I had an affair with my best friend's husband. I saw that he was in a vulnerable place and spiraling in despair. I came by his side to comfort him and we shared our deepest vulnerabilities with each other and it culminated in us consummating it by having sex.
She has since passed away and we have both grieved for her. We never meant her any harm by our adultery and I hope she can forgive us and rest in peace.
Her son knows about our affair. He is very hurt and angry. He feels betrayed by us, he even feels betrayed by his aunt. She understood the complexities of our affair and her faith in our fundamental decency is not misplaced. She tried to contact him with his dad and I guess he felt like he had been stabbed in the back because he refused to understand where any of us were coming from.
She has known and loved him since he was a boy but I'm not good qt giving advice to help her cope with the estrangement of someone she loved so dearly. What advice can I give her?