How do I get rid of my fear of approaching women I like? Any books? Anything to help me?

How do I get rid of my fear of approaching women I like? Any books? Anything to help me?

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I can help you fear them if you want anon. Think of how many wrong ways that could go.

    "Ewww", "Sorry I have a boyfriend", "Please why can't you talk to another girl?"

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Exposure.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Its just hard for me to even get my feet wet.

      Don't decide if you like a woman until you determine how receptive she is to you.
      Your problem is that you care about the outcome. You should instead care about the discovery.

      I don't get it.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >Its just hard for me to even get my feet wet.
        Everyone sucks at everything when they first start. You either take the plunge or you forever think that you'll never be able to do it.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Everything is hard in the beginning.

          This. Have you tried to learn any skill? It sucks and you're bad at it in the beginning.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Everything is hard in the beginning.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I don't get it.
        Tell me your best guess of an interpretation.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Any books?
      No

      This
      You can only learn so much from reading. Eventually you have to put what you've read into practice. And with fear and aversion, that's the part that actually matters.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      This is the only way. Also you have to talk to girls to find out if they're worth approaching, how else are you going to spot the red flags? Just practice talking to all kinds of girls and then when you find somebody you are really interested in you'll be ready.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Oh yeah and also remember you're worthy of love and all that. And if a girl turns you down it's no biggie because it's her loss

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Why is she sucking her stomach in?

    You get better at social situations by practicing. There is no other way. You have to do.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Don't decide if you like a woman until you determine how receptive she is to you.
    Your problem is that you care about the outcome. You should instead care about the discovery.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I’m volunteering for MLK day tomorrow. I’ve heard several people talk about it. Idk if what I’m doing is the most popular one. Feel like that’s maybe the animal shelter but I wanted to stay on campus and plus I don’t like big dogs that possibly jump on you.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You can read a thousand books and do nothing
    Just do it

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    that b***h exageratedly sucking in her gut ruins the whole picture. cant focus on any other elements

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    What kind of fear do you feel?

    Rejection? Low self esteem? Mommy issues?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      When I think about approaching girls, I guess the fear I feel is "What will be the consequences? What will the people around me think?". That and " What if she sees me as an ugly creep?" I'm more inclined to approach if she's alone but there's still that 2nd question holding me back.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Rape.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I picture them as skeletons. When you strip the flesh and outer appearances, all humans regardless of genders look kinda the same. Just bones. It really lowers my anxiety dealing with them.
    This is a variation of the usual advice "imagine your audience naked".
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    Other than that constant mindfulness (meditation), CBT and similar mental tricks work. But you need to keep doing them until they are second nature.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I get what you're saying but men's and women's skeletons are very different

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Why do you need to ruin this for me, anon? Now I will keep picturing sexy skeleton hips. I'm getting a hard-on already writing this.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Now I will keep picturing sexy skeleton hips. I'm getting a hard-on already writing this.
          You can tell a girl you love her for how she is on the inside, then

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You could try booze but it's not ideal

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    drink a couple beers and give it a shot. after a few tries you'll get the hang of it.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >books
    >to learn how to interact with humans
    This is why you're a virgin. To get better at socialising, you need to learn socialise.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I want to. The reason why I asked for books is because I just need to learn how to get past the mental blocks. "What if she doesn't want to be bothered? What if she calls the police? What will others think of me?"

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        She ain't gonna call the cops. If she doesn't want to be bothered she'll brush you off and forget about you, you'll be one of five other nameless guys she rejected that day. Trust me it's not that serious to them

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I'll second that. I've shotgun spammed approaches and I've never had any serious run-ins

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