Have you given up on the idea of ever having a romantic relationship or are you still holding onto hope?

Have you given up on the idea of ever having a romantic relationship or are you still holding onto hope?

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I haven't given up yet but I'm realistic about my chances and I don't pressure myself as much as before. If it happens, great. If it doesn't happen, that's cool too.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i am a terrible person and dont deserve a gf
    so yes I've given up

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >If it happens, great. If it doesn't happen, that's cool too.
    Yeah that's pretty much my philosophy as well at this point. It still feels unpleasant to constantly be reminded that you're an outlier who lives on the fringe. Some people just aren't built for connecting to others I suppose.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I think about what I want to achieve in my life. Part of it is attaining a wife and children. I am full of doubt about myself, I don't like myself and I don't feel comfortable with women liking me in that way if they would even ever. I yearn to live but I am stumped, I cannot get over myself

    I think to myself, well ok, forget about women. What else can I achieve that would be of meaning to me. I can think of lots of things but again, nothing that I am capable of. So I am a waste of life and it looks like that is how it's going to be

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >I don't like myself and I don't feel comfortable with women liking me in that way
      Wow, he's literally me!

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Yeah and I'm married with kids :/

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      truly the worst ending of them all
      my best wishes go out to you sire

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I dont have any social life so I dont know how to talk to people so talking to females is a somewhat foreign concept to me. I had a desire for romance when I was still a late teenager but those days a over and Im also only into anime nowadays.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Romance is the last thing I care about at this point. I've given up on the idea of life in general and the sooner death comes, the better. Any close relationship would just be a hindrance when it's eventually time for my way out.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm 27, I've shifted my goals to money and personal enjoyment. I don't have the sentimentality or love in me required to seek out a gf, I just don't care anymore.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    In my head I have up. But my heart still holds a slither of hope.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've accepted it. I get a little lonely sometimes and dream but a romantic relationship is just not realistic. I will die alone haha.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It never was there to begin with. I grew up in a highly dysfunctional household and seeing ny parents marriage scarred me for life I think. I wouldn't be able to form a romantic connection with someone, let alone find someone that would want to enter a relationship with me in the first place.
    It is funny actually that a very good friend of mine is a former coworker that is married since a few years and we talk on the phone from time to time. I might misread her but sometimes it felt like she was dropping hints that she might be interested in me, like talking about having a crush for her boss at her first workplace, a dentist, who had blue eyes and blonde hair, same as I so. I just genuinely hope I was wrong and that she never tries to make any actual advances.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I want it but it is unlikely. I do not want to go through another 50-60 years lonely. Is it true that loneliness shortens lifespan, or am I going to be some 85 year old who rots on his mattress?

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The parts of the relationship I want are parts of the relationship that are no longer novel to the average woman. I want to hold hands and walk the market. I want to snuggle on the couch while it's raining. I want to cuddle with someone as I fall asleep under a mountain of blankets. I want to wake up with a weight and a heartbeat on my arm. I want to be able to sit in silence and be happy in each other's company. I want to try cooking/baking new things for her just to see how she would react to eating them as I slowly learn to make her favorites. No woman will do these things with a 35 year old man who has never experienced these things.

    A smile, a hug, and a "How was your day?" at the door when I come home would probably make me break down. All I want is some warmth for myself and someone to keep warm. The only warmth I get to experience in my life is a hot shower and even then they say that hot showers are bad for you.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >A smile, a hug, and a "How was your day?" at the door when I come home would probably make me break down

      tfw "you moids ask for too much"

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      thank for saying what i wanted to say but didnt know how to express

      frick man

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I'm happy to resonate with at least one person. I hope you have something in your life that brings you solace.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Took the words straight from my mouth. I was absolutely terrified of getting into a relationship I grew up in a cold and distant household until I heard all the wonderful things from my brother and his gf who he met from church. Part of me is holding up a faint hope that there will be someone out there for me but on the other hand I keep gaslighting myself into thinking I'm not worthy and incapable of holding a meaningful relationship with my significant other. I wish I know how to "work" on my problems but as 33 year old it may be too late for me.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Same here. Would give up anything for just the "trivial" stuff. Smiling at eachother, holding her hand, fixing her hair, gently touching her face, etc. I will be killing myself shortly

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's a very faint hope but not a realistic one. In the back of my mind I think it could possibly happen and can't rule it out, but I think its extremely unlikely. It's like wishing to make a lot of money. Sure, its theoretically possible, but very unlikely.

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i have given up because i can't even be a normie and that's all i ever wanted including a romantic relationship and a home of my own, you know, normie things, but i can't even sustain myself nor drive

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    everything i do is romantic even NSFFW is romantic
    with dubs gets and things like this
    and relationships are constant
    what is it you want again? what you want is a relationship to romanticly apear what isnt always the case but if you study romance its more likley
    good luck with your next roll

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >tfw no octos

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Man I can't even hold a friendship over the internet for more than 5 months without it ending terribly from me or the other person being stupid, so a girlfriend is way out of the question

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I want a wife and children bad. But im a 24 YO virgin.

    I have no social circle to meet women through friends and I don't want to cold approach so my only options are using dating apps. I get quite a few matches, but they hardly ever respond and they lose interest even if I get them out on a date. I doubt it will happen for me at this point unless I get lucky.

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    As long as I stay a shut in its over. I fricking wish I could redo university

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I would go back and tell myself to reevaluate how I use my mental resources. I focused way too hard on making good grades at the expense of social connections and friendships. I was getting solid grades but I only ever made 1 friend in my first year of college then never met anyone new after that. Instead on my second playthrough I'd put in just enough effort to not get a C instead of murdering myself to get As and focus way more on making friends and networking. In recent times college is the last place that people who are youthful congregate somewhere. I don't know of any third places today where young people are allowed to go after school/work. Every time I go out to the grocery everyone is either under 18 with their parents or senior citizens. If you don't make a strong social network during that period where you have direct unfettered access to your peer group you probably won't have many other chances to make friends ever. People are starting to realize that college today is a scam but they still go not because they were told to go as my generation was but likely because they want the "college life experience" which in the past I would scoff at but in reality they were correct and I was mistaken.

  20. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    My current plan is to just get a dog so I have someone I can hug who will love me back
    I don't care about sex or human company anymore

  21. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    The older I get the more it weighs on the mind. When I was a highschooler living in my grandparent's basement jacking off to hentai and reading VNs life was a little more light hearted and it didn't matter. Now it does.

  22. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i post on /soc/ once a month asking for girls to add me
    haven't gotten a boobie pic in over a year though and the last one was an insane girl i talked to on hinge
    still 31 year old khv

  23. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It's just not going to happen. I'm still trying to fix myself. Trying to work on projects constantly to prove to myself I have some kind of value.
    I'm hard to approach. I look bored and sad by default.
    I can make women laugh when I get the odd moment to talk with one. But I just can't approach in a romantic/sexual manner despite wanting to and thinking I might have a shot.
    I'm defective and even if I do fix myself I doubt it will be good enough. Deep down I will always hate myself and be tired of living.
    And that's not fair to put on another person. That no matter what she would do I would just never be truly happy because I'm just not that kind of person.
    Some people are sunny and optimistic and I envy it so much, because I'm the opposite. I expect the worst case scenario every time. It's how I survive I guess.

  24. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Yes, I'm an incel and will probably never have a romantic partner because I have standards, that's it. I'm 6'3, 22 years old, white, not homeless, not facially deformed, at least average face, not balding, I literally just have standards and that's too impractical for a man to have in the modern world. I can't bear the thought of my wife having sucked another man's dick and I don't want to try to force myself to be attracted to fatties so I guess I'll be alone for the rest of my life. It is what it is.

  25. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Pretty much. Every time I try to talk to a woman I just get ghosted and it all it accomplishes is making me feel like shit. I don't see the point in trying anymore. 30 year old virgin btw.

  26. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    due to the nature of my position, it is not conducive to romantic relationships. i am tasked with a position of authority to monitor communications on this website, and i also am involved with studying various extreme political actors and movements

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >even glowies are incel
      it's literally never been more over

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      i can be your gf if you let me join you on your op's agent smith

  27. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i gave up on women and starting dating a black dude. he lets me top all the time. happiest i ever been tbh. i still sexually prefer women but what can i do. im never paying for a disgusting roastie prostitute

  28. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I've had only one romantic relationship and that didn't work out. I've resorted to stringing along SEA women with promises of marriage or visiting me in America or me visiting their country in exchange for their attention and occasional nude pics/videos. It's worked out pretty well. The honeymoon phase usually fizzles out after 6-12 months and then I find another one.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Holy shit you are so fricking pathetic lmao

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I know 🙁
        Though to be fair, I already fricked this 24 year old Laotian girl that I met in Thailand. But close to 0% chance that I'll see her again later this year as I promised.

  29. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I will die alone unless a woman approaches me first and takes the lead in the relationship.

  30. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    i'm going to quit looking at doomer blackpill shit. it's not that i don't believe things are bleak, i just feel like it's propaganda and glowies are trying to groom me to be a little bot that regurgitates dogma and be cannon fodder in a potential civil war. i'm just going to say nice things about and too women now.

  31. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    When I was younger, I really wanted to be a musician. Across the street from my childhood home was a young man who would practice piano every day for hours. I used to sit outside and read books while he would practice and just listen to him improve. I would often stop reading and just sit and listen to him play. Sometime during elementary school we went on a field trip to see a performance of The Nutcracker that had a live orchestra. Everyone was transfixed on the play and watching the ballerinas dance but I couldn't stop watching the pit orchestra. I was amazed at how so many people could come together in unison to play and create one sound with a shared vision. I was only in first or second grade but I remember being really moved when I realized that. Any chance I had to do something music related in school, I jumped on. It started with playing the recorder and learning how to read music, then it was tap dancing since it was all they offered until middle school where I was finally able to join band. I had wanted to play cello or violin desperately but the school only offered concert band without string instruments. I signed up for the class and asked to play Trumpet or Clarinet. I ended up getting stuck with the Tuba. I ended up loving the instrument. Because of how big a Tuba is, it was always a hassle to bring it home either on the school bus or I'd have to have my parents pick me up if I didn't want to have to struggle and lug a tuba uphill. They would always make a big deal if I had asked them to pick me up so more often than not I would lug the Tuba and my heavy backpack loaded with textbooks that I'd pretend to read up the hill in typically 80+ degree weather every day. I would get home and practice for as long as my parents could stand.

    At first I would get to practice from when I got home until it got dark so as not to bother the neighbors which I found reasonable.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      However, as time went on, the time I was allowed to practice at home kept getting smaller and smaller to the point where I would take the instrument home (which wasn't mine; it was rented from the school) and would clean it out, oil valves, buff out any smudges and check to make sure that I didn't put any new dents or scratches into it that weren't already on it before I had started taking care of it. Despite not being able to practice much my band instructor decided that I was good enough to deserve a solo in one of the pieces we were going to play in an upcoming concert. My instructor told me if I could transcribe the trombone solo in the piece, he would let me play it on stage as a solo during our upcoming recital. I practiced the hell out of that piece and got the solo down and absolutely crushed it during the recital. The following week, the band instructor from a local high school came over to our middle school to watch me play and ask me some questions. She took over the class for a couple days while she was presumably looking for other talent as well. On the second day, she asked us to play some scales which we had just started to learn at the time. Most people would fumble through them but I knew the ones we had learned down pat. Eventually she got to me and asked me to play the scales. Then she asked me to play scales that we hadn't learned yet. I started freaking out and was about to tell her that I didn't know them but then I heard my band instructor whispering out what notes for me to play from his office in the corner. His office was luckily literally right next to where the low brass section was and he was able to whisper loud enough that I could hear it but not loud enough that the other band instructor could hear it at the front of the class. I played through 2 more sets that no one else was asked to play, she praised me, we finished out the day and she left.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Afterwards, I got promoted to advanced band despite being in 6th grade and got invited into Jazz Band to play trombone parts on Tuba. As I would be doing homework for my other classes, I started to notice that the piano would no longer play in the afternoon. I had assumed my neighbor had wanted to be a pianist, but it turns out he had wanted to be a conductor and couldn't get into school for it or find a job; the details are hazy since I was young. He ended up getting depressed and quitting the piano afterward. My Dad took this and would always shove it in my face:

        "See? There's no money in music. He can't even get a job and he quit playing piano. You should stop playing music. It's a waste of time."
        After hearing it so many times, I began to believe it. I quit band in high school and took an interest in linquistics. Instead of taking spanish or french, I took german. I soaked the language up like a sponge and was one of the students who had the better handle on the language. I began thinking about maybe being a translator or something where I could use german since it was enjoyable only to be assailed with the same "There's no money in it; go do something else" over and over and over. So I stopped taking german. Same thing with philosophy; got interested, assailed, and dejected. Every field I was interested in was "wrong".

        I became NEET after I finished a degree in business. I still remember how to read Bass Clef. I don't own a Tuba. I don't remember how to speak German. I hardly remember the various thought experiments or esoteric texts we read. It was very likely that deep in my bones I was meant to be a musician. Had I been a musician my life path would be completely different. Upon that different life path, it's possible that I may have met the one with whom I was supposed to be with. If I'm never on that path, I will probably never cross paths with her.

        Magic 8 Ball says "Better not tell you now."

  32. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Nah. I've more or less figured out what my problems are and am now working to fix those areas. Don't get me wrong the shit's rigged, but if you aren't egregiously fricked an average roastoid who doesn't deserve you is attainable if you moneymaxx and hit the gym.
    I got a lot of life left to live, I'm not gonna waste it whining about the unfair system.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >an average roastoid who doesn't deserve you is attainable if you moneymaxx and hit the gym
      This is essentially it. I've always kept myself up physically but I couldn't get a gf until after I got relatively wealthy and bought a house in my early 30s.

  33. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Thread going to die here but I'll post my two cents:
    Finding love is no different than finding a good house, a good job, loyal friends, or even good health: its all a roll of the dice. We like to believe romantic love is "owed" to us because love is peddled as a universal right, something humans cannot live without. That sentiment vastly underestimates the survival instincts of humanity.
    Love is something I'll never experience because I never developed the skills to attain it. It's not some tragedy, it just is. I don't get upset because I can't play the guitar or I can't perform complex surgery.

  34. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Considering it looks like im getting ghosted almost exactly as I started having hope that I wasn't going to get ghosted yet again...

    Yeah, I think I officially dont give a frick anymore.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Ghosting is just part of the game now since online dating is pseudoanonymous. You shouldn't let that make you feel down.

  35. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Given up. 23 now, and I self-improved for years, but I eventually realized looks werent the real issue. Being slightly autistic + bad childhood makes it almost impossible to relate to anyone, let alone women. Genuinely just not compatible with anyone

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