how can I learn to love myself?

how can I learn to love myself?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You personally? Don't

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Instead of not loving yourself, do
    It's not really a how question. You just start liking yourself and you keep doing it until it gets stronger.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      if it were that easy we wouldn't be talking on this thread. I hate myself and believe I don't have any redeemable qualities

      You personally? Don't

      why not? I thought it was a good thing

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        what makes you so special that ypure deserving this much hatred
        you dont hate all of humanity do you? they all have the same flaws, and if you do hate everyone stop that shit and youll feel better about yourself

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          not op, how do i not hate humanity
          also hate myself if that helps
          >all have the same flaws
          aware but hasn't convinced me not to

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            thats a tough one, especially if youve only had negative interactions with the people youve met, but I think for a lot of people the answer is some manner of metaphysics, not worship or religion but something that convinces you of the grandness and absurdity of the world around us, even hardline atheistic science thumpers have this but maybe it means religion, philosophy, history, idk
            people, inside their own heads, are all just the same as they were as kids for the most part, stupid, clumsy, scared, trying to feel out the absolute freakish anomaly of any of our existences. most of us are doing poorly, understandably
            I dont know, thats just how it makes sense to me, like I said its going to really depend on your own experience and what youre really moved by

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Oh no, I've had a bunch of positive interactions, I'm just thoroughly disappointed.
            I also despise this world. Even if there is some hidden point to the suffering that becomes apparent in the far future, as I am experiencing it in the present it feels like nothing but an unnecessary cruel joke.
            I've started doubting the sincerity of people and today it's been particularly bad but I'm still a broken moron so I shall thank you for the advice (or commend you on the trolling, you choose) nonetheless.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          OP here they cancelled on me frick my life

          nothing at all I know I'm fricked in the head but you can't logic your way out of depression

          Every morning when you wake up, look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Realize that there is a spark of divinity in you and that your life is special and meaningful. Treat your body like a temple because thats what it really is. Abstain from drugs and alcohol they only bring guilt and self loathing. Treat other people with kindness so that you are always proud of your behavior.

          the mirror thing seems hard to do but I'll give it a try at least

          It might be easier if you externalize. Tell yourself what you'd tell a friend or sibling in your situation. You'll have to be willing to go into the pain of your feelings of shame, and to tell yourself that you still love yourself - that it will be okay, that it wasn't your fault, etc. Only you will really know what those words need to sound like. You'll want to try and work towards building the skills and situations you want to have. Stretch in the mornings, go for walks in the sun. Allow yourself to exist as just a normal human, rather than expecting yourself to exceed human limits, or to slump down beneath what you know you can handle. So long as you're stepping just a little bit outside your comfort zone here and there, that's enough. You might want to write down what qualities you cherish about yourself.

          I should try to go outside more. I only go outside for school and groceries these days

          >why not?
          Well, based on your replies so far in this thread, you've opposed or resisted every single fricking one.
          That tells me you aren't actually interested in changing, you're interested in digging your heels in and staying sad.
          If that's the case, then that poster is right. You simply remain miserable, because that's clearly what you're trying to do.

          >I hate myself
          Literally stop
          >believe I don't have any redeemable qualities
          Literally start
          >NO
          Well then there you go, you've chosen your path and now it's your fault you suck. If you've got some shitty ass clapback to all the advice you get, admit you don't want the advice.

          I replied to two posts. if I didn't want to change why would I make this thread? wouldn't it be easier to just be miserable alone? also again if it were as easy as "just stop" I wouldn't have bothered making the thread

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >if it were that easy
        Simple and easy aren't the same things, gaytron.
        Stop searching for a complex answer. There isn't one. Put in the work or stay miserable.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >why not?
        Well, based on your replies so far in this thread, you've opposed or resisted every single fricking one.
        That tells me you aren't actually interested in changing, you're interested in digging your heels in and staying sad.
        If that's the case, then that poster is right. You simply remain miserable, because that's clearly what you're trying to do.

        >I hate myself
        Literally stop
        >believe I don't have any redeemable qualities
        Literally start
        >NO
        Well then there you go, you've chosen your path and now it's your fault you suck. If you've got some shitty ass clapback to all the advice you get, admit you don't want the advice.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Pretty much this, OP. If you have problems with yourself, become a better human. If you have problems with humanity, stop having them, because that's not healthy, reasonable or useful. Your hate changes absolutely nothing and just provides you with an excuse not to change anything that would actually impact your life. Simple as.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      if it were that easy we wouldn't be talking on this thread. I hate myself and believe I don't have any redeemable qualities

      You personally? Don't

      why not? I thought it was a good thing

      gay

      no gay

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        why did it send twice anyways I'll reply later after I go out to drinks

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Every morning when you wake up, look in the mirror and compliment yourself. Realize that there is a spark of divinity in you and that your life is special and meaningful. Treat your body like a temple because thats what it really is. Abstain from drugs and alcohol they only bring guilt and self loathing. Treat other people with kindness so that you are always proud of your behavior.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It might be easier if you externalize. Tell yourself what you'd tell a friend or sibling in your situation. You'll have to be willing to go into the pain of your feelings of shame, and to tell yourself that you still love yourself - that it will be okay, that it wasn't your fault, etc. Only you will really know what those words need to sound like. You'll want to try and work towards building the skills and situations you want to have. Stretch in the mornings, go for walks in the sun. Allow yourself to exist as just a normal human, rather than expecting yourself to exceed human limits, or to slump down beneath what you know you can handle. So long as you're stepping just a little bit outside your comfort zone here and there, that's enough. You might want to write down what qualities you cherish about yourself.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Allow yourself to exist as just a normal human, rather than expecting yourself to exceed human limits
      who else if not me
      human limits are horrible

  5. 3 weeks ago
    passageway

    this advice is a bit of a double edged sword but try getting into an art. There is no easier way to make yourself love the way you are than impressing yourself and maybe even others

    artist stress specially at the start is pretty unhealthy though

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just start doing whatever makes you happy or you like, I don't know play some vidya, go outside, go out with your friend.
    Express yourself the way you think you like, start talking with yourself "What do I like?" "What do I hate?", stuff like that.
    Eventually you'll find you are doing what you like and like being you who is enjoying it.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    gay

  8. 3 weeks ago
    The Herbalist

    It's simple. Prove to yourself that you are worthy of your love. The surest way is to work on your weaknesses.

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