i found out the man i considered my soulmate watches porn and im really fricked up about it.

i found out the man i considered my soulmate watches porn and im really fricked up about it. me and my bf are in a long distance relationship and i was on call with him last night, and we were talking and somehow the topic of porn was brought up, one things leads to another and i just asked him if he ever watched that stuff, and he told me he did. he knows i hate it and i didn't have anything to say, i just hung up and we haven't talked since last night. he's really amazing, sweet, protective, caring, everything and i love him so much, but the thought that he gets off to other women just kills me. is it wrong to break up with him? we both want the same lives, a house and family and he's so amazing and supportive, but i feel like he's just been lying to me this whole time

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  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Cope. All men watch porn. Get used to it.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      why?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Because men like looking at naked women?

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          but my bf has pictures and videos of me, when he visits we have sex. i don't know why i'm not enough for him.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Men like looking at multiple naked women.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I cannot stress enough how much I as a man like variety when it comes to women. If I could I would have sex with a different woman every week. Porn is the next best thing to that. I can only assume we did evolve to spread our seed far and wide.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            NTA, Your post seems like bait. here is a (YOU) to help you live one more day.

            >but my bf has pictures and videos of me, when he visits we have sex. i don't know why i'm not enough for him.

            You are worse than him because you are making more porn. Think about it.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            how does that make me worse? i gave him what he wanted

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Gives her BF nude photos of herself so he can look at them and fap
            >"Why does he look at photos of nude women and fap?"
            Trust me, OP is a man LARPing as a chick

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Agreed, OP is a gay.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i am talking about nude photos that arent me

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Can you show us one of you

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            no you pervert

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            How are we supposed to know if you're putting the porn girls to shame or not?

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            A girl icked by porn wouldn't share her own porn photos, son

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            if it's with someone you love you would.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You shouldn't be having sex outside of marriage.
            The men telling you to put out or cope with porn are exactly the degenerates who justify porn for its own sake. They see no need for self-control, for prioritizing commitment, let alone monogamy.
            Having sex outside of marriage is already conceding all of that, so it's not surprising that a guy who has probably had sex with multiple women is also beating it to porn and sees no issue with it.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      total delusion.
      plenty of men never watch porn just like plenty of men never go to strip clubs, never use a prostitute, etc

      • 2 weeks ago
        im not

        Are u gay?

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          No.
          I have better things to do with my time than look at pictures of girls I will never meet.
          Like meet girls and actually have sex with them

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    OP, you should understand that men (and women) in general have certain needs and desires that have to be met. Ideally those desires are met through sex, but in this case, you both are living apart, and it might be difficult/insufficient to incorporate other ways (like sexting or calling), and it's made even more difficult by the nature of the fact that it's embarrassing and puts you on the spot.

    It's complex, and I know your feelings are hurt, but put yourself in his shoes and hopefully you'd be able to forgive him

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      but it's basically cheating, he's getting off to another woman when he literally has nudes of me

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >i just asked him if he ever watched that stuff, and he told me he did.
    This is vague wording. Did he specify that he was still looking at porn? Or did he just say that he's seen it before? You're not going to meet a single guy under 50 that's never seen porn before.

    I also look at porn when I'm in relationships, just with far less frequency than when I'm single. I know porn is bad, but at the same time, I'd rather not get all of my sexual fulfillment from a single person. That's also strange. It's normal to find other people attractive. As long as it doesn't escalate beyond occasional porn use, I don't see much of an issue.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      he said he still looked at it, knowing i hate it,

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Would you rather he lied to you?

        I don't think it's personally the worst thing in the world that he watches it, however I see why it bothers you. Your not being with the guy physically all the time leaves you feeling vulnerable. I get it. Play it out though, say you both start living together. Are you going to make sure his balls are drained 24/7? I'd imagine so, at the very least he wouldn't need to use porn otherr than that you both make together for personal use

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Be glad he's honest about it. Most probably wouldn't be

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    porn is disgusting. however if you as a person don't want a partner who watches porn then set that boundary and make it know to him that you'll end the relationship if he watches that content again. don't settle for less, have more self respect.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    And yet you visit NSFFW where you constantly see pornography. Why are you such a hypocrite?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      i don't go and seek out the porn though, i really only come on here and the tv board

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    lying? did he tell you he wasn't watching porn before?

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Reminder that this is why you lie to women about watching porn.
    >Hey do you watch porn
    >No babe that shit is lame

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe you just shouldn't watch porn.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        My body my choice.

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