How important is virginity in women?

cis girl, still a virgin and i keep hearing guys be absolutely disgusted by girls w any experience. I had the chance to lose my virginity (cried so he didn’t actually) but I do wanna try again, it’s just the social ramifications that get me? How important is virginity in a woman to yall? I’m scared to lose it because i know i’ll lose “value” in some way but I don’t know how bad it’ll be so? Also tips for losing it fast as a girl because I truly just wanna have the experience

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  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Important for marriage
    Beneficial for LTRs
    Irrelevant for casual sex
    Most of the tradcon guys who obsess over it aren't wrong per se but it's mostly cope because they think virgin women are fundamentally different and "pure". Partner count and risk of infidelity has been proven over and over again though.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      So i can have a casual thing once or twice before it becomes harder to find a ltr? also ty for the advice :>

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Do you want your marriage to last?
      Save it until marriage.
      If you just don't give a shit and are fine with being a divorced mother then go for it.
      You can find a good man even if you aren't a virgin but you'll raise you likelihood of divorce significantly.

      These incels are the last one's you should First, being a virgin before you marry doesn't ensure you aren't going to end up divorced. You sir, are dumb af. I was a virgin when I met my first husband... notice the first part. These men are the last people you want to ask. Any real man, ( not these 30-something incel boys) will not care. For you idiot men who can't be with a woman because they aren't pure, you will never grow up with that attitude. If you've actually had a couple of partners, y'all would grow out of that backward-ass closed mindset. But instead, most of you pathetic losers will continue to be insecure little b***hes. Girl, do you, go have some fun and leave these miserable incels to die virgins since these ugly ass losers all think they will get some hot virgin at some point. It ain't gonna happen. YOLO!

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        If you want to have sex for the sake of having sex, then do that. You’re not doing anyone any favors by pretending to be someone you’re not. If you want to be promiscuous, you’d just make yourself and any monogamously-minded guy miserable.
        But know that having sex outside of marriage incompatible with valuing monogamy, and you’re going to select for men who disproportionately value sex above commitment. Waiting until marriage to have sex is both beneficial for the happiness and stability of marriage (even controlling for religion, which isn’t necessary to wait) and incredibly effective at weeding out I’ll-intentioned men who would either use you or take you for granted. Arguably more dangerous than the guys who just want hookups are the ones who would be content to waste a woman’s youth on dating but never marrying, only to dump her when they get bored. Waiting filters all of them out. And, by design, it focuses a relationship—and a guys decision to propose—solely onto how much you like each other as people. There aren’t any extra incentives to stay in a poor relationship if you aren’t having sex, living together, or sharing finances. It makes for clearer judgement even if someone isn’t filtered out by waiting itself. That’s a big part of why waiting objectively works better than the alternative.

        Incels have nothing to do with waiting until marriage.
        It’s in the name. Incels WANT to have sex for its own sake, but feel unable to.
        How you can possibly confuse men who value monogamy, who want to get married before they have sex, with self-identified “involuntary celibates” who constantly do things like endorsing prostitution and say that marriage is a scam, is beyond comprehension.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          U understand what you are saying, but there is another side of this waiting till marriage, supposedly happily ever after fantasy you have. I've witness this with three of my friends. They never liver together or shared a bed before marriage. One had been with her husband three years prior to her marriage. I will call her E. E moved away from her home and moved into her husband home who I will call G. G and E were not compatible, there were problems from day 1, she was thrown into a hostile environment with her family telling her that she had to make this marriage work. For 5 years she watched the man she loved turn into a verbally and physically abusive controlling butthole. None of this came out in the 3 years they were together prior to ther union. They never lived together so how could it. I won't even bring up the honeymoon, but I can promise you, its something she wishes she could forget. 2nd friend, I will call her T, married a man,I will call J after a year of dating. They were both in love and so happy, everyone thought it would work. They moved in together, there were no problems at first besides both of hem saying the sex was bad... after living together for a year they both started to despise each others bad habits. They are sill together, both Christians, but they both cheat on eachother. Our friends group thinks this is historical because they will both tell us about thier side peices as if he or she is the only one cheating. They will probably stay together, but truth is, they aren't happy with eachother. They all would have figured this out if they all had not been brainwashed into thinking the garbage (no offense) that you just spewed.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            All relationships entail some level of risk, sadly.
            No method is foolproof, not even waiting, because people are flawed. But waiting is demonstrably better than anything else. That’s no more or less than what I claimed before: I didn’t say that it guaranteed eternal bliss. Only that it’s better for the happiness and stability of marriages, because it factually is. Cases like the ones you cite are more likely among those who don’t wait (and ironically, there is a ‘cohabitation effect’, which I encourage you to look up, that links living together before marriage with HIGHER risk of divorce—at best, living together before marriage had no effect).

            Refusing to wait because of the anecdotal evidence that bad things can still happen while waiting is like adding in 2 extra bullets to Russian roulette because some people lose with only one chamber loaded.
            That’s completely irrational, with no basis in either reason or evidence.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            statistically you are correct.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            If you want a lasting relationship then yes her previous fidelity to herself is important.

            What did either of those have to do with anything? did you forget to make the point?
            tards gonna tard I guess.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I get this is b8. But for anyone curious just search "virginity and divorce." You'll find information on actual scientific studies, not just anecdotes.

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Very important. A non-virgin is unfit for marriage.

    But then again, what are the odds some dude will wife you up anyway in this day and age?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      So a normal goober i just wanna dare wouldn’t care?

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Do you want your marriage to last?
      Save it until marriage.
      If you just don't give a shit and are fine with being a divorced mother then go for it.
      You can find a good man even if you aren't a virgin but you'll raise you likelihood of divorce significantly.

      What good is marriage if it requires someone to remain ignorant to make work? Because that's what you're saying, the girl needs to remain ignorant of what good sex is really like, and not have any partners besides your sorry asses.

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Do you want your marriage to last?
    Save it until marriage.
    If you just don't give a shit and are fine with being a divorced mother then go for it.
    You can find a good man even if you aren't a virgin but you'll raise you likelihood of divorce significantly.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Damn ty tho :,)

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      You've got to be like 10 right? Because you are an idiot for sure.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      You've got to be like 10 right? Because you are an idiot for sure.

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    it doesnt matter to me but that's only because im a male virgin and women virgins are waaaaaaaaaaaay out of my league

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      So woman virgin good and man virgin bad so i should keep it?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        pretty much

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      The pussy feels the same, virgin or not. A girl could tell you she was a virgin and not be, and I promise you'd never know.

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    if you want a dedicated husband, then id very strongly recommend abstaining until you find a guy who you actually want to stay with. if you're attractive, then you could get an extremely rich / attractive husband this way. alternatively if you don't care about that, and you just want to fw guys / are ugly then do whatever tf you want.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      A dedicated husband, you are so naive! Any real man wouldn't care, it's only ya'll insecure shits that care. Also, being a virgin won't help you find a rich attractive husband. What are you, like 10?

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        You've got to be like 10 right? Because you are an idiot for sure.

        You've got to be like 10 right? Because you are an idiot for sure.

        bait or moron?

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Fingering, blowjobs, anal still counts.

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    save it for the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with

    it's a big positive for me, but men take anything they can get in this day and age so you'll be fine regardless

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      incel loser

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    People act like it’s some huge deal here or something, it doesn’t actually matter, just wear protection

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    On here it's a big deal, in real life not so much. Some people will always be bothered by it, but there will be plenty of people who won't. I would say wait at this point though, if you cried last time you tried you need to be with someone who understands you, otherwise you're just setting yourself up for a shitty situation. Some guys aren't going to stop just because you're crying. If you lose your virginity in a relationship even if the relationship ends you won't be left with anywhere near the regret you'll have if you lose it to some rando.

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >women not being virgins increases likelihood of divorce
    >women initiate most divorces
    What's the incel reasoning on this one? You complain about both.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I don't know, but this is the dumbest comment I've seen on NSFFW today.

  11. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Nobody actually cares that much. It's not about how many men you sleep with, but developing a reputation as a prostitute means you probably lack tact and social grace.

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    This thread is full of a lot of bullshit, but it's mostly due to misguidance. I think what needs to be understood is the intimacy of sex. It's a dilemma of moderation and meaning. If you have sex recklessly with anyone you are conditioning the meaning of it out of you. It's somewhat comparable to what forcefully occurs to victims of certain traumas and sexual abuse, except slow and deliberately. Everything is a choice and it's up to the individual to hold any choices in this life as sacred. The more you sleep around and devalue the personal experience of it, the less it will mean to you and each subsequent partner.

    In short, you should make love with someone you care about and involve that individual into it if you want it to mean anything to you, and that's what men fear and judge women for. The ones looking for commitment, anyways, and that's the social dilemma with sex in the modern age. It used to strictly mean something because society held that moral value. Now days it's a free for all, and it's bad for everyone, but at the end of the day, it's an individual choice, and it will have consequences, whatever it is.

  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    The real issue is that women give their virginities to Chad and Tyrone with no effort on their part but then demand an average guy take them out to an expensive dinner only to not even frick him

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      U haven't got a clue what you are talking about. A woman either likes you or she doesn't. It doesn't matter how attractive they guy is, he could look like brad Pitt, but if he opens his mouth, and comes across as an idiot, any physical attraction that was once there will be gone in an instant. Real women that are worth the effort wont give a flying frick what you look like, they will like you for your heart, your brain, and your personality. While young women might tend to lean toward the cute guys, after seeing that the cute ones lack these things, they stop looking for men based off of their looks. It's called growing up. Works the same way for men. If an older man or women is only interested in you for your looks, they never grew up to realize that looks arent everything, avoid those people, they are not worth your time.

  14. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >How important is virginity in a woman to yall?
    The best thing you could possible do is get off of the internet and stop concerning yourself about what appeals to a bunch of teenage autistic sperglord incel losers. NSFFW boys are the last group of people you should worry about appealing to.

  15. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Having a previous partner is like going to jail. If done once, people can believe you had a singular lapse in judgement. Multiple times makes it seem like something is seriously wrong with you.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      So it seems like the answer is to never have sex with anyone ever. Its literally the only way to make sure you never have a previous partner. Thanks, anon. I think you've cracked the code.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Or you could only have sex with someone after you’ve committed to being with each other for life—that is, married. And you’d presumably make that commitment because both of you know each other well enough, and like each other enough, to be confident in the decision.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >Or you could only have sex with someone after you’ve committed to being with each other for life—that is, married
          Well that doesn't work either. Marriages fail. 50% of them to be exact. Its arguably worse in society's eyes to have an ex-wife/ex-husband as a previous partner than just someone you were dating. If having a previous partner is equivalent to a "lapse in judgement" then it seems like the only option is to never have sex with anyone in your life. Its the only way to make sure.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            There’s a significantly lower risk of divorce for those who wait until marriage.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            I'm just following your chain of logic, anon. The only way to never have a previous partner is to never have sex. Once you have a previous partner then you've had a "lapse in judgement", even if you waited until marriage. Also, I'm curious about these statistics. I know that people who wait till marriage to have sex get divorced less but is the divorce rate lower BECAUSE they waited to have sex or is it lower because people who wait until marriage to have sex are typically religious and divorce is prohibited in most western religions?

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >The only way to never have a previous partner is to never have sex
            Well, yes, but the previous partner is seen as important in reference to the current one. If the most important thing for you is to never get divorced or have an ex, then sure, never getting into a relationship is best. But if your goal is to be happily married, you have to take some risk; it’s just that waiting until marriage is the minimum amount of risk to that ideal.

            The lower divorce rate is after controlling for religion. Also, those who wait ALSO have happier marriages, even with the same controls.
            If waiting was just because of religious people refusing to divorce, you’d expect the opposite. If miserable couples normally divorce, but religious/waiting couples are relevant to divorce, wouldn’t you expect more miserable couples to stay married?
            Yet, that doesn’t happen. Those who wait are *happier*, too.

            >Gee, it’s almost like I don’t want to cheapen intimacy or other people by treating them as replaceable.
            How is intimacy cheapened by having sex in a committed relationship? I don't get it.

            Dating isn’t commitment, by design. The entire point is that you can evaluate a potential spouse without being stuck to the first person you consider.
            Being able to leave at any time, for any reason, with no consequences, isn’t commitment.
            The feeling of commitment, or wanting to stay together, is a necessary part of a healthy relationship. But it’s subjective and insufficient. The commitment of marriage is an objective standard that carries enforceable protections.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I’d like to add that lots of people won’t give you a ‘second chance’.
      Crimes only have to be committed once to label you by then. Killing a person ‘just once’ is still enough to be called a murderer. Stealing a car ‘just once’ is still enough to be called a thief.

  16. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    do what you want to do. There is no value in limiting yourself. If you are afraid to have sex or it hurts, that is one thing. If the only thing stopping you is this weird concept of virginity, then let go of that.

    Live life! Learn new things and experience stuff

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      There’s a big difference between following one’s impulses and following one’s principles, though. Acting impulsively can and often does ruin people’s ability to realize their ideals, and also leads them to act contrary to their values (or to become valueless themselves).
      She shouldn’t just ask whether she wants to do something on the moment, but also what she wants out of life, and whether a given action will help or hinder her wider goals.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        what are you, a Christian nut?

        Virginity is a made up concept. It is used to control people and create shame around sex.

        Do men ever talk about saving their virginity? Hell no! You want to lose it as fast as possible.

        Having sex with someone you love is an amazing experience, and eye-opening too. If you find the right person, go for it.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          I’m not religious, and I am a man. That you think it’s only possible to care about monogamy by being a ‘Christian nut’ says far more about you than it does about the standard.

          >Having sex with someone you love is an amazing experience
          Gee, it’s almost like I don’t want to cheapen intimacy or other people by treating them as replaceable.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Gee, it’s almost like I don’t want to cheapen intimacy or other people by treating them as replaceable.
            How is intimacy cheapened by having sex in a committed relationship? I don't get it.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            having sex with someone before you are married isn't a breach of your ideals, nor is it treating someone as replaceable.

            I realize I did jump the gun with you, was reading too much BS in this thread.

            What IS dangerous is rushing into marriage so you can have sex. You might find you do not like the person after having sex. It happens. You should understand your partner sexually before committing to a marriage.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >having sex with someone before you are married isn't a breach of your ideals, nor is it treating someone as replaceable.
            Both are objectively false.
            Having sex outside of a lifelong commitment, by definition, is accepting the legitimacy (and almost always the possibility) of having other partners in the same conditions. And obviously, if you’re okay with that, you think of intimacy as neither exclusive nor necessarily lasting.

            >What IS dangerous is rushing into marriage so you can have sex.
            True!
            But this is the same type of error as putting “sexual compatibility” ahead of commitment in priority. Both elevate sex above and before commitment, and both are objectively to the detriment of marriage.
            Almost every conceivable problem with sexual ‘compatibility’ (itself barely cracking the list in reasons for divorce, not even close to money problems and infidelity) can be resolved just as well—and often better—through waiting and good communication than by having sex first and asking questions later.
            Big difference in libidos? Someone with a very high libido is unlikely to be willing and able to wait. Very quickly resolved.
            Compare this with the sad cliche of couples having sex a ton at the start of a relationship, the sex slowing down over time, and the higher libido partner getting frustrated and cheating/leaving anyway, with months or even years down the drain.
            Disgusting fetish? Not only is this much more common among those with high sex drives, but even fetishists themselves stress how important it is to communicate before traumatizing an unwilling partner. Again, no sex required.
            Actual deformity? Not only is this exceedingly rare,

            The only reason to ‘test’ sex, then, is if someone is so deathly afraid of incompatibility that they think it’s worse than either divorce or an unhappy marriage, and if they think immediate sex is a requirement.

            Fun fact! Among those who wait until marriage, even sexual satisfaction is higher!

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            This anon didn't mention the fact that it is extremely likely men will use you for sex if you have sex before marriage as a woman.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            I did mention that before. I wouldn’t say extremely likely per se (though the earlier and more often one has sex, the likelier it is to happen), but the fact is that having sex without commitment makes it far easier for others to use you.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            you must be young, or otherwise inexperienced.

            >Having sex outside of a lifelong commitment, by definition accepting the legitimacy (and almost always the possibility) of having other partners in the same conditions.

            Yeah man.. this happens. Life fricks you up sometimes. Sometimes the person you thought was "the one" turns out not to be. Sometimes you get yourself into a relationship that isn't right, and you don't know enough about yourself (nor respect yourself) enough to leave until it is too late.

            Relationships, and especially marriages, aren't magic. Sometimes you can't communicate. Sometimes you fricking hate each other. To realize that you have "saved" yourself for years only to find that it was all a sham and a mistake is, well, avoidable.

            LIVE WHILE YOU ARE YOUNG! You have an entire adult life to worry and regret, but you are only young and surrounded by fellow youth once.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            That marriages aren’t guaranteed bliss isn’t an excuse to abandon the ideal before even trying. Not waiting until marriage is an abandonment of the ideal. It not only makes lifelong monogamy far less likely, but it only adds risk to marriage. More divorce. Lower happiness. Even lower sexual satisfaction. Someone who thinks that’s a good trade is either pathologically insane or has diametrically opposed values to mine. Either way, I want no part of it.

            I don’t judge a woman for divorcing an abusive, adulterous, or neglectful (as in, abandoned the family or ignored her for months) spouse. But I would judge her for either having sex outside of marriage or for knowingly picking such a guy in the hopes that he would change. The former is her reacting to an intolerable situation, despite sharing my values and having done everything right (i.e. waiting until marriage because she wanted to be monogamous). It’s not her fault that the guy failed to respect her or his commitment to her; he destroyed the ideal, not her.
            But someone who gives up before starting, who has sex outside of marriage? They destroyed that ideal themselves.

            Also, while I wouldn’t judge a woman who justifiably divorced as above, I almost certainly wouldn’t date her. She literally can’t offer one of the essential things I want out of marriage, which is true exclusivity. Part of why those faults of her husband are so heinous is because they deprive her of that ideal against her will.
            By the same token, if I got married and had to divorce a woman who betrayed the marriage, I wouldn’t want to or expect to remarry.

            I especially wouldn’t want to remarry if my wife died. At least I can understand someone trying to find a decent partner after an ex-spouse turned out to be awful. But replacing my loving wife? That devalues everything I had with her.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            you are indeed an extremist

            stop living in this bizarre moral world and start living a real life. Take risks and meet new people. Stop judging other people, and certainly stop judging yourself so harshly.

            Most importantly--it is okay to fail, and it is okay to make mistakes. People can make mistakes in love. Be forgiving.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            I don’t think having consistent moral standards is a bad thing. Call me what you want, but the fact is that when it comes to relationships, “extremists” are better off for it.

            > it is okay to make mistakes
            A mistake is something done out of ignorance or clumsiness. Not a deliberate choice to be immoral, as you suggest by saying that living in a “bizarre” (consistent and effective?) moral world is wrong.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          It's valuable, but not always a dealbreaker
          I'd rather have a girl who had slept with 1-2 boyfriends than a virgin who's a complete basket case to deal with
          Just don't get caught in the casual sex maelstrom

          Like how this person will worm their way into your brain with promises of holding hands and singing kumbayah after 20 bodies
          The bigger problem w losing virginity is is for some it allows your mind to be opened to more and more casual and disposable sex
          Girls with high bodycounts will get married, but they're imperceptibly diminishing the quality of both their relationships and long term options in the process, it's just reality that if you have a lot of bodies / crazy experiences in the rear view mirror, your husband will have that image in his mind, and it will ever so slightly intensify every argument you ever have in the relationship, even if he doesn't think it's affecting him and insists it's fine
          Best of luck, there are good men out there, just few and far between.

  17. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Having sex isn't going to bring down your value as a woman or as a human being, but since you're already a virgin you should just save it for someone you love. Don't just go out and frick the first guy you see because being a bawd is an actual problem and something any decent guy would avoid.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      So much bawd shaming in this thread... nobody ever says these things about guys.

      You can have as much sex as you want. Especially when you are out of school and the judgements of other people stop mattering. Seriously, when you are grown up and living alone nobody gives a frick what you do or have done anymore.

      The guilt should never stem from the sex. If you find you are using and discarding people and hurting a lot of people, THEN you need to evaluate yourself.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        bawds are gross and men that have sex with bawds are gross. Promiscuity never made anyone's life better. Any denial of this is a cope. No man wants to marry a bawd and no woman wants to marry a promiscuous man. 10/10 bait.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Well I do think the same about guys, it's not cool to be a male or female bawd.

        But I think bawd was the wrong word to use in my post. If she fricked some random guy, it's not a big deal and that doesn't make you a full blown bawd and also wouldn't bring down her "value" as a person at all. I just think personally, she shouldn't be in a rush to lose it to some guy and instead find someone she loves and has a connection with. That to me is more valuable than staying a virgin for the sake of it.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          ^^ no need to throw away virginity for the sake of it, find someone who makes you comfortable. Lots of bad men in the world, find someone that you legitimately want to have sex with.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          It is a huge deal to have casual sex. Plenty of guys who don’t even care that much about virginity will have a problem with that.

          There are several separate but somewhat related concerns here, which I think you should disentangle and address:
          1. What you or OP personally think *should* be the case, like others not judging your past.
          2. What others actually do—which isn’t necessarily what you or OP would want. People absolutely do judge behavior, and the general tendency among men who want relationships is to negatively view any promiscuity.
          3. What the specific demographic you’re interested in tends to do. If OP just wants a hookup, sure, her past behavior won’t matter that much if at all to a guy she’s hooking up with. But if she wants marriage, it is precisely the guys who value marriage the most who will be most disgusted by any sort of past, with it getting worse the more promiscuous that past is.
          4. What factually does matter, not to people themselves but to what you/OP want for yourselves.
          Regardless of people’s feelings on propriety, having a sexual past (especially an extensive or colorful one) simply harms people’s ability to form deep and lasting connections. For that reason alone, it’s a big deal, even if you and everyone around you agrees that it shouldn’t matter in terms of morals. Actions have consequences.

          All of this is to say: OP should ask herself what she wants out of life, what she wants in a guy, what such a guy would want, and whether her actions fit with all of those.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      It’s not sex itself but the circumstances surrounding it. Of course sex isn’t intrinsically degrading. Why would I want to wait until marriage if I thought that? Why would I want to specifically degrade the one woman I love most?

      But that doesn’t mean all sex is legitimate or beyond moral concern. It’s an act at the heart of creating a family, the deepest expression of closeness between a man and a woman. Someone who treats such closeness lightly, who throws caution to the wind, absolutely is doing themselves a disservice. And yes, how they behave in their relationships with others does reflect on their character.

      So much bawd shaming in this thread... nobody ever says these things about guys.

      You can have as much sex as you want. Especially when you are out of school and the judgements of other people stop mattering. Seriously, when you are grown up and living alone nobody gives a frick what you do or have done anymore.

      The guilt should never stem from the sex. If you find you are using and discarding people and hurting a lot of people, THEN you need to evaluate yourself.

      I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: it’s wrong for men, too. I’ve already said ITT that, as a man, I’m waiting until marriage.
      I repeatedly tell men—typically incels—that the immorality of others isn’t an excuse to be immoral oneself.

  18. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I'm a virgin I wouldn't date a non-virgin.

  19. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Anyone using "incel" ITT is either a bitter angry female with a bodycount who can't reverse time, or a male baiting. Don't get it twisted, new anons.

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