Having been coming to this board for quite some time, there's something that I just don't understand about the culture here. There is a huge amount of importance placed upon sex. People often talk about it as if it's some end-all be-all Or some kind of inherently precious goal they need to achieve. People even ask for advice on whether or not they should pay for sex by seeing an escort.
I've had my share of relationships and girlfriends, and I've had plenty of sex, I've had good sex and mediocre sex and I've been in deep love and mild attraction, and all sorts of varying degrees of situations. It's true that sex can be great when you're in love with someone, sex can be good when it's spontaneous and just something done out of pleasure, Sex just plain feels good, period. I get it.
What I don't understand is why people are drawing a line and making it some sort of huge goal that they have to hit by a certain age or else they're totally defeated. People refer to themselves as different acronyms, or use slang terms. There's an entire subculture based around being a virgin or not being a virgin, or having lots of sex or not having lots of sex. I just don't get it. Sure, it's pleasurable, but it's certainly not something to base your entire existence around, as it seems lots of people here do. Food is pleasurable, watching television is pleasurable. If you're into video games, that can be pleasurable. Sex is just a simple pleasure like any others, And it seems like this simple thing has got people so beat up and twisted into knots because They cannot attain it.
Obviously, the perspective from somebody who has never had it is different from somebody who has, My question is, to people who have finally had sex did the veneer and the allure of it finally fade away, and did you finally realize that it wasn't some grand thing to base your life around? I feel like people are tearing themselves up inside over something that isn't as important as they're making it out to be.