I feel I won't ever be accepted by women because of my personality and social skills

I am serious 24/7 and I don't really enjoy social events. I keep a very small circle of friends and take long time to become friends with someone.

I feel like me being loner is determental and I won't really find a women who will accept me unless I date significantly down and she is just there for benefits.

Anyone had a similar experience managed to find the one?

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I can relate, this is autism though, just learn social skills

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      No, I am not autistic. I don't know why people these days just diagnose some kind of mental illness if you are not like the average guy when it comes to social skills.

      I just take longer to get to know someone and I am capable of having good times but only with ones closest to me. I also hate small talk and fake sincerity.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        those are more symptoms of autism

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Source? Being reserved and prefering small circle of friends is autism?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            NTA but yeah
            most normies' social circles are huge, and even if they're not they still enjoy social events

            Don't take autism as an insult, it's just a grouping of traits that makes it easier to know what worked and what didn't work for other people with similar personalities to you.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            being serious all the time, disliking social events, taking longer to be comfortable around people, hating small talk and requiring full sincerity are all common to autism
            and its not technically a mental illness more like your brain is just organized differently

            Maybe I am wired a little differently but is it just how my life is gonna be?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            basically, theres coping tactics that will make things easier on you if you want it to be different though

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I wasn't always used to be like this though. Me taking longer to open up with others have more to do with me being molested by someone when I was kid and I grew up in a dysfunctional family and my sister got severly ill when i kid and my parents never got over it and we never really celebrated things and I wasn't allowed to go out much when i was kid even though i wanted so developed more introverted lifestyle.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            well that changes things
            do you see anyone about this trauma?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Nope, is it necessary to?

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            some people respond to it, some prefer not to, some get bad therapists and reject the idea, its really what you think is best
            I would recommend trying at least though, that sounds rough to carry on your own

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            being serious all the time, disliking social events, taking longer to be comfortable around people, hating small talk and requiring full sincerity are all common to autism
            and its not technically a mental illness more like your brain is just organized differently

            Absolute state of zoomers. You've let media poisoned your brain.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            kys esl, suggest something else or frick off

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I suggest you stop playing therapist, you dumbfrick.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >NOOO YOU CANT JUST GIVE ADVICE ON AN ADVICE BOARD

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Do you have any active hobbies? Maybe there's potential you could find a nerdy/homely chick and you two can bond over your interests.

            Diagnosing someone as autistic because they're an introvert isn't advice, lmao.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            being serious all the time, disliking social events, taking longer to be comfortable around people, hating small talk and requiring full sincerity are all common to autism
            and its not technically a mental illness more like your brain is just organized differently

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            that's why alcohol exists. it works on autistics, too

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Just because there might be overlaps doesn't mean he has autism. You're making the mistake of correlation = causation.
            >and its not technically a mental illness
            Correct, it's a disability.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Not being able to simply participate in society, even just feigning it, is autism

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/S24gzHq.jpg

      I am serious 24/7 and I don't really enjoy social events. I keep a very small circle of friends and take long time to become friends with someone.

      I feel like me being loner is determental and I won't really find a women who will accept me unless I date significantly down and she is just there for benefits.

      Anyone had a similar experience managed to find the one?

      You don't have to be serious, all the time. Loosen the frick up. Anyway, I'm a loner too and it's a double-edged sword. You repulse people (and women) sometimes by being cold and disinterested in them, but you also don't need them so it's ok. Just be ambitious and if you like sex, then also promiscuous. Prostitutes exist for our kind. Or just jerk yourself off into a never-ending post nut clarity.

      those are more symptoms of autism

      NTA but yeah
      most normies' social circles are huge, and even if they're not they still enjoy social events

      Don't take autism as an insult, it's just a grouping of traits that makes it easier to know what worked and what didn't work for other people with similar personalities to you.

      being serious all the time, disliking social events, taking longer to be comfortable around people, hating small talk and requiring full sincerity are all common to autism
      and its not technically a mental illness more like your brain is just organized differently

      He's a schizoid, not an autist.

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Same except I don't have any friends at all.
    I am planning on just dating down but haven't gotten around to it yet.

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How old are you?

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Don't listen to the anons diagnosing you. There are multiple mental disorders that cause similar behaviour, most notably schizoid personality disorder(general lack of interest in social interactions) or avoidant personality disorder(giving up on social interaction due to various difficulties despite still wanting it)
    Diagnosing you with autism based on this post alone is moronic. "Oh you're socially awkward and have small circle of friends, you're totally autistic", no you morons, this is not how you diagnose autism. Someone displaying certain autistic traits doesn't immediately mean autism. OP could very well just be a poorly socialized introvert. Stop playing therapists on NSFFW.

    Anyway, you just gotta find a woman who likes the type of person you are. I only date loners because i find the outgoing guys to be overwhelming, so women who like your type definitely exist.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >post on adv
      >omit relevant details
      >get inaccurate advice
      its that simple, youre not going to get anywhere being afraid of guessing incorrectly based on limited info

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        OP didn't ask for diagnosis though

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          giving advice is more than answering a question literally

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Giving a random diagnosis that has nothing to do with the question is not advice, especially when you don't have the info to get the diagnosis right.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            its not a diagnosis if its not from a professional, all you can do online is say "it sounds like X," sure NSFFW has a tendency to be more bold in how they word these things but its the readers responsibility to make that distinction, Im not putting on kiddie gloves for you sorry

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            It still doesn't matter for the purpose of the thread. Whether OP has autism or not changes nothing in the advice he needs. Advice regarding overcoming social awkwardness would benefit him regardless of the label, but discussion on what label should be attributed to him changes nothing as far as the thread goes. You're just being a smartass, saying "yes these are autism traits you probably have autism op" without contributing any meaningful advice.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            whether or not one is on the spectrum can be very instrumental in the manner they might find success socially

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Perhaps but you already said you cannot diagnose him on NSFFW, so throwing that label is meaningless.
            Don't get me wrong, it CAN be helpful, and you can tell OP to see a therapist but throwing random labels around is pointless. As I already said, there are multiple mental disorders that fit OP based on the little info we have. Just because autism is the first thing that comes to mind, it doesn't mean that's the case, and sending OP to a therapist with the mindset he should get a certain diagnosis can cause him to adopt certain behaviours associated with the idea he has of his diagnosis, and cause the specialist to misdiagnose. Schizoid misdiagnosed as autism is very common for example, and the treatment is entirely different despite both being essentially incurable.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            if he has not considered looking into his possible autism, suggesting it could be helpful

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I already explained why it's not helpful, is reading comprehension failing you?

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    musashi don't care

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm the same way. I have tons of anxiety too. It's really hard to leave the house because I know as soon as I do I'll be seen by other people. I can't even do yard work and I try to do almost everything at night so I can't be seen as well. I'm terrible with people and can't make friends. I'm extremely anxious about having people get close to me. I never dated or had sex and I'm 32. I have an inferiority complex and severe depression too with constant suicidal thinking because everything feels hopeless

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Could it be that your issue
      lies in self worth and self belief? You should realise that even if you aren't as good as other people when it comes some things there are other things you can excel at.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Thats only one part but yeah I have extremely low self-esteem

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I recommend reading cant hurt me by goggins. He had sickle cell disease, plenty of other learning disorders and was behind others in lots of things and describes his process of how he found his way.

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How many billions of times are you guys going to post the exact same thread and ignore or disregard all the legitimate responses?

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      point out the legitimate responses

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