many animals get run over here. The cold was bad, but the traffic was definitely the bigger worry and that's year round.

      I forgive him on your behalf. Now move on.

      Its not just about forgiving though, like I need to examine these feelings and understand why I lost it so hard. I don't want to get this mad again.

      >He had the nerve to yell at me about not being careful and it being too cold to go out like I did, and bothering me about how I shouldn't leave my phone. Like he didn't get that kind of stuff is why I was worried about the cat?

      Factual, break up with him. He lacks empathy and is being dismissive.

      I feel like I should sleep on it before making a call like that. I don't think I've ever been so mad before in my life and I don't even get why. The cat has gotten out before.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >just grabbing me and trying to load me in his car instead of letting me calm down got to me.
        You were freezing yourself to death, I think at that point your feelings don't matter and he's right to bring you in because you've lost your mind.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        This place is full of incels, don't expect a lot of good advice. Have a real talk with him, make sure he understands your concerns even if they seem absolutely obvious to you, like the fact that you cannot trust a homesitting cat to have enough instincts to survive outside in the middle of winter especially if that whole experience is new or rare to him/her. Your bf sounds like a dick but he seems to care for you. Still, I do not envy you. Is he this stubborn and weirdly dumb about other things in life as well? Maybe he just trusts your cat more rather than not cares about its safety. Maybe he is silently mad that you keep it home instead of letting it taste a bit of life outside on their own? Just talk people. Try to understand one another if you want to live together.

        >He said the same fricking thing it is not my period
        yikes

  4. 1 month ago
    :)

    when is your next period?

    my wife gets like this 3-5 days before her period and there's nothing i can do but throw my hands up

    maybe get some cranberry juice and a heating pad

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    His fault for leaving the door open. You're right to be mad there. But since nothing bad happened it is irrational to be mad after the cat returned. That's on you.
    Doing it again is irresponsible but should not anger you enough to start acting like a grumpy child.
    He's in the right for being mad at you for leaving into the cold all huffy like an immature four year old.
    >I yelled back at him and kicked his car when he tried to push me inside. I gave up and got in and rode home silent with him.
    What do you get out of this? It's so immature and he's in the right here.

    >check on me every few minutes that it feels like he's trying to piss me off.
    God forbid he cares about you...

    >I've tried to talk to him twice now but both times the anger just flooded up so much that I started ugly crying.
    Over such a trivial argument? Sorry, but you may have some small issues.

    Ultimately, if he keeps leaving the door open despite knowing it could endanger the cat (which I doubt by the way. cats are smart and tough enough to last days outside, unless run over...) then that's just him being inconsiderate rather than forgetful (and I think he was simply that, forgetful) and is grounds for a break up.
    In my opinion you are both wrong in this situation to some extent.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Doing it again is irresponsible but should not anger you enough to start acting like a grumpy child.

      Explain why. The cat could have died, didn't and then he almost caused its death again

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Like I said, you're acting as if the cat has a 50/50 chance of dying every time it leaves the house. That's simply not the case.
        My family has had several cats over the years and the two we have currently go out regularly on their own, sometimes for days, and always return. They act how they want and in accordance to how they were born. They're both over a decade old too.
        Cats, although domesticated, are meant to go outside. If not, why would yours leave if it didn't want to? The fact she returned as well is only further testament to this.
        Your bf didn't intentionally mean the cat any harm. I'm sure he got the message the second time you got mad, but you overreacted. Getting mad at him for ignoring your requests is justified, acting the way you did... I wouldn't say so.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I am not OP but you are failing to see the bigger picture.
          Cat = litmus for fatherhood. Letting a toddler go outside because it wants to is moronic. OP is mad because this is "proof" that he would make for a shitty father.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            A toddler and a cat are very different. For one, the boyfriend would surely be much more involved and invested in the actions of a toddler than that of a cat. One is predictable, the other is not. A toddler would also undoubtedly be better supervised.
            It's also much simpler to retrieve a slow toddler than a nimble animal that is used to the outdoors, if such a scenario were to happen.
            >OP is mad because this is "proof" that he would make for a shitty father
            May be. But it is just as irrational as her fear of the cat dying any time it goes outside.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            If I know women like I think I do, she's just mad that he doesn't listen and she feels disrespected by that. The rest is woman hamsterwheel shit

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >he doesn't listen and she feels disrespected by that
            That's reasonable. Although I think it just because he forgot, not because he ignored/didn't listen to her.

            I never said it was rational I was explaining why OP feels the way that she does. Put more simply:
            >Have important thing
            >Partner does not think it is important
            >Partner is not able to give importance to importance

            I got what you meant. I'm not on the boyfriends side in this. Him forgetting to close the door isn't a good thing, but it isn't like it was intentional. Getting mad twice over this in order to display the importance of the matter is justified as well. I'm just saying that the extent to which OP got mad is very immature and irrational and could lead to her boyfriend respecting her and her wishes even less as a result.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You are correct and OP's reaction to her anger was immature HOWEVER If her bf does not understand giving importance to what she thinks is important then there is a strong chanve that he has already written her off as a crazy b***h and her reaction wouldn't matter all that much. I suspect that OP reacted much more rationally in the past and this has gradually escalated because this is what people do when they are not being heard. They act louder.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I had an ex who used to light candles in our apartment. First time I said, no candles. Calmly. We don't have renters insurance and we have a cat. No candles. She put up static, I got mad and bitter, and put the candles out myself then didn't talk to her all day.
            That's called Little Murder #1.
            Next time, I got real mad. She put up static again. I put them out again. Didn't talk to her for the whole day and my attitude towards her got more bitter generally.
            Little Murder #2.
            Third time, I FLIPPED OUT. Fricking flipped out. At the top of my lungs. Bad. So did she. She would not give me that.
            Little Murder #3.
            We ain't together anymore. Obviously there was more to it than that but I hope this is illustrative.
            He needs to listen or at least acknowledge. And she needs to stop flipping.

          • 1 month ago
            :)

            >cat owner
            >no renter's insurance
            >"little murder"

            toxoplasmosis gondii

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I was totally immature & blame my ex
            FTFY
            many such cases

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Immature to tell my ex not to light candles in our home so it doesn't burn down?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >That's reasonable. Although I think it just because he forgot, not because he ignored/didn't listen to her.
            HE FORGETS EVERYTHING. He is like the least attentive person ever. Before we started dating, he lost his car keys and forgot to move his car for a month and his landlord had it towed thinking it was abandoned. Anything I give him he loses almost instantly, to the point sometimes I think he's just bullying me by pretending to be so unbelieveably forgetful.

            >I've lost two cats to the traffic outside already.
            I sympathise.
            >Jinxy is an indoor cat, she isn't as well adapted to the street as either of those cats so I can only imagine she would get hit faster.
            >The cat didn't get out that time thankfully
            If that's the case then it seems like your current cat has no intention of leaving the house again, even if the doors were to be left open once more.
            I get that you fear for her safety, but just because it happened twice already doesn't mean it is going to happen again.
            And again, I'm with you on the issue of your bf leaving the door open but I still believe you overreacted and should probably work on that.

            >And again, I'm with you on the issue of your bf leaving the door open but I still believe you overreacted and should probably work on that.
            I said a few times, but I have no idea why I got that upset. Even when I couldn't feel my feet anymore from the cold I was just fuming about how if I died out there at least he'd maybe get the point and start to care enough to close the door.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I never said it was rational I was explaining why OP feels the way that she does. Put more simply:
            >Have important thing
            >Partner does not think it is important
            >Partner is not able to give importance to importance

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah, yeah. Definitely. That's all it is.
            Walking in the snow for an hour over it is fricking nuts and I'm sure the guy is just rolling his eyes and is like this b***h is crazy.
            OP you gotta take stock and then tell him you feel disrespected and like he doesn't take your concerns seriously bc that's why you got mad. And for the future...reel it in. You can't flip out like that bc he's just gonna roll his eyes.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I have never had a gf or sex but imma lecture on parenting signals
            FTFY
            How people think of pets is not how they think of human children unless they are fricked up

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I already explained this here

            I never said it was rational I was explaining why OP feels the way that she does. Put more simply:
            >Have important thing
            >Partner does not think it is important
            >Partner is not able to give importance to importance

            our subconcious is dominated by semiotics

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You are not smart enough to pretend that you are.
            Stop.
            The fremdschamen is fierce.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Not an argument just a cope. Learn the difference.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Of course it’s not an argument, you fricking pseud. It contains no elements of an argument & no one claimed it was. You might as well have said
            >not a constitution
            or
            >not a monograph
            You think it is clever and makes you look smart because you are too dumb to grasp it proves your IQ is under 90.
            Since not everyone would react as OP did
            >indeed, she is a small minority
            then your claim that
            >semiotics rules or subconscious
            is obviously false.
            More importantly the post you replied to did not reference *her* in any way - it referenced the attitudes of adults towards pets vs towards human children.
            This means that both of your replies were off-topic.
            But you are too stupid to grasp that even though it is in writing.
            Anything else moronic you want to do, sunshine?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I love posts like these. It's like watching someone being out of breath and looking expectantly at a panel of judges. Yes I noticed your sophism. No, you will not be making it to the next round.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Kek

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Samegayging is shameful

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Stfu homie

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >imma dumbo
            FTFY

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Don't come to court again

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You gotta be the pseud, I refuse to believe there are two people that dumb and that pretentious online at the same time

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >gets reckt over being a pseud
            >responds by misusing sophism
            lol
            lmao, even

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            NTA
            Show the specious argument

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You want me to explain linguistic abstraction?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I cannot
            FTFY
            Were you banned from NSFFW AND /x/ or something?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Holy frick, this is stupid as frick.
            >amish farmers let cats outside this means all women think they are bad fathers!

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Op is not an amish farmer. I knew this would happen so I provided a more generalised explanation right after.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            But by your lights you think OP is a negligent mother. She has already had 2 cats killed in traffic, remember? By your fricktarded ideas that means the boyfriend proved he is a better parent. She should be wet for him, if you are correct

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Is this what you actually believe or do I remind you of someone or something that has wronged you?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I am using YOUR argument on the entire thread.
            I know virtually nothing about you.
            Are you going to explain how this

            I am not OP but you are failing to see the bigger picture.
            Cat = litmus for fatherhood. Letting a toddler go outside because it wants to is moronic. OP is mad because this is "proof" that he would make for a shitty father.

            Does not logically mean that this

            That's part of why I'm here, like I've never been that mad before my whole life and even reflecting on it I know exactly what set me off and escalated me to that anger but I don't know why. None of it seems to have been all that bad looking back, but in the moment it was like I was so mad I was ready to just fricking die to prove a point. I don't know where that came from, and I'm hoping someone has a clue if there's like something subconscious or whatever that made it so infuriating or is it something else? Like I'm willing to dump my diet info or whatever I just don't want whatever made me that angry to happen again.
            [...]
            I've lost two cats to the traffic outside already. Both strays that I had started feeding, but they got hit by cars not long after I had gotten tags and collars. Jinxy is an indoor cat, she isn't as well adapted to the street as either of those cats so I can only imagine she would get hit faster.
            [...]
            He more acted worried than annoyed. He was hopping between outrage and panic for me when he was driving me home. He kept asking if I needed to go to the hospital.

            proves OP is proven to be a terrible mother?
            She is the one focused on cats & well being after all.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Sure: Most people are less forgiving when somebody else destroys something important to them than when they do it themselves. Breaking your own things is less infuriating than having your things broken.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >people are more likely to break their own precious things than other who do not see them as precious
            >parents care less for their own children than others do
            You just keep digging
            Take the L

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I didn't claim either of those things. How come you care about winning and losing so much while posting anonymously? What is winning to you in this scenario?

            >I cannot
            FTFY
            Were you banned from NSFFW AND /x/ or something?

            I was just asking if you sincerely wanted an explanation on how language works or if you are just wanting to be correct.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Because this is NSFFW and they're all lonely LARPing homosexuals.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Cat = litmus for fatherhood
            Beyond moronic please have a nice day, I might pet a cat but will pay it no real mind because I do not own it that's like saying my girlfriend must feed my pet bugs as a litmus test that she'll be a good mom at the basic level and if she ever forgets and my centipede dies I have the right to yell at her break up and kick them out.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >that's like saying my girlfriend must feed my pet bugs as a litmus test that she'll be a good mom at the basic level and if she ever forgets and my centipede dies I have the right to yell at her break up and kick them out.
            I mean, technically that makes sense

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      He will repeat his behavior forever since he sees you as making fuss out of nothing for no reason. Complete disregard and lack of empathy. Since its you and your period or haha woman moment, his likehood for change is extremely low.

      Stick with him and more of this will come.

      Bad logic. If you did something that had 20% chance to yield a bad outcome, if it doesnt happen doing the thing is still bad. It could have led to the cat missing forever, that is very bad. She has every right to be upset

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Everything we do in life has a statistical chance of going horribly wrong for us. By your logic, every action we make is bad.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          This is why we have to assess probability. Not all percentages are equal otherwise why would we have them?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            20% isn't even half of a half of a certainty...

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Is a 1 in 5 chance of death or harm worth it? There is no right answer but you should be asking yourself these questions.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            But there is no 1 in 5 chance of death or harm.
            You came up with that number with no statistical or logical background to back it up.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I was not the person that came up with that statistic I was simply explaining why it would be of importance.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Tell him to give you some space so you can sort it out, process the anger and are available to have a rational, level-headed conversation with him about the topic in which you stress how much your cat means to you and that he fricked up big time, and that he isn't taking your feelings seriously regarding the cat here. You still love him, he clearly loves you, this is just one of those things you need to clear up as a couple. And yes, you can flush all this anger once you've cleared the matter with him, if you hold it inside, it's bound to erupt eventually - on him, on yourself or someone else, you get the picture.

      >But since nothing bad happened it is irrational to be mad after the cat returned. That's on you
      Had he not defended himself and concluded they can let the cat out again, you would be right. But it's clear he isn't taking the situation seriously and how much it means to the OP, and that's why the femanon is pissed at him and fuming with anger.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I forgive him on your behalf. Now move on.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I get why you got mad but your reaction was pretty frickin unhinged. All things considered it's a pretty small thing and you flipped out and he probably just thinks you're a crazy b***h tbh. Walking in the snow cuz he left the door open? What the frick?

    Do you feel like he often doesn't listen to you? I'm trying to like, be charitable and assume that there's more to your reaction, but tbh as it sits you lost ground with how unhinged upset you got

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You certainly talk like a scholar.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Are you OP? You ready to stop being a b***h? Cuz I ain't your boyfriend, I don't give a frick. Take an attitude and I'll just tell you to eat shit. Unless you actually want advice considering you threw a fit and I'm still willing to look past that and see your side of it out: chill.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          This post is melanin-rich.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I gave good advice. And I'm white and have a 140 IQ. Next time I'll use APA formatting on NSFFW to make you, personally, happy.

            >cat owner
            >no renter's insurance
            >"little murder"

            toxoplasmosis gondii

            You could always suck my wiener instead.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I'm white

          • 1 month ago
            :)

            >aggressive and homoerotic outbursts
            by the book

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            155 and no, your advice was not good at all. You lack humility, empathy and wisdom

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            If I lacked wisdom, I'd engage you seriously.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      That's part of why I'm here, like I've never been that mad before my whole life and even reflecting on it I know exactly what set me off and escalated me to that anger but I don't know why. None of it seems to have been all that bad looking back, but in the moment it was like I was so mad I was ready to just fricking die to prove a point. I don't know where that came from, and I'm hoping someone has a clue if there's like something subconscious or whatever that made it so infuriating or is it something else? Like I'm willing to dump my diet info or whatever I just don't want whatever made me that angry to happen again.

      A toddler and a cat are very different. For one, the boyfriend would surely be much more involved and invested in the actions of a toddler than that of a cat. One is predictable, the other is not. A toddler would also undoubtedly be better supervised.
      It's also much simpler to retrieve a slow toddler than a nimble animal that is used to the outdoors, if such a scenario were to happen.
      >OP is mad because this is "proof" that he would make for a shitty father
      May be. But it is just as irrational as her fear of the cat dying any time it goes outside.

      I've lost two cats to the traffic outside already. Both strays that I had started feeding, but they got hit by cars not long after I had gotten tags and collars. Jinxy is an indoor cat, she isn't as well adapted to the street as either of those cats so I can only imagine she would get hit faster.

      Yeah, yeah. Definitely. That's all it is.
      Walking in the snow for an hour over it is fricking nuts and I'm sure the guy is just rolling his eyes and is like this b***h is crazy.
      OP you gotta take stock and then tell him you feel disrespected and like he doesn't take your concerns seriously bc that's why you got mad. And for the future...reel it in. You can't flip out like that bc he's just gonna roll his eyes.

      He more acted worried than annoyed. He was hopping between outrage and panic for me when he was driving me home. He kept asking if I needed to go to the hospital.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I've lost two cats to the traffic outside already.
        I sympathise.
        >Jinxy is an indoor cat, she isn't as well adapted to the street as either of those cats so I can only imagine she would get hit faster.
        >The cat didn't get out that time thankfully
        If that's the case then it seems like your current cat has no intention of leaving the house again, even if the doors were to be left open once more.
        I get that you fear for her safety, but just because it happened twice already doesn't mean it is going to happen again.
        And again, I'm with you on the issue of your bf leaving the door open but I still believe you overreacted and should probably work on that.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Alright: if I had to guess, based on what you've said, you don't feel heard and thus don't feel respected. Only you can determine if that's true. If you deem that it is, you need to tell him that, and you need to explain that you did flip out and will work on that, but that if this pattern of him snubbing things that you say continues, you'll grow bitter and it'll affect your relationship.
        For your side, you cannot react like this, bc then he will resent you. Hell deal with these outbursts for a bit but if it continues, he will lose all sympathy over time and resent you.
        So, he needs to listen more so you feel heard; you need to get more self control when you feel upset, and you also do need to recognize that no one is perfect and he will not always listen all the time, so it's more about effort than anything else. Fair?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >do you feel heard?
          FFS
          OP here is your issue
          There is topic A.
          You think topic A is super-important.
          Your boyfriend does not.
          You asked boyfriend to not do Action X because of Topic A *without clearly communicating that TO YOU it is super-important.
          Action X occurred and Topic A was triggered but nothing bad happened.
          This reinforced boyfriend concluding it is not super-important and you failed to clearly explain anything to him.
          From HIS viewpoint you are screaming, crying, storming off, kicking his car, etc. for something roughly on par with
          >from HIS viewpoint
          not properly sealing the Tupperware lid on leftovers for 15 minutes. Or leaving the shovel in the rain in the afternoon.
          For everyone reading-
          NO ONE CAN READ MINDS.
          be extremely open and clear about what is important to you and why or the other person MUST default to their own assumptions.
          >t. man happily married for over 30 years

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Do you have a girlfriend?

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Cats aren't indoor animals, you know

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >stupid fricking cats are fine outside
    >screaming crying mad over a simple action that caused no harm to anything but your fee-fees
    Let him find a decent person.
    Grow the frick up.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You don't understand le women are always in le right, even if they're le not

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Thats highly dismissive. Her reaction was over the top but was not caused by nothing.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Toddlers also have SOME reason.
        It is still childish and dumb

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Hmmm i would reccomend dbt skillz!

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    did you ask him to wear matching flip flops?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      LMAO
      I'm the OP from that thread you're referring to btw

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    So there's 80 replies ITT, maybe 2 or 3 have actual constructive advice and the rest is just calling this girl a dumb b***h.
    Cool. Good board.
    Always remember, anons are heroes and underdogs against a system that's so unfair and mean to them, and not just abject pieces of antisocial shit

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I did my best but there is only so much you can do ig

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        We are surrounded by cluster B homosexuals who unironically believe they're more normal than normal people here. So. Not your fault at all.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          While I've got you here would you mind explaining this cluster a/cluster b stuff? Also I keep hearing about A-Type personality vs B-type personality. All good if you can't be bothered I just can't seem to get a straight answer if I search it is all

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I think she's talling about alphas and betas tbh

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Oh so it's just the same old stuff as before, gotcha. Thanks!

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            No moron

            While I've got you here would you mind explaining this cluster a/cluster b stuff? Also I keep hearing about A-Type personality vs B-type personality. All good if you can't be bothered I just can't seem to get a straight answer if I search it is all

            Cluster B is the anti social cluster of personality disorders. NPD, BPD, ASPD.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            What about cluster A then? The social cluster of personality disorders?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Cluster A disorders are the schizoid disorders. Schizotypal, paranoid schizophrenia, schizoid, and their sub-variants.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I see. Thank you

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Anger valid
    Boundary was violated for no reason
    Guy should be replaced

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You are a homosexual.
    and
    You are in love with yourself.

    Pets dont matter. Crackers dont matter. You want to be wanted and that is all.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Crackers
      Stfu you racist piece of shit

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Farscape reference mah Black person

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Farscape reference
          >TV show from 1999 (25 years ago)
          How thr heck should I know that?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You should apologize for insulting someone out of ignorance instead of making excuses, that's the issue.

            Even then, the point of the conversation is a anon talking about non-issues in their relationship that points to character defaults.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Apologize for insulting you, or?
            >Even then, the point of the conversation is a anon talking about non-issues in their relationship that points to character defaults.
            What are you trying to say?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Yes, apologize for insulting me, providing you are the one that accused me of being a racist.

            But also, any discussion that does not pertain to OP's problem is insulting to OP. OP took the time to inform us that they are willing to hurt people they care about without remorse and still want to be loved by others, regardless of how they behave.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >apologize for insulting me, providing you are the one that accused me of being a racist.
            There's nothing wrong with being racist

            >OP took the time to inform us that they are willing to hurt people they care about without remorse and still want to be loved by others, regardless of how they behave
            Wtf are you trying to say here?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            The comment in question was "STFU (shut the frick up) you racist piece of shit." In its totality, it is insulting, and I would argue that being labeled a racist is in itself insulting, but that is another conversation.

            What I am saying is that OP is portraying a person that focuses on small slights to their personhood (leaving the cat out), hyperbolize (BF always leaves the door open, even in freezing weather) and wants this person to receive empathy or attention for their reactions.

            In short, this is a made up situation. But effort should be respected so arguments should be focused on OP's larp and not tertiary arguments.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Okay I'm sorry for insulting you xoxo
            >OP is portraying a person that focuses on small slights to their personhood (leaving the cat out)
            >and wants this person to receive empathy or attention for their reactions.
            Is this "person" you're refering to OP or her supposed boyfriend? Because first you say that OP (the portrayed person) is leaving the cat out. But then you say this "person" aka OP wants to receive empathy or attention for their actions.
            And what makes you think this is a made-up scenario? Leaving the door open during the cold isn't unusual

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Thank you for apologizing. Its a rare and beautiful thing in this medium of communication. I would like to communicate further with you, but I have a big day tomorrow and need to sleep.

            My point was such a person that OP was portraying was not a real person but merely a construct. A caricature. That this scenario was not factual and was being used as MGTOW-bait.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Both of you might have problems in dealing with conflict. However it seems like he is too comfortable around you. You feel better when you both can settle this. It is about solving the problem.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    anger is the result of a blocked wish. Maybe you should frick your mother?

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Wtf is wrong with everyone here. It literally doesn't matter, like if you feel mad then you fricking feel mad. You should be emotionally supported. The way you respond to your feelings of should be scrutinized but your feelings themselves, there should be an effort by your bf to help with those feelings, by doing what you're asking of him. It's very important. If he asked you to do something that is reasonable like you said and then he got upset because you didn't do that and u repeatedly didn't then he would have the right to feel angry. Not the right to yell, kick ur car or etc. tho

    Once u calm down naturally you should tell him that you did not feel cared about, listened to and emotionally supported during that time and make sure he doesn't interrupt you. If he tries to argue say I don't wanna argue I just want you to say yes or no do you get that I felt that way and can you if you do get it say sorry and try better?

    If he doesn't get it you can try more times but I mean sometimes you gotta know when someone is not a good energy for you

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    He sounds like a jerk who doesn't care about how he disrespected you. You asked him to do something simple but he fricked up continuously. He is either narcissistic or oblivious. Unless he is willing to apologize and actually do better you should just leave him. You're upset for a good reason.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Poor guy. He should leave you for being so entitled. Cats are supposed to go outside and they do so on their own because they like that, they love snow. Don't cage your cat. Make sure that you let it get back inside but really, your friend did nothing wrong.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You realize that your bf was wrong about leaving the door open but everything else, dragging you home and all, was entirely right of him? Get yourself under control.

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you sound like a histrionic moron
    every guy bigging you up here is doing it for a shred of female attention

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Why are women so moronic

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