I fucked up on my date last night. >met this girl two years ago on instagram. >last week we finally meet IRL

I fricked up on my date last night.

>met this girl two years ago on instagram
>last week we finally meet IRL
>we get something to eat
>chat for a bit
>we go back to her place and play Mario Party on the GameCube I brought over
>it gets late
>I leave
>last night I take her out to a club
>we get a drink at this bar first
>afterwards we get ramen
>we dance for about three hours up until midnight
>my first time ever going to a night club
>first time dancing with someone
>it was fun
>I take her home
>the night was pretty nice
>she hugs me goodbye
>I don't know why, but I kinda like this girl
>I give her a kiss on the cheek
>she doesn't say anything
>she just smiles, says goodnight, and walk away
>I think to myself: "Aww shit. I probably shouldn't have done that."
>I text her apologizing and saying I won't do it again
>she said it's fine and that she had a really great time
>I leave it at that

It's embarrassing for me to say this, but I'm a 25 year old man. This was the first real date I ever went on with a girl, and I just fricked it up by overstepping my boundaries. I'm a big, ugly man. I have no right to kiss a pretty woman like that. Only attractive guys can do that without making it weird. God, I can only imagine how violated she felt. That's why I apologized immediately after.

I don't think she's interested. I honestly think I should probably cut all contact and avoid dating. I'm honestly better off being single and alone. At least with that, I don't create awkward situations. I should do that, right?

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    It happens to the best of us dude.
    No ones socially perfect. Thats perception. We all fricked up, we all have cringe memories that haunt us on occasion, we all fricked up in a moment with a woman. We all brooded about it, we all eventually learned to shrug it off move on and try again.

    You have done nothing out of the ordinary. If I was your friend and you told me this Id never let you live it down, but as a stranger on /adv/, it happens. You arent disqualified from dating and youre not particularly hopeless. Sounds like you were doing great.
    You can get that far again without fricking up huge. It all goes your way eventually.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I don’t think I want to try again. I feel like I violated her trust. Now I’m just some guy who’s trying to make a move on her. I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable around me. Best to just stay away.

      So let me get this straight, you brought a girl over to your place twice. You kissed her to which she smiled. And your reaction to that is to go into self pity rant about how you aren’t good enough? You need to see a therapist for some seriously fricked low sense of self worth.

      I feel like it was one of those “oh haha” awkward smiles that people do if they don’t know what to say.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        No not with her. You fricked up with her. I mean next woman that comes around. Thats what I mean. It happens.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >I don’t think I want to try again. I feel like I violated her trust. Now I’m just some guy who’s trying to make a move on her. I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable around me. Best to just stay away.
        >I feel like it was one of those “oh haha” awkward smiles that people do if they don’t know what to say.
        I was going to roast you at first but good lord my guy your self esteem is through the floor. If a girl is willing to come over to your house and hang out with you 1on1 she is into you. If she lets you kiss her, she is into you. You danced for 3 hours at a club where she couldve bailed on you for another guy. She is INTO YOU. Stop doubting yourself you frickin loser and make a move. Youre a grown man you dont need permission SHE IS INTO YOU.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    So let me get this straight, you brought a girl over to your place twice. You kissed her to which she smiled. And your reaction to that is to go into self pity rant about how you aren’t good enough? You need to see a therapist for some seriously fricked low sense of self worth.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      homie what the frick you’re crying about? you fricking won. she likes you
      do what says

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        This feels more like a loss.
        >pic related

        No not with her. You fricked up with her. I mean next woman that comes around. Thats what I mean. It happens.

        I don’t think there’s going to be a next woman. I think I’m finally accepting that I’m going live and die alone.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          what the hell anon, you are trying to sabotage yourself. You cant even comprehend that a girl is actually INTO YOU. SHE LIKES YOU BRO

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            It's worse than you said. You apologized and she gave you an out by telling you to drop it. And you didn't drop it, you fricked that up to. The only way you can redeem yourself now, if you get another chance, is to break your promise.

            Well, I won't have to worry about it anymore, I guess. I doubt she’ll give me another date with her.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Bro you talked to this girl for 2 years im sure she understands you are at least somewhat autistic. But lets look at the facts here.
            >You went on 2 dates and had a good time.
            >she is comfortable enough with you to hang out home alone at night
            >she told you she had a good time
            >she also told you that she LIKED that you kissed her and not to be sorry
            >you double down on the moronation and assure her it wont happen again
            >she responds "well okay teehee" because she thinks you are teasing her
            >shes ASSUMING you are going to kiss again
            Anon ive gotten quite a few pussy in my life and this girl is 1000000% into you. I bet my mother LIFE she is into you. If you just b***h out and dont go on another date and dont make a move you remember this post for the rest of your life because you are fumbling the easiest layup of your life. Stop being a blackpilled doomer for 1 minute and think rationally "what would a normie do in this situation"

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          It's worse than you said. You apologized and she gave you an out by telling you to drop it. And you didn't drop it, you fricked that up to. The only way you can redeem yourself now, if you get another chance, is to break your promise.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          AAAHHH WHAT ARE YOU DOIINGGGGGG

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          i think you just love to self-sabotage your life. homie it’s FINE

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          How old are both of you? For how long have you been going out? Just two dates? I think you are overthinking. Judging from the pic she didn't care and you shouldn't either

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >I fricked up on my date last night
    Great. Now you have more experience on what to do or not for the next time you have a date with a girl.

    I didn't read the rest of your text as I'm quite sure it's just you b***hing about it.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You fricked it up by apologizing. It's over.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Tldr

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You need to go to therapy and work on your self confidence issues before dating. Why the frick would a girl come over to someones house when she isn’t interested? You could have fricked her there and then and you blew it.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Actually, I went to her place.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        No girl who doesn’t want to frick would invite a guy over to her place. Period. Get it through your thick skull that she wants your dick. Bad.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >No girl who doesn’t want to frick would invite a guy over to her place. Period. Get it through your thick skull that she wants your dick.
          This is *actually* how you catch a sexual assault case, not the "oh we cant even look at women in public anymore" bullshit that other people say

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            No, you get that by not verifying her interest and following her lead. Sit near to her, pay attention to her body language, ask if she wants to make out. Leave all escalation to her. If she wants to have sex she will invite you into her bedroom. Anon is right, if she has you over - at night with privacy - she wants to frick, but that doesn't necessarily mean that very night. She probably wants to work up to that. When I met my wife we hung out a while then she got a cab home. Next night she had me over and we lay in bed and watched a movie. The next night she invited herself over and we went at it. I've had other girls come over and want to make out but we never go further. It all depends on the chemistry you have between you.

            Bottom line if a girl doesn't want to kiss you she won't get close enough to make kissing her comfortable. Kissing on the cheek isn't even anything. I kiss some of my friends on the cheek. That's not kissing, that's flirting.

            Note I'm not really addressing any of this to OP because it was a parody post.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >>I text her apologizing and saying I won't do it again

    Your biggest and arguably only mistake. Even IF it was actually a frickup, agonizing over it and prostrating yourself to her like that will only make your utter lack of confidence and self-worth obvious, which isn't attractive behavior. If she didn't care before, that is what will earn you negative perceptions.

    >I'm a big, ugly man. I have no right to kiss a pretty woman like that.

    You're a big beautiful ape and you are just as worth being kissed by as anyone, you homosexual homo-man. This attitude is what's getting in your way, more than anything else. Discard it, suppress it, make yourself believe and embody the opposite however you need to. With confidence and self-worth, everything else can follow.

    >Only attractive guys can do that without making it weird.

    "Attractive guys" don't make it weird because of their attitude, not their characteristics or looks. They don't make it weird by not making it weird, which you did by apologizing and letting her know how little you think of yourself. The most attractive thing you can be or have is confidence and self-worth, so that you wouldn't think twice at having done what you wanted to.

    >I don't think she's interested. I honestly think I should probably cut all contact and avoid dating. I'm honestly better off being single and alone. At least with that, I don't create awkward situations. I should do that, right

    Just the opposite: since you think that all is lost with her, then it's the perfect opportunity to hit her up and see what happens. If that was your world-ending frickup, what do you have to lose now? If she's still keen, then that should put your fears to bed, and you should feel better knowing that she didn't think you were too gross a homunculus to go back out with. If she isn't, oh well, it was already done anyway. No reason not to try, then. On with you man, fill your boots.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Was there any real sign that she wasn't interested? The cold facts obviously point to her being interested.

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