> download bumble. > first day, 4 matches. > so far so good. > ff 1 day, none of them started a conversation

> download bumble
> first day, 4 matches
> so far so good
> ff 1 day, none of them started a conversation

For added context, in bumble only women can start a conversation after matching

Do they really match and then never start chatting or what? I

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    its you versus literally everyone else even on the hammiest of planets

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    if they had an insta link in their profile congratulations, you got swiped on by a bot

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      op here, one of them actually started a conversation lol

      They didn't, that's the weirdest part. I can see how people would use it to advertise their social media, but none of them had their handles.

      If you're not a 8/10 or above, you have to pay. Don't bother with the free version of dating apps as an average male, it's just not worth your time and it will eat away at you. I'm not any kind of incel or blackpiller, I have a successful dating life but I could never have any success on dating apps without paying.

      I've been frequently told that I'm a solid 7 and perhaps an 8; the thing is I am terrible at taking photos of myself and flirting so idk. Not gonna pay for it either way

      Whatever you do, don't be average height.

      And pay zero attention to people pretending to have a lot of matches. 99% of the time it's the same one troll being paid $0.036 per post

      I'm 194cm, which is 6'4. It sounds cool but some women consider it too tall? Like they want 180 to 185cm.

      this homie showing off 25+ grannies lmao

      OP how many likes did you get in the first day?

      4 likes on the first day

      >Do they really match and then never start chatting or what?
      One time I heard a female friend complain about daring apps and how tiresome it is being on it. She said something like "Usually I don't feel like filtering hundreds of guys and chatting with every one of them to find a more or less good one". Looks like it's a numbers game for both sides, just with different rules.

      Yeah I can see how tiresome it could be. Though I very rarely see someone who has more than a single sentence in their bio, so that basically boils down your profile to a couple of photos and it's hard to tell what your interests are.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I've been frequently told that I'm a solid 7 and perhaps an 8; the thing is I am terrible at taking photos of myself and flirting so idk. Not gonna pay for it either way

        I am 100% you don't understand the rating scale. If you were a real 7-8 out of a 10 scale you wouldn't even need to use OOL, But you would because you would slay there too like in real life. You would certainly get more than a paltry 4 matches. Unless you live in a rural village... And you certainly wouldn't ask for advice about dating on /adv/ if you were a 7 out of 10 or better.

        Seriously post your picture because you are 100% clueless about the actual rating scale and social dynamics.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The algorithm sucks and boasts your profile at the beginning of its creation. The best play with bumble is to have your profile perfected from day one and take advantage of the free boost without paying. It's also a numbers game bumbles usually better on Sundays you're not going to get many matches/messages on a Friday night.

    I find there aren't too many bots on bumble contrary to it other people say.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If you're not a 8/10 or above, you have to pay. Don't bother with the free version of dating apps as an average male, it's just not worth your time and it will eat away at you. I'm not any kind of incel or blackpiller, I have a successful dating life but I could never have any success on dating apps without paying.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      ok incel

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I'm 5'4" and probably 3 or 4/10 to most women but I still have had dates irl from apps. but none ever called me back afterwards. just some info for you guys. it's probably a waste of time

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        If you can get dates as a 4/10 on a dating app you're either better looking than you think or a champion flirter. Try offline dating.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I don't know, in my mind I want to say I'm a 6/10 or maybe even 7 on a good day but if I think about it from a woman's perspective I can only assume that my height makes me pretty unattractive to the average woman. Less attractive than average, I can only guess. Also I only started getting dates when I started engaging with the girls I didn't find very attractive but that I at least didn't find unattractive. Those are hard to find, actually.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just don’t look like shit and have a decent profile.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Can u give examples/resources I can go to that can rate my profile/my looks.

      I've always considered myself handsome but I fricking suck at taking photos of myself and I am a survivor of narcissistic abuse so I'm also bit fricked at expressing myself in a way that's palpable for a dating bio.
      >I like so much shit but I like to keep my best traits in a vault that only my inner circle sees

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Oh god, one of those buzzword of the day abuse claims.

        Blah blah toxic ex blah narcissism blah gaslighting

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Okay Black person homosexual. You can be black elsewhere like going back.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Post your pic here and I and others will rate you.

        But generally you are not attractive, at least not attractive to be enough above average for women to chase you. If you were attractive you would easily know it by the way women reacted to you and wouldn't ever ask on /adv/. Objectively attractive guys have women hitting on them from time, other women approaching them to probe what you think about their friend(that is the type of indirect thing women do), women will often make stupid small talk with you constantly or they will talk way too long with you if you ever try to engage in small talk, they will ogle you with their eyes, etc.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >approaching them to probe what you think about their friend(that is the type of indirect thing women do)
          Is this actually a thing? I've had women do most of the things you mention (usually make eye contact and smile), but never this had a woman come up to ask what I thought about their friend.
          I've found that most women are as socially awkward as men and consider placing themselves in the presence of a man as "shooting their shot with him", lol

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I am not saying that the women asking is interested in you. She is probing on behalf of friends. Or some women like playing matchmaker like the Cartman cupid meme character in Southpark. Btw, I live in the USA. In other countries the dating culture/norms could be otherwise.

            Once when I was 19 I went to Greece and my third cousin asked me what I thought of one of her friends who said she thought I was attractive. But I was a shy incel and didn't take the chance.

            When I was in high school several girls asked me what girl(s) I was interested in. But having delayed puberty and not being interested in women at the time I clammed up and tried saying nothing. They kept pressing so I deliberately picked a girl firmly outside of their friend circle.

            Once in my early 20's when I was a house painter we were painting this house. And my boss straight up told me that one of the young daughters of the customer who lived in the house liked me. She was a few younger than me, if I recall she was like 18-21 and I was like 24. Being a moronic incel I did nothing.

            Stuff like that doesn't happen for me now because all women around my age are already mated up. And so now that I am already and looking back I see how deliberately screwed up every chance I ever had of having girlfriends with my mental hangups.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      this homie showing off 25+ grannies lmao

      OP how many likes did you get in the first day?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        How much sex have you got last year? I also get much younger women, anyway.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          ok but all the matches you showed are grannies.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Touch grass my friend. And show me those matches of yours.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Look at how defensive you're getting over your granny matches lmao. Almost cute.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >25+
        >granny

        ?si=WpVsYYD9lOSX0vyC

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Look at how defensive you're getting over your granny matches lmao. Almost cute.

        Sour grapes Black person. He's not even getting defensive.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >s-s-show me y-your matches!!!!

          yes he is.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >womxn
      yikes, my dude.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Just don’t look like shit
      Theyn why would they have matched to begin with?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >+20 y.o. grannies
      Weird flex but ok.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Nice chadfish anon.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Whatever you do, don't be average height.

    And pay zero attention to people pretending to have a lot of matches. 99% of the time it's the same one troll being paid $0.036 per post

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Are you referring to my post?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yes. Show us your rizz.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Bumble is filled with toxic woman.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Do they really match and then never start chatting or what?
    One time I heard a female friend complain about daring apps and how tiresome it is being on it. She said something like "Usually I don't feel like filtering hundreds of guys and chatting with every one of them to find a more or less good one". Looks like it's a numbers game for both sides, just with different rules.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I can't feel sympathetic to women in this case as it's mostly their own fault they have a bad time with it. They're picky but end up with a ton of 'bad' matches somehow. This points to a failure in their own selection criteria. At the same time the over abundance of matches gives them little patience to build rapport with matches who don't immediately catch their interest, so they jump to the next. It's similar to little kids watching youtube these days, the chasing of quick gratification has them get bored in mere moments and they don't watch anything for more than 10 seconds.

      If women want to have a better time on dating apps they need to better understand their own situation. If the guy is very attractive then he already has tons of interest and more likely than not he doesn't see her as more than hook up material. She might have heard "guys" have a hard time getting matches, but if she matched with him chances are high he's not one of those guys. She should not really expect him to be that interested in her outside of sex, and if all her convos go to sex immediately that's a hint she's aiming out of her league relationship wise. What she's experiencing is basically a softer version of what average guys experience.

      With less attractive guys, she should learn to stop getting bored because he didn't wow her in the very first line or two of conversation. Give it more than a moment before matching with 10 other guys like an idiot and then complaining about being overwhelmed.

      Of course this advice is pissing in the wind but it is grating to hear women b***h about self-inflicted dating app problems.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    As a woman on bumble sometimes I look at a guy and say hmm okay but then realize I don't really like his appearance and just unmatch immediately. Men do the same thing so you're not really special.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I got 2 likes total, not even matches. I'm going to fricking rope.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >girl from a dating app messaged me tonight about coming over
    >on the coldest day of the year at 1am with snow falling
    This is the first time I’ve ever turned down a booty call

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It takes around 20-40 matches that respond to get one date. Your profile probably sucks or you are in the middle of nowhere if you get only 4. Average guy can get around 50 with good photos in major (+750k) city.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    4 matches is nothing. Not everyone's gonna message you. Its a good start. Keep going.

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    the average woman responds to only a small percentage of her matches and that's after matching with only a small percentage of men

    by the way the first day is usually your best day, you should expect even fewer if any matches going fewer

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yes, which is why I this guy either doesn't the rating scale of looks and can't evaluate his place on it:

      op here, one of them actually started a conversation lol

      They didn't, that's the weirdest part. I can see how people would use it to advertise their social media, but none of them had their handles.

      [...]
      I've been frequently told that I'm a solid 7 and perhaps an 8; the thing is I am terrible at taking photos of myself and flirting so idk. Not gonna pay for it either way

      [...]
      I'm 194cm, which is 6'4. It sounds cool but some women consider it too tall? Like they want 180 to 185cm.

      [...]
      4 likes on the first day

      [...]
      Yeah I can see how tiresome it could be. Though I very rarely see someone who has more than a single sentence in their bio, so that basically boils down your profile to a couple of photos and it's hard to tell what your interests are.

      Or he lives very deep in rural Alaska or Antarctica...

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's easier to swipe than to start a conversation, so you aren't guaranteed to move forward even with a match. Just keep going my friend.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >none of them started a conversation
    Because it's just a mobile game to them, they aren't on Bumble to actually meet anyone

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Women are only interested in meeting very god tier Chad looking without lots of copious and time consuming back and forth texting.

      The average looking guy they will string along with hours and hour of messaging till you finally get a phone call or date. It is like the doing the labor of the Atlas before you finally get to meet up.

      They are on Bumble to meet guys. But their standards is on tilted scale. The Chads can dine and dash in their pussy with their non-committal tactics. The average guy is going to have spend like maybe 20 hours of labor texting with one match to maybe get one date...

      [...]

      You're a moron if you think OOL is easy for most guys. I wish trolls like you who cosplay like you have a Chad tier dating experience would just frick off.

      See:
      >https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36662712/

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If dating apps are the only way to meet girls, then it is over. Simple as that. It's done.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      op here again

      Conversation with a girl from the first 4 matches is going great, got her number and it looks like we might arrange a date this week. I also had two more matches, one of them talked to me and I had actually met her IRL before, which is great.

      Tbh I still dislike the app, so I think I'll just uninstall them once the second one gives me her number. Offline dating seems like a better choice for me.

      It's definitely not, you can meet women irl and it's not that hard. Dating apps might be a better idea if you're looking for casual sex though, idk.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        how many likes and matches do you have now altogether?
        Post some of the convo.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          total of 6 matches + 3 other likes

          The convo's all in Spanish, may translate it and post some of it later

          What a made up story.

          Does anyone who had used OOL believe

          — you’re not attractive so you only got 4 matches

          — yet in your first or second day already 2 out of the 4 are willing to meet up?

          Seriously why do the fricktards here make up so many Tall Tales pretending to
          elicit advice? Almost everything on /adv/ is made up. Online dating is much laborious than that and a 50% conversion rate is not realistic. You are too dumb to even tailor your lies properly.

          I'm not the guy pretending to have 100+ likes. I'm tall and I believe I look slightly better than average, that's it.

          I also said that one of them may agree to meet up later this week, but that's it. Don't make shit up.

          Jesus Christ please go outside and touch some grass.

          I believe his story.
          The state of online dating is so fricked that 4 matches on bumble means OP is at the very least above average. An average man would get 0 or 1 matches

          I think the amount of matches I got is average. I live in a city with 1 mil. pop. and even though tinder is the de-facto here I've defenitely been shown 200+ people on bumble after filtering by age and distance.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        What a made up story.

        Does anyone who had used OOL believe

        — you’re not attractive so you only got 4 matches

        — yet in your first or second day already 2 out of the 4 are willing to meet up?

        Seriously why do the fricktards here make up so many Tall Tales pretending to
        elicit advice? Almost everything on /adv/ is made up. Online dating is much laborious than that and a 50% conversion rate is not realistic. You are too dumb to even tailor your lies properly.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I believe his story.
          The state of online dating is so fricked that 4 matches on bumble means OP is at the very least above average. An average man would get 0 or 1 matches

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            It’s not believable. Maybe a guy who is a 7 out of 10 on the looks scale can easily get 2 women committed to meeting up within a day on Bumble. But those Chads get more than a mere 4-6 matches.

            [...]

            Wtf is HTN you terminally online loser?

            And laugh at you morons writing cope after being called out for your pathetic lies! The average guy even when lying in a survey claims 6 lifetime sexual partners(women claim 4 which is likely more accurate). Stats like that prove hookup culture only exists for Chads.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          You're talking about a single digit sample size so talking about statistics is meaningless. Getting a girl to agree to a date after a short conversation is relatively easy, the hard part is them not flaking after agreeing.

          I believe his story.
          The state of online dating is so fricked that 4 matches on bumble means OP is at the very least above average. An average man would get 0 or 1 matches

          I don't really agree, most guys will get more than 0 or 1 on the first day unless it's a shit area or really unflattering photos. I am objectively below average (short and ugly) and still managed more than that when I first used it. The scheme is to give you that initial hit of attention then hide your profile so you have to pay for further attention (i.e. boosts etc). This is the biggest part of the dating app scam, it's not just that women are picky but also Tinder/Bumble go out of their way to make it so women who might like you never see you unless you pay. You aren't even getting a chance to be left swiped a lot of the time.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Also this means that in order to keep women on the app, Chads get shown disproportionate to how many are active on the app. This definitely helps skews what women think average guys look like, if they actually saw a uniformly random selection of men they would quit the app pretty quick

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >in bumble only women can start a conversation after matching
    lol Bumble doesn't understand women.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Women start a conversation
      >hi

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >proceeds to complain about 100 other guys starting a convo with hi
        Turns out the game isn't that easy.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Can you use fake gps to move your location on bumble? I've tried usign fake gps. I'm not paying for any internet app. I'm looking at Peru and Colombia now on hinge and getting matches. At home location I get 0.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      you can do it in browser with bumble enhanced but it barely works

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    N

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Apps should, at BEST, be a supplementary part of your dating game. Most of the girls are there for validation and attention, some of them explicitly so.

    Some are just there because they're butthurt about an ex and want to see what HIS dating profile looks like, so they won't even bother if they don't think you'll make him jealous.

    The handful that really want a relationship have a TON of men to choose from. It's stupid to worry about your performance on a dating app. You should use it as a diagnostic of your IRL dating skills and little else.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      by far the most human and realistic comment on this thread

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