How do you get over resentment of women?

How do you get over resentment of women? I very deeply resent women for having this power over me that I can't do anything about. I can't get over the fact that women only love men on the condition that they are handsome, wealthy, funny etc when I'm none of those things. Logically, I know it couldn't be any other way but it still makes me want to kill women. I know some men see this and "self-improve" to get female love but that would wound my ego enormously and even if it worked I feel like I'd never forget how shallow this "love" is and go on hating women forever. I already had this one girl love me who I didn't love back and that didn't make me hate women any less.

I particularly resent this one girl who led me on and then dumped me when I was no longer useful to her as a friend. Sometimes I think about how I'd kill her to get my revenge. At the same time I'm aware that she didn't ever truly lead me on and I feel guilty for being so irrationally angry at her.

You know, I'm not even a true misogynist in the sense that I fully disrespect/hate women. In a way, I actually love and respect women too much, which is why I take their fundamental rejection so badly that I want to kill them/myself. I wish I could just disregard females, but I can't! If I could the resentment I feel towards them would evaporate, I'm sure of it.

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    OP here, I just wanted to add that I used to hate myself instead of women when I was younger and it first really dawned on me that women don't like me. I did the socially acceptable thing of directing all of my hatred inwards, which made me extremely depressed, but probably more at peace mentally because at least I felt like the world was fair given that I deserved to be scorned by women. After a few years of that I got sick of it and started hating women, especially after getting more or less black/red pilled. I couldn't continue to see women as innocent beautiful angels who rightfully scorned a loser like me and instead began to see them as evil selfish c**ts who were no better than men. I can't cope with it. The world is so fricking unfair and cruel and there's ultimately no justification for it. I want revenge, if nothing else.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Hatred solves nothing. Your emotions are all over the place and that’s what’s getting in your way. Both self-flagellation and the demonization of others beget you nothing but misery.

      Be kinder to yourself and others. Stop reading blackpill shit on the internet. I recommend addressing your underlying emotional issues either through ritualistic excercise or actual therapy.

      Other people aren’t to blame for your problems.

      Focus on specific and measurable small goals you can do to improve your life with or without women.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What would it take for you to admit that other people are at least partly to blame for someone's problems? If you can't answer that question then I can't take you seriously when you say they're not at least partly to blame for my problems.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Your self hatred and limiting beliefs are too intransigent for you to ever make any progress if you keep up living like this.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Can you not answer the question?

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Post face

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Why? I never said I'm super ugly. I'm like average I think.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Post your face. This is relevant. Timestamp too

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Frick off. I'm not associating my face with this thread.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Do you understand why women don't like you yet? Your sole reason for hating them and yourself is that they're not giving you attention. Example number 1, you can't even post a picture of your face without whining like a schoolgirl

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            That doesn't make any sense. Frick off.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            It'll never make sense to an incel. You lack any ability to stand out, even in a place where no one cares what you look like, or who you are. You were simply born without a set of testicles. This is why you'll never have a girlfriend. This is why you'll never have sex. This is why it's just that much easier for guys like me to frick my fill of women

            You're staying out of the way

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You're insane.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Lol not in the slightest. It's not me posting about wanting to kill all women because they ignore me.

            No wonder women don't like you AHAHAHAHAHA

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Post face.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You were asked first. You first, and then I'll post mine

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            nah it makes perfect sense man, you and i are ugly men who want good looking women. And we can't have them. End of story. Now i deal by being single and using porn / AI. You deal by hating. But you can't blame women for wanting the best they can get, which isn't us.

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Why don’t you just go for ugly woman? The absolute idiocy of it all

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Why would I? What do you think my goal is that would be satisfied by getting an ugly gf?

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Why wouldn't you? We all lose our charms in the end anyway, it doesn't matter how your girlfriend looks as long as she's likeminded to you. You're looking for the wrong thing in women is what I'm trying to say.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          And I'm saying if even I think she's ugly I'm not gonna wanna be around her. Ugly women have nothing to offer me that a man can't, besides their veganas. Not worth it. I'm not waiting for a 10/10 girl but I'm not gonna date a fricking UGLY girl. Ew!! She's gotta at least be kinda cute.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        So you resent women for having conditions/requirements to date them but you... have conditions and requirements you want before you'll date a girl.

        Usually I sympathize with blackpill types but you're just a pathetic butthole.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I'm just honest. Most incels are total liars. Never believe them when they say they'd settle for "any" girl. If you believe that you're moronic.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Ugly women aren't attracted to ugly men

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      oh my god why didn't we think of that you're such a genius

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      because they aren't even women... when we say women we mean the ones that make you want them. Ugly women are men.

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I very deeply resent women for having this power over me that I can't do anything abou
    They only have whatever power you give them.
    >handsome, wealthy, funny etc when I'm none of those things.
    Ok, well whose fault is that?
    >but that would wound my ego enormously
    GOOD. Sounds like you have too much of an ego already. It's bad enough when people have an ego and it's actually justified, in your case it is not.
    > I already had this one girl love me who I didn't love back
    And of course, you're no better and do the exact same thing as the women you complain about.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Worthless response. You just tried to "own" me without even understanding where I'm coming from. I hope you die painfully ASAP!

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What do you think I'm not understanding here? Everything in your post seemed pretty cut and dry to me. Maybe YOU are not understanding your situation...doesn't sound like you even understand your own feelings.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I'm beginning to suspect that op is not even 18 years old yet

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Im 26 frick you

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Lol no women ever frick you.
            I'll teach you how to get laid, if you post your face

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Keep dreaming moron

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm not the one who's ignored by women
            That's ~~*you*~~
            You hate yourself, I love myself.
            The difference between you and I is simple, yet you're too much of a moron to see it.
            >26 years old
            >still a virgin
            >hates women because his personality and shit looks make their labia shrivel
            >thinks it's everyone else's fault
            >too much of a pussy to post face w/timestamp
            >can't even approach women with the intention to date them
            >lacks a backbone
            >immediately freaks out when lightly challenged

            AHAHAHAHAA if only you could see how hilarious you seem to me. Offer still stands, post face with timestamp, and I'll teach you how to get laid, and find a relationship

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm not a virgin. Now post your credit card. Front and back. While you're at it tell me your mother's maiden name and the street address of your childhood home.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah you are. The lil incel is heated that his lil post is getting him flamed
            Ahahahahaha

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You're bragging about getting pussy in a random thread on NSFFW. You need help.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            All of your problems in life stem from your inability to do so. If you can't even get a woman to want to be around you, we already know you're a failure.
            >all incels are failures.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm an incel and very successful. I am going to grow my business likely to 1 million per year in income this year, and that was the hard part, after that it will grow much easier.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            OP is a totally mentally unbalanced butthole but I don't see why he needs to post his face. What will that help?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I wanted to see if his mental disorder was also visible in his resting face. As that is the first indicator a trained eye can see

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You can't post face on /adv/ you moronic newhomosexual.
            shut the frick up.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Top kek

            Yes you can, several others have before. You are just a self loathing incel. Cope+seethe+dilate

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            post face with timestamp (not OP but because you care so much you should be going first)

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I'm not explaining myself to buttholes like you. Kys.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Ugly man wants 10/10 woman
    >10/10 woman don't want ugly man

    It's that simple? Just date on your level, ugly women don't have a cry because 10/10 Chad's don't date em so I don't know why men have such a whine

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm not ugly and I don't want a 10/10. What the frick is your problem?

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        If you weren't ugly then you wouldn't have any issues, what women find attractive isn't what you think is attractive, you we obviously ugly in many ways, women know what they want, they shouldn't have to get together with someone who gives them nothing of what they want, either your ugly as sin or have the most repulsive personality and demeanour, ultimately it's your fault

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Am I obligated to love anyone who loves me? She was actually pretty hot and I rejected her because she was really annoying and stupid. I bet you didn't expect that, huh? Again I'm not ugly so frick off with your presumptuous "advice." You just want to grandstand based on your inherently limited personal experience and have no interest in helping me as an individual.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            No, you didn't reject a hot girl (the exact thing you desire)
            >your sperg ass fricked it up, and she moved on to frick better men than you

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            This is exactly what I'm talking about. You have a narrative in your head that you want to build upon in this thread and you're not even curious about the possibility that your assumptions aren't true. Why should anyone listen to you?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I read your original post. You're not looking for solutions or constructive criticism. You're looking for sympathy... as if even that would make you feel better about yourself.

            You simply lack the constitution to do the work on yourself that Is required. You are the only person standing in your way of this. If you were truly 26 years old, tou would have figured this out by yourself, at this point in your life.

            Do you actually want help, or do you want to kvech, and seethe about your self-imposed misery?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            It seems like all you can do is make assumptions that function as accusations. I don't see any reason to genuinely engage with you. Frick off.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You're not special, nor are you a victim of some sort of grand conspiracy against you.

            Simply put:
            >women don't like you, because you're unlikable. Put in the work to become better than you are, instead of hating all women because you can't get any action

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            No you are not obligated. But if you say a woman loved you once it is only witness that a woman can love you. This means that the issue runs deeper. If you claim a “hot girl” loved you but you rejected her because she was annoying or stupid it reflects such a superiority complex. Like you must strive for better. Newsflash all women are annoying and stupid but at different levels. At this point just find someone you can tolerate and can tolerate you. Like I said drop all black pill and red pill bullshit. No person actually thinks like that. Get off the internet and work on that self hatred. If a woman loved you before a woman can love you again. If you self hate you can’t love anyone. It’s an unwritten law of life. If you work on self loving and self accepting you might be able to love.

            Don’t call me limited by experience, I am over 40 and life is pretty fricking good. If I speak I speak due to my past experience with this similar issue. Now stfu and do something about it

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            This. Op claims hot girl loved him. Rejects her. Complains women are not into him. He just wants wants to whine and resent women. Watch another woman love him again one day and he will probably reject her too

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Hotness is relative. I didn't say she was a 10/10. Most men are basically physically attracted to most women as long as they aren't severely obese and even the whales have their admirers. She was hot in my eyes. That's really not saying much because so are most skinny females under 30 like her. I think I know where you're coming from now. You're a boomer who settled for some mediocre used goods and wants to push that lifestyle on younger men to justify your life choices. Leave me out of it!

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Ok smartass I tried. My wife is not used goods if used she’s only been used by me the frick. A real man does not come for another man’s wife like that. If anything reread your whole thread and try to find an answer because everyone else seems to see clearly what a little prick you are being. I was genuinely trying to help you in self reflection. You claim women don’t want you. A woman did but she was stupid and annoying. That itself is proof a woman can want you but you seem to be really fricking deep in self loathing and internet pill bullshit to realize this all feeds your self hatred and is only cope. Get off the pills and internet and fricking work on yourself. You are being so self contradictory it seems you don’t even want frickin advice. One day you will grow my age and realize what a bullshit all that mindset of yours is

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I fricked your wife. Cope.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      As an incel who also likes good looking women, altough not OP, yeah, even a 7 would be ok... but below that there's just no point i mean... I get the logic but the dick doesn't.

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Op you seem to have it all distorted. You seem someone who’s very jaded due to not receiving attention from women. Your whole post is complaining about women not wanting you but the minute a girl loved you, you didn’t love her either. As men we tend to be very visual derived. We want women who are hot as frick. that’s just how we are right? Right. Women are less looks derived and more emotionally derived which means they look for characteristics that will cater to their emotions. Security is to a woman as to sex is for a man. The same way us men craves for intimacy and sex women crave for security. Reason being us men experience loneliness more and our physical needs for sex is always higher. A woman has more connections.. are less likely to be lonely and need sex less.. only for reproductive reasons. As you see this creates a complimentary factor between us and women. Your issue though seems to come from inside. I have buddies who are ugly as frick ugly has seen and have wives. They are ugly physically but they carry characteristics such as personality charisma humor and kindness which women love. Red pills and Blackpills only seeds resentment in men leading them to do nothing with their lives but seed hatred amongst others and especially themselves. The reason some ugly men get women is because they are off the internet and off any pills be it black or red or whatever the frick. They just live life with a stronger mindset. If you have all these get off the fricking pill and internet mentalities you will see no one really thinks like this. Realize you have things to internally heal and you will bring in women. You are a reflection of your own life so if there is anything you have to fix it is you and your thoughts. Yes ego shattering but do something about it.

    t. Used to be angry at the world like you and decided to abandon all red and black pills. I worked on myself and I am married with two wonderful kids. Life is good only when you let it.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      this is wrong, women are just as visual as we are.

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    > it still makes me want to kill women
    >In a way, I actually love and respect women too much
    Pick one.

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    People don’t smoke cigs in Sweden? Really??

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Never agreed with other anons so much in a single thread. Op seems to just be a whiny mf

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    haha the French smoke unconditionally
    just remember, women are property w no minds of their own. killing one is wrong.

  10. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >> I very deeply resent women for having this power over me that I can't do anything about

    No one has power over you that you can't do anything about, least of all women. Your resentment is misplaced anger at yourself for being so weak and worthless. Get a psychologist. Go regularly. You'll figure this shit out.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Op is likely a 5'3, 110 pound manlet with a receding hairline framing thick glasses. A true basement dweller, who CANNOT for the life of him figure out why women don't find his trash, and comically whiny personality attractive.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You're still here, huh? I'm not short or fat. Give it a rest already. Why are you so obsessed with me being ugly? It's bizarre.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          He wants to track you down. Don't fall for it.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          The miserable should be bullied. I suspect that you weren't bullied enough, and now see nothing wrong with your warped mentality. You deserve much more, manlet.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm 6'0". Taller than average.

            this is why americans are fricking morons

            I'm Canadian but what makes you say that? I think it's kind of pathetic how much Eurogays smoke.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >6 foot, but still can't garner attraction from women AHAHAHA

            You're losing out to pajeets in your own country lmfao. Yikes

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >I'm 6'0". Taller than average.
            lol, no. the avg white zoomer is atleast 6'1 or more. On top of that women are only picking the outliers in the 90th percentile, so good luck with your limb lengthening surgery and hope that you add 6 inches, if you seriously plan on competing with chads with your looks that is.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            a) I'm not a zoomer by some definitions
            b) white women have randomly called me tall more than once (I think it was because I was wearing thick-soled boots, but still)
            c) source. Average male height is maybe 6'1" among Dutch zoomers but there's no way even white American zoomers (only a slim majority of zoomers btw) are that tall.
            d) your attempt at blackpilling me is failing. My mom is taller than my dad and he married a white woman twice and found a white gf shortly after divorcing my mom. Cope.

            In case it isn't clear, I'm 100% white, but yeah you're just a nasty little troll trying to demoralize me. I've seen tiny little guys with gfs. I'm not blind so I don't know who you think you're fooling here.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Nta

            We don't need to "demoralize you", you've done that to yourself. Women just hate your personality, as it's most likely you have zero personal skills. Here's how you fix this:
            >stop being a little b***h
            >stop your self loathing (women can smell it on you, as can anyone with eyes and ears)
            >go to the gym
            >get real hobbies
            >travel, and have actually life experiences
            >move out of your parents house
            >talk to random strangers

            The difference between being an incel and chad, is that the chad isn't afraid to do the work required.
            .t more chad than you, op.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >source
            here's avg zoomer german height that does not have racial categorization. Y would you expect to see anything else given america has some german blood in it's soil? german whites are insanely tall just so you know

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You are 190cm tall and a kissless virgin.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >6'3
            I wish I were that tall boyo. The current male-slavery market of the gynocracy is totaaly unsustainable. How long are men like you planning to be an obedient slave of the female will? Don't you think it's high time that men of all races & creeds united to put an end to the gynocracy once & for all? Women literally put hitler, stalin, mao, genghis khan, attila and all other mass murderers combined, to shame, when it comes to the amount of genetic genocide committed. Afterall, the only reason they keep getting away with Evil is because men were gullible enough to be fooled into believing that such an Evil act was never evil in the first place to begin with.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            This is the most homosexual post I have read all day.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >demanding monogamy. eradication of polygamy & infidelity, and having a gurantee of 'genetic survival' of sorts is homosexual
            lmao. Begone Satan.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            181.7 cm is 5'11.5". You posted a source that proves you wrong, good job.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >5'11
            did the point go over your head? It's the avg for all races combined. Is it unreasonable to assume the avg white would atleast be 6'1 given ethnics are super short? lol

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            There aren't enough "ethnics" in Germany to bring the average down from OVER 6'1" (that's what you said) to under 6'0". Racial height gaps are mostly environmental anyway, I'm not sure if you're aware. Like Guatemans from Guatemala are tiny but when they have kids here they're not significantly shorter than average. See also height in North vs South Korea. Same people, very different average heights. Since we're talking about zoomers who are mostly not immigrants that really weakens your whole case about white zoomers all being giants or whatever.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >There aren't enough "ethnics" in Germany to bring the average down from OVER 6'1
            then why do i find so many arabs there? y do migrants make up about 30% of the population and more so in younger population?
            >south korea
            they're still shorter than whites and will continue being so in a monogamous setting.
            to be fair, we must discuss this rigorously to see how these factors play in. Can you do that? I'm asking this in good faith and not mock or belittle you because intuitively it seems the avg for whites will be a lot higher than the overall average of all races combined.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Well you can look up the numbers on immigration right? 30% seems ridiculously high to me. That's nearly 1 in 3. I'm convinced that it seems like more than it is because poor minorities are just out and about more and they're visibly different so you notice them and remember them. And if you're racist you notice and remember even harder so to speak. That's what I've noticed with blacks and Hispanics in America. They're actually a small minority where I live but you go outside and they're everywhere. I'm not an expert on Germany tho. Idk what you mean by rigorous but probably not, I just have opinions based on things I've seen before and you can disregard them or not. I will say that your perception can be skewed by the fact that every time you see a tall guy you remember it because it makes me feel insecure or whatever but easily forget all the short guys who don't make you feel anything and that upwardly biases your perception of the "average." If these short migrants are most common among the youngest generations it doesn't really make sense that these generations are also the tallest unless again the white Germans are actual giants and more than cancel them out.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >30%
            Nta, but the real number is around 28.7 % & about 23.8 million people and it's from Wikipedia

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Ok, but that's counting all immigrants isn't it? A lot of immigrants in Europe are native white Europeans crossing borders within the EU.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            u seem to be right but the amount of people speaking non european languages is around 21 % give or take half a percentage point. Only around 7-8 % of the entire population speaks non german, european language. Proxying the amount of migrant stock in this somewhat incorrect way still means a good lot of migrant folks.

  11. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You sound insanely pathetic. I'm sorry. I don't know where to begin with you. It's like you're a slave to your feelings.

  12. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    this is why americans are fricking morons

  13. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    tldr:revolt or continue rotting

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      this is like vomit but im being told its filet mignon

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        wut?

  14. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Read this

    https://pdfstop.com/the-way-of-the-superior-man-pdf/

  15. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You are resentful because you resent being alone. The only way would be becoming more appreciating of loneliness, if that's possible for you.

  16. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    men are more romantic and can fall in love with any woman who gives them attention

    women on the other hand have a list of shallow conditions, expect the man to approach them and to be the driving force behind all romantic gestures ie buying them random shit and organising dates while not reciprocating any of that at all

  17. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I know some men see this and "self-improve" to get female love but that would wound my ego
    >I take their fundamental rejection so badly that I want to kill them/myself

    Congratulations!
    you have:

    Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah I wouldn't be surprised at all because I've suspected this for a long time but don't really believe in therapy. Funny how self-awareness doesn't necessarily help anything.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >but don't really believe in therapy

        Good news for you:
        Narcissists are banned from therapy because they are highly manipulators and pathological luar, plus they never change but get worse with the past of time.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          if therapists arent willing to help people who need it because its "too challenging" then it sounds like a scam

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            99.98% of therapists that study about narcissist personality disorder are doing it to help the victims of the narcissists. Due the own nature of their personality disorder, narcissists, rarely go to therapy(early 20's when traits of npd start to show up)

            Anyway here a brief essay about how to understand women:
            http://files.catbox.moe/fz69qi.pdf

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Well that's moronic because I never lie or manipulate anyone, and the therapist can't even know if I do or not until they really get to know me. Do you think narcissists are some special class of evil people? They're just people like anyone else with their own issues. Sheesh.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I have studied NPD because i was with a narcissist girl. I didn't know anything about NPD until she discarded me and i casually found a youtube video about personality disorders so that's when a lot of her odd behaviour start to make sense.

            If you want go to therapy, but just like you said here:
            >I know some men see this and "self-improve" to get female love but that would wound my ego

            And to improve first you need to recognize and accept that there's something wrong in the first place but you will never do that in order to protect your fragile ego, that's why narcissists rarely go to therapy.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            First off you must understand that Narcissistic Personality Disorder(NPD) is nothing but a coping mechanism that you developed as a defense system to deal with abadoment issues(real or imaginary) during childhood(childhood is when we are most vulnerable and when we don't have the maturity and when we don't know the tools and knowledge to deal with stuff like abadoment). NPD usually start after a divorce, so when one of the parents is not in the home anymore the kid in its innocence translate this action as abadoment and that said parent don't love him anymore without matter that's not true. It doesn’t care, the kid is not an adult so he will not understand any other reason about why one of his parents is not in home anymore, it doesn’t matter if it's because a divorce or job reasons one of the parents is not in home anymore. The kid only feels that it was abandoned and that he is not loved, therefore NPD is a coping mechanism that the mind of this kid developed in order to save his young and fragile child psyche.

            To suffer less first off you must recognize that you were hurt as a kid and that your egoist and entitled personality is the reason why people don't like be around you(ironic because people with NPD needs the approval and admiration of people in order have self-esteem but due the toxic behaviour the narcissist tends to end up with superficial and short time period "friendships").

            It not matter if a person has NPD or not:
            You are doomed to be unhappy forever if you make that your happines depends on what think/do/or feel third people. You can't control what think/do/or feel third people.
            You only have control about
            your own thoughts,
            your own actions and
            your own feelings.
            You must work in your fragile self-esteem because you have the self-esteem of a kid that was hurt.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            My parents did argue a lot and almost got divorced when I was like 8 and for a time my mom was kicked out of the house I think because she was drinking and cheating although I didn't really know that at the time. I remember that time was very scary and lonely for me but we kinda just moved on without talking about it and sometimes I wonder if this left any scars because it's the closest thing to """trauma""" in my life and yet I never think about it so I don't know. I think that was when I started to hate my mom and to this day a part of me really hates her even tho she's very kind to me and never mean. What triggers me is the way she's always been emotionally absent and doesn't really care about anything I say. She loves buying me stuff but she'll never listen to me when I speak and it just makes me want to strangle her sometimes. To be fair it's kind of mutual and when she gets drunk and tells me about being raped I'm just like ok...sorry to hear that... My dad's a lot better at listening so I like him. Both of them kind of spoil me tho, when it comes to giving me stuff and expecting nothing from me. Pretty sure that wasn't good for my development. I think they decided it's much easier to spoil me and not worry about me than to discipline and guide me on the right path. Hate to blame my parents for my problems as an adult but yeah.

  18. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I do a lot of drugs to stop caring. Smoke multiple bowls of weed and sometimes it goes away. I feel you though OP. Not as extreme or angry as you, but I understand the futility and hopelessness. If you're ugly, short, and not rich...no "mindset" or "just be yourself" cope is going to save you. I know it first hand.

  19. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Acceptance

  20. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I love cigarettes so much, bros

  21. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >and "self-improve"
    You can self improve until the cows come home but it won't change a thing man. I lost weight, i own my business, i make a quarter of a million a year and i am the boss and I am fit and dress sharp. Still short and slightly uneven face / ears. No pussy.

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