Femcel woes

Does red wanna date me? I've wanted him for a very long time and understanding this is hard

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Damn this dude has game

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      obvious irony are you all stupid

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    yes. But you gotta play along

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      No. It means you have to meet him irl first

      Ahhh contradicting responses.
      We have met irl, but it's been a very long time since we last saw each other in person.

      Damn this dude has game

      I'm a woman

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I'm a woman
        I'm talkin about the guy you're talking to

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Oh
          He's gaming me? What is he trying to won from me?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            *to win

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Anon just means that when you said
            >how would your gf like it?
            and he said
            >I know you would like it
            that that was smooth. Also the fact that he evidently has multiple girls interested in him.

            >what does he want to win from me?
            Pussy

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >that was smooth
            it really wasnt. if you're frickin thinking this is smooth youre moronic or a woman or both.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I refuse to believe this is a real post. Its gotta be bait

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    No. It means you have to meet him irl first

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    does that guy know that you like him? because here you basically admitted it
    but then idk i'm an incel i know jacksht about this

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >> I'm a woman

    Everyone on NSFFW is male.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I get a strong vibe he isn't actually broken up with his girlfriend

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      OP, you need to go on a date with him, not second-guess yourself or listen to the naysayers here.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I got my answer: he's "not ready for another relationship," which we all know is a bullshit excuse.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      pwnd

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I can be your boyfriend

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Sorry, I don't need one.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      KWAB

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      just be fwb with him until he catches feelings

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You were flirting with a guy who had a gf you're an idiot and he's a scumbag

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      give me head dumb b***h

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >he's "not ready for another relationship," which we all know is a bullshit excuse.
      welcome to the male world, where we have to deal with stuff like this and worse from women on a daily basis

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Nobody just declares "you are my gf nao", words like "dating", "going out", "seeing each other", "boy/girlfriend" were euphemisms for "premarital relationship" originally this was the most informal level of relationships but then people invented the term "friends with benefits" which eventually became "frickbuddies", but in the dating app era nobody wants to use those terms because the imply a necessary sexual/romantic component, so they say "just friends" and it means your on the girls back burner in the friendzone but at any time could be promoted to FWB or even full bf but don't expect her to stop fricking other guys until she promotes you or sometimes not even then.

      If you, as a man, don't like this then you're entitled, jealous, controlling, and sex-crazed

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    probably not honestly. he sort of avoided your response but didn't outright reject you either so i'm guessing he might be down for fwb but not interested in a full on relationship.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      just be fwb with him until he catches feelings

      This is too high risk of a strategy and I rejected his idea of just hooking up before. I'm standing my ground against it.

      >Does this mean I am your gf now?

      Tfw

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    who is this homosexual
    the least he could do is revenge frick you to get back at his former girlfriend

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      He keeps being cagey about her

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Does this mean I am your gf now?

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Does red wanna date me?
    Ask him if he does or not and don't take a joke for an answer this time

    He's acting like a fricking woman though so I don't know why you'd want to date him. Frickin "don't want to talk about it," what a gay. My instinct says that means he's still with his gf but you should be able to just go on his Facebook and check that, right?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      He doesn't have facebook. He deleted it and other social media after cheating with me last time.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >He doesn't have facebook. He deleted it and other social media after cheating with me last time.
        Ah, of course he did.. That way it's harder for his girlfriend to catch him cheating lol. Nope, he definitely does not want to date you, sweetheart

        Why not just ask him though?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          See

          I got my answer: he's "not ready for another relationship," which we all know is a bullshit excuse.

          . He already told me he doesn't want to date. I haven't responded to that yet. Idk what to say.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Idk what to say.
            You say "aww shit, that's too bad. Welp, wanna frick?"

            You do still want to frick him either way, right?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            No, I've been drawing that line for years. I won't frick him without a relationship. Not sexting him is difficult but I should really stop that too.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I won't frick him without a relationship
            So you don't want to frick him then?

            >Not sexting him is difficult but I should really stop that too.
            Now you do want to frick him.. what the frick? Make up your mind, do you want to frick him or not?

            Are you trying to tell me that you DO want to frick him, you just won't do it unless you're in a relationship? Because I don't buy that shit if so. If you wanted to frick him, you'd frick him

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >anon with room temperature IQ doesn't understand conditional desires

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Feel free to explain

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You think women in love should risk heartbreak, STIs, and pregnancy without even a semblance of commitment?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >You think women in love should risk heartbreak, STIs, and pregnancy without even a semblance of commitment?
            Yeah sure, why not? Men do it all the time, don't they? Plus there's no real risk of pregnancy if she is on birth control and willing to get an abortion if somehow that fails. Also not really much risk of heartbreak if she gets her head straight and knows she's just in it for the dick

            So yeah, I do. Why aren't women allowed to enjoy life but men are? lol

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Holy shit. Do you know how painful, intensive, and expensive an abortion is? Plus the emotional attachment to the man is important too.

            You give terrible advice. This isn't just some guy. I can't be in it "just for the dick." It's not my fault you've never felt anything beyond sexual impulses.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Do you know how painful, intensive, and expensive an abortion is?
            Well yeah, I kinda do. I don't know how painful but as far as I could tell, not really painful at all. I know how expensive it was, it was $700 at first but my gf told them she was poor so they knocked off like $200-300. That was nice of them. Best money I ever spent too, would paid double, triple, quadruple and more lol

            >Plus the emotional attachment to the man is important too.
            They can be friends

            >I can't be in it "just for the dick."
            Oh you're the OP.. well yes, yes you can be in it just for the dick. I mean, how long have you been sexting this dude even after he's already told you he doesn't want to date you? You see what you're doing, right? You're literally just in it for the dick, except you've created a rule where you can't physically get the dick, only through text

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I have a intimacy and bonding fetish and I suspect she does too. It's patrician taste. All other opinions are inferior.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >and I suspect she does too
            Oh yeah? Explain all the sexting she's been doing with him then?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            She clearly got anesthesia

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >You think women in love should risk heartbreak, STIs, and pregnancy without even a semblance of commitment?
            Yeah sure, why not? Men do it all the time, don't they? Plus there's no real risk of pregnancy if she is on birth control and willing to get an abortion if somehow that fails. Also not really much risk of heartbreak if she gets her head straight and knows she's just in it for the dick

            So yeah, I do. Why aren't women allowed to enjoy life but men are? lol

            (cont)
            Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if the only reason she even says she wants a relationship with the dude is because people like you have beat into her head that she shouldn't have sex with a dude without "commitment." I bet she just wants the dick but thinks that's not allowed

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I am op and you've been talking to me.

            Holy shit. Do you know how painful, intensive, and expensive an abortion is? Plus the emotional attachment to the man is important too.

            You give terrible advice. This isn't just some guy. I can't be in it "just for the dick." It's not my fault you've never felt anything beyond sexual impulses.

            ,

            You think women in love should risk heartbreak, STIs, and pregnancy without even a semblance of commitment?

            are me.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I won't frick him without a relationship.
            What do you think a relationship is other than fricking?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Commitment to stick around and aim to create a government contract with a shared home and finances to raise a family together.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            "Date? I was just planning to have some fun with you"

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Basically...

            >He keeps coming back for sexting/potential hook up, but never agrees to a full relationship.
            Sounds like he's emotionally unavailable and goes to you when he gets lonely

            I agree. It hurts. I have to lead almost all the conversation.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    if red watches porn probably not. if you want to date red, just ask

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      He definitely likes porn unfortunately.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        who do you consider like the coolest guy is basically the same thing. if you don't care about that, you need to make his life memorable, if you find him disposable, don't let him drown when you're done, go fish

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          To be honest, I cannot decipher your comment.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            that's like a 5 minute discord exchange. is there some longer term pattern making this an issue?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Yes. He keeps avoiding committing to me. I thought this might end the pattern but alas it did not.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        he'd rather frick his hand than you.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          He is interested in sexual activities but not commitment.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >He is interested in sexual activities but not commitment.
            Yes, now go give him that pussy for frick's sake

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            No

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            He'd rather chase fantasies than settle for you.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I know.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I know.
            It's your fault, dummy, for not giving him the pussy. No man with a brain is going to get into a relationship with a woman who refuses to have sex with him unless they "commit" first

            Why not? Because if she actually wanted to have sex with him, she wouldn't insist on waiting for "commitment," should we just have sex with him. And why the frick would he want a woman that doesn't actually want him?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Give him a slow, passionate, hands-free blowjob until he cums in your mouth, and if you do it right, he'll fall in love with you.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Tryn but keep in mind that there's a high chance that this guy sees you like a bandage to a failed relationship.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Tfw
      I knew him long before this most recent gf, but I have to accept the situation as it stands.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Why not use this opportunity to build some flirting skills? Develop your own game to get him chasing you, while you look for Mr. Right (which he obviously isn't right now). Keep your head straight while you play the game though; don't fall for anything less than what you're looking for.

        I only say this because he sounds like he's looking for a mental challenge on the rebound from his current situation. You don't seem to be doing anything else in the meantime, unless you think this skill is a waste of your time

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I've spent years flirting with this man. They haven't worked unfortunately.
          >don't fall for anything less than what you're looking for.
          This is hard, but I've more or less kept it up. I just need to be better at not sexting him anymore.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            > I know that you'd like it
            > Gotta catch me first

            > How would your gf like it?
            > What happened with ... Is she still your gf?
            > Does this mean that I am your gf now?

            This sounds like someone who wants to play with you, but you sound serious.

            Why do you want to be with this guy if you don't like playing at his level?

            > Silly boy. You were just dreaming about what I like; I've already caught you.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Followed by
            > If you wanna do a few rounds with me, you gotta do like Mike said: "Sign the contract Big Boy. Sign the contract"

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Because I'm not trying to play around. We are aging. My eggs are drying. I'm almost 24. I've been getting rejected for years by this guy.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Our window into your life has focused on the sexual context of your relationship with this dude (flirting, sexting, biological imperatives, femcel).

            The sex angle doesn't seem to be getting you what you want, so perhaps we need a window into the non-sex angle.

            Why do you want to get married and raise a family with this guy? How has your non-sexual value been received by him?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            He has a lot of good qualities like being smart and funny, but he has gotten a lot more guarded over the years and idk why. It might be the military. He wants the same things I do with marriage and children, in addition to the shared sexual fantasies.

            He likes playful romantic scenarios with me, but I think he views them as just sexual. He is open to meeting up with me, but not to getting into a relationship. I don't get to shine in some areas I care about, like being a good conversationalist, because he is so guarded that he can be almost impossible to talk to sometimes. He says he plays his cards close to his chest, which may be a defense mechanism.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            If he goes over seas for a year long tour and you don't know whether he's alive or dead or being tempted by local girls, are your sexual fantasies with him going to keep you going through the tough times?

            If he's gone and only comes back for 6 month stints, is him being smart and funny for those 6 months going to be enough to raise 5 kids on your own as a military wife? If he dies in combat, are you going to be proud to keep his memory alive through his children?

            A challenge for you: spend the next little while to use your conversationalist skills to see whether you can "catch him" off guard and get him to open up more. If he's closed now, you should place your bets on him still being closed in the relationship (albeit not as much, but probably about things that have real vulnerability for him)

            If I can be real with you: through this very narrow window you've given, I see a stereotypical boy girl relationship, and I don't know what is tying you to him beyond a little bit of sexy talk. If I cut him out of the picture and pasted in another smart and funny guy who wanted 5 kids in 10 years and liked sex, would you deep down feel like something is missing? If yes, you need to explore that deep down part and bring that out in your conversations with and about him. Show yourself and him what makes you two special together. But in the meantime, you should start growing yourself in a dating capacity, and also learn how to deal with "boys"; they are driven by challenges via testosterone, and your desire to skip the playing/chase because of biological imperatives is kind of missing the point. (I know you've been flirting for a while and the clock is ticking, but if you aren't watching him tick while you watch the clock, you're missing out on what makes him, "him")

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            He plans to get out of the military in a couple of years last time I talked to him about it. The military family issue wouldn't be a thing after that.

            You male a good point about catching him, and maybe I can try again at some point if he ever contacts me again. Sharing with him hasn't done me a whole lot of good, though, so I may have to take a different approach than I do with most people.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Your eggs aren't fricking drying at 24, read a biology textbook my god I hate c**ts like you so much it's unreal

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Yes they are. It's a long process and if we are going to date, get married, and have 5 kids, that could easily take 10 years. In 10 years, risks are about to start going up for pregnancy. I don't have that long.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >eggs are drying
            >been getting rejected for years by the same guy
            He's not going to change his mind and you will keep wasting years trying to chase him. Find a different man to fertilize your eggs

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >They haven't worked unfortunately.
            You said you were fricking him til his gf caught y'all

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            *Sexting
            Idk if he was caught or not tbh. He said he had an anxiety disorder.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You are the simp. You know the guy who spends all of his time jerking off to vtube girls? That's you, that's your mind.

            https://i.imgur.com/wKkPyXB.png

            Does red wanna date me? I've wanted him for a very long time and understanding this is hard

            You're not gonna like reading this but you're an option and not a particularly serious one. He knows he has you wrapped around his finger and the history you have keeps you coming back for more. So he can keep a girlfriend and send you dirty messages on the side.

            You play into it too, so I can't feel too bad for you. If he wanted you as a girlfriend, he would be on Facebook right now, posting pictures of you two together. Instead, he isn't on Facebook to keep you and his girlfriend as in the dark as possible. You tell me what that means.

            He likes the power he has over you. You must like it too, since you've presumably been through this song and dance before. He cheated with you and he still didn't pick you. This thing is toxic and you're caught up in it. You can either continue until shit becomes a car crash or go no-contact and jerk off a lot to anything else but him.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >You're the simp.
            You think I don't know that? ;-;
            >He likes the power he has over you.
            I suspected this. It's what the tarot cards said too.
            >You can either continue until shit becomes a car crash or go no-contact and jerk off a lot to anything else but him.
            I'm leaving the line of communication open, but not reaching out for now.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >its what the tarot cards said too

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Can confirm he wants to bang.
    Cannot confirm he wants to date.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I only want the former if the latter is on the table.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    OP, I'll give you the most valuable advice you'll get today:
    Leave this thread and leave this board and don't come back.
    I'm also taking that advice myself, bye.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I don't come on here often. I see what you mean though.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    yes he definitely wants you. Dont self sabotage yourself, go for it.
    Now show feet, prostitute

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Unfortunately, he doesn't want me.

      >gotta catch me first
      do women really enjoy men talking like this? He sounds like a complete homosexual

      I hate it, but I can't really do anything about it without risking him ghosting me.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        He's basically ghosting you now, except for the occasional "I'm horny. Talk dirty to me." message.

        >You're the simp.
        You think I don't know that? ;-;
        >He likes the power he has over you.
        I suspected this. It's what the tarot cards said too.
        >You can either continue until shit becomes a car crash or go no-contact and jerk off a lot to anything else but him.
        I'm leaving the line of communication open, but not reaching out for now.

        Why would you even leave the lines of communication open? You're giving him all the power here, dictating that his wants/desires are the important ones and you're gonna be there waiting when he calls for you.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Why would you even leave the lines of communication open? You're giving him all the power here, dictating that his wants/desires are the important ones and you're gonna be there waiting when he calls for you.
          Well what the hell would you have her do? Block him? Why? Because "POWER?" Does that really give her any more power?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I'd say yes, because she's dictating her own worth by walking away. She's actively choosing, not passively waiting. What is she gaining in this situation? Some sexting when she has said she wants more?

            Power might be a bad way to phrase it, but you see my meaning. She's in a no-win scenario where she isn't getting what she wants. Seems better to take control of it and look for someone who wants to be with her than to hope he comes around. He won't commit to her but someone else may.

            "Winning" in this situation is recognizing this is a loss of time, energy and effort and then stopping that.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >I'd say yes, because she's dictating her own worth by walking away.
            First of all, you can't dictate your own worth, you can only dictate how much your asking price is lol. The other people decide whether or not your worth it to them

            Second, walking away can't possibly gain you any power, because if you walk away.. there's fricking no one there to even have power over anymore

            >What is she gaining in this situation?
            Someone to talk to, to flirt with. A sexting partner

            >Some sexting when she has said she wants more?
            Yes

            >She's in a no-win scenario where she isn't getting what she wants
            Wrong. She's getting the sexting, and she could be fricking him if she wanted, she just isn't getting the relationship

            >Seems better to take control of it and look for someone who wants to be with her than to hope he comes around. He won't commit to her but someone else may.
            She has complete control of it though, doesn't she?

            A no-win situation is walking away. The win-win scenario is if she would just stop caring about dating this guy and start to accept their current relationship for what it is: a frickbuddy. Then she'd be getting dick, he'd be getting pussy, and everyone would be happy. She can still look for other dudes at the same time, you know?

            >"Winning" in this situation is recognizing this is a loss of time, energy and effort and then stopping that.
            I agree, she should stop trying to date the dude.. and start fricking him. That's what she fricking wants anyway, otherwise she wouldn't be sexting him

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I want to gain the possibility of him becoming into me.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            If it hasn't happened yet, it's not going to. Even if it does, he'd just leave you if he found someone he wanted more. Or he'd cheat, like he's already doing on his current girlfriend by sexting with another woman. You'd be a stop-gap between people he actually cares for to have a relationship with.

            You have already had opportunities to be together and he hasn't chosen you. It's really that simple.

            >I'd say yes, because she's dictating her own worth by walking away.
            First of all, you can't dictate your own worth, you can only dictate how much your asking price is lol. The other people decide whether or not your worth it to them

            Second, walking away can't possibly gain you any power, because if you walk away.. there's fricking no one there to even have power over anymore

            >What is she gaining in this situation?
            Someone to talk to, to flirt with. A sexting partner

            >Some sexting when she has said she wants more?
            Yes

            >She's in a no-win scenario where she isn't getting what she wants
            Wrong. She's getting the sexting, and she could be fricking him if she wanted, she just isn't getting the relationship

            >Seems better to take control of it and look for someone who wants to be with her than to hope he comes around. He won't commit to her but someone else may.
            She has complete control of it though, doesn't she?

            A no-win situation is walking away. The win-win scenario is if she would just stop caring about dating this guy and start to accept their current relationship for what it is: a frickbuddy. Then she'd be getting dick, he'd be getting pussy, and everyone would be happy. She can still look for other dudes at the same time, you know?

            >"Winning" in this situation is recognizing this is a loss of time, energy and effort and then stopping that.
            I agree, she should stop trying to date the dude.. and start fricking him. That's what she fricking wants anyway, otherwise she wouldn't be sexting him

            This person is moronic and doesn't understand women. Imagine you do as he says, give up on wanting a relationship and just have sex with this guy. Guess what happens: he loses interest. Because he got what he wanted and the refusal to give in was why he kept coming back. The chase is over, the goal complete, the only loser in the scenario the woman who has completely sublimated her desires for actual commitment and gained nothing. Sure, if all you see is just sex like this person, you might even think that's okay. But I'd bet money that she'd be unhappy and feel used.

            The ultimate thing that keeps this going is the chase. The second it ends is the very moment he starts looking elsewhere for something newer. Or he recommits to the woman he's dating.

            Two questions for OP
            1. You've been doing this for a long time, presumably. What keeps you coming back, despite the fact that he is hurting you? It can't be just the sexual aspect. Is it the promise of a family? Is it fear?
            2. You mentioned that you are 24 and worried about losing time. Yet, even if he committed to you today, you would still have to wait a few years just for him to be finished with the military. With the same amount of time, you could just as easily find another guy. So why is hoping this guy commits the preferred option?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >This person is moronic and doesn't understand women
            Oh here we fricking go..

            >just have sex with this guy. Guess what happens: he loses interest.
            lol what? This person is moronic and clearly doesn't understand MEN

            >Because he got what he wanted and the refusal to give in was why he kept coming back. The chase is over, the goal complete
            She's already had sex with him you fricking idiot. The reason he keeps coming back is the sex, if he knew there was no chance of ever fricking her or sexting her again, he'd be gone

            >the only loser in the scenario the woman who has completely sublimated her desires for actual commitment and gained nothing
            And now we see that you clearly do not understand women either. She gained SEX. She wants SEX. Women WANT SEX. I don't know if this shatters some view of yours that women are these pure creatures who couldn't possibly want wiener in them, but they do

            >But I'd bet money that she'd be unhappy and feel used.
            You can't feel used if you're not being used. If he lied to her and said he'd marry her just to get her into bed, then after he fricked her, he bounced, that'd be using her. If he says "I'm only interested in sex" and she agrees, then HE'S NOT USING HER

            >What keeps you coming back
            She likes sexting him

            >It can't be just the sexual aspect
            IT IS. Jesus christ, it's like you think women don't like sex. What are you, fricking Muslim?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Sorry anon; you missed the part where she said she hasn't had sex with him

            We've never fricked, just sexted.

            Sometimes we text all day about random things, but the conversation almost never gets very deep. It feels weird for me because I'm used to deep conversations with my friends.

            He hasn't been pursuing. He keeps coming back for sexting/potential hook up, but never agrees to a full relationship.

            I think you also missed the part where she said she wants babies, and sexting is the attempted gateway to a relationship to get those babies.

            But she's given up for now... which is both good and bad. Good cause she can find someone else to start a relationship with. Bad because she's given up an opportunity to learn about a certain control she has over the situation to find out more about him, but good because it would require more effort and open mindedness than she was probably willing to give.

            "Hey dude, what's your favorite thing to do before we'd frick?"

            "Hey dude, what kind of sex do you like to have? <Answer> hmmm... are you like that outside of the bedroom too?"

            "Hey dude, after we've fricked and slept, what would be your fantasy activity when we woke up?"

            "Hey dude, what kind of music gets you hyped for sex?"

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >Sorry anon; you missed the part where she said she hasn't had sex with him
            She said that his gf caught him cheating with her..

            Either way, it makes no difference, the rest of what I said is still all true

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            He and I have plenty of casual conversations, but they never get very deep unfortunately. It feels very weird. I'll let him come around if he wants to.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            That's cool. Best of luck, anon. I hope you find someone to share that family with.

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    snake pit or not

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Ted is that you?

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >gotta catch me first
    do women really enjoy men talking like this? He sounds like a complete homosexual

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      you'd be shocked man

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      They hunger for it. The thought of him fricking other girls and being dumped makes them want him more.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Yet another problem that would be solved by communicating honestly, rather than keeping Schrodinger's LARP in your back pocket to dodge the shame of being inconsistent about what you feel.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Schrodinger's LARP
      Huh?
      >inconsistent
      I've been very consistent. He's been hot and cold.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    no female will ever say
    >does that mean im your gf now?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe not to you

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Move on. You're wasting your time with him. He just sees you as a frick hole, you want more. It's not gonna work. Find another man that will desire you and fully commit to you.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      But other men will just see her as a frick hole too.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Some men really do love me, but unfortunately I don't feel the same way.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          So what make this army dude special?

          You've been calling him a player for almost 10 years, you're 24 now, and your "relationship" has revolved around sexting. Did you have your first orgasm thinking of him and that's made an imprint on you?

          Nevermind... ok, so you want to have deeper conversations with this guy, but it never goes that way. Your only communication is online. There are other guys who like you but you don't feel the same way. He's given the idea that he's leaving the army in a few years and that gives you hope. But you're getting fed up with all the rejection at a real relationship... buuuttt... Dude is like: "gotta catch me first", so he is interested in playing some kind of game.

          Have you ever been able to infer depth based on the way he reacts or the frequency of the reaction. In the first conversation... Does he normally wait around 5 minutes until he responds to you? Does he normally do other stuff while talking to you, or does the delay imply some sort of sensitivity to the topic? Is he mentally stimulating during the sexting? When he said "I know that you'd like it", was he right? Is he actually paying attention and remembering your sexts, or is he just saying random shit?

          If he's paying attention and remembering and actually thinking while he's sexting you, then maybe you can use that to go deeper to find out about him... ?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            First orgasm, maybe. I'm pretty sure I started my period when I first had a crush on him.
            > Does he normally wait around 5 minutes until he responds to you? Does he normally do other stuff while talking to you, or does the delay imply some sort of sensitivity to the topic?
            He's very good about responding sometimes, like even if he is on vacation or meeting with people he rarely sees. Other times, he cuts me out totally. Completely hot and cold.

            >Is he mentally stimulating during the sexting?
            Yes, but I usually have to lead.

            >When he said "I know that you'd like it", was he right?
            That was about his watch, which I already complimented.
            >Is he actually paying attention and remembering your sexts, or is he just saying random shit?
            I don't know tbh. I had just complimented the watch, though, and was pressing him on the gf issue. He had a gf last I talked to him about it.

            >If he's paying attention and remembering and actually thinking while he's sexting you, then maybe you can use that to go deeper to find out about him... ?
            I constantly ask him questions and lead the conversation. It feels so forced compared to other conversations I have with people.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Ehhh... if you're leading everything and it all feels forced and he goes hot and cold on you, I'd say take the sexual characteristics that make him attractive to you and turn your attention towards someone else with those characteristics.

            I still haven't read a single thing from you about what makes him special, so I feel like you should just consider it a sunk cost and break free now (which I guess you're already doing).

            I know someone who's spent >20 years waiting for a piece of shit to start a relationship with them. I can't convince them otherwise, but maybe you'll listen: when this dude comes back hot for you, just ignore it. Move on and don't look back.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Well, I don't want to repeat what I've already said in the thread. It seems like a lot of the personality I liked many years ago has been repressed substantially, and it's hard to talk about. He's also so guarded when he talks to me. I will wait and see what happens.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    the answer is: you may be his fricktoy and that's it

  23. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    protip: the secret to success is to lie

  24. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This story doesn't make sense. So you're out here refusing sex from this guy and he just keeps pursuing? Why? Have you fricked in the past?

    I don't buy that there's this intense sexual desire running both ways but somehow, this chick has resisted for years and he's been chasing for years. Doesn't make a lick of sense.

    Is his current girlfriend the one he was caught cheating on with you? Or is it a new woman? Either way, there's a clear chance to break off with the old and get with the new and he chose to either stay with the one he was cheating on or find someone completely new that wasn't OP. Isn't that a complete rejection?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      We've never fricked, just sexted.

      Sometimes we text all day about random things, but the conversation almost never gets very deep. It feels weird for me because I'm used to deep conversations with my friends.

      He hasn't been pursuing. He keeps coming back for sexting/potential hook up, but never agrees to a full relationship.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >He keeps coming back for sexting/potential hook up, but never agrees to a full relationship.
        Sounds like he's emotionally unavailable and goes to you when he gets lonely

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        He's not wanting you for more than a hookup then, probably.

        If he won't text you about coffee, and only texts about sex...

        Ask what you're worth and if you're the girl who would partake in a hookup.

        I wouldn't.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          He'll text me about random things, but isn't interested in getting into a relationship.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            so why bother at all?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I thought he'd come around. I'm not bothering anymore at the moment.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            The fact that you have to say "at the moment" means it could change. Not a strong stand when you admit you'd cave for the slightest bit of attention.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >for the slightest bit of attention.
            Correction: when she gets horny*

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >for the slightest bit of attention.
            Correction: when she gets horny*

            It's mostly about his interaction and attention. I can take care of my own horny urges

  25. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Red wants to smash. Are you up for that? If you want commitment, have something to offer that they'd want long-term. They seem to get a hole anywhere and he's a smooth talker. If you just want to be frickbuddies, go for it and smash.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I am not sure what he is looking for that I don't have, other than him preferring people with other dietary choices. I haven't updated him on my religious change, which is in alignment with what he is looking for, but idk how to do that without looking like I'm faking for him.

  26. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Listen, I may be talking out of my ass here, but he might still be with that girlfriend and is just looking for a way to frick around/get an ego boost, hence why he "doesn't wanna talk about it" and he goes to you because he knows you like him and are guaranteed to reciprocate.
    Something about this little exchange screams "frickboy"

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      He is a known "player" and has been for like 10 years.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, you're unlikely to catch that for keeps. I've been in a similar situation with someone who seemed nice and didn't even have that sort of a reputation, (he was kind of a fat nerd) and it just dragged out into five years of will-he-won't-he that ultimately went nowhere. It sucks, but you're better off finding someone who shows he likes you to the point of a relationship. This one sees you as entertainment, clearly evidenced by the fact that when you asked him straight up he just dodged around. If I was back in your place, I'd save myself a whole lot of nerves and dip.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I see what you mean. At the moment I'm just leaving him hanging. Him saying he's still "not ready" tells me all I need to know.

  27. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Are women legit this stupid?
    He wants to frick.
    You're just the most accessible hole at this time.

  28. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Does this mean I am your gf now

    Lmao where can I find a girl this moronic and autistic pls

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I know I'm moronic but...why?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Because the number one headache that comes from trying to date a typical psychotic prostitute is that she believes she will die if she ever directly and openly communicates with a man. So any girl who does so as her default position is worth her weight in gold because it means she's not capable of head games and shit-tests and all the other suicide-inducing fun that comes along with dating in the 2020s

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Right here anon, before your very eyes.
      Are you good at sexting and do you want a big family?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I forgot, are you also willing to open up about your life and feelings, and have deep conversations?

  29. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm getting the impression that he likely may still have a gf. He certainly isn't that interested if he is asking you to "catch me first". Most guys will chase after women.

    You are giving the impression of being needy and chasing after him. I'm also getting the impression that he is a player and could be juggling several women.

    If you just want to be a cheap notch on his belt and get laid, go for it. If you will become attached, just block his number and his social media and stop contacting him.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      He definitely gives the impression of player and kept messing with me by making me jealous.

      I'm just leaving the conversation as is.

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