I found out that my ex-gf had casual sex with some frickboi long after we broke up. I'm so disappointed in her.

I found out that my ex-gf had casual sex with some frickboi long after we broke up. I'm so disappointed in her. I never thought she was like that. I thought she was the type of woman who dated a guy before deciding to put out. It's honestly made me question everything about her and myself. What should I do?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I never thought she was like that.
    Lol Anon.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      There was never any evidence to believe otherwise.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        People change

        Don't stalk exes, nothing good will come of it. Wait for them to reach out to you and be ok if they don't

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    She's not even your girlfriend anymore. And yes they're all like that for the right man.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      basically this. Don have any expectations next time and you won't be heartbroken again

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Why do you vare about what your ex is doing

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >Why do you vare about what your ex is doing
      Is there any reason why I *shouldn't* care about what my ex is doing?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yes because it's useless, you're not with her anymore, move on

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I cannot move on when this messed with my perception and undermined my self-esteem.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >long after we broke up
    You'd think realizing your ex is a hoe would make it easier to get over her but here you are crying about spilled semen.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Because it just means she was no different to the rest of them. Don't get me wrong, I didn't think she was an angel, but I expected better of her than to sleep with some guy she barely even knows. It shows a clear lack of morals and judgement.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yes, thank goodness you aren't together anymore.

        I cannot move on when this messed with my perception and undermined my self-esteem.

        But you already ended your relationship while you still thought she was a great person or something. Shouldn't you be glad she is out of your life?

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    There’s always one evergreen solution to getting over a woman: you get a new one

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      this
      go frick another woman OP, please stop putting women on pedestals as well. Listen to me when I say this. They are ALL like this, not one is an exception so do not take it seriously. Aren't you glad you broke up? she was like this all along.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Not possible.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      this
      go frick another woman OP, please stop putting women on pedestals as well. Listen to me when I say this. They are ALL like this, not one is an exception so do not take it seriously. Aren't you glad you broke up? she was like this all along.

      Holy shit I hate this advice more than any other about getting over a breakup
      >Just get a new girl, bro! Just go out and FRICK another b***h, BROOOOOO!
      You know women can fricking SMELL desperation right? That they can literally smell the pheromones of "I'm a loser who doesn't get pussy, please miss give me a crumb of pusspuss so I can feel better about the last pussy that left me!" There is no guaranteed way to stay an incel faster than to go around hunting for a rebound.
      And I'm not some guy that doesn't talk to women, after my breakup I've been putting myself out there. I ask for contact info, for phone numbers. You know what happens? I get ignored if it's IRL, or ghosted when I try to reach out if I'm lucky enough to get a number.

      I wish I knew how to lift this fricking black cloud off of me, but the advice of "JUST FRICK ANOTHER PUSSY BROOOOOO" doesn't fricking work when the very fact that you' using it to get over a relationship that didn't work out will GUARANTEE failure. Holy fricking shit such worse than useless advice especially for us autists.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        People shouldn't have sex before marriage anyway.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Irrelevant to the point
          I had a date with a nice Catholic girl from my parish who probably is a no sex before marriage type (who knows) and it went no where because she could still tell I wasn't over my ex

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I am an autist and now youre just being a cry baby over it, here is the issue
        >put prostitute on pedestal
        >prostitute didn't live up to your expectations and youre still thinking about an ex
        >advice: frick, because it literally works, you dont have to be desperate thats all on you, of course women dont want desperate men but if youre attractive and not desperate you can get some hole
        >voila now you dont care about the stupid prostitute ex

        wow, amazing. Or you can keep complaining and putting the b***h on a pedestal, your life I dont give a frick

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          You're not replying to OP btw. I never posted that

          [...]
          Holy shit I hate this advice more than any other about getting over a breakup
          >Just get a new girl, bro! Just go out and FRICK another b***h, BROOOOOO!
          You know women can fricking SMELL desperation right? That they can literally smell the pheromones of "I'm a loser who doesn't get pussy, please miss give me a crumb of pusspuss so I can feel better about the last pussy that left me!" There is no guaranteed way to stay an incel faster than to go around hunting for a rebound.
          And I'm not some guy that doesn't talk to women, after my breakup I've been putting myself out there. I ask for contact info, for phone numbers. You know what happens? I get ignored if it's IRL, or ghosted when I try to reach out if I'm lucky enough to get a number.

          I wish I knew how to lift this fricking black cloud off of me, but the advice of "JUST FRICK ANOTHER PUSSY BROOOOOO" doesn't fricking work when the very fact that you' using it to get over a relationship that didn't work out will GUARANTEE failure. Holy fricking shit such worse than useless advice especially for us autists.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >bro even though this is what you need to do you have to also not need it at the same time
          I'm surprised you're high functioning enough to breathe and type at the same time

          You're not replying to OP btw. I never posted that [...]

          I posted it because I have a similar issue. I was with a girl for over eight years, after we broke up she started hooking up with a guy from her job only a couple of months later.
          I didn't find this out by digging for it, she volunteered the information to me in person because she thought it'd be suitable to ask me to watch the pets we had together while she took a trip with this guy. I can't tell if it's because she was trying to hurt me or if she's just a dumb fricking b***h, probably a bit of both.
          Mind you I took this girl's virginity, and lived with her for over five years.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            basically you gotta rng it until some b***h is willing to go silly on it u dig? then you'll be cured

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Realize you are beta boy and has to pay for what chad has for free.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That's not nice. But probably true.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >What should I do?
    There’s nothing you can do. And anything you should ‘do’ should be aimed toward accepting that again, there’s nothing you can do. That’s all there is to it, brother.
    Admit that you cannot do anything. She is gone, and what you had in the past with her is gone. The past is dead. That’s all. And don’t assume you can do this without feeling pain. You will feel pain, you’re supposed to feel pain. It’d be fricked up if you didn’t.

    So accept the pain as well while you’re at it. Because wrestling with it by refusing to accept the state of affairs will only lead to suffering. And if the choice is between pain or suffering, pick the fricking pain. Because pain, unlike suffering, has an expiry date. It goes in, stings a bit, goes out. It fades. Suffering lingers and suffocates. So don’t choose suffering by wallowing in your refusal to accept.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I understand the shock and dismay. There is a lesson here you must learn.
      1. A mans perception of the woman they love is not reality. The woman you love, is and always was and will be, capable of hooking up with a stranger. Humans male and female have always done this.
      2. Never keep tabs on an ex nor inquire deeply into her past. What you do not know cannot frick with your head. Caveat: If a rigorous inquiry into her past sexual behavior means you WILL exit it disappointed, fine. If a rigorous inquiry is disappointing and you stay anyway you deserve all the angst and heartache life can throw at you.

      Do you think I should ask her about it? Or would that be unnecessarily torturing myself?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Dude you already know the answer

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Do not ask her about it, because it will be unnecessary torture for yourself. If she confirms your fears, you will be tortured. If she denies your fears, you will then wonder if she is truthful, or whether it’s a matter of a time before she does hoe out. And again, you will be tortured.

        Never go to others for closure. They cannot provide it. Closure is about closing doors. Only you can close those doors. And only you can make closure. And it has to be without her or anyone else in the equation. It’s a decision to get up, dust off your shoulder, and put one foot in front of the other, for YOU. Even when you’re hurting, or anxious, you allow the pain and fear and you do it anyway, with pain and fear being your companions. That’s strength.

        Once you heal, which will take all the time it needs, you will be better able to analyze what had happened by yourself. And you will learn what to avoid moving forward.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Do not ask her about it, because it will be unnecessary torture for yourself. If she confirms your fears, you will be tortured. If she denies your fears, you will then wonder if she is truthful, or whether it’s a matter of a time before she does hoe out. And again, you will be tortured
          That's the thing. I doubt she'll be in the mood to reveal everything to me, which means I'll probably get a cagey answer, which is no comfort to me. Or there's the possibility she'll just tell me the brutal truth, which will finish me off.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What did I just say? Cut it all out of your life. Stop keeping tabs on her. If someone you know tries to tell you something tell them to shut up. Don't ask any questions, or look for post or even go any place she may be. STOP IT

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I've tried dude but I can't stop thinking about it. I think this kind of thing is even worse for women, because they don't know if the random guy they're going home with is a rapist or murderer.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            For women the larger threat is a sexually possessive ex not a random hook up.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Do not ask her about it, because it will be unnecessary torture for yourself. If she confirms your fears, you will be tortured. If she denies your fears, you will then wonder if she is truthful, or whether it’s a matter of a time before she does hoe out. And again, you will be tortured
        That's the thing. I doubt she'll be in the mood to reveal everything to me, which means I'll probably get a cagey answer, which is no comfort to me. Or there's the possibility she'll just tell me the brutal truth, which will finish me off.

        I've tried dude but I can't stop thinking about it. I think this kind of thing is even worse for women, because they don't know if the random guy they're going home with is a rapist or murderer.

        Also dude as the guy who is in this situation

        >bro even though this is what you need to do you have to also not need it at the same time
        I'm surprised you're high functioning enough to breathe and type at the same time
        [...]
        I posted it because I have a similar issue. I was with a girl for over eight years, after we broke up she started hooking up with a guy from her job only a couple of months later.
        I didn't find this out by digging for it, she volunteered the information to me in person because she thought it'd be suitable to ask me to watch the pets we had together while she took a trip with this guy. I can't tell if it's because she was trying to hurt me or if she's just a dumb fricking b***h, probably a bit of both.
        Mind you I took this girl's virginity, and lived with her for over five years.

        I can tell you from first hand experience that she is not going to give you any sort of closure
        After my ex revealed this to me and went on her little romantic getaway, I said all sorts of shit to her about how I didn't see her the same way anymore, how I didn't think she was capable of being that kind of person, how our relationship was a waste of time?
        You know what she said after all of that? "Ok" She said "ok" while not even looking at me and eating snacks.
        When women are done they're done, dude. I feel like such a cuckold idiot for even trying to talk to her.
        Subconsciously I think you're trying to find a way to wound her in the same way you've been wounded. But you cannot hurt someone that doesn't care, and I can guarantee you she doesn't care.
        I'm not going to tell you to just MOOOOOVE ON or to GET OOOOOVER IT, God knows I'm obviously not fricking over it even after nearly six months, but you do have to stop poking the wound. I know how bad the urge to pick that scab is, but you gotta resist.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I think my ex would either tell me it's none of my business OR she will be quite brutally upfront about it. She has a nasty habit of speaking her mind, even though she usually feels shitty about it later. But if she basically tells me that the dude was hot shit and she couldn't resist, then yeah. I'm done.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Then it sounds like you know what you need to do then.
            Which is nothing

            K. Now you have to improve yourself out of spite then. It is the best motivation in life.

            >Now you have to improve yourself out of spite then. It is the best motivation in life.
            This, I'm getting into the best shape of my life and spite is 100% the driving factor. I've regained my PRs in powerlifting while I've lost 20 pounds. There's no better motivation to get better than to "show" a b***h what she's missing, even if you never see each other again.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I understand the shock and dismay. There is a lesson here you must learn.
    1. A mans perception of the woman they love is not reality. The woman you love, is and always was and will be, capable of hooking up with a stranger. Humans male and female have always done this.
    2. Never keep tabs on an ex nor inquire deeply into her past. What you do not know cannot frick with your head. Caveat: If a rigorous inquiry into her past sexual behavior means you WILL exit it disappointed, fine. If a rigorous inquiry is disappointing and you stay anyway you deserve all the angst and heartache life can throw at you.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It's a woman thing to prostitute out after an intense relationship. She's impure now. Not your fault man.

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    K. Now you have to improve yourself out of spite then. It is the best motivation in life.

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I mean she is your ex so why do you care?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      1. It means that I was wrong about her, and that she is the kind of woman who has one night stands.
      2. If she's willing to have one night stands, but make other guys wait, that means her ex-bfs (like me) were inferior.
      If you can't see how this would affect my self-worth, I dunno what to tell ya.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I am sorry. Just try not to think about it. There is more to life than casual sex and she is selling a piece of her soul when she does it.

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