How do I control my lust and pornography addiction?

Even seeing attractive women can get me on the track towards relapsing. I have no other sexual outlet than this so that makes it incredibly difficult. I want to beat this but I keep going in circles.

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Go to the gym

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I quit porn after finding God, still jerk off though(can't control it)

      this did not help with my sex issues, but it is good overall

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    leaving this website and social media all together and only wanking in the shower once a week

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    just remind urself of the blackpill homie.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    There is no such thing as a porn addiction. It is clinically impossible to become addicted to pornography. You want to experience sexual gratification, that is a normal, healthy need of all humans. Libido is not a synonym of addiction.

    There's nothing to beat, except maybe your meat. Seriously these nofap threads are legitimately pathetic.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Ah here comes a shill celebrating male self-destruction

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Your comment doesn't even make sense. Seriously, how moronic are you? First you fall for nofap then you write that.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Nobody said anything about nofap or libido being bad. You came in making a bunch of assumptions and being obnoxious.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            False. That's what this whole thread is about. There is objectively no such thing as porn addiction, just libido.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You sound pretty sure of that.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I am indeed.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Sorry, but I don't think you have any idea what you're talking about. I've been addicted to pornography for 20 years. It's not just libido.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            https://i.imgur.com/7DIIykC.jpg

            Even seeing attractive women can get me on the track towards relapsing. I have no other sexual outlet than this so that makes it incredibly difficult. I want to beat this but I keep going in circles.

            youre not addicted to dopamine or pornography or beating your meat. you are choosing to.

            >There is no such thing as a porn addiction.
            Yes, there is, and if you understand how addiction works it becomes clear that pornography can be the object of addiction. It’s a very common one too.

            show me a single person who has developed porn withdrawal, symptoms may include dehydration, increased irritability, mood swings, personality or behavioral changes, shivers, palpitations, reduced organ performance. These have to be evident to everyone around you, not just an expert.

            If you want to control your porn addiction then stop watching porn, it's not hard. I guarantee if you were in a room full of family and friends you wouldn't pull your wiener out and start wacking it reflectively or impulsively, you are not addicted to porn, you have a bunch of excuses to jerk off because it feels good.

            >how do i control my porn addiction???
            stop looking at porn
            >how do i stop looking at porn??
            stop looking up porn
            >but i see it on 4 chins and social media!
            then stop using that
            >but its on my phone and my browser!!
            dont open those
            >but its hard!
            pussy

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >There is no such thing as a porn addiction.
      Yes, there is, and if you understand how addiction works it becomes clear that pornography can be the object of addiction. It’s a very common one too.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, I don't understand why some people are so stubborn about that. It makes me think they're either trying to find a way to cope with their own addiction or they have bad intentions.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah, it’s usually one or even both of those reasons. It takes a pretty low mindset to make pornography a sacred cow, and an even lower one to defend it at the slightest hint of criticism. They always run the same bad argument too, conflating porn consumption with sex drive or libido, manipulating the narrative that if you attack porn then somehow you are attacking male libido. It really is the male equivalent of crying about being bawd shamed lol

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >how do I stop wanting to have sex?
    Have sex

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Good joke.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I’m not kidding

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          If it was that easy for me to go out and have sex, I wouldn't have this problem.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yes. the problem is the relationship you have with sex and the overall way your life is structured. Porn is just how you deal with it. Addressing just the porn is a bandaid fix and won’t make you happy.
            I would guess the root problem is that you struggle with friendships and your relationship with yourself. That’s a common cause of romance problems. You will get the most mileage if you start there.
            I used to jack off to tentacle hentai. I have no desire to anymore. Instead when I jack off (less frequently now) I read a small amount of vanilla or think of the way my lover looks and smells. Point is I don’t think it’s worth sweating what porn you like when that’s only a consequence of everything else.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >the problem is the relationship you have with sex and the overall way your life is structured.
            My life has no structure or consistency and I put sex up on a pedestal because it's purely abstract to me; I've never been in any kind of relationship in my entire life.

            >I would guess the root problem is that you struggle with friendships and your relationship with yourself.

            The latter, yes, the former not so much. I have plenty of friends and for that I am grateful. It's just that I am not in a good position to be in a relationship-- I live in the middle of nowhere, have no way of meeting women, I'm not young anymore, and I don't have any money. So I have this insufferable itch with no way to scratch it.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You mentioned a few actionable things.
            > My life has no structure or consistency
            >I put sex up on a pedestal
            >The latter, yes
            So what’s your self narrative like? You don’t have to answer to me. I just found these questions helpful to think about in general.
            What kind of person are you outside of what you mentioned? Formative life events, things you like to do? Is there a part of yourself you had taken for granted?
            Viewing my life holistically helped me become more well adjusted. I don’t know. Maybe that’s too vague.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >So what’s your self narrative like?
            I'll answer you: an apple that fell far from the tree. I turned out to be a real loser compared to my parents.

            >What kind of person are you outside of what you mentioned?
            Awkward and distrusting, often bitter.

            >Viewing my life holistically helped me become more well adjusted. I don’t know. Maybe that’s too vague.
            It IS kind of vague, would you mind going into a bit more detail? Your perspective sounds interesting to me, refreshing.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            The tree isn’t the only cool place in the world. Maybe there are some things about where you are that you can appreciate too.
            Let me use my personal life as an example. I don’t make as much money as my parents did, and I don’t party as much either. I’m a homebody. I’m slightly autistic. But those things also are what make me love to draw and learn new things. I experience joy but in a different way. This place is good too. I’m happier here than I would be under the tree. Do you feel me?
            You mentioned a few things about yourself but they seemed both vague and negative. You gave me adjectives - that tells me these are probably things you feel insecure about, not things that define who you are. I hope you can find things to appreciate about yourself too. One of my biggest turning points was when I accepted and felt grateful for a hobby I found (well, sometimes still find) embarrassing. Point is you may not be giving enough credit for thing that make you happy. The important thing is that you do.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            As for viewing life holistically. Sometimes I try to fit the pieces of my life together just to better understand how I am. How would you describe your arc if you were a character in the story? Or maybe, pick a trait you have and describe how you got there. Or pick something you like and describe what it does for you.
            For a while I liked drawing ryona. Not in a sexual way, just in general. What did it do for me? It was to feel control. I was mentally unstable at that point in my life. I had meltdowns up through college over schoolwork, I hated myself. A family suicide extended how long it took for me to recover by years. Violent drawing helped me grapple with violence. And it connected with me emotionally because of how I was unwell. I know that’s why because when I stopped needing it I stopped wanting it. And I feel grateful for the outlet instead of ashamed. It was a trauma thing and I would forgive myself whether or not it was. Not every weird thing you can be into is meaningful like that. It just was for me.
            This sort of thing is difficult to put into words, but the value is in challenging yourself to describe it.
            This is the sort of thing that helps me feel more grounded. I know it’s roundabout but I probably wouldn’t function in society if I didn’t do it. I like my journal.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Thanks, anon. I appreciate it. I guess I need to really get down to the bottom of why I am the way I am, why I have always had this insatiable lust.

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    naltrexone is good for tobacco, food, porn and alcoholism addictions

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Literally, not memeing, not joking, have sex.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Anyway OP, you asked:
    >How do I control my lust and pornography addiction?

    The answer is - you don’t. And in letting go of trying to control your porn addiction, you let go of porn. Think of a Chinese finger trap; the more you pull, the more it constricts, and the harder it is to get away. In other words, if you are putting ”I MUST control my porn addiction!” into the front of your mind, guess what also gets placed there? The word, concept, idea, and thought of porn. Does this add up so far? By focusing on quitting porn, you indirectly keep porn as a focus, and you will relapse and relapse. This is the sinister bite of addiction, it creates within us a feedback loop, a mental infinity knot, a caduceus snake devouring its own tail. On and on and on with no end in sight.

    So the answer is to stop trying to give it up. That’s the first step. The second and final step is to figure out WHY you are addicted. Find out how it began, what voids in your heart did it fill back then, and what pains does it numb now?

    Because addiction is what happens when a coping mechanism goes haywire, when forces outsiden of your control like stress, trauma, grief etc punch a hole into you and to cover the damage you chose porn. And the wound hasn’t healed and can’t because porn occupies you, so to heal up, you gotta put porn out of a jobnin your life. You gotta identify and fill the void that gave porn its necessity to begin with.

    That is how you kill porn addiction, by remembering what killed you.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You have fantastic insight and a wonderful way with words, anon, because I've been giving my addiction so much spotlight that it has a stranglehold over me and its grip just gets tighter with time, so the Chinese finger trap analogy is painfully apt. It's a tall order for me to remember exactly why I got into pornography since it happened early on in my life-- I was never popular with girls and always felt like I was a loser going as far back as the beginning of puberty. None of the girls I liked ever had any feelings for me and the only girls who ever showed any interest were aggressive and always hopping from one guy to another, so I never had any healthy outlet for sexuality. This extended all throughout high school, and by the time I went to college I gave up on women because I figured that I would never be wanted. I've since moved back home and there are now basically no opportunities for me to have any kind of relationship. I don't really want to be edging to amateur sex videos, I want a woman I love to have sex with me and for us to please each other, but it looks more and more like an impossible dream every day.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Jesus Christ can help you overcome this. Do not doubt the power of God. I mean this unironically.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Thanks, anon. Sometimes I think I'm too much of a heathen to do so but I'm always wishing I'll get my act together some day and make Him happy.

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No such thing as a porn addiction. What you are dealing with is trauma from being exposed to graphic violence. Most porn is graphic violence. It's almost like witnessing domestic abuse at home, or just seeing the potential threat of violence from an alcoholic parent who throws around furniture, which we now consider an adverse childhood experience (ACE) and which we now understand can potentially cause trauma.

    Trauma is a difficult thing to manage and you either need professional help or you need to start reading up on the topic and how to manage it. It leads to problems like emotional dysregulation and even OCD. Trust me on this, I've been there and know what you're going through. I used to watch porn as often as possible, even on the bus going to work, even in public restrooms. I eventually realized that I was dealing with an emotional disorder because I had been traumatized by all my years of watching porn as an adolescent.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Could it really be trauma? I wasn't abused as a child.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Porn is what traumatized you. Almost all of it is ugly and violent. So much porn is about domination, humiliation, and subjugation. It treats boundaries as if they're meant to be forcefully breached. Too much exposure to this is trauma-inducing, especially when you're young. This is why so many people who watch porn gravitate towards increasingly more intense forms of it over time. It's not addiction, but trauma, that leads them to do this.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I've almost entirely watched amateur stuff, though, and that's what I prefer because it's real people having sex and I can project myself onto it.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Amateur stuff is hardly any better, but it could be that you're just depressed instead.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I definitely am, but I also wish I could know what it's like to make love for once.

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Its a struggle. I quit masturbation and alcohol to boot, now I just idle on rage.

    I work out everyday. Doesn't do shit for the fact I want to be violent. I'm hoping it gets better and I find a new venue of self-focused improvement, cause its heading to the point where I start fricking outside my marriage.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That's rough, anon. I know this is going to sound moronic but have you ever tried meditation? I've dabbled in it and I bet if I did it more it would help me a lot, and I'm sure it would make a difference for you, too. Not saying it's the cure but every little thing helps. I hope we can both we happy some day, anon.

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If you think it's an issue, destroy your libido with estrogens and bad diet

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >porn addiction
    you're right to recognize this as a problem, because if left unchecked, eventually you'll reach a point where you have erectile dysfunction issues because you can only get hard through porn + your hands instead of actual sex.

    lust however, is perfectly healthy. jerking off is healthy too, as a lot of people may already know.
    jerking off exclusively to porn, is NOT.

    so whenever you get the urge (from seeing a woman or porn), find a moment where you can be alone, and jerk off using only a Fleshlight or a self-made one - do NOT look at porn while you do this.
    the key is to retrain your mind and body to orgasm only to the stimuli from your penis, and nothing else.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >you're right to recognize this as a problem, because if left unchecked, eventually you'll reach a point where you have erectile dysfunction issues because you can only get hard through porn + your hands instead of actual sex.
      Not OP, but I'm at this stage already, and I only get hard from cuckold interracial. Don't be like me.

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    tyrosine supplements.

    if you really think this is addiction instead of just your own high libido (which is fine), then dopamine is your problem (or lack thereof).
    you've beaten your meat to the point your body gave up its natural means of producing dopamine because you keep giving it 'free dopamine' via porn, but even this 'free dose' will blunt over time, and because your body has stopped making its own supply, you feel like you're in a never ending cycle of needing more and more porn, and more extreme depictions of porn.

    though the above is not technically true (to how dopamine really works), if you feel like this is you, then you really are suffering from addiction.
    if so, you have 2 options, visit a psychiatrist for proper meds, like NDRIs, or start taking tyrosine supplements to encourage your body to restart the natural supply of dopamine.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Any side effects?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yes, but only if you take too much.
        Dopamine and serotonin are two sides of the same coin, you take too much one of one and you tilt the balance too much to one side.
        This can be fixed by taking the serotonin precursors, like trytophan or 5htp.

        Also, for some people, dopamine precursors (tyrosine) doesn't do anything, yet taking precursors for its opposite (serotonin) does, meaning taking serotonin supplements seem to kickstart the dopamine production for these people - i'm one of them.

        Just buy both and try it out.
        Follow this guide too if you can https://www.reddit.com/r/anhedonia/comments/q0j33r

  15. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Rubber band on your wrist. Snap it hard when your mind starts thinking lustful thoughts.
    Training your mind is easier than training a dog btw. Stop being a cuck.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm actually going to try the rubber band thing.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      sheesh good idea wow

  16. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    just realize its not sexy

    add a mirror to your computer and look at yourself while you do it

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      May have to try that one as well, as little as I am looking forward to that.

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