Do women find it weird if a man has no friends? What should I try first? Getting friends or a gf?

Do women find it weird if a man has no friends?

What should I try first? Getting friends or a gf?

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  1. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Get friends first. It’s a huge “red flag” for a potential partner (dude or chick) not to have any friends. It makes people think that there’s probably a significant reason the individual doesn’t have friends.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      Is it really that odd to not have friends? It's pretty common for adults to drift away from friends as they get older and it's harder to make new friends as an adult. A lot of people seem to socialize mostly at work with coworkers, or with their family, or on social media

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      women having no friends is not a red flag

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah it is. Guys just have an easier time looking past it because there's pussy on the line.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          Why would I want a girl with friends that manipulate her
          Women sabotage eachother all the time

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        that's because men prefer if a woman has no friends so she'll be more dependent on him. More attached. She won't have anyone else to turn to for advice or support except her "boyfriend".

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      >It makes people think that there’s probably a significant reason the individual doesn’t have friends.
      do people really put this much thought into others ?

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        Is it really that odd to not have friends? It's pretty common for adults to drift away from friends as they get older and it's harder to make new friends as an adult. A lot of people seem to socialize mostly at work with coworkers, or with their family, or on social media

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        Do women find it weird if a man has no friends?

        What should I try first? Getting friends or a gf?

        Ive been ghosted by people or told to frick off after we get along at first- and then they discover I have no friends. It’s a HUGE problem for most people and they’ll immediately drop you. You kind of need friends to make friends. Once you’re out of the game, you’re mostly out for good, unless you can pay people to pretend to be your friends and somehow pull that off. Although people are good at sniffing that kind of stuff out so beware. At a late age it also becomes about having no career based friends who can offer you social proof- like you can’t just pay bob from the pub to pretend to be your wingman anymore, you need to have another business owner in your industry be seen hanging out with you.

        I’d say once you’re 25-30 it’s fricking over. The later the worse.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          >and then they discover I have no friends
          how did they find out? Did they actually say frick off?
          >people are good at sniffing that kind of stuff out so beware
          wait so you've paid people to pretend? I was considering doing this actually
          >becomes about having no career based friends who can offer you social proof
          I have no idea what you mean here, why would someone want you to have career friends at all why does it matter if they are seen with you? I just want to make some fricking friends

  2. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I hope not otherwise I’m screwed for life and might as well end it.

    >why doncha make friends

    Oh yeah, like that’s so easy. Go to meetups, try to chat with people and always end up being the guy left out or abandoned in favour of other people to make friends with.

    >you must be unpleasant

    Oh yeah, smiling at people, saying hello to everyone and trying to be polite and considerate are such unbearable crimes.

  3. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Do women find it weird if a man has no friends?
    Yes. HUGE red flag.

    >What should I try first? Getting friends or a gf?
    Friends. Relationships are much more complicated and difficult than friendships. If you can't handle friendships, you have no chance whatever of keeping a girlfriend.

  4. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I've been with women and they didn't care

  5. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Some do. But let's be honest there are woman out there that find anything a red flag. If you want a girlfriend go for it, find yourself a girl that doesn't care.

  6. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Get friends.

    I was able to meet girls online when I had no friends/no friends that I could show off to girls, most girls inevitably got bored of me just always staying in every weekend.

    Also having friends a social circle means you're increasing your chances of meeting girls even fi at first it's just you and a bunch of other guys.

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      how the frick do I just "get friends"

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        You don’t— if you failed to build a circle of friends throughout your youth then chances are that you will die friendless.

        Closest thing you’ll have to friends as a social reject adult are coworkers.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          I did have a circle, but we all start drifting apart during high school and now I'm friendless.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            You don’t keep up with them at all anymore? I keep up regularly with some of my closest friends from those days.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Hard to do these days, I don't know how to contact them

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            How old are you? If you're over 30 there's a good chance they're all on facebook or something.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            I am 29

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Well what social media did all your friends use before you lost touch? They probably all still have accounts which will email them when they get a message. What about friend lists on gaming platforms? Is there really nothing you can think of where you might still have some link to them?

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            We all used Facebook. But I can never get in contact with them. Nobody responds to anything I post or my messages.

            None of my IRL friends had online gaming profiles.

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        >how the frick do I just "get friends"
        You got places and meet people.

        The gym, the nerd store where everyone plays card games, the skate park, whatever you're into.

        You don’t— if you failed to build a circle of friends throughout your youth then chances are that you will die friendless.

        Closest thing you’ll have to friends as a social reject adult are coworkers.

        oh bullshit I shedded all of my grade school friends going into high school and going into college I shedded all of my high school friends and again after college I shedded most of those guys to instead meet new people through hobbies.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          >meet people
          And you consider them to be “friends”? I’ve met a ton of fricking people since high school ended, but none of them are what I’d consider to be an actual “friend”.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Okay, you go to places and meet people and talk to them just about the weather and traffic and your common hobby and if you get along then you hang out and do other shit outside of the designated hobby area.

            That's how people make friends, it's no different now than when you were in kindergarten.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Hang out where and do what? There's nowhere to go and nothing to do.

            "Third places" are dying or becoming too expensive to go often. People lack places to hang out at or can't afford them.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Hang out where and do what? There's nowhere to go and nothing to do.
            what do you mean nothing do? What would you rather be doing now that can't be done?

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Everyone I know just fricking sits home or goes out to eat or drink. Nobody seems to have any friends other than people they grew up with and their coworkers. Nobody around here seems to have any interests or hobbies or any interest in meeting new people.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            That’s because of what

            Making friends isn't as easy as it used to be. Male friendlessness has QUINTUPLED since 1990.

            >May 2021 poll from the Survey Center on American Life revealed the number of American men who view themselves as having "no close friends" quintupled over the last 30 years, increasing from 3 percent in 1990 to 15 percent in 2021. What's more, just 15 percent of men consider themselves as having 10 or more close friends, a steep drop from the 40 percent of men who reported such bromances in 1990.

            15% of men reported having no close friends in 2021 vs 3% in 1990.

            10% of women reported having no close friends in 2021 vs 2% in 1990.

            On the flipside:

            15% of men reported having 10+ close friends in 2021 vs. 40% in 1990

            11% of women reported having 10+ close friends in 2021 vs. 28% in 1990

            There have been major societal changes since 1990 that have made it harder for people to make friends and for people who do have friends to have less.

            mentioned. People have become very insular, and cliquish. Everything’s become more nepotistic.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          Making friends isn't as easy as it used to be. Male friendlessness has QUINTUPLED since 1990.

          >May 2021 poll from the Survey Center on American Life revealed the number of American men who view themselves as having "no close friends" quintupled over the last 30 years, increasing from 3 percent in 1990 to 15 percent in 2021. What's more, just 15 percent of men consider themselves as having 10 or more close friends, a steep drop from the 40 percent of men who reported such bromances in 1990.

          15% of men reported having no close friends in 2021 vs 3% in 1990.

          10% of women reported having no close friends in 2021 vs 2% in 1990.

          On the flipside:

          15% of men reported having 10+ close friends in 2021 vs. 40% in 1990

          11% of women reported having 10+ close friends in 2021 vs. 28% in 1990

          There have been major societal changes since 1990 that have made it harder for people to make friends and for people who do have friends to have less.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous
          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Hey so it's not 0

            and you didn't answer my question

            Everyone I know just fricking sits home or goes out to eat or drink. Nobody seems to have any friends other than people they grew up with and their coworkers. Nobody around here seems to have any interests or hobbies or any interest in meeting new people.

            >Everyone I know
            Who's everyone you know when you admit to not have friends?

            Also answer the question, what would you rather be doing that can't be done?

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Who's everyone you know when you admit to not have friends?

            Family and coworkers

            I'd love to do literally anything other than just sit down and talk, but that's all anyone does. I have no one to do activities like sports and gaming with

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Inviting them wouldn't be possible?
            Maybe getting into a sport like padel or tenis could be an option for meeting more people.

            Though I'm not sure how expensive that can be

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Life coach shit (le social climbers), boomers and Millennial cliques.

            Life coaches argue that their client's social circle is at fault and that they should ditch people that are not "performing" in life. Boomers idealising and expecting their kids to have the "tv life" so their little darlings should be part of "high society". Millennial cliques are rigged for main group to have the "good and fun" times while the outliers and outsiders try to have more exposure with the main group. Referring to a clique from my high school and post high school before it collapsing:
            >Main group: every week the main group members would contact each other and make plans. Two weeks with no contact is a "long time". *Some* outliers know about it and they *may* be invited to go as well as bringing additional people (other outliers and maybe outsiders). The main group members inwardly need the outliers and outsiders, outwardly they limit their interaction with them.
            >Outliers: Two weeks or more between contact with the main group. They may have a main group member tell them about the activities and events. Infrequently attending the events and activities of the main group. Outsiders may attempt to interact with the outliers to be part of the main group. Outliers themselves try to be part of the main group too
            >Outsiders: Very infrequent contact with the main group, yet have slightly more contact with the outliers. They may appear for birthdays and special occasions. If the main group requires to increase headcount the outsiders might be invited.

            The main group at parties would merely meet and greet with both outliers and (to a lesser extent) outsiders to establish their "circle" in a birthday party for example. Sometimes outliers get a brief chit chat. Establishing their "circle" involved piquing the interest of new people to come to them to talk and the main group would gauge them first as potential for the main group then outlier then outsider.

            Cont

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            At first there was lovebombing and generous courtesy to the new people. The new people would gauge them for friendship. The main group would refuse to do any kind of approaches to new people rather wait for any interested new people to talk to them. They would even "herd" the outliers and outsiders as to not go too far as to show that their "circle" is still there. They would be annoyed if outliers and outsiders mixed and mingled because it made their "circle" appear small and their minutes, even hours of keeping an appearance could be undone. If their "circle" appeared too small they were no longer perceived as a "cool" group in the party rather they appeared anti-social and awkward. While the outliers and outsiders (the more extroverted ones anyway) would actually socialise. For example:
            >Me and my friend (outlier and outsider respectively) leave the group to go interact with others rather than stand there and watch the main group have the good time
            >Main group member(s): "Where are you guys going?"
            >Us: "We are just going around"
            >Main group members(s): "Are you coming back soon?"
            >Us: "We will be back"
            >*A few minutes later*
            >Main group member texts my friend (outlier): "Where are you guys?"
            We would go back and just stand there observing them talk and occasionally talk to each other. If the outliers and outsiders start talking to each other in the presence of the main group they would distract us and get our attention. Eventually the toxicity was noticed by the outliers and outsiders that just stopped being associated with the main group. This concerned the main group as now they would be the butt of jokes and scapegoats to blame. Outliers and outsiders provided the main group with "material", faux invitations were give to them only to complain that the outsider and outlier is bothering them to make good on their invitation. "OMG so and so is messaging me bro.....".

            Cont.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            They main group does not care if a certain outlier and outsider stops associating with the main group, they do care that their "circle" has shrunk and they worry they might be the outlier and outsider. Which did happen with the outliers and outsiders left and the clique collapsed.The former clique has tried to rehabilitate itself with high school reunions but as they need the outliers and outsiders to attend who dont express interest enthusiastically (if at all) the reunions do not eventuate. Still, they do propose the possibility of a reunion which they estimate that people would long for a high school reunion in the future with rehabilitating the clique.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            At first there was lovebombing and generous courtesy to the new people. The new people would gauge them for friendship. The main group would refuse to do any kind of approaches to new people rather wait for any interested new people to talk to them. They would even "herd" the outliers and outsiders as to not go too far as to show that their "circle" is still there. They would be annoyed if outliers and outsiders mixed and mingled because it made their "circle" appear small and their minutes, even hours of keeping an appearance could be undone. If their "circle" appeared too small they were no longer perceived as a "cool" group in the party rather they appeared anti-social and awkward. While the outliers and outsiders (the more extroverted ones anyway) would actually socialise. For example:
            >Me and my friend (outlier and outsider respectively) leave the group to go interact with others rather than stand there and watch the main group have the good time
            >Main group member(s): "Where are you guys going?"
            >Us: "We are just going around"
            >Main group members(s): "Are you coming back soon?"
            >Us: "We will be back"
            >*A few minutes later*
            >Main group member texts my friend (outlier): "Where are you guys?"
            We would go back and just stand there observing them talk and occasionally talk to each other. If the outliers and outsiders start talking to each other in the presence of the main group they would distract us and get our attention. Eventually the toxicity was noticed by the outliers and outsiders that just stopped being associated with the main group. This concerned the main group as now they would be the butt of jokes and scapegoats to blame. Outliers and outsiders provided the main group with "material", faux invitations were give to them only to complain that the outsider and outlier is bothering them to make good on their invitation. "OMG so and so is messaging me bro.....".

            Cont.

            quality post, this is just the nature of social creatures. You're either at the top or used as a pawn to keep someone else at the top. I remember a post by an anon some years ago saying that on campus before dating apps there would be lots of parties where stacies try to get to chads and everyone below came to see if they could get a piece of the pie with someone. Now because of dating apps there aren't as many frat parties because Stacy and becky can frick chad anytime so it's just lonely men drinking booze at these parties

  7. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    nothing's a dealbreaker anon
    some deals aren't possible. some are.
    you can shift the needle but there's always opportunity out there, even for the worst-off

  8. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    Depends if he is attractive
    >Attractive and no friends
    >"Oh wow, he is a lone wolf and is independent. Strong and brave."
    >"Oh babe, he sounds interesting we have to meet him and we can be his buddies. Him and Steve will get along so well, not so much with Adam but Kurt and him can talk about their loner times.

    >Unattractive and no friends
    >'Um, I dont know, he is Nice. But do I really want to be his girlfriend and friend. Its too much pressure"
    >"Babe, I totally get where you are coming from he just needs to sort his life out. Right now its understandable if you dont want to be with him but his situation can change so give in a chance later maybe"

    • 6 months ago
      Anonymous

      ugh I hate how fricking true this is it makes me sick to my stomach

      • 6 months ago
        Anonymous

        For being socially attuned to candor as they say they are and virtue signalling as they do the normies arent so welcoming. Not even among their own.

        [...]

        quality post, this is just the nature of social creatures. You're either at the top or used as a pawn to keep someone else at the top. I remember a post by an anon some years ago saying that on campus before dating apps there would be lots of parties where stacies try to get to chads and everyone below came to see if they could get a piece of the pie with someone. Now because of dating apps there aren't as many frat parties because Stacy and becky can frick chad anytime so it's just lonely men drinking booze at these parties

        Sorry about the typos. Thanks. It just something that happened in high school and a few years after high school. I suggested to my friend who became an outlier of the main group (the clique) to make our own group by gathering the outliers and outsiders to do this. My friend semi-declined, he was apprehensive. He thought that if he "scored" enough "good points" he would be admitted into the main group. He was oblivious that the main group rigged it against the outliers and outsiders. We started our own group with a few outsiders, the problem was they just sought to get into the main group anyway and my friend (later became my "friend") sought to join another group (it was not a clique per say its just that he did not fit well) and have us as the outliers and outsiders. He even tried to form his own clique and became the outlier of his own clique. He was not too happy because no matter the number of times he became an outlier anyway I still remained his true friend (he felt he was stuck) and it bothered him because he wanted he wanted to get into with the high school clique. The clique members liked me more (because years ago I was a main member of a big social group and due to the fallout of a fake girlfriend the cliques formed as they were trying to merge with the girl group). At some point he did as a trial main group member but the high school clique still had him as an outlier. In a peculiar way he "punished" me by not inviting me to anything besides movies so I suffered socially and did not know it. Its better to have done away with all people from high school, to conclude the relations with those people and ask the social group at work to participate in activities and events.

        Cont.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          I just was not "confident" to do it alone and wanted my "friend" to be there. Needless to say that friend is no longer my friend. My friend years ago had sex with a married woman while I did scold I forgave him. Years later and I am embarrassed to say it I tried getting with girl that had a boyfriend, while I stopped all efforts to do so when I told my friend he berated me in a very bad way and did not even apologise and make it up to me. I decided to end the relationship, it became evident that the "friend" regarded me as a "supply". So when I denied "supply" he became outraged. I barely recognised him when I encountered him and his dad a few days after Christmas. His was was filled with jealous and hurt. He was jealous since his dad compared him to me and his dad made comparisons with a lot of people. His dad is a good man, his dark side appears to become more evident as the relationship progresses. Like I said its better for me to have ended the high school relations and request to join the social group's activities and events from work (after work, of course)

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          This is insane for me to see right now as I'm currently going through this situation with my own friend group where I myself wasn't just part of the main group but one of the few who started the group. And we few trialed members, made plans, provided locations and transportation because we were the few with chill houses for people to come over to and vehicles to get everyone around. 10 years later and the group is pretty much falling apart as we enter real adult lives and go our separate ways. Some want to try to keep the group together and others have accepted that it might be time to move on and keep the good memories rather than force things and make bad ones.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >This is insane for me to see right now as I'm currently going through this situation with my own friend group where I myself wasn't just part of the main group but one of the few who started the group.
            I remember the starting of our group, interestingly the group was open to those that wanted to join. Later, the path was the big friend group (me and others), the gang (yes, one of the founders sought to make it into gang) and the clique (another founder and later a new kid, new to the high school). The gang (as a spin-off) dissolved as things got too heated between them and another teen gang (in a troubled neighbourhood), they tried to drag the rest of us in their shenanigans. The big friend group grew a lot, still there were those that tried to instigate a clique and merge with the girl group (simps).
            >And we few trialed members, made plans, provided locations and transportation because we were the few with chill houses for people to come over to and vehicles to get everyone around.
            Its seems to me like you guys were quite social while not snobby you did realise that some people where easier to integrate than others and adjusted accordingly.
            >10 years later and the group is pretty much falling apart as we enter real adult lives and go our separate ways.
            Sorry to hear. Depending on the wives they try to isolate their husbands and entrenching them in married life, perceiving the relationships prior to the marriage as a "threat" to their seemingly stable life. Sometimes its just grievances and unresolved matters, declaring that they are an "adult" now etc.

            Cont.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Some want to try to keep the group together and others have accepted that it might be time to move on and keep the good memories rather than force things and make bad ones.
            Keeping the group together after having so many good memories tends to be understandable. Between the good memories, gathering the friend again and moving on can cause friction between the friends. They may be open to returning to the group in the near future, it may just be some bad experiences they had with others and forcing the group (to them) irritates them emotionally. What do you think?

            Post- high school clique, the way to soothe grievances and resolve matters was just staked on forgetting, that with the time passing people would just forget about the less flattering experiences and impose a contrived positive narrative on co-students (by the former clique members of course). The clique needs the high school reunion to rehabilitate.

            Metaphorically speaking, the clique is a social pyramid scheme.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Its seems to me like you guys were quite social while not snobby you did realise that some people where easier to integrate than others and adjusted accordingly.
            We brought people in based on similiar interests or hobbies but we also vetted for sociability as well.
            >Sorry to hear. Depending on the wives they try to isolate their husbands and entrenching them in married life, perceiving the relationships prior to the marriage as a "threat" to their seemingly stable life. Sometimes its just grievances and unresolved matters, declaring that they are an "adult" now etc.
            Actually, none of us are married and only a few of us are currently in relationships. Of those relationships only one has reached the point of planning proposal. But I do understand what you mean and even if we patched things now that would be the next big hurdle, and once family gets involved I don't think there's a way back out from that.

            >Some want to try to keep the group together and others have accepted that it might be time to move on and keep the good memories rather than force things and make bad ones.
            Keeping the group together after having so many good memories tends to be understandable. Between the good memories, gathering the friend again and moving on can cause friction between the friends. They may be open to returning to the group in the near future, it may just be some bad experiences they had with others and forcing the group (to them) irritates them emotionally. What do you think?

            Post- high school clique, the way to soothe grievances and resolve matters was just staked on forgetting, that with the time passing people would just forget about the less flattering experiences and impose a contrived positive narrative on co-students (by the former clique members of course). The clique needs the high school reunion to rehabilitate.

            Metaphorically speaking, the clique is a social pyramid scheme.

            I think you might be confused anon. There's 3 people in this convo and I'm the one who originally posted the thought you're responding to.
            >What do you think?
            I'm hoping to at least just keep up communication and discussion on our shared interests. Most of us are scattered across our state so we can't meet up much in person anymore.
            >Metaphorically speaking, the clique is a social pyramid scheme.
            It is and I hate that I see it now. Human relations in general just come down to how people can benefit others. It's hypocritical of me to say but all I enjoyed was the conversation and deep thinking and that's what I was hoping would improve as we got older and had more experiences.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >But I do understand what you mean and even if we patched things now that would be the next big hurdle, and once family gets involved I don't think there's a way back out from that.
            Its up to you whether you want to patch things up. The possibility of them focusing on family is likely, it just depends on the attitudes of their wives, the relations between the friend group and "commitments". There stoll is a possibility of meeting together while being married with kids anyway.
            >I think you might be confused anon. There's 3 people in this convo and I'm the one who originally posted the thought you're responding to.
            I was just expanding the comment as there is a limit in the amount of characters per post. Did you think I was the other anon?
            >I'm hoping to at least just keep up communication and discussion on our shared interests. Most of us are scattered across our state so we can't meet up much in person anymore.
            That is a challenge depending on the size of the state and appetite to travel, still communicating and discussing is good.
            >It is and I hate that I see it now. Human relations in general just come down to how people can benefit others. It's hypocritical of me to say but all I enjoyed was the conversation and deep thinking and that's what I was hoping would improve as we got older and had more experiences.
            While thing about this earlier today, especially with the fake relationship with the fake girlfriend I then remembered a scene from the Matrix when Morpheus was asking Neo: what is real? (right after Neo was feeling the couch he asked Morpheus: This isnt real?) and the rest of the scene:
            >How do you define real? If you are talking about what you can feel, what you can smell, taste and see then real is simple electrical signals interpreted by your brain

            I thought: Duh.... the fake relationship with my fake girlfriend was fake because it was a imitation not real.

        • 6 months ago
          Anonymous

          >He even tried to form his own clique and became the outlier of his own clique.
          damn that's brutal
          so wait, what did you supply then? outliers and outsiders to him or just being there as a friend?

          This is insane for me to see right now as I'm currently going through this situation with my own friend group where I myself wasn't just part of the main group but one of the few who started the group. And we few trialed members, made plans, provided locations and transportation because we were the few with chill houses for people to come over to and vehicles to get everyone around. 10 years later and the group is pretty much falling apart as we enter real adult lives and go our separate ways. Some want to try to keep the group together and others have accepted that it might be time to move on and keep the good memories rather than force things and make bad ones.

          yeah getting older sucks, how old are you guys now?

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            Mid to late 20's. We went through high school, kept touch in college and through covid, but we came out the other end now more separated than before. I don't mean to get into details, but it seems like what you have described with your friend group is coming to light with ours. The jokes that have been dragged on for years are getting old and it doesn't make sense to keep the pecking order maintained now that we have real responsibilities. That last one also means that some members are coming to terms with the fact of how they treated the "lower members" and unexpressed hurt is coming out from those members and, what I think is their hit back, is leaving the group and starting their own, some for materialistic reasons beyond friendship.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >damn that's brutal
            Yes, he was a hardcore Tony Robbins fan too.
            >so wait, what did you supply then?
            Wholesomeness, real friendship and positivity. He needed that to inflate his ego, go out in his attempt to enter the high school clique, got burned out by the rigged group, came to hang out and repeat.
            >outliers and outsiders to him or just being there as a friend?
            I did try to introduce him to other people even other outliers and outsiders, they just were "not good enough". In hindsight, it seems that he assumed that the high school clique would judge his newfound friends and acquaintances, and stifle his "efforts" in getting into the high school clique. In forming his own clique he picked victims that needed empathy and understanding, he just wanted to boss them around thinking it was his way into the clique. The "victims" liked me as I was genuine with them and it pissed him off that they declined his attempts at being their "boss". He outed himself by saying that he does not give a frick about *name of victim* and he only cared about himself. In a reverse psychology kind of way he believed that would make him more desirable (le Tony Robbins fanboy) but he became increasingly unbearable.

          • 6 months ago
            Anonymous

            >In a reverse psychology kind of way he believed that would make him more desirable
            guy sounds like a c**t, some people really have to reach rock bottom in order to change. I had to cut off one of my friends since I tried helping him for five years to improve his life but all he wanted was the attention and took my efforts for granted. Now he likely only has his family

  9. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    I don't have friends too im normal person spend time with family

  10. 6 months ago
    Anonymous

    they should provide companionship service for going out with people and afterwards they write you are report why nobody want's to be friends with you.

    I would pay for this. And there are plenty of loosers who would do it also. Great business idea for someone.

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