How often do men in long-term relationships wind up having very little or no sex?

How often do men in long-term relationships wind up having very little or no sex? I see a lot of guys complaining about this, and I'm not sure if they try everything they can to put their girlfriend in a sexy mood, or if nothing works because she just doesn't want to have sex at all for whatever reason. I want to know what I'm getting myself into since I have a strong sex drive and don't want to cheat on her if sex becomes unavailable. But I also don't want to put pressure on her if she's not in the mood. I have to make an informed choice since sex it's pretty important to me (lol?).

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  1. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Very very often unless you marry a nympho, but then you’ll have a difference set of problems to worry about. Is she very sexual as she is now? What’s the sex like? Is she in shape and exercises? Does she have a healthy lifestyle and good mental health? These are all decent indicators. More than likely, you’ll hit a dry spell with her and might not have sex for awhile. If you’re thinking you might cheat in that case, that sucks and that’s scummy.

    That being said, I’ve been in a LTR and at a point we were only having sex maybe once every one or two weeks, and that lasted for a few months. You bet your ass I cheated. Gotta keep the rhythm below the belt. I don’t recommend cheating tho

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      I just met her and probably will have sex very soon. But she looks very promising to me. Fit and bubbly personality.
      Why do you think the sex became less often for you? Or not as often as you wanted (or as it was at the beginning of the relationship)

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        A few reasons:
        Not as exciting after 7 years of being together. I think a big reason was hormonal changes after she had our son.
        How old are you?

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          But did you try to make it more exciting? Are you creative enough in that space? Was your communication good in general? What about foreplay? What about kinky stuff? There's so many things to do.
          (I'm 33 and she's 28)

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Yea I’m creative in that sense. The communication was good and could’ve been better, foreplay and kinky stuff yes and we were pretty liberal in exploring kinks.

            I think

            >if they try everything they can to put their girlfriend in a sexy mood, or if nothing works because she just doesn't want to have sex at all for whatever reason
            "Whatever reason" is men not being attractive, simple as.
            1. The woman might've settled for him form the beginning and just stopped pretending she wants to be fricked by him.
            2. The woman initially liked man a lot but the man has let himself go and stopped being attractive physically or as a Man (by acting a certain way, e.g. like a coward, people pleaser, etc.)
            3. Woman has found someone more attractive (not your fault).

            >don't want to cheat on her if sex becomes unavailable
            It's simple, it's only cheating if you and your gf/wife have sex. If you don't she's no longer your primary exclusive sex partner. So there's no cheating. But one should definitely break up anyway.

            >But I also don't want to put pressure on her if she's not in the mood
            Generally speaking as long as you both are healthy and sexy you'll be in the mood.
            A lot of people neglect their health and sexuality however, so it's not surprising sex becomes a chore.

            made a lot of good points, specifically 1-3 and that last paragraph. My ex started to let herself go physically and mentally, and it messed with her sex drive along with other aspects of her personality. When that goes unchecked long enough, it gets rough and harder to reverse/fix.

            If you want to keep your chances high of having a good sex life, be healthy mentally and physically and make sure she is too. If she’s a good woman, it’ll work out.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >cheated
      >giving relationship advice
      into the trash you go

  2. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >if they try everything they can to put their girlfriend in a sexy mood, or if nothing works because she just doesn't want to have sex at all for whatever reason
    "Whatever reason" is men not being attractive, simple as.
    1. The woman might've settled for him form the beginning and just stopped pretending she wants to be fricked by him.
    2. The woman initially liked man a lot but the man has let himself go and stopped being attractive physically or as a Man (by acting a certain way, e.g. like a coward, people pleaser, etc.)
    3. Woman has found someone more attractive (not your fault).

    >don't want to cheat on her if sex becomes unavailable
    It's simple, it's only cheating if you and your gf/wife have sex. If you don't she's no longer your primary exclusive sex partner. So there's no cheating. But one should definitely break up anyway.

    >But I also don't want to put pressure on her if she's not in the mood
    Generally speaking as long as you both are healthy and sexy you'll be in the mood.
    A lot of people neglect their health and sexuality however, so it's not surprising sex becomes a chore.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Is your stance that the woman shouldn't be responsible for initiating sex or having good sex? I know that the man has a larger portion of that responsibility, but I still feel the woman should do an effort to somewhat match your sexual drive, not all the time of course, but if she's still into you it seems reasonable to want to have regular sex with your partner? Does it really only become a problem after having children?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        It's not really about responsibility. It's kind of wrong to think about sex life as something you need to put "in order" like it's a home improvement project.

        If you, as a man, want to have a lot of sex, your primary focus should be on becoming as attractive as possible, and reap the rewards.

        It's not about discussing the reaping with the reward.

        So if you want your gf/wife (please stop calling women partners) to be enthusiastic about having sex with you, you should continue attracting other women in a way that's obvious to your woman. A jealous enough woman will do all the work to make the sex happen.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          cont.
          Rather than lusting over looks exclusively like men do, women are more attracted to the status, the idea of their man, and the amount of other women jealous of her.

          They're kind of neurotic in a sense, and one can fight it and be irritated by it, or can use it to one's advantage.

          [...]
          Do you think the main reason for the diminished sex in a relationship is women letting themselves go once they are sure they locked you in?

          >women letting themselves go once they are sure they locked you in
          Yes. That's why one should avoid marriage, or even being a married man continue to act nonchalant and confident in his ability to get other women, flirt and chat with them etc.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >A jealous enough woman will do all the work to make the sex happen.
          It just seems very disingenuous to me. I guess I have some kind of "fairy tale" notion of what love is supposed to be, that we should work to make ourselves more attractive to our partner just because we love them and we agreed to be with them, and not because of jealousy. But maybe that's not how real life and relationships with women work.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            As the Rick and Morty gay said earlier. Love isn't actually real. The ultimate goal is reproduction. No one truly gives a shit about people the way you think they do. Please come back when you've graduated middle school

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Don't listen to these jaded fricks. My wife loves me unconditionally. I could lose my job and mooch off her and she'd stay with me.
            I love her too, but not as much.
            I can't speak for today's modern women (I'm 35 married to 32, so older) though - I think the current generations are fricking lost.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            This made me feel warm inside. Can you tell me more nice things about you and your wife?

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Sure, we've been together for 13 ish years. We only got married once we hit the 10 year mark though, so it was a long time coming. We've had our ups and downs but neither of us have ever strayed (as far as I know and believe), and we make it work. It's not a fairy tale but I hope that helps. Communication is super important but I was raised to be manly and she was raised very submissive so we're both not great at it. It's often easier to talk to random strangers on here than her which is an incredibly weird phenomenon. Sorry, that probably was not the direction you wanted so here's some happier parts: she loves cooking food for me; she loves when I do chores for her but doesn't expect me to (like shoveling snow, I don't need to for my work but she needs it so I'll do it when I can and she's super appreciative); and she loves it when I'm happy.

            Most men would not believe or find it difficult to understand how much self worth women derive from being seen as sexy and desirable.

            It's just something you learn after being with a woman for so long. When I make my wife feel super hot and sexy, she soaks right through her clothes. When she doesn't feel hot and sexy, she's not in the mood. Really, it comes down to the cues I give her. She could be sick and coughing and still get horny enough to want to suck me off if I put in the effort.
            Men aren't all that different though - I feel good about myself when she initiates sex or crawls under the blanket in the middle of the night. The biggest difference is I want to frick even when I'm not horny or feeling sexy.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Yea I’m creative in that sense. The communication was good and could’ve been better, foreplay and kinky stuff yes and we were pretty liberal in exploring kinks.

      I think [...] made a lot of good points, specifically 1-3 and that last paragraph. My ex started to let herself go physically and mentally, and it messed with her sex drive along with other aspects of her personality. When that goes unchecked long enough, it gets rough and harder to reverse/fix.

      If you want to keep your chances high of having a good sex life, be healthy mentally and physically and make sure she is too. If she’s a good woman, it’ll work out.

      Do you think the main reason for the diminished sex in a relationship is women letting themselves go once they are sure they locked you in?

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >iked man a lot but the man has let himself go and stopped being attractive physically or as a Man (by acting a certain way, e.g. like a coward, people pleaser, etc.)
      I don't know why you fake Casanovas always forget this important detail, but the guy treating her badly can also ruin the relationship too

      t. Mom and dad hate each other because Dad is an arrogant ass to her and his own coworkers/friends (to be fair she's a mentally ill cry baby but that's besides the point. I hate being around them anyway)

      All that success and charm and looks don't matter as much (or they get heavily diminished in her eyes) when you make her feel horrible.

      Remember: treat her well but don't be a spineless pushover.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >t. Mom and dad hate each other because Dad is an arrogant ass to her and his own coworkers/friends (to be fair she's a mentally ill cry baby but that's besides the point. I hate being around them anyway

        hmm maybe they deserve each other? What do you mean by her being mentally ill?

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >Starts fricking arguments over minor inconveniences or misunderstandings all the fricking time (that happened this morning as a matter of fact)
          >Huge but fragile ego, always has to be right
          >Emotionally abusive whenever someone make her mad but cries like a b***h when you grow a spine and tell her to frick off with her nonsense
          >Wants praise and appreciation constantly (cried because Dad didn't grovel at her feet with thanks after receiving his father's day gift)
          >Makes fun of me for being a virgin and no gf (that isn't contained to only online conversation, that happened to real life you dumb sheltered normies) while also being a used baby mama that had me out of wed lock (married my current dad out of convince)

          She has destroyed my ability to feel empathy for most people. I don't not love her in the slightest, she's a fat pig I have to live with that happens to be my legal guardian. She's not "mom" she "moron I have to pretend I like until I move out).

          Dad has his flaws too but he's an angel compared to her. If she were to die soon I'd have to learn how to fake tears or something because she's just that annoying to be around. The best part is that she can tell on visibly irritated at her presence but she's not going to do what damn thing to actually change her bad habits. Piece of shit.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            >starts arguments over minor inconveniences
            I feel like this is a lot of women though not just mentally ill ones?

            >Emotionally abusive whenever someone make her mad but cries like a b***h when you grow a spine and tell her to frick off with her nonsense
            >Wants praise and appreciation constantly (cried because Dad didn't grovel at her feet with thanks after receiving his father's day gift
            Again this feels like a lot of women except for her also being emotionally abusive towards her family. That does indicate a personality disorder.

            >Makes fun of me for being a virgin and no gf (that isn't contained to only online conversation, that happened to real life you dumb sheltered normies) while also being a used baby mama that had me out of wed lock (married my current dad out of convince)
            Are you sure that wasn't jokingly? And you aren't overthinking stuff and scapegoating your personal frustrations or misanthropy unto her? I'm not accusing you I'm just asking. Food for thought?

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            No, moron. She only says that when she's in a bad mood. Unlike you I've lived with her for over 20 years so I know pretty damn well looks a joke and what isn't what interacting with her. Almost seems like you're the same person if you're trying so hard to defend her.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            >I feel like this is a lot of women though not just mentally ill ones?
            They are all mentaly ill.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >It's all mens fault
      Like pottery. Why cant people just admit that women are wrong for depriving men of sex?

  3. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    First of all you make it clear that a dead bedroom leads inevitably to end of a relationship, and that you will not abstain from having a sex life. Obviously there is a gentle way of phrasing this and you're not going to throw a tantrum over a dry spell after a pregnancy etc. but she needs to understand the principle. Monogamy means one you have one sex partner, not one special roommate who prevents you from having a sex partner.

    What you both need to understand is that "in the mood" is a thing that only happens when you are young and have time to kill, and not a whole lot of problems. Don't expect horniness as a gift from the universe to drive your sex life forever. Get in bed together because you love each other, kiss because you love each other, touch because you love each other, and let this be what turns you on. If you wait until one of you is in the mood, eventually you will fall out of sync and end up in a dead bedroom. Go to bed not with sex on your mind, but with your love for each other on your mind. That is something you can do almost every night. Keep that in mind, and with a little luck you will never have to say the nasty shit up in the first paragraph.

  4. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    The vast majority of men can't make woman orgasm. If the whole thing lasts 5 minutes and she doesn't feel anything of course she's gonna get tired of it because it will be just a chore.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Is that really true? Why would it be so hard to make a woman orgasm?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Not making her aroused enough
        Not enough foreplay
        Not a good sex position
        Not using the right technique
        Not lasting long enough

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Why do neither men or women just communicate tell each other what they want and what they like? And why don't we just improve ourselves through other's experience that we can easily find online? Are we all stupid? Oh right, we are

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            You're replying to someone that has probably had 1-2 sexual encounters and thinks HuffPo is good relationship advice

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Exposing you actual goal at a negotiation puts yourself at a disadvantage.

            The prisoners dilemma forces everyone into a worse position.
            It's not the only way to be, just the inevitable way.

            Don't be naive.

            Also as wonen are unarticulated children, they don't really have the capacity to know what they want or need, even internaly. They follow thier emotions and irrational whims and change thier mind all the time, which doesnt work when negotiating about some longterm arrangement.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            I've met some incredibly smart and thoughtful and all around amazing women so I am still hopeful. I wish the same for you. Those women who seem more "childish" are simply extremely feminine and whimsical and require strong direction. You have to learn how much femininity you can tolerate.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            >You have to learn how much femininity you can tolerate.
            Bro I love hyperfeminine women. They're the ones I usually go for. Tolerate? Man it's a treat

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            What is feminine and hyperfeminine to you?

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Girly, bubbly, emotional, creative, completely present, flaunting her body, social butterfly types. You can sense it, it kinda radiates from them, an energy of acceptance, embrace. I do best with those types. It's like a magnet

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            I agree except for
            >completely present
            That's a deeply spiritual principle and the feminine doesn't have agency over it. What do you really mean?

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Well, I practice full presence daily, so I recognize it when I see it. In my experience, being connected to your emotions, which do run full time in the present, draws one to the present. while they aren't the same thing, they are adjacent. Dunno if she's already there or if I draw it out of her, I can pull a girl out of her head and here with me if needed. But the feminines I speak of tend to be there already

  5. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's hard to keep the passion alive with just one woman. I think that cheating should be allowed under certain restrictions

  6. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    >How often do men in long-term relationships wind up having very little or no sex?
    From personal experience?
    Not very often.
    I think it is one of those things that is rare but the people who it happens to talk about it a lot so it seems common

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      What do you mean by your experience? Listening to your parents frick?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Being a married man for more than 20 years with a broad circle of married friends also married more than 20 years.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Let's hear about it then. That little joke was my way of prodding you into telling us more about your experience and what are the right things to do

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            The same skills required to have a relationship that lasts more than 4-5 years are, oddly enough, the same skills that lead to an ongoing sex life.
            The real simple basics are
            A) No one can read minds. Are you upset about something? Guess what? No one knows unless you tell people. No, wandering around being gloomy or fake cheerful or looking sad is not telling someone how you feel or what you are upset about.
            This ALSO means you have no idea what someone else is feeling unless you ask. Are they mopey or grumpy or looking sad? You have no idea why until you ask.
            Successful relationships demand clear communication about feelings, reactions, hopes, etc.
            B) successfully living with another person requires compromise. You want to go to the beach, she wants to go skiing, you figure out 'mountains this year, beach next year' not 'I'll hold my breath until I get what I want'. To get an acceptable amount of what you want and need you must give an acceptable amount of what they want and need. This counts for damn near everything.
            C) You must value the other person in your marriage at least as much as you value yourself. No, no one is perfect. No, this doesn't mean ignore faults in them. No, this does not mean think badly about yourself. The only reason to BE IN a long term relationship/marriage is because you really, really do like the other person a very great deal. This is something that will allow you to realize that not only are the small sacrifices you are making worth it but reinforce they are also making similar sacrifices for you.
            D) you must both WANT to be and stay together, actively as an act of the will. People grow and change and unless you WANT to grow and change together you will grow apart. So you staying together is a conscious act of will, one that is very rewarding.

            MORE

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            continued
            If you aren't doing those things you aren't going to get to the point where your sex life is dropping off because of whatever.
            If you ARE the the discussions like
            >"The frequency of sex is down and I need more.:
            or
            >"I'm not really enjoying the sex as much and want some changes"
            or
            >"I understand you are having health issues right now that prevent sex for a while, I need something to replace that closeness as you heal"
            aren't just possible, they're natural and good.
            When my friends the [Smiths] had the wife go into perimenopause
            >Look it up kids
            the hormonal changes meant she has zero libido and literally couldn't orgasm for a while something like 2 years.
            They talked it out as a couple and were able to continue their sex life anyway with compromise and practicality and once through it she was back to wanting and enjoying sex again with no bad experiences.
            We know about it because the [Smiths} are the oldest in our circle of friends and they warned us about the challenges of perimenopause, etc.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            continued
            If you aren't doing those things you aren't going to get to the point where your sex life is dropping off because of whatever.
            If you ARE the the discussions like
            >"The frequency of sex is down and I need more.:
            or
            >"I'm not really enjoying the sex as much and want some changes"
            or
            >"I understand you are having health issues right now that prevent sex for a while, I need something to replace that closeness as you heal"
            aren't just possible, they're natural and good.
            When my friends the [Smiths] had the wife go into perimenopause
            >Look it up kids
            the hormonal changes meant she has zero libido and literally couldn't orgasm for a while something like 2 years.
            They talked it out as a couple and were able to continue their sex life anyway with compromise and practicality and once through it she was back to wanting and enjoying sex again with no bad experiences.
            We know about it because the [Smiths} are the oldest in our circle of friends and they warned us about the challenges of perimenopause, etc.

            Thank you

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            continued
            If you aren't doing those things you aren't going to get to the point where your sex life is dropping off because of whatever.
            If you ARE the the discussions like
            >"The frequency of sex is down and I need more.:
            or
            >"I'm not really enjoying the sex as much and want some changes"
            or
            >"I understand you are having health issues right now that prevent sex for a while, I need something to replace that closeness as you heal"
            aren't just possible, they're natural and good.
            When my friends the [Smiths] had the wife go into perimenopause
            >Look it up kids
            the hormonal changes meant she has zero libido and literally couldn't orgasm for a while something like 2 years.
            They talked it out as a couple and were able to continue their sex life anyway with compromise and practicality and once through it she was back to wanting and enjoying sex again with no bad experiences.
            We know about it because the [Smiths} are the oldest in our circle of friends and they warned us about the challenges of perimenopause, etc.

            Wait?
            Someone posted actual ADVICE on /adv/?!?!?!

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            It was so tiresome, but then light shone once more

  7. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Know this:

    ALL single guys lie about how much sex they're getting.
    ALL married guys lie about how little sex they're getting.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >t. KHHV incel

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >ALL married guys lie about how little sex they're getting.
      How come?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        It's a kind of one-upsmanship. They can't brag about getting a lot, because that would be calling their wives a bawd, so they top each other in being sufferers

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Are you legitimately moronic?

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Jesus christ man, you know this is an anonymous image board. If you say some dumb bullshit, like that, you don't have to double down, you could just not respond.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous
  8. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I read that 80% of women at least occasionally fake orgasms, so I imagine there is some correlation

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      I always thought that faking orgasms is so self-deprecating for any woman. I guess it happens more in situations where women feel they have to lock down a guy because it's necessary for their survival? Or they know the guy is narcissistic macho type so they have to bolster his ego by any means?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        I think youre way overthinking it. Like everyone, even you, will default to a path of least resistance over a very frequently repeated event.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          What's the path of least resistance supposed to be there?

  9. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Sex slows down in most relationships. But I wanna point something out here, common logical fallacy.

    >i see a lot of guys complaining like this.

    People dont go online and start threads to say "My job is adequate pays the bills and isnt too stressful". "My relationship is supportive and fulfilling." "My sex life is satisfying."
    No one does that. Yoyll only ever hear from people having a bad experience. If 10% of people have a bad experience, youre still 10% of the time gonna hear about bad experiences. Do not base decisions and expectations off complaints on the internet. It does not at all reflect reality.
    Its called survivorship bias.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >youre still 10% of the time gonna hear about bad experiences.
      That was meant to be 100% sorry.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      excellent posting, bravo

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >People dont go online and start threads to say "My job is adequate pays the bills and isnt too stressful". "My relationship is supportive and fulfilling." "My sex life is satisfying."

      Yes they absolutely do. It's called bragging and presenting yourself in a positive light, which is much more common on social media, except on a mongolian forum like this one where you're expected to be an anonymous butthole. It's so much of a common problem in fact that it's big cause for depression for people in the west, that's comparing yourself with all these people bragging online and comparing yourself with them.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Well no, a few people brag about extravagence, but as I said, people with normal average experiences (which are most people) arent posting about it. Maybe if I make something really good for dinner I might post it.
        I wont even consider posting "woke up at about 830am and went and made myself a k cup coffee and a pop tart for breakfast lol living the dream".
        So even with your input here, still comes full circle. Youll only see people posting their extremes. You dont see the 95% of the time its averate. So even in your example, it still stands: people "bragging" on the internet is not a representation of reality.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          Nope. Average people on social media mostly post things that are either neutral or going positive for them. Mostly. And that creates a systemic effect whereby everyone feels somehow inadequate relative to their social media exposure. This happens in real life too, but social media enables this to a much greater extent. And for normies, a fulfilling job and a satisfying sex life IS BRAGGING.

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >few

          homie you actually might be moronic. Have you not browsed on iG for .5 seconds? I guarantee you're the same kind of "tee hee everything's awesome" homie you claim isn't common

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >People dont go online and start threads to say "My job is adequate pays the bills and isnt too stressful". "My relationship is supportive and fulfilling." "My sex life is satisfying."

      I get the points you're trying to make and I appreciate you for that but what the actual frick kind of moronic statement is this? This is the shit that makes lonely does not want to take your advice because you say absolutely moronic shit like this without even thinking before you fricking type. You could have left this out and you both would have been fine but if course normal Black folk like you are so absent-minded when it comes to what it goes on in reality outside of your bubble

  10. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Very common. I am married for 11 years, together for 18. Married my high school sweetheart. We already had a low amount of sex when we started going out, I thought this was normal. Then we went for kids and her sex drive went nutty. We went from 2 times a month to every day and it was awesome. After every kid it died down again to once a month. Then once every two months. She still orgasms when we have sex and im better shape than she is (my wife is getting fatter now, the kids are all pretty old now and she has given up. Even changing job to a really good career she doesnt care about how she looks. She started a diet recently but only because the doctor warned her about health issues and she doesn’t want to die young. She still refuses to exercise though).

    Anyway it all fluctuated in recent years. Sometimes we have a good month and we are intimate 4 times a week. Sometimes, like now, its been 2 months because we were both sick. I also never get a bj or hj btw. She does realize I am attractive and usually throws me a pity frick when its been too long because she is afraid i will look elsewhere.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >(my wife is getting fatter now, the kids are all pretty old now and she has given up. Even changing job to a really good career she doesnt care about how she looks. She started a diet recently but only because the doctor warned her about health issues and she doesn’t want to die young. She still refuses to exercise though)
      You're luckier than me anyways. My wife was warned by the doctor multiple times and still refuses to change her diet and exercise and doesn't listen to me either. I'm at a loss

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Like when you get for marrying the fat ass. I guarantee she was slightly chubby when you turn that. This is why dude's here consider girls with a little meat on her bones fat (not the actual obese girls, just a not super skinny ones). They are way way way more likely to let themselves go after they trap you In marriage, especially after they have kids. My dick wouldn't mind marrying a chubby girl at all but my common sense says that's a bad idea (Go to be fair getting married in general seems a waste for all parties involved)

  11. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    For all the guys here complaining about "strong sex drives," I challenge you to go one month without porn or masturbation. One short month, can even be February. Stop going onto this website, stop exposing yourself to sexually explicit materials, just go without porn, masturbation, and orgasming in any way for one month.
    Guess what? At the end of the month you won't be dead. Blue balls, random boners? Gone in the first couple of weeks. If your body really needs relief you'll have a wet dream.
    Then maybe you'll realize sex isn't a personal amusement park, it's the way new life is generated and that it should be used for that purpose.

    Speaking from painful personal experience, any girl who is truly wife material, i.e. stable, resilient, a good life partner willing to take care of you when things are bad, etc., is absolutely not going to tolerate cheating. Especially if there aren't already kids or a formal marriage involved. She'll be gone. Even if it's with a hooker so "there's no emotions involved," she's not going to look at you the same way as before. So if you really can't stop yourself from cheating because you just have to coom, because you have no control over the urge, make sure you're prepared to say goodbye to the woman you were sharing your life with. Maybe it wasn't meant to be anyway, which in that case you should just break up.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Or alternatively they could just stop being homosexual tier Christ cucks and just jack off on their own whenever their horny and their wife isn't in the mood. This is just my own personal hypothesis that I feel like the dudes that are married and feel compelled to cheat are the same dudes that somehow think that masturbation is beneath them. The horniness and negative emotions associated with a disappear the moment you nut but because they're so full of themselves they "need" and feel entitled to the real thing.

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        >muh Christ cucks
        You're part of the problem.
        >The horniness and negative emotions associated with a disappear the moment you nut but because they're so full of themselves they "need" and feel entitled to the real thing.
        LMAO you sure have a poor understanding of how desensitization, escalation, and dopamine loops work, good thing your dumb ass qualified it being a "personal hypothesis" because it's so far removed from actual fricking reality

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >t. Christ cucks sex addict cheater

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          >t. Christ cucks sex addict cheater

          Please don't fight in this stupid way. Ok, fight because that's your entertainment I guess.

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous

            Meh, there's no point in engaging with someone who just wants to see people make bad choices and suffer. They have their own personal fricked up reasons for it I'm sure

          • 5 months ago
            Anonymous
    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      >Blue balls, random boners? Gone in the first couple of weeks.
      This is an absolute lie, I swore off porn last year and relapsed a fair few times but around November to now I managed to not jerk off at all and I'm CONSTANTLY horny. If I see a woman walking down the street in tight pants and see her ass bounce as she walks, I get a boner, if a woman sits near me and I think she's attractive, I get a boner. My balls ache every now and then too.

      Masturbation and porn are bad yes, but it seems going cold turkey doesn't automatically make you an unfeeling asexual like you seem to claim. I'm still not going to go back to watching porn though, because despite being hornier my life has improved a fair bit since I started to not consume it.

  12. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    I dunno, don't care either. They get shut down for sex because they're betas

  13. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    Been married for ~13 years now. We have sex whenever I want to. The problem is, I don't really want to have sex with my wife that often anymore. We both got older and are less fit than we were when we were young, and I'm still attracted to twenty something bimbos. So, in my case, it's not her fault at all. If I ask her for a blowjob she'll be on her knees in a few minutes (honestly sometimes a few hours, if shes busy) but she'll happily suck me off if I show interest. But yeah, it's kinda like jerking off now - been there, done that. My sex drive is still pretty high and we still frick frequently but I like jerking off just as much, and its way less effort.

    I actually imagine most cases of low sex relationships are like this: it's because the man loses lust/passion or whatever, doesn't treat his wife the same so she doesn't feel "sexy" - for women, that's like 90% of sex.

    Keeping the spark alive is the hardest part.

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      This is accurate and ive only been with mine for like 5 years. Once you live together and its available whenever instead of just the couple times a week when one of you stays over its easy to put aside or just crank one out in 5 min rather than spend an hour on it. You have to kinda actively pursue your partner to have a healthy sex life

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      Most men would not believe or find it difficult to understand how much self worth women derive from being seen as sexy and desirable.

  14. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

    A lot of the guys I know do it once a year. Some just live in the same house but have seperate bed

    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

      That sounds really lame bro. What are those guys like?

      • 5 months ago
        Anonymous

        Normie dudes for the most part. One of them is a bit autistic

        • 5 months ago
          Anonymous

          What would Danny Devito say about them? Would he be polite or jarring?

  15. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

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    • 5 months ago
      Anonymous

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  16. 5 months ago
    Anonymous

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