I just want genuine love and affection. I don't want sex, sex is disgusting and I hate it.

I just want genuine love and affection.
I don't want sex, sex is disgusting and I hate it. I don't want to engage in weird modern transactional dating culture, that's also disgusting to me, I don't want to have to pretend to be someone I'm not just to be judged as "worthy."
I just want a girl who will be my best friend and also give me hugs and kisses, is this even possible?
the way people talk about and conceptualize "relationships" is so gross and alien to me that I don't find that sort of thing even worth considering.

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I feel the same way, but what advice are you looking for?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >is this even possible?
      just desperate for false hope

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I'm led to believe there's lots of women out there that are asexual. I've yet to find one for myself so I can't confirm, but I hardly look so that's not reason to give up hope. I agree though, to so many people it seems like intercourse is completely necessary to hold a strong and healthy relationship. But given the reality that people like you and I exist, there must be another side of the coin for us to be with.

        I think you should look for girl friends, most of them also don't want a serious relationship so you can befriend them and have occasional sex w them, look for the more liberal scene and you will find many friends without being a creep, if you look for something more serious it's harder but it could be worthwhile

        >have occasional sex w them
        That's unwanted in this situation though, that's the whole point of OP's post.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I think OP doesn't know what he wants

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            what do I want then?

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I think you should look for girl friends, most of them also don't want a serious relationship so you can befriend them and have occasional sex w them, look for the more liberal scene and you will find many friends without being a creep, if you look for something more serious it's harder but it could be worthwhile

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >most of them also don't want a serious relationship so you can befriend them and have occasional sex w them
      I don't know how you misinterpreted my post this hard.
      I don't want sex, I want love.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    That's called friendship
    Yes you can be friends with girls

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      No, it isn't. You don't get married to friends

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >the way people talk about and conceptualize "relationships" is so gross and alien to me that I don't find that sort of thing even worth considering.
        That's why you shouldn't hear what <<the people>> says, you can do whatever you want and tell them too, today almost everyone knows boomers have been shit at relationships, so don't repeat what they have been telling you to do

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          I'm not OP

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >I just want a girl who will be my best friend and also give me hugs and kisses
      I think you're ignoring some key details here. I don't want to be friends with a girl just to develop feelings for her and have her reject me or go off with other guys since we're "just friends", I want a "relationship" just not in the "I'm going to hold your need for affection hostage for my own material/sexual satisfaction" way that most people seem to.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >posts 1 second apart
    maybe I am OP

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I understand your frustration. You're probably ase*ual, nothing wrong with that. As a woman, I'd also prefer just cuddles and kisses cause that can't get me knocked up.
    You're a diamond in a sea of fkboys, don't ever change lol

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >You're probably ase*ual, nothing wrong with that
      I definitely am. I've got some kind of serious psychological issues, people who have sex are viscerally disgusting to me. It's hard to even look at people in public without getting intrusive thoughts about how they've probably had sex and it makes me sick. The thought of having a gf who's not a virgin makes me feel physically ill.
      I am not ok.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Poor guy, ye I guess you're taking it a bit too far. I'm a virgin but idc how many partners someone had.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You still believe that women love men for who they are.
    They don't. That's how men love.
    Women's love IS conditional and transactional.
    Get with the programme.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Well that's not what I want and I'm not going to pursue it because it's not a suitable substitute for what I want, it's a completely different thing that I have no interest in.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    you just want something impossible
    romantic relationship like you said here is not possible in modern times

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Yeah, you're probably right. It might be possible for people who are together since childhood but I missed my chance of that.
      idk, maybe I could still meet someone who's as autistic and delusional about it as I am but I'm not holding out hope.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I’m a woman, and I think I know what you speak of. I also dream of a pure love. Just giving all the love I have to someone. Holding and embracing in each other’s arms for hours and cuddling and kissing. No sex. At least not yet. But getting to know each other deeply. What’s in your mind? What are your fears? What are you passionate about. I caress his face and admire his features and I kiss his forehead, the his nose, then his lips. We hold hands and sometimes we don’t have to speak because just being in each other’s presence and just holding each other’s hand is enough. And then months later or a year, once we settle down and get married I then lose my virginity to him. And he will be my only love. And if he ever passed I wouldn’t ever remarry. I just want to give this love so badly. I hope I find a good man.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I'd like to think I'm the man you describe, but if I was that good, maybe I'd have someone like you.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Everyone in this thread is mentally ill as frick. Repulsion to sex isn’t normal and I’d get that fixed first before you dip your toes into any kind of romantic relationship. That said, no one is forcing you to take the Tinder route. It’s harder to do now than it used to be but you need to find a way to meet nerdy/shut in femcel type girls and have a slow, old fashioned relationship. Hopefully by then you’ll ideally have feelings for each other where sex isn’t repulsive to you (I hope to god you’re not looking at porn as the standard for what sex is like jfc).

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >I just want genuine love and affection.
    Get a dog

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Awful post and you should feel bad for making it

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        How so

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You have a few options:
    1) be a toxic psychologically abusive chad. If you give women Stockholm syndrome, they'll become clingy. The more you abuse them the more clingy they become. They'll shower you with hugs and kisses and support you just so that you stay with them. Even if you ditch them they'll be desperate to get back.
    If you are naturally this type of guy, good. If not you need to read up a bit of psychology and work a bit on yourself.
    2) Just be friends. They best time, adventure, support, hugs and kisses (not on the lips of course) I've ever had are with women who were just friends. There might be a little sexual tension, but that's it.
    3) Be a normal high value guy with a relatively low value woman. This power imbalance creates a situation like point 1). She will be desperate to keep you, the rest follows

    The thing is, women don't mind kisses and hugs and cuddles. They just hate men who actually seek for it. It makes you look weak and gives off mommy issue vibes. So whatever you do in a relationship, don't make it obvious that this is what you actually seek.
    >I don't want to have to pretend to be someone I'm not just to be judged as "worthy."
    Well that's just Disney tier fantasy. Women are animals. They operate on instinct. Being honest with them is a recipe for disaster.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    move to asia or africa or somewhere east europe

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Asexuals are kinda cringe and often have mental disorders or emotional trauma. Why should I have to know you don't want to have sex? I never asked.

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    me and you both. its sad the amount of people who will be estatic to have sex but not be able or want to hold yer and like what?

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >I just want genuine love and affection.
    Doesn't exist if you're a man. As a man it is your responsibility to see love and affection is distributed to the world, not receive it. Women are not your mom.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I didn't ask to be a man.
      I don't want to be a man.
      I don't owe anyone anything because I'm a man.
      Gender is a scam, we'd be better off if humans were all hermaphrodites.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        There are many many times in life things will happen to you that you did not ask for. Complaining about them always gets you a worse result.
        >gender is a scam
        No it isn't. If you've ever spent any time listening to women versus how men talk you know it isn't.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      this is bullshit

      >as a man bla bla bla

      this goes for everyone: if you want love given to you, you must give love to the world. This also means that everyone have the right to give and the right to receive.

      Yes its a balance. No its not easy. Yes you might hurt -- that's just too bad.

      OP, your model of dating and relationships is based on what you've heard others tell you. You must go out into the world and try things for yourself -- only then will you be able to experience what works for YOU (singular).

      Before you can warm yourself at the fire, you must pile in the wood and light it.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    yup all of this is possible and very feasible. it's within arm's reach, actually. but the thing is that you actually need to TALK TO WOMEN for it to work out the way you want it to. you sound incredibly socially inept sooo i recommend getting social skills before trying to skip ahead to trying to charm any ladies

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