How important is sexual satisfaction for a long-term relationship?

How important is sexual satisfaction for a long-term relationship?

gf is a sweet girl and generous with plain boring sex but doesn't like giving head or wearing sexy stuff etc etc. I feel like if I have to be with one woman my whole life I want to do some fun stuff with her, I dare call this kinda stuff a need

She gets all her needs met with just basic sex, great for her, I want more tho. Yes we've talked about it it's not going anywhere, but I also don't wanna break up with a potential great wife just because she won't wear lingerie or go down

Thoughts? I'd also love to do anal but im guessing that's never gonna happen either. Inb4 moral weirdos thinking everything except missionary for procreation etc etc is wrong

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >How important is sexual satisfaction for a long-term relationship?
    I always say sex is to relationship what foundations are to a house. You don't buy a house for the foundations; most of the time you don't even think about them; but if they aren't there and doing their job properly, eventually the house will collapse. Sex that is working doesn't - and shouldn't - seem like a major priority most of the time; but sex that doesn't work destroys relationships.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Sex is great but saying that it's the "foundation" of a relationship is bullshit. I don't want to go into details but my wife became injured 11 years ago and hasn't been able to have sex since but I still love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. I'm still faithful to her. I do want to have sex, but only with her, and since that's not possible, well, I don't want to have sex with anyone else. If we could we'd definitely still be having sex but that's just not a part of our relationship anymore.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You haven't had sex in 11 years?

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >You haven't had sex in 11 years?
          I have not.

          There are obviously people like yourself who have unusually low sex drives; but I'm sure you must understand that you're the exception, not the rule.

          >There are obviously people like yourself who have unusually low sex drives; but I'm sure you must understand that you're the exception, not the rule.
          I don't have a low sex drive. I just don't have eyes for anyone but my wife.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >I have not.
            OK so the "right" answer is no, you shouldn't get into a relationship without your sexual needs getting fulfilled.

            But being honest, your clock is ticking and you most likely will not do better than this girl. Realistically you should orient yourself towards not ever getting these kinds of sexual gratification ever again and moving on without being bitter.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >you shouldn't get into a relationship without your sexual needs getting fulfilled.
            That's your opinion. I fell in love with my wife before we had sex. Sex is a mere thread in the tapestry of a relationship. It's something enjoyable but to say that it's the foundation of a relationship is misguided. The purpose of a relationship isn't sex, it's love, intimacy, closeness, and sharing your life with someone. None of that requires sex. It's nice to have but not being able to have it shouldn't destroy the entire relationship. That's like you getting heart disease and since you can no longer eat bacon, you simply refuse to eat and starve to death. There's a million other foods you can eat.

            >you most likely will not do better than this girl.
            I could never do better than my wife because of all the people in the world, she's the one I want to spend my life with. I'd rather have my wife than 100 virgins.

            >without being bitter
            I could never be bitter towards my wife. I love her more than anything in this world. So many men feel entitled to sex and make sex the focus of their entire relationship. They want someone they can frick who will do housework for them. That's not love. That's being a selfish dick. A relationship isn't about what you can GET from the other person. It's the complete opposite. A relationship is about wanting to GIVE to the other person because you love and care about them, and they reciprocate in kind.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >I fell in love with my wife before we had sex.
            Even you who don't seem to let the need for sex rule your life like most other men here say this like it's weird. I'm an incel kissless virgin so maybe my ideas are different than those of most people because I don't have social experience, but isn't this normal? Why would you have sex with someone you don't love? How could you realize that you love someone only after having had sex, when you need to love someone to have sex in the first place? I'm getting confused nowadays, people kiss and have sex an don't consider eachother in a relationship, and what the hell is a FWB? Jesus wouldn't be proud of you guys.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I agree that it's fricked up, yet understandable. Sex is nice.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Even you who don't seem to let the need for sex rule your life like most other men here say this like it's weird.
            It is from a modern day perspective. Our society is extremely hedonistic and everyone wants instant gratification. They're not willing to put in the effort and enjoy the journey in order to get a better experience. They just want it right now. Having sex with someone you know and love is 1000x better than having sex with some random stranger, but 99% of men would choose to have sex with a random stranger tonight than spend 9 months getting to know and fall in love with a woman and form a lifelong bond with her, even thought it would also result in mind-blowing sex that's 1000x better than what they'd get if they just pick up some girl on Tinder and frick her tonight. Then they discard these women and call them "not marriage material" and go and frick another woman they don't know. It's like shitting in your food and then refusing to eat it because there's shit in it. NO SHIT there's shit in it! You shit in it! What the frick do you expect?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I won't try to deny men haven't contributed heavily to the decline of the modern romantic marketplace but let's not absolve women either
            >women that think they can "trade up" and leave the first guys they were with
            >women that lose their virginities to men they have no intention of starting a long term relationship with
            >women leaving relationships at the first hint of a crisis instead of being committed to try to work through problems
            >women leaving relationships just because they got bored with them

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            your right my friend,incels here keep blaming women for everything but promiscuous men are just as responsible for the radioactive cesspool that modern dating is

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

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          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            thats amazing

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Anon I dont know if you will ever see this, but I just wanted to let you know that you're a better person than 99% of the people on this site, including myself. I cant say I could make the same decision if I was faced with similar circumstances, but the fact that you have for the past 11 years is nothing short of exceptional.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I am unable to form a stable opinion on the matter of love and romance because this guy has a great point regarding love being the "giving" part and everything else, but it's romantic to a fault and then there's this guy

            What's the foundation of a job? Is it fulfillment, connection, meaning, being appreciated for your time, etc? No. The foundation is money. Everyone can see that. No matter how many perks there are to a job if it doesn't compensate you financially you're not obligated to stay.

            Relationships are the same. What is the one thing that you're only supposed to get from within the confines of a relationship? Sex. All the other perks of connection, understanding, and yes even love, you're allowed to find it elsewhere. Not sex. For better or worse it's the one resource that women have been put on a pedestal for since the beginning of time and they will gatekeep it from you if you let them. If your girlfriend is great in every single way but you're not getting a proper frick then I'm sorry to say that you don't have a relationship. You have a close friend you're cohabiting with. Just like if you have an occupation that doesn't pay - that's a charitable hobby, not a job.

            who is also right but cynical to a fault.

            And it is quite fitting to romanticize romantic love, that's where the meaning of the word "to romanticize" came from, to describe something in an idealized and unrealistic way, by the very definition romance is irrational and a choice to be irrational too.
            But no matter how much idealization one does towards the belief of something, the negative impact of that idealization will still be felt by the one doing so, the reality is we're living in the material, therefore the material world taught us both since conception and after, that amassing resources is a source of longevity, stability and happiness, from our dopaminergic system to our livelihoods regarding money.
            can believe his whole life that his wife is "the one" and points to him, he's altruistic and holds the fire of romance going no matter what his wife will do to him, but simply because sex isn't that important to him doesn't mean that he's NOT playing the same game as each and every single of us, the irony if his irrationality is also the downfall of his argument, for if it was some other attribute that was deemed more important for him that his wife wouldn't have checked out in his rational perception of his livelihood then he might not have been the same symbol of romance, the cynical argument here is and always will be that his idealization is personal, not general, he still decided that a "wife" is "these things" and not "these things" before proceeding to drink his own kool-aid

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            continuing from

            whereas

            What's the foundation of a job? Is it fulfillment, connection, meaning, being appreciated for your time, etc? No. The foundation is money. Everyone can see that. No matter how many perks there are to a job if it doesn't compensate you financially you're not obligated to stay.

            Relationships are the same. What is the one thing that you're only supposed to get from within the confines of a relationship? Sex. All the other perks of connection, understanding, and yes even love, you're allowed to find it elsewhere. Not sex. For better or worse it's the one resource that women have been put on a pedestal for since the beginning of time and they will gatekeep it from you if you let them. If your girlfriend is great in every single way but you're not getting a proper frick then I'm sorry to say that you don't have a relationship. You have a close friend you're cohabiting with. Just like if you have an occupation that doesn't pay - that's a charitable hobby, not a job.

            is so cynical it hits the point of sterility, while I do understand where he comes from especially considering my above argumentation, it's still not the answer for everyone or anyone, rather a point to be analyzed by every one of us in our own livelihoods.
            I personally do consider that romanticism does exist but it's not the idealization of the other and the self to the point of becoming a romantic martyr, why? because although we're still undergoing a transaction during our romantic interactions, it's not quite so and I believe we need to define both extremes and produce another word for a different scope
            a transaction is the exchange of goods or values between two parties, what the transaction word doesn't cover is the fact that both parties hope or barter for some kind of equivalency during that transaction
            a sacrifice is the exchange of goods or value between two parties, where only one party gives while the other receives, what the sacrifice word doesn't cover is the expectations of the one giving, or rather, the conversion of their altruism towards a sanctified reward, you see this in religious people, you see this in people donating, sacrificing themselves for something or someone else, it's still a return-on-investment transaction, but there are truly altruistic people, though they are few and far between
            where the first "romantic" guy in this thread hit the chord with what I've said above was specifically here:
            > A relationship is about wanting to GIVE to the other person because you love and care about them, and they reciprocate in kind.
            >and they reciprocate in kind.
            not only is there an expectation of fulfillment of a hopefully equal transaction, there's a single and direct "and" which tells me he analyses this stuff as well to the point of rational cynicism

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            continuing from
            and to beat on the cynical guy as well

            What's the foundation of a job? Is it fulfillment, connection, meaning, being appreciated for your time, etc? No. The foundation is money. Everyone can see that. No matter how many perks there are to a job if it doesn't compensate you financially you're not obligated to stay.

            Relationships are the same. What is the one thing that you're only supposed to get from within the confines of a relationship? Sex. All the other perks of connection, understanding, and yes even love, you're allowed to find it elsewhere. Not sex. For better or worse it's the one resource that women have been put on a pedestal for since the beginning of time and they will gatekeep it from you if you let them. If your girlfriend is great in every single way but you're not getting a proper frick then I'm sorry to say that you don't have a relationship. You have a close friend you're cohabiting with. Just like if you have an occupation that doesn't pay - that's a charitable hobby, not a job.

            >All the other perks of connection, understanding, and yes even love, you're allowed to find it elsewhere
            >you're allowed to find it elsewhere
            at first sight he SEEMS right for the sole reason that he doesn't define those traits very well, we all know that love comes in many different forms, the love for the wife is different than the love for the girlfriend, the love for the child, the love for the friend, the love for the parents, not only are they different, they're completely different interactions if you're a stable human being
            I do agree with the sex part for a monogamous relationship, if the two of us are holding half-keys, each requiring the other to achieve something and neither of us is allowed to combine the key with anyone else's then we have a responsibility to give our half-keys to our designated monogamous partner every time we desire, for the alternative is immoral
            so, we have a transaction, a (fully altruistic) sacrifice and a third exchange of goods/value that idealistic people attempt to cover unintentionally as a sacrifice, and that's a faithful exchange
            to me a faithful exchange is still a transaction, although with a bit of leeway between the trades, the problem here persists in that leeway, that freedom because although I'm governing expectations of you fulfilling your part of our faithful exchange, I cannot hold you hostage against it, for it demands faith on my part

            but now you have to define the perception of your life, the values of your perceived wife and measure them according to faith
            so, now you have to define your life, what is love, what is sex, what is a wife, what is a husband
            just know that no one is perfect, everyone has limits and everyone including yourself will frick up
            I can't give you a simple answer for there is none

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >we have a responsibility to give our half-keys to our designated monogamous partner every time we desire, for the alternative is immoral
            "Romance guy" here again. This is so incredibly wrong. Just because you're married to someone doesn't mean that you're entitled to their body. The difference here is that you shouldn't expect your partner to "put out" because you're married. Instead, your partner should WANT to have sex with you even when they're not in the mood themselves because they love and care about you and want to see you happy. See the difference? Entitlement vs. love.

            My body belongs to my wife. I would allow her to touch me anywhere she wants, not because she feels entitled to but because I am hers. I have boundaries of course. I wouldn't want her sticking anything up my ass or hurting me But she wouldn't want to do anything to me that I wouldn't like. See how it works? I'm horrified reading stories of men pressuring their wives/girlfriends into sexual acts they don't want to do, or pestering them until they give in and agree to sex. Granted, in an ideal relationship she should want to have sex with them just to make them happy, but if her not wanting to have sex has become a regular thing, there's a reason for it. Expecting her to put out without solving the underlying reason why she doesn't want to have sex will only lead to resentment. Unfortunately there are a lot of men who don't give a shit about their partner or their feelings and just want sex. She's not a fricking sex vending machine.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            This is so incredibly wrong. Just because you're married to someone doesn't mean that you're entitled to their faithfulness. The difference here is that you shouldn't expect your partner to "stay faithful" because you're married. Instead, your partner should WANT to never have sex ever again because they love and care about you and want to see you happy! See the difference?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

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          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >to describe something in an idealized and unrealistic way
            "Romance guy" here. It's only "unrealistic" when the feelings aren't reciprocated and the two people don't feel the same way about each other. The sad truth is, most people suck. They're not capable of true love because they're too selfish. You can't have a guy like me married to a selfish b***h and have it work, or vise-versa. The only reason why our marriage works is because we both love each other more than we love ourselves.

            >no matter what his wife will do to him
            She didn't "do" anything to me. She's physically disabled and can't have sex without severe pain. I would never want my wife to have sex with me because she felt she was obligated to. I certainly wouldn't enjoy myself if I was hurting her during it.

            >but simply because sex isn't that important to him
            Sex is extremely important to me. Just because I can't have sex with my wife doesn't mean that I don't want to. The difference is, I don't want to have sex with anyone else. I'm not making some huge sacrifice by staying faithful to my wife. I'm not attracted to anyone else. If some 10/10 woman wanted to have sex with me, I would refuse.

            >if it was some other attribute that was deemed more important for him that his wife wouldn't have checked out in his rational perception of his livelihood then he might not have been the same symbol of romance, the cynical argument here is and always will be that his idealization is personal, not general, he still decided that a "wife" is "these things" and not "these things" before proceeding to drink his own kool-aid
            You just don't get it. There is NOTHING that could make me leave my wife, other than death or some weird extremely unlikely circumstance, like for example if I learned that my wife was some hostile alien swamp monster in disguise and she never really existed.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >You just don't get it. There is NOTHING that could make me leave my wife, other than death or some weird extremely unlikely circumstance, like for example if I learned that my wife was some hostile alien swamp monster in disguise and she never really existed.
            Continuing from here, even if this happened, if she wasn't hostile and was truly in love with me, I might be able to get over it, assuming her body isn't toxic to humans or some other biological incompatibility. This is a stupid scenario, I get it, but I love my wife for who she is, not what she is or what I can get from her (sex or otherwise).

            continuing from

            whereas [...] is so cynical it hits the point of sterility, while I do understand where he comes from especially considering my above argumentation, it's still not the answer for everyone or anyone, rather a point to be analyzed by every one of us in our own livelihoods.
            I personally do consider that romanticism does exist but it's not the idealization of the other and the self to the point of becoming a romantic martyr, why? because although we're still undergoing a transaction during our romantic interactions, it's not quite so and I believe we need to define both extremes and produce another word for a different scope
            a transaction is the exchange of goods or values between two parties, what the transaction word doesn't cover is the fact that both parties hope or barter for some kind of equivalency during that transaction
            a sacrifice is the exchange of goods or value between two parties, where only one party gives while the other receives, what the sacrifice word doesn't cover is the expectations of the one giving, or rather, the conversion of their altruism towards a sanctified reward, you see this in religious people, you see this in people donating, sacrificing themselves for something or someone else, it's still a return-on-investment transaction, but there are truly altruistic people, though they are few and far between
            where the first "romantic" guy in this thread hit the chord with what I've said above was specifically here:
            > A relationship is about wanting to GIVE to the other person because you love and care about them, and they reciprocate in kind.
            >and they reciprocate in kind.
            not only is there an expectation of fulfillment of a hopefully equal transaction, there's a single and direct "and" which tells me he analyses this stuff as well to the point of rational cynicism

            >not only is there an expectation of fulfillment of a hopefully equal transaction, there's a single and direct "and" which tells me he analyses this stuff as well to the point of rational cynicism
            Yes, relationships only work if the feelings are mutual and reciprocal, but calling it a "transaction" is misguided. You're translating everything into the physical when in reality the ONLY thing that matters is the emotional. For example, my wife not having sex with me because she's disabled and she can't is TOTALLY different than a b***h of a wife who hold sex hostage or as a punishment. The difference here is that my wife WANTS to have sex with me and would if she could. To hold the fact that she's not having sex with me against her would be incredibly cruel and selfish.

            Before my wife got injured, she would sometimes let me frick her even when she wasn't in the mood herself, but it was never out of obligation or because she felt she had to. It was because she knew that I wanted her and she wanted to make me happy. It's a selfless motivation vs. a selfish motivation (ie being aroused herself and wanting to have sex herself). The desire was still there, the only difference was the motive. Do you know how loved it made me feel when she did this? She wasn't just lying there disassociating either.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Continued:

            She was an active participant. She would smile up (or down) at me depending on our position. She would put her hand on my cheek, encouraging me, asking me how good it felt for me, etc. The focus was 100% on my pleasure until I got off, then it switched to her because by the time I got off she would usually be aroused herself, even though she wasn't aroused to begin with. Though not always. Sometimes she really just wasn't in the mood herself and didn't want me to reciprocate.

            The opposite happened too sometimes. It wasn't often that I wasn't in the mood, but if she wanted to have sex when I wasn't feeling it, I'd let her have me any way she wanted. And just like her, I didn't do this out of a sense of obligation but because I wanted to.

            Selfish people can't experience true love because they're too fricking selfish. Ironically their selfishness deprives them of the most important and satisfying thing in the world; forming an eternal, unbreakable bond with someone you share your life with.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

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            Anonymous

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            Anonymous

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          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            This is the only good post ITT. Zoomers are too brainwashed by israeli propaganda

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            best advice in /thread. courting is a process thats been around forever and alot of that is lost nowadays. guys need to get that its about finding someone that will be your companion and friend.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm in a similar spot.
            Love my girlfriend, she's the best partner I could ask for and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

            She has a much lower sex drive than me though and I feel like she sees it as a chore now. Sex has become quite rare, maybe once a month. Luckily she acknowledges I have needs and gives me a handjob when needed.

            Sex becomes rare as relationships develop. Especially after marriage and/or kids. You need to ask yourself what's more important to you. If the sex is boring/nonexistent but everything else is amazing, don't be so quick to give that up.

            >its about finding someone that will be your companion and friend.
            This.
            Is she someone you can grow old with? A companion, best friend, partner for life? Finding someone like that who wants to be with you is incredibly rare. Sexual compatibility is important. But you need that other stuff more in the long term.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            +1 based

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

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          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            at least there's a few good men like anon still.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

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            Anonymous

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          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >you shouldn't get into a relationship without your sexual needs getting fulfilled.
            That's your opinion. I fell in love with my wife before we had sex. Sex is a mere thread in the tapestry of a relationship. It's something enjoyable but to say that it's the foundation of a relationship is misguided. The purpose of a relationship isn't sex, it's love, intimacy, closeness, and sharing your life with someone. None of that requires sex. It's nice to have but not being able to have it shouldn't destroy the entire relationship. That's like you getting heart disease and since you can no longer eat bacon, you simply refuse to eat and starve to death. There's a million other foods you can eat.

            >you most likely will not do better than this girl.
            I could never do better than my wife because of all the people in the world, she's the one I want to spend my life with. I'd rather have my wife than 100 virgins.

            >without being bitter
            I could never be bitter towards my wife. I love her more than anything in this world. So many men feel entitled to sex and make sex the focus of their entire relationship. They want someone they can frick who will do housework for them. That's not love. That's being a selfish dick. A relationship isn't about what you can GET from the other person. It's the complete opposite. A relationship is about wanting to GIVE to the other person because you love and care about them, and they reciprocate in kind.

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          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

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          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Frick off man

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'd rather frick you little lady 😉

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I haven't had sex in 25 kek

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I haven't had sex in 25 kek

          I haven't in exactly 2500 days.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Implying people haven't abstained for longer. I haven't had sex in 30.

          Sex is great but saying that it's the "foundation" of a relationship is bullshit. I don't want to go into details but my wife became injured 11 years ago and hasn't been able to have sex since but I still love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. I'm still faithful to her. I do want to have sex, but only with her, and since that's not possible, well, I don't want to have sex with anyone else. If we could we'd definitely still be having sex but that's just not a part of our relationship anymore.

          Surely she's able to give you sexual satisfaction even if penetration is no longer possible? Also, what kind of injury makes veganal intercourse not possible? Did she lose everything below her belly button or something?

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        There are obviously people like yourself who have unusually low sex drives; but I'm sure you must understand that you're the exception, not the rule.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          It’s crazy to me that some people can’t /don’t want to control their sex drive and claim normal people that can are the weird ones. I could be horny and frick 24/7 if I just indulged in sexual thoughts all the time, but when I see sexy gril I simply let the thought pass, what is the point of being horny all the time?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I've noticed people who put no effort into self-control claim it's impossible.
            >Anyone would have punched that guy like I did, he made me angry!
            >You would have cheated on your wife too, that girl was HOT!
            >I had to cheat to pass this class, I didn't have time to study, there was this killer kegger I couldn't miss!
            Sad part is it's the same logic rapists have been pushing for decades.
            >Of course I raped her, look at what she was wearing! She was ASKING for it!"
            It's all the same thing. Pretending that doing NOTHING is somehow difficult.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

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      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Whenever talking about sex in a marriage, for "normal" cases you have to rule out mental of physical issues. That said, a therapist once told me sex in a normal marriage is usually not an issue. No sex in a normal marriage is always an issue.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        see

        if you arent fricking then youre just freinds.
        any person who tells you diffrent is a dumbass and is usually getting the short end of a stick.

        dont ask stupid people on how to get smart.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        do you at least do oral or?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        People are gonna hate on you but you're the husband of a lot of women's dreams tbh. Just the fact that you were even willing to care for her that much

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Thats...actually a really good way to put it...god damn.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Spoken as if children aren't part of the equation.
      Yeah, if want relationships for the sex, sex is the foundation. The purpose of relationships are families though, otherwise you're just frick buddies.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You think people stop having sex after having children or something?

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

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        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          children definitely can affect sex lives. they are energy-sucking machines.

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    https://www.girlschase.com/content/sexual-awakening-how-have-her-doing-almost-anything-bed

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Please ban this moron for constantly shilling his shit blog and courses.

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Yes we've talked about it it's not going anywhere
    Need more details.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    When she has you on lockdown even the plain sex will stop

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    my dad is suicidal and nearing bankruptcy and career death because he married my evil b***h mom. they've been together for 30 years there's no fixing his life now. if your gf is sane and nice and you're generally compatible, and you want a family, please consider your situation more comprehensively.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Probably never happen but I heard of a woman that tried to extort her husband got drunk and walked in front of a car. At least you can have the thought for free that sometimes the universe takes care of these c**ts.

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >doesn't like giving head or wearing sexy stuff etc etc
    Just remember, she did that for Chad.

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Human kind can not gain anything without first giving something in return. To obtain something of equal value must be lost. That is Alchemy's first law of equivalent exchange. In those days we really believed that to be the world's one and only truth.

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    A LTR is just a set of tradeoffs. She may not be a 10/10 porn star but does she bring peace to your life? If you were sick in the hospital would she drop everything to be by your side? Would she be a good mother? Is she kind, loving, trustworthy? Do you work through problems well together?

    Ultimately you need to decide for yourself what you want in your life today and in the future.

    How long have you been together? This may be something that you two need to just work on in your relationship (this takes time and effort). A little encouragement can go a long way. You see her wearing something you like, compliment her. If she's doing something in bed you like, say you like that thing (Google "talking dirty" ). Sex is about bonding with your partner, so maybe figure out what she likes/dislikes as well.

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What exactly do you want to do? Just blowjobs and lingerie? That's it?

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      bump

  10. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What's the foundation of a job? Is it fulfillment, connection, meaning, being appreciated for your time, etc? No. The foundation is money. Everyone can see that. No matter how many perks there are to a job if it doesn't compensate you financially you're not obligated to stay.

    Relationships are the same. What is the one thing that you're only supposed to get from within the confines of a relationship? Sex. All the other perks of connection, understanding, and yes even love, you're allowed to find it elsewhere. Not sex. For better or worse it's the one resource that women have been put on a pedestal for since the beginning of time and they will gatekeep it from you if you let them. If your girlfriend is great in every single way but you're not getting a proper frick then I'm sorry to say that you don't have a relationship. You have a close friend you're cohabiting with. Just like if you have an occupation that doesn't pay - that's a charitable hobby, not a job.

  11. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Extremely. She WILL leave and never be yours unless you know how to lay down pipes. Asking this question is moronic.

    >guys, I'm in love with this amazing man, but I don't like sex...do you think he'll stay with me if I only frick him once a month?
    Women need to get fricked, too.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Women do not have feelings at all

  12. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Was she a virgin before you met?
    If yes - respect her and learn to be satisified with plain sex.
    If no - cheat on her with prostitutes.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      bump

  13. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    that sounds like a woman that just wants someone like me to dominate her in bed

  14. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It becomes a problem eventually especially if you have a glow up at some point.
    Source - 35 year old man with women for 13+ years.
    I honestly don't know what to do since the only option is basically suppression of desire entirely. I find myself going to strip clubs just for the intimacy with girls I find attractive and sexual.

  15. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I think OP might be doing something wrong if plain sex is too boring for him.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      bump

  16. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Got a similar issue but probably a lot worse since even the vanilla sex is maximally sterlie and doesn't happen often. She's a great girl otherwise, but we basically have at best sex three times a month shortly before her period, and even then only with condom, no blowjob beforehand (condom could slip off later) and no coming inside even with the condom. She doesn't want to use the pill (understandable), she isn't thrilled about an IUD (for vague reasons) and the only option she ever seriously proposed is me getting a vasectomy which I promply refused. We haven't had sex in two months now since I've been sick for a week. I've been seriously considering prostitutes but I love her too much, and yet it feels kinda moronic for me as a 25 year old to have less sex than some of these 50 year old married couples. She was a bit more relaxed at the beginning but her period once was a bit late last year and since then it's been maximally sterile.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Similar, but a bit worse issue here. I have been with my current gf for about 1.5yr and we havent had sex since. A few months ago we would do oral once a week or so, but she had to hop on ssri recently. Right now im in a situation where if i get a handjob once a month it's a good month. She is also both too afraid of pregnancy and disintrested in sex enough to not even want to engage in it, unless i bring it up. I love her, and she is a very kind and loving girl, but im the type of guy who could probably frick everyday if given a chance and im beginning to seriously reconsider if signing myself up for this kind of life is really a good idea. Can people with very low sex drive find happiness with people with high sex drive ?

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        bump

  17. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Old gay here. Unhappily married for over 20 years. Couples fight about 3 things - sex, money, and how to raise the kids. Not looking good bro.

  18. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    My recent ex started taking antidepressants after a year of us having a relationship and we had a normal sexlife. The meds completely killed it. After 7 months I cheated on her, you might say you wont do it but youll step out eventually. Now that her life is marginally better she wanted to break up and in all honesty I'm relieved, especially since I got better women coming after me

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >After 7 months I cheated on her
      >I got better women
      You people are fricking horrible.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >You people are fricking horrible.
        If I was a woman people would be praising me and if my ex girl did it to me people would blame me and say I failed as a man. If you can't provide for your partner you shouldnt be surprised if they step out eventually. inb4 buth muh breakup, you can still be fulfilled by someone in other ways. Aristocrats have done this for ages, why cant I?

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          You're a moron. No one does (or should) praise absolute degenerates who are literally the cause of so many societal problems the world over.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            bump

  19. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >but doesn't like giving head
    This is the biggest red flag ever, I would get rid of her tonight. Are you some kind of sperg that can never find a better woman or what is your situation?

    I just banged my GF in the throat for like 25 minutes straight

  20. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >gf is a sweet girl and generous with plain boring sex but doesn't like giving head or wearing sexy stuff etc etc. I feel like if I have to be with one woman my whole life I want to do some fun stuff with her, I dare call this kinda stuff a need
    Let me tell you my situation.
    I'm in similar situation but married (religious reasons stayed celibate until marriage)
    My wife is nice and sweet, but won't do anything sexual like Blowjob/handjob/titjob,etc.
    Wearing lingerie is just basic night gowns, nothing sexy at all.
    And to top it off, While I was celibate it doesn't mean I haven't watched my fair share of porn.
    Many if I dare would like to reenact some of those with her.
    And I'm found of soft bondage to which she refuse to indulge me with.
    Finally, she can't cum only if she got her clit rubbed in very specific way (I suspect that's how she jerk offd and got used to it), meaning she don't like me going down on her or doing veganal intercourse.
    So currently, we've been married for the 3 years, and hadn't had sex in the last 8 months.
    If this would help you in any way.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You're going to have to explain to her that you vowed monogamy, but not celibacy. And when she vowed to forsake all others, the implication was she would not forsake you.

      And it's not "sex" you want. It's a "fulfilling intimate sexual relationship" that you want with her.

      Assuming there's no physical reason for avoiding sex, ask her to go to marriage counseling. If she doesn't want to go, go alone and let her know you are going. Counseling will help you learn to (a) live with the situation, (b) fix the situation or (c) leave the situation.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Surprisingly, I did all that.
        At last the marriage counseling requested to meet her and do a session together, but she refused.
        When I brought the subject of separation she threatened to go gone girl on me.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >When I brought the subject of separation she threatened to go gone girl on me.
          You have your answer. Get your finances in order, know where every penny is and file (unless you can live with the situation as I mentioned.)

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            bump

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      wtf this shits sound like a long distance relation but you guys are living together.
      how can she avoid having sex for 8 months?dude get off 4chin and frick some girls instead

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Well, I try to approach her every now and then, aka when I get too horny to stay mad at her.
        I rubbed her back, and massaged her thighs, and started rubbing her lady parts, slowly to get her into the mood and aroused.
        At some some point she got horny and started rubbing with me until she came.
        She then hugged me and slept, And I was there with raging boner feeling like human vibrator left turned on.
        Too mad to jerk off and too horny to sleep.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          jesus dude

  21. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    dead bedroom - run
    not getting your way with a specific hole - stfu

  22. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    if you arent fricking then youre just freinds.
    any person who tells you diffrent is a dumbass and is usually getting the short end of a stick.

    dont ask stupid people on how to get smart.

  23. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I once had a gf who was freaky as frick in bed and had a crazy high sex drive. She was a terrible partner though, selfish, unstable, dead-end job, no drive.

    I've now been with my current gf for nearly 5 years. The sex is basic, boring, and infrequent, but there's love there instead of primal lust. And she's caring, compassionate, has a successful career and really loves me for who I am.

    I know which one I'd go for.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      > high sex drive, terrible partner

      Its one or the other in most cases, it would seem. I'm sure some women out there are high sex drive and a great partner but thats rare (probably wifed up in early 20s).

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      bump

  24. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Never goon.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Never goon, never troon.

  25. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just rub one out to the idea of it, it'd make it a 100 times hotter. If she actually does it, it'll kill the fantasy, believe me
    The fact that you've got such a great mother and person as a gf, don't ruin it for increased sexual gratification. It's vain and short sighted, you'll always want more

    I wish I had a girl who'd make me bust to the thought of seeing her in simple lingerie. Someone that modest is perfect enough.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Well, if there's no sex how would you procreate?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You don't need toys or explore crazy sex positions to procreate. Sex is not the foundation of a relationship, compatibility for the sake of family is. Once you have children, you'll have less and less sex, and it'll be less and less exciting and more and more a chore. A lot of married men jerk off just as they did when they were single.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Yeah woman, maybe if you understand me correctly.
          No sex at all mean no pregnancy, pregnancy from your bull doesn't count.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            The sexual act is never the foundation of a healthy relationship. If your relationship doesn't transcend the sex, you'll divorce eventually. Sex is quite literally akin to a drug. The sooner this becomes apparent to you, the earlier you might find a good girl.

  26. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    The truth is that your wife/gf simply don't find you attractive enough. They use sex at the start to lock you down and then just slowly withdraw it, which isn't an issue for them as to them you're simply not attractive enough to make her want you beyond the initial rush of a relationship. Everything else is cope or lies by women.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      bump

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >The truth is that your wife/gf simply don't find you attractive enough.
      OP needs to up his sex rating. What that means is that right now his wife thinks he can't do any better than her so he has to put up with the situation. If OP starts working out, take care of personal appearance (hair, clothes), spends more time away from his wife, his wife will see that he can be more attractive to other women. This isn't PUA bullshit, it's how people perceive others. It works for wives as well as husbands. Look up "The 180".

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        bump

  27. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Sex life slows down after marriage.
    >Wife hasnt fricked me in months so im back on porn.
    >Literally everything else is fine in our marriage besides terminally dead bedroom.
    >This is the source of every fight we have.
    >We've almost separated multiple times because of this
    >dont know how much longer we can go on at the current pace.
    Yes it is important even if everything else is perfect.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      see

      You're going to have to explain to her that you vowed monogamy, but not celibacy. And when she vowed to forsake all others, the implication was she would not forsake you.

      And it's not "sex" you want. It's a "fulfilling intimate sexual relationship" that you want with her.

      Assuming there's no physical reason for avoiding sex, ask her to go to marriage counseling. If she doesn't want to go, go alone and let her know you are going. Counseling will help you learn to (a) live with the situation, (b) fix the situation or (c) leave the situation.

  28. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Sounds like you're already married dude

  29. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    it would be cool if you also did a back
    flip from the plane, onto the mountain, with 2 snowboards

  30. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Sex is a glue. In a successful relationship each person complements the other well, and sex is just a binding agent. That's why you get people who obviously aren't a fit for each other like OP and his girl that stay together because the sex psychologically forces them to. At some point the parts aren't going to work anymore and gravity WILL win, and by then if you never learned to love your partner you'll be one of those old couples that get divorced having had nothing in common.

  31. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It is important for a long term relationship and as a couple you should be doing everything you can to meet each others needs. And that's a 2 way street and applies to you about her. As with everything have a conversation with her.

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