I love him and want to help him but have no idea how..hes a NEET but ive always felt that hes so smart one day he will get a job or something and ive ...

I love him and want to help him but have no idea how..hes a NEET but ive always felt that hes so smart one day he will get a job or something and ive even told him ill fly out and pay my own way to meet him. he just self isolates and gets sucked into video games and shuts me out. inb4 replies saying im a troony etc etc, im a cis woman and hes a man, i genuinely am just looking for advice how to help him, how would you want a girl to get you out of this self isolation pit and into a life together

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >i can fix him he's just like my welcome to the nhk animus

    sis pls he has to save himself 🙂

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Pants-shitting moronic foid lesbian, go magnetize your stinky pussy to other mentally ill women.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        go wash yr balls crusty ass incel

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      he has no desire too idk I constantly get hurt because im like how can I expect him to care about me and our potential life together if he doesnt care about himself?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        plz save me, iv started a company thats doing well but im completely autistic with women, im kind just shy.

        Theres nothing you can do unironicially I used to be really bad, if you give him support and he still wont try, nothing you can do, all you can do is try.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          whats your company mane im Op

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            im not gonna dox myself bc only a few employees esp on here. We sell medical equipment and gym equipment. doing some 3d printed stuff too soon.

            add my autistic ass: modernthales

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            No he's pretty attracted to me. In fact when he fell out of love with me he still liked me very much physically. He's just moronic.

            im not gonna dox myself bc only a few employees esp on here. We sell medical equipment and gym equipment. doing some 3d printed stuff too soon.

            add my autistic ass: modernthales

            add me I guess im gonna pass out, regardless life is too short for a partner who doesnt like you.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            ty man but youre referring to two diff women

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    have u tried emotional manipulation

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      no pls im not evil i care about this man

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Good deeds can be done with "evil" means

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Care about me instead. I really need help

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          are you the grad school guy man even if i wanted to im so deep in the trenches for this neet who doesnt even wanna meet me

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Yes I am. Just get out of those trenches and get into my trench. Pleeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaassssseeeeee you could genuinely save a life here vs beating your head against a wall that won't budge

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            why are you so down man

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Because women won't settle for me. Because I've heard so much bullshit about how women love it when men make effort and need men to make effort but even after I've made frankly a lot of effort to reach a point of eventhal success in life and not dying and helping other family not die too, none of it will fricking matter because it's not making the effort in the particular bullshit ways women want men to make effort specifically to look good and have a shitty dominant masculine extroverted dark triad personality

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Please date me and also give me a little bit of money so I can finish grad school without needing to work so goddamn much. I'd try to be a good boyfriend if you'd accept me and I'm not a neet nor do I have any desire to be one

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If he's been like that for years, it is a habit. In the end, he has to make the choice but you can put more pressure on him or ignore him, start complaining or whatever. Assuming that clear communication was tried beforehand. If he just keeps producing excuses, he is not interested in changing. Then I suppose you should make a choice between wanting to be with him or actually helping him.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    jesus christ, what do you see in this illiterate couch potato?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      she's mentally ill herself and wants a project to avoid confronting her own issues. i have been this woman. this type of codependency is not pretty.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        how did you get over it? I even picked up a book on codependency, i recognize it in myself but idk how to get better

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      lol in his defense he was drunk in these messages but idk he has been the only man ive truly connected with and true connections are not so easy to find

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I've been in your same exact situation sis and he dumped me to pursue video games alone because being in a relationship is too hard. I feel broken because we really had a connection too. I dunno how I'll get over him. There's plenty of others in the world but I really wanted him even if he thought of himself as a loser. Just warning you. Be patient. Nudge him if you can. But don't ever complain. You'll scare him off. Learn from me, it's better off if you give up on him but it's probably too late for you. Do your best to be kind and understanding. The codependency is awful, try to work on not being so attached. You'll get destroyed when it ends.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Hi! There's nothing you can do. It's never going to get better unless he wants to get better himself. I've been in your exact situation and eventually he couldn't handle the expectation of someone wanting to meet him and cut contact. I've been so patient and waited (6+) years for him all for nothing. He never changed or tried. I hope your situation really goes differently... Somewhere, a lonely autistic NEET continues to play video games to stave off reality, closing the door on someone who loved him despite how he was. Perhaps nothing can fix these men. They don't want to be fixed because they're not "broken", you know?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      thank you for the very genuine response.. yeah ive even told my mom about all of this shes met him on facetime she knows all about the emotional turmoil ive been through trying to help him. i know where he lives (sounds creepy but weve sent each other letters) so i always wonder what it would be like if i just showed up, if hed kick me out or something

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        it's hard to start over, which is why most women stick with butthole boyfriends and stuff, but you're not even with this guy. it's all theoretical, and if he's really autism he probably is just going to be noncommittal because he's afraid you'll actually have demands on him if you were together irl.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          This. You can give him a chance but if he doesn't want to commit just bail. He's never going to change. I'm telling you I've been through this bullshit I've heard promises up and down, was gonna visit my autistic NEET and he dumped me because he got scared. Didn't wanna be friends, ropes me back in months later and then breaks up with me again because guess what, he didn't want to commit!!! Now I'm extremely depressed and so is he and he refuses to talk to me at all. Please don't do this to yourself. Just be friends with him. No one is av project. You can't fix anyone. You can't save him. He's a person and has to do it on his own, you can support him all you want but if he's autistic it's guaranteed he's used to being coddled by everyone and has no idea how to mature. It's so impossibly hard to communicate with them too, my guy only was sincere when he was drunk. God writing this makes me want to kill myself. Don't do it if it's an online relationship. They aren't fricking real. You're just going to get your heart broken for a guy you'll never meet. FRICKING DESPAIR

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            biiiiiig relate on the guy only being sincere when hes drunk. its so hard when they dole out love and affection on a limited basis because it makes you crave it all the more. fwiw hes not actually autistic just stuck in this self isolation (well save for the occasional time he meets with his friends) bubble of self doubt i wanna save him from. honestly there needs to be some sort of support group for women in this situation hahaha

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >he's not actually autistic and has friends
            oh okay. you'll probably be fine then lol. I'm sorry autists but you are impossible to communicate with...

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I don't drink at all and I'd dole out lots of love and affection all the time. But I'm not a masculine traditional racist MAGAt Chad so females will never want me

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >masculine
            don't care
            > racist
            don't care
            > magat
            hate politics
            >Chad
            hate Chad

            met my neet bf playing video games. he is skinny and barely has body hair and doesn't give a shit about politics and is a virgin. i wish he would stop blocking me. you don't have to be Chad to get a girl. just find a lonely girl and befriend her and relate to her. you want girls who don't openly brag about being a girl. you want lonely girls who like to play video games because they're just trying to have fun and escape reality like you. that's my only advice tbh.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            yeah im op and i met this guy on a weird language learning app where i was genuinely trying to improve my french skills and he was trolling. i had no idea what he looked like and still had a crush on him so its not always about being chad

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I don't try to escape reality. I'd rather spend my free time volunteering to help people in need, to improve reality, than to hide from reality. And that makes me boring and unappealing because I don't frick around and like back and just enjoy the privilege to not need to worry about "politics" or help other people or whatever.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >This. You can give him a chance but if he doesn't want to commit just bail.
            Yeah, I'm actually semi autistic what they used to call Asperger's and I had a girl who sounds very similar to you who badly wanted to date me for whatever reason. I assume physical attraction, because we went to high school together, and I had no idea who she was until the very last day where she might never see me again she came up to me and started up a conversation

            anyways I knew her sisters and whatever so I'd see her a lot and we'd talk a lot here and there all night, but then not talk for weeks or months. and she went off to college, then she went to china for a few years to teach English and all this stuff so I never thought I was leading her on, she was single and off doing these things.

            but yeah I guess I broke her heart, and took her for granted a bit. I feel a bit badly now, but I think it's a fairly different situation than what you're describing, cause we were together irl for a lot ofit

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            yeah nah this was just online it wasn't even real lmao. i was just bullied as a kiddo and dropped outta school to neet it up on mmos. that's how i found him. we bonded over games and our shitty childhoods and being lonely. we aren't even located close to each other. i have zero idea how to socialize because I'm a recluse but at least i can proudly admit I'm not a hikki anymore because i have a job that forces me to socialize every day!!! baby steps. i do have to be grateful tho being in a relationship with a dude with aspergers has really elevated my ability to communicate honestly and be understanding and patient. i miss him so much it's unreal. i might be mentally ill and obsessed so I'm definitely not normal. good luck getting a normal girl lol

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >yeah nah this was just online it wasn't even real lmao. i was just bullied as a kiddo and dropped outta school to neet it up on mmos
            haha, I understand. I think WoW got in the way of any real relationships I could have built in my 20s I wasted so much time on that.

            It's good that you're getting out there and learning how to socialize. It can be hard, but I find it ultimately rewarding most of the time. I normally feel better after a night out than a night on vidya. haha I doubt I'll end up with a normal girl, I can't handle somehow high maintenance

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    its not your job to fix the world this guy would be sent into the wilderness 1000 years ago

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >its a real life misaki
    please please please please please save me too

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      ive never watched anime ill take this as a compliment god bless

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    he is not interested

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      He is, he just doesn't want to change. He just wants her to be there whenever he wants to talk and then go away when he wants vidya

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        this 100%. please stop describing my experiences.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          have you thought about playing vidya with him

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            yeah i asked to play a mmo with him (that he was binging) and he declined several times because he hates me now. i talked to him about nothing but the mmo and he still dislikes me lol it's over. I'm blocked now

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            So settle for guys who would take interest in things you like, rather than just going for Vidya guys

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            but that is my interest anon. i love mmos and video games. so does he. i didn't fake anything tbh. I'll move on eventually rn I'm just emotionally destroyed and don't want a replacement dude in my life like that now

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            The replacement dude could actually make you happy though. Being stuck in this guy makes little sense

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            why would i want a replacement?? no one should be a replacement that's fricked up anon. I'm stuck on him because I'm obsessed and codependent and don't know what to do now that the guy i spoke to every day for the last 6 years is gone lol!

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >and don't know what to do now that the guy i spoke to every day for the last 6 years is gone lol!
            Talk to a guy who wouldn't go away, that's what to do

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            how do i know he won't leave i was literally his exact type and he still left

            and you are willing to wait for him, understand him and meet him one day?

            I am so fricking jealous. That is literally my dream. Frick me. I kinda want to cry.

            I hope you make it work, anon. Best of luck

            get some higher standards

            [...]
            why not date someone in the US it's a huge country

            because i wasn't looking for love it just happened.. i should but i don't wanna date anyone anymore frick trying to bond with someone for another 6 years or less

            I'm autistic and tall and addicted to video games AND I live in the US.

            ladies, problem SOLVED!

            wow!!

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >wow!!
            I know right! we're perfect for each other

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >how do i know he won't leave
            I wouldn't leave because I'm extremely lonely and desperate and pathetic

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >get some higher standards
            standards for what?
            I don't like the place I live in.

            I don't want anyone. My standards are fine. But I would love to travel to another country to meet the girl I love.

            not much of a dreamer, are ya bud

            why? I think it'd be cool

            what the frick is wrong with the board today? Everyone is more pissy than usual.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            your dream is you want a girlfriend who essentially fell into your lap, but still loves you and goes through all these hoops for you while you put in zero effort and can jerk her around at will.

            it's not exactly high standards

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >your dream is you want a girlfriend who essentially fell into your lap, but still loves you and goes through all these hoops for you while you put in zero effort and can jerk her around at will.
            bro what?
            I'm the one who would be traveling for her. I'm the one who would be saving up, I'm the one who would be leaving everything behind. Are you moronic? Where did you even get all of those assumptions?
            >fell into your lap
            huh? where are you getting this from?
            jesus

            >it's not exactly high standards
            what the frick is your definition of high standards?
            I don't understand what that has to do with anything.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            whats your type? Is he just unattracted to you? Is he or you asexual? maybe hes submissive? idk

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            No he's pretty attracted to me. In fact when he fell out of love with me he still liked me very much physically. He's just moronic.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I'll be your clingy neet bf anon.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            i don't want a neet bf anymore you dingus i just spent 6 years setting myself on fire to keep someone warm and you're like "yeah do it again" i ain't some monkey jumping through hoops frick love and frick you let's just be friends and play video games i wanna play palworld with someone

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            ok how about this, you date a cute autistic guy with a job

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            : ( I can only play free to play games because I'm a NEET.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            oh yeah well time to move on for you, little lady. it's ogre, but don't worry you'll be fine.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            im op and yeah ive tried to play his favorite but im not very good at it so weve tried other games like stardew and sims (the only ones i play) which he did enjoy. ive also just watched him play on discord

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    does he live in the same country as you?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      no :/ i live in the usa and he lives in western eu

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        other anon b***hing about neet bf here I'm also usa and he's eu. FRICK YUROS I SWEAR TO GOD

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          no :/ i live in the usa and he lives in western eu

          why not date someone in the US it's a huge country

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            it just happened without my meaning to that i met him and he lives so far

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        and you are willing to wait for him, understand him and meet him one day?

        I am so fricking jealous. That is literally my dream. Frick me. I kinda want to cry.

        I hope you make it work, anon. Best of luck

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          yeah 100%, i already have almost 1k saved for a flight, i could already buy it now but i have no idea if he will be mentally ready this summer to meet. but thank you so much it means a lot! good luck as well!!!

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            holy shit.
            that's my dream.

            You're putting a lot of effort. I hope everything works out, anon.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            not much of a dreamer, are ya bud

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're not a therapist. Stop trying to be his therapist and encourage him to actually go to therapy.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'm autistic and tall and addicted to video games AND I live in the US.

    ladies, problem SOLVED!

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Chad doesn't even need to try at all.

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    help him make a plan and ask him about it each day, caring pressure. Ask him about his day and get him to use his freetime in productive ways.
    He might have undiagnosed ADHD which makes it very hard to commit to doing the things he needs

    He wants to do better for himself but has lived a long time broken as a hermit, you can save him and he will thank you the rest of his life for it

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      you can't save him dummy, that shit never works

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      tysm actually this gives me hope. i feel like im gonna try tomorrow asking him about it but who knows

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        good luck! be patient and supportive!

        ok how about this, you date a cute autistic guy with a job

        i don't want to date anyone i don't care if you are chad thunderwiener himself you dense fish brain

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          so what are you going to do, become a sad cat lady or something huh

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            yes

            https://i.4cdn.orgNSFFW1705810475783102.jpg

            : ( I can only play free to play games because I'm a NEET.

            i used to be like that i have a job now though a very basic job but i can actually afford things it feels nice. what f2p shit you like

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I played genshin, playing mostly star rail at the moment. I play some league sometimes too. I used to play a lot of free mmos like ragnarok and maple story 2.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I'm extremely depressed and only really feel like playing mobile games. been pretty into Star rail lately. and limbis company. if you want you could drop contact we can talk about it

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Sure. vacilith is my tag.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        no problem, neet love I believe is the purest love in the world
        keep us updated on how he's doing and never let yourself get demoralized

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    He did he attract you?
    Where did you two meet?
    t. KHHV hikineet who wants a girl to dig him outta his hole

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      we met online on a random language learning thing i had no idea what he looked like and vice versa but i thought he was really funny and we had a great connection, then when he did show me what he looked like i thought he was very habdsome

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Lol, it always comes down to this. I used to know a few people like that. Good looking guys would sit around constantly talking about how it's over but they'd all end up getting e-gfs or irl eventually, even good jobs. You can succeed in life so long as you're beautiful.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Jesus christ, when did everyone here get so fricking desperate?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >when
      it's always been like that buddy boy did you see the earlier femanon threads? girl posted gif of her nude and showed her puss and everyone went crazy

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I don't really come to this board much these days but so many threads (especially female centered ones) feel like nothing but blog posts looking for hugs and shit. For all the women hating that seems to be spoken about, guys just turn into obedient, desperate puppies at the sight of one.

        idk man.
        Today's been a weird day.
        The board is literally normie central, and everyone is being more moronic than usual.

        I'm a bit surprised at how bad it's been.

        Feels like a schizo variation of /adv/

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          yeah it's kind of gross. but this is the hugbox board now it seems. everyone's lonely and hateful but wants to be loved.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >Feels like a schizo variation of /adv/
          it's worse.
          Like I usually enjoy my time here, even if most threads are trash and morons arguing. But I'm really feeling out of place today. Idk.
          what the frick

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      idk man.
      Today's been a weird day.
      The board is literally normie central, and everyone is being more moronic than usual.

      I'm a bit surprised at how bad it's been.

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >i genuinely am just looking for advice how to help him
    There is only very little you can do from a distance.
    You have to realize and accept that.
    LDR is only possible if one of the two is at least somewhat well-off and has a steady income.

    Also, is he dyslexic or a third worlder? He types like an idiot.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      worse, he's europoorean

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Some Eastern European I guess?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          nah man im op hes from like one of the wealthiest western eu countries which maybe makes it worse

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            That's weird.
            His English is really fricking terrible.
            Does he have some kind of learning disabilities or something? I don't even mean this in an offensive way btw, I'm just genuinely surprised.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            no he was just drunk in these messages, his english is very very good

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            A lot of NEETS are from these countries because they give you shekels for sitting in your room.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        oh no my condolences

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