I knew a guy who had a fiance, but once she found out he was raped by another guy a long time ago, that suddenly changed how she viewed him and it's like he became less of a man even though he's the same guy she was with the whole time and it's not even his fault. Then I kind of thought to myself that some things should just be taken to the grave.
It's easy to talk about how you should know everything about your partner and vice versa, but I feel like only people with privileged and untroubled backgrounds say that because the system is already working to their advantage. Things like current debt or convicted criminal background and you're still on parole - yes you should tell someone before marrying or committing to them because it also becomes your partner's problem. But other things that wouldn't affect them if they didn't know?
Is it so bad to just not tell your partner some things?