how do i cope knowing i have to compete with hundreds of guys for every girl other than touching grass and dating offline?

how do i cope knowing i have to compete with hundreds of guys for every girl other than touching grass and dating offline? it doesnt seem worth constantly exhausting myself trying to keep someone's attention. i just dont enjoy this but i keep going on anyway. pic unrelated

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Life is competition, man. You have to compete to get anything in life. You want a job, you gotta be better than the other people applying for the job. You want a mate, you gotta be better than all the other people chasing after that same person. The good thing about dating is that, despite what the internet will tell you, everybody is different, and you don't necessarily have to change yourself to find someone that fits to you. Do basic things like dressing decently and showering daily, and you just need to find someone where the personality / attraction fit together.
    I met my fiance on IRC ten years ago. I'm no supermodel but I managed to be better than all the other guys she knew, and now we're engaged. It's that simple, dude.
    Protip: If you're having to TRY to keep someone's attention, it's not a good fit. Drop and move on. My fiance and I have never in our ten years of knowing each other, had to try. Shit just fit naturally.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      yeah i get it. this level of competition nowadays just doesnt seem natural though. it didnt use to be this way. im thinking if being myself isnt working for so long then i should stop for my mental health and come back later

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >you don't necessarily have to change yourself to find someone that fits to you
      "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid".
      If you're a nerd, you're probably not gonna fit to the fitness bunnies at the gym. If you're a meathead jock, you're probably not gonna fit to the egghead fujoshi that wants her bishonen lanky heartthrob.

      yeah i get it. this level of competition nowadays just doesnt seem natural though. it didnt use to be this way. im thinking if being myself isnt working for so long then i should stop for my mental health and come back later

      >this level of competition nowadays just doesnt seem natural though
      Get off the apps anon. There is nothing good to be found on dating apps. Look for women literally anywhere else, even WoW. I know more long-term successful couples that met on World of fricking Warcraft than I do that met on online dating apps.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        i think ffxiv might get me a gf faster than dating apps lmao im sitting here unironically trying to use duolicious and im starting to realize how fricked up literally any dating app is no matter what it is

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >i think ffxiv might get me a gf faster than dating apps lmao
          You would actually be correct. Socialize with women outside of dating apps, even if it's on MMOs, Discord, IRC, what the frick ever - literally any place to socialize with women is better than those god-awful apps, that are literally designed to keep men single for as long as possible.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >You want a job, you gotta be better than the other people applying for the job.
      So to get a relationship I should lie better than other people?

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    https://www.girlschase.com/article/mindsets/other-men-are-largely-irrelevant-skilled-daters

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      yes, right and next i'll buy his online coaching sessions right? i'm not listening to grifters. you might as well post andrew tate.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        then get used to your little princess being dicked down by Chad and not you amigo

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          ok

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >hundreds of guys for every girl
    believe it or not most gigachads do prefer to be mynogymous, it seems counter intuitive but it's true.
    Furthermore, while the idea that "all beauty is just a social construct" is horseshit, people DO have different tastes. A chick you consider a perfect 10 isn't going to be a perfect 10 to other guys. People have subtle preferences and because of your hormones yours will seem objectively true. Some of those gigachads might even have a fat kink or be gay, so they're out of the competition pool.
    Finally, personality and circumstance plays a lot. This is especially true for chicks but for guys as well, two people being "next to each other" when their hormones happen to spike can spurr an interest like no other. This is why just going out and trying a lot will land you somebody eventually. Catching a picky spoiled princess when she's just having "one of those days" will cause something unique, something that doesn't happen when gigachad talks to her on a day when she's at her best and her guard is up. The same thing happens to you, think back to your high school crush. What was it that got you so infatuated with her? Was it JUST that she was slamming hot or did she catch your attention on a day when you just needed something? Multiply that by 3 for chicks.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    filipino anon

    >how do i cope knowing i have to compete with hundreds of guys for every girl other than touching grass and dating offline?
    Perhaps she must not be just 'any' girl.

    Maybe she must be, at the very least, be a above your dislike for competition and exertion of some level of constant perpetual effort.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      i see

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Unfortunately for anon, the more desirable a woman is the competition and effort is exponentially higher. His compounding exhaustion will overtake her desirability easily.

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Tinder - 9:1 men to women ratio
    Duolicious (new website aimed towards zoomers and late millennials that just took off that started on NSFFW) - 15:1 men to women ratio
    Every other site - i assume it's the same or worse

    every girl has seen everything, you can only be so unique before she sees one or multiple repeats that bore her and make her think you arent as special as anyone else before you even really get the chance

    pic related is duolicious right now and regardless of whether its for chronically online subjective people or not doesnt matter, it will never matter what audience it caters to if you have to run a never ending treadmill to keep someones attention. women especially younger ones nowadays have seen it all through the internet and there isnt much you can do that they havent seen a thousand times before, and without a chance to prove yourself its just over unless you would like to exhaust yourself for months. you can pretend you dont care, that its casual, like whatever, and the reality will come creeping in and make you sick anyway. there is no world in which this is realistically very practical without damaging your mental health at some point

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Women on dating apps are ego boosted. You're not gonna get a decent one from that place. Go to a cosplay convention. That's where I got my weeb wife. You can go to whatever interest you have convention or meetups. That's where you can get lasting relationships.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      girls dont go to cons to get hit on and im not into weeb shit

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        pro-tip: they don't get anywhere "to get hit on" but you will never succeed if you overthink that and stick to predesignated flirting zones

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          that is true

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