Girl telling you to wait for a potential relationship

I am currently stuck in a rutt with this girl. She is currently seeing this married man who is "celibate" & cheating on her. She comes to me & we spend multiple days of the week together for months(no sex but kissed multiple times). She talks about having a relationship with me & asks me questions about it.

BUT she won't leave him & is waiting for him to break up with her or she just accepts the pain & puts up with being with a married man & cheated on.

She thinks that after there holiday the man will break up with her in the next month but if not then in the next couple months she will come to a decision on me since she thinks its not fair on me. But she still asks me to go places with her.

What do I do? I like her but I hate this situation & the lack of normality.

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >She is currently seeing this married man
    Drop this b***h immediately

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Imagine being a benchwarmer for a homewrecker, try developing an inkling of self-worth and pursuing a woman who doesn't frick married men, moron.

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    wait wait the married man is not married to her? thats just fricked. why won't she break up with him?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yes. I'm not sure because the answer keeps changing. On one hand I think shes afraid of change & never guessed she'd be cheated on even though hes already married. On the other she maybe just holding out for things to go numb in her head to just say this is all fine & accept this shit.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Stop being an emotional tampon for that c**t.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    so... she is in a relationship with a married man (she is the mistress) and he is cheating on his wife with her and cheating on her with someone else? and then she's seeing you so she's (emotionally at least) cheating on him with you?

    what?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      In a nutshell yes but I forgot to mention that the wife knows about the girl I'm seeing & doesn't reaaly care because she has the title of wife. The 3rd girl is just the one he has sex with because he does'nt really care about the wife & says he's celibate to the girl I'm seeing so they haven't done anything.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Looks like scumbag husband hit the cuckquean lottery. What a shitshow, stay far away from it.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >scumbag husband
          Don't get me started. This man promised the girl I'm seeing that when his wife dies in a couple of years then they can have a full blown relationship & is now gaslighting her into thinking he never said that. Its been 5 years & shes still alive. Also, in 2 hours with a counsellor, this "celibate" man got called a sexual predator. This is still not enough.

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If I were in your position and I felt she was right for me, I might A) Not tell her anything. B) Know that I'll have to accept that if I loved her, I'd have to hold out for the fact that I may not be right for her.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Why the frick are you letting her do this to you?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Because I do like her & liked her before I found out the problem. For some reason I still think theres a chance no matter how small.

      >I am currently stuck in a rutt with this girl. She is currently seeing this married man who is "celibate" & cheating on her. She comes to me & we spend multiple days of the week together for months(no sex but kissed multiple times). She talks about having a relationship with me & asks me questions about it.
      So she is sexually involved with a married man who is cheating on her with some other chick while telling you that one day. Anon, chances are that she actually wants him (maybe they had moments prior to the guy's marriage, perhaps someone that is attracted to married men and a even hardcore finish line waiter) and you are just someone she would resort to if the guy she wants (the married guy) does not start a relationship with her. She does not like you, she likes the "security" you might provide for her (a quick start to a relationship, wining, dinning, travelling and shopping)
      >BUT she won't leave him & is waiting for him to break up with her or she just accepts the pain & puts up with being with a married man & cheated on.
      She wants him, that is the guy she wants. Maybe her mother (not so much her friends) is likely egging her on to be with this guy. She would have told her mother about him and her mother agreeing that if she does not snag the married guy she could just settle with you and push for marriage in the near future. Mothers would be disappointed if their daughter was involved with a married man, then again, boomer mums.

      Cont.

      >she is sexually involved with a married man
      Nope, the one seeing me is the one who got nothing because he said he was celabite. The one she is getting cheated on with is getting all the sex.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Nope, the one seeing me is the one who got nothing because he said he was celabite. The one she is getting cheated on with is getting all the sex.
        She is probably hiding something from you. Very likely that they are doing physical things.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Trashy is as trashy does.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Tell her if she wants you to wait she has to frick. Frick her in the most demeaning way like the little garbage prostitute that she is, then ghost the dumb b***h. Find a different girl, one with character this time.

    P.S. If she's the other woman to a married man, she can't ever be cheated on by him. She can only ever be someone he cheats with.

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I am currently stuck in a rutt with this girl. She is currently seeing this married man who is "celibate" & cheating on her. She comes to me & we spend multiple days of the week together for months(no sex but kissed multiple times). She talks about having a relationship with me & asks me questions about it.
    So she is sexually involved with a married man who is cheating on her with some other chick while telling you that one day. Anon, chances are that she actually wants him (maybe they had moments prior to the guy's marriage, perhaps someone that is attracted to married men and a even hardcore finish line waiter) and you are just someone she would resort to if the guy she wants (the married guy) does not start a relationship with her. She does not like you, she likes the "security" you might provide for her (a quick start to a relationship, wining, dinning, travelling and shopping)
    >BUT she won't leave him & is waiting for him to break up with her or she just accepts the pain & puts up with being with a married man & cheated on.
    She wants him, that is the guy she wants. Maybe her mother (not so much her friends) is likely egging her on to be with this guy. She would have told her mother about him and her mother agreeing that if she does not snag the married guy she could just settle with you and push for marriage in the near future. Mothers would be disappointed if their daughter was involved with a married man, then again, boomer mums.

    Cont.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >She thinks that after there holiday the man will break up with her in the next month but if not then in the next couple months she will come to a decision on me since she thinks its not fair on me. But she still asks me to go places with her.
      She is possibly transitioning the friendship you have now to a relationship if she does not have the relationship with the married guy (who she probably discussed with him that he would divorce his wife). Also, it could be that she has been bracing, mourning and consoling for a relationship with you so she is not very enthused by it to be romanced and bond with her; just the "security" and consistency thereof.
      >What do I do? I like her but I hate this situation & the lack of normality.
      Anon, you seem like an understanding person who seeks to build and maintain relationships. As such, you possibly seek to resolve matters that would enhance the relationship. I very much loved one girl in high school and despite her terrible behaviour and abhorrent choices I still very much loved her until the moment I started to understand her character which contradicted her "personality". I also realised that she never liked me, at best she found me attractive, which the others from high school have missed due to her "personality" (sweet, nice, shy, cute etc) and being from a nuclear family. She also had her "retirement plan" which was to break up with me because she wanted to "have fun and enjoy life" and suddenly contact me one day, late 30s early 30s, to "catch up" and push toward marriage. In high school, her one friend was telling her she had a "good body" and that she was "wasting it" on me (she wasnt, we hardly did anything), the other friend told her that she has "so much potential" so it was cause for her to end the relationship with me which she did not like me anyway it was just a way for her get back with her old friend group.

      So OP, find another girl to like that also likes you.

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    worms like you deserve to be miserable, just post it on r*ddit next time where sombody might give a frick.
    sage.
    have a nice day.

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >She is currently seeing this married man who is "celibate" & cheating on her.
    She does not have good ethical priorities. you need to keep her out of your life. The man is the cheater here but she will not be a trustworthy gf

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >What do I do?
    You get the frick out there. This whole situation is trashy as frick.
    If you even have time for this moron tier drama shit you aren't doing what you're supposed to be doing.
    Do you really want the mother of your children to be some moronic prostitute who tried to ditch her previous husband for you? What the frick do you think she's going to do to you when she sees another guy she likes?

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