Girlfriend self-harms

My girlfriend cuts herself. How do I help her stop? Is there anything you can do? I always read posts online that say you shouldn't question them and to take a passive approach but I genuinely can't see myself approaching it like that. It seems so weak to just sit back and be like "can I get you a clean blade baby? :P?" That's the exact opposite of my worldview, it just seems so weak-minded

I love her, but I genuinely can't sympathize with anything remotely surrounding self-harm. I feel bad that I can't wrap my head around why she would do something like that, because it makes me want to just start screaming at her (which I've never done, but I'm getting close to it)

>inb4 "leave her she's crazy" I'm not a coward

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    just realized this was written in a very moronic way but I wrote it very fast so whatever

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

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    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      That man is rich you chinese hasbara equivalent

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Bro, my ex-girlfriend would frequently self-harm and it got so fricking exhausting having to constantly talk her down. When she first told me that she cuts herself I established that she always contact me if she ever had the urge to do it again but it became such a common occurrence that over time I ran out of shit to say and starting getting mildly annoyed with her. I don't mean to sound like a sociopathic dickhead here but there are so many other non-destructive ways to vent your pain that don't involve becoming a liability for others. After I voiced my grievances with her destructive habits she realized how silly the whole thing was and as far as I'm aware she hasn't done cut herself since. I'm not saying this will work for everyone but it's important to be honest and convey your disdain for her tendency to self-harm.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah, I totally get that. The worst part is that my gf refuses to go to a therapist. ofc therapists arent miracleworkers, but she doesn't even want to get any help. I will definitely have to draw a boundary somewhere because I cant be with someone who doesn't care about themselves

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I just don't know how to be emotionally available but also communicate how much I hate that she does it

        Yeah I feel ya. At the end of the day she probably isn't going to change unless she does it for herself. It's frustrating but there's only so much you can do for someone who's in such a shitty headspace. Not wishing any ill-will on the mentally-unwell or anything, I've just found myself surrounded by them my whole life and I know how they operate. Shit sucks. Still, hope everything goes well for you and your gf, anon.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        She's hurting herself and dragging you down with her, unfortunately there's not much for you to do as the ball is in her court. No one can make her heal, she has to decide to go down that journey herself. I will be praying for both of you

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      You mean she does it right in front of you? Do you live together? I guess I would just leave if she was doing that.. Not like, break up with her, but literally leave the house, or if she was at my house I'd kick the b***h out lol. There's no way I'm going to sit there while she does that shit, that's ridiculous

      >fter I voiced my grievances with her destructive habits she realized how silly the whole thing was and as far as I'm aware she hasn't done cut herself since
      lol..

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I just don't know how to be emotionally available but also communicate how much I hate that she does it

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      lol, "emotional availability." Stfu dude. Women are emotionally available. Men aren't supposed to act that way. We are supposed to be stoic, focused on working hard and improving future potential.

      When I met my girlfriend when she was 18 and I was 22, she used to cut herself. I told her it wasn't cool, it disturbed me, it was unattractive and unacceptable. She stopped when she realized that her cutting didn't trigger any emotion in me except disgust.

      You are behaving like a women rn. Women feed from any and all emotion. You are encouraging your women to cut through your concern. Show her how you really feel, that you are disgusted by her behavior and she will stop.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        self harm is a way of expressing very deep suffering which she very likely doesn't understand completely herself

        to actually help her, you should encourage her to her to talk about her pain or whatever go to therapy idk; the point is uncovering and addressing the root case of the behaviour which in itself is just a symptom

        or do this and be an absolute useless homosexual that'll cause her even more pain by making her feel shame and bury her shit/hide her real self from you

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >self harm is a way of expressing very deep suffering which she very likely doesn't understand completely herself
          Yeah, so says the psychology books, right? But you'd think by now SOMEONE would have explained that shit, yet nope, nada. Millions of cutters in the world and still no explanation? Pfftt, truth is it's about as deep as

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          And the real explanation is ->

          >Why does she do it? Take her to a psychologist.
          [...]
          >Bored and moronic

          and moronic

          >and be an absolute useless homosexual that'll cause her even more pain by making her feel shame and bury her shit/hide her real self from you
          >pain
          WHAT PAIN?!

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >emotionally available

      lol, "emotional availability." Stfu dude. Women are emotionally available. Men aren't supposed to act that way. We are supposed to be stoic, focused on working hard and improving future potential.

      When I met my girlfriend when she was 18 and I was 22, she used to cut herself. I told her it wasn't cool, it disturbed me, it was unattractive and unacceptable. She stopped when she realized that her cutting didn't trigger any emotion in me except disgust.

      You are behaving like a women rn. Women feed from any and all emotion. You are encouraging your women to cut through your concern. Show her how you really feel, that you are disgusted by her behavior and she will stop.

      >Women are emotionally available. Men aren't supposed to act that way
      I challenge either one of you (or anyone) to actually tell me what "emotionally available" means

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        being empathic and open to understanding. which is especially hard in this case

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >being empathic and open to understanding. which is especially hard in this case
          Well yeah, I imagine it is hard, porobably because people lie about why they cut themselves. They say some goofy emo shit about pain this and feeling something that but really they kinda just do it cause they're bored lol. Oh, and moronic of course. Bored and moronic

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Why does she do it? Take her to a psychologist.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Why does she do it? Take her to a psychologist.

      >being empathic and open to understanding. which is especially hard in this case
      Well yeah, I imagine it is hard, porobably because people lie about why they cut themselves. They say some goofy emo shit about pain this and feeling something that but really they kinda just do it cause they're bored lol. Oh, and moronic of course. Bored and moronic

      >Bored and moronic

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    grow some weed for her

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You should take a more passive approach, but not openly encouraging it. It's like weaning someone off drugs. A tangible goal of doing it less each week or month. That, and a replacement coping mechanism when the urge to self harm occurs.

    I used to cut myself. I still get the urge to, but I don't want to disappoint people who think I'm better now. As for why I did it, it was a way to relieve "pressure." It's not uncommon.

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