I love my fiance but goddamn do I want to have some fricking sex.

I love my fiance but goddamn do I want to have some fricking sex. We've been together for 4 years and we used to have tons of sex, but within the last year or so her interest in it has really started to dry up. I think I've expressed a desire to have sex directly or indirectly every day for the last week, and nothing has happened. It's always "later teehee" or "I don't feel like it right now because _____".

Of course I understand not wanting sex, but she's gone from wanting and initiating hot rough sex more than once a day to....basically nothing. And all this generates a negative feedback loop, because the less she seems interested in it, the less I'm going to try initiating.

How the frick can I get some pussy? I'm so tired of jerking off and watching porn, it's miserable after a while.

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Something changed, either in you or in her or both. The number of things that could be wrong is staggering and not something a bunch of incel homosexuals on a siberian barbequeing forum can answer. Therapy if you can afford it, frank discussions if you can't, accept the outcome either way. No matter what however, sort the sex drive mismatch out before you actually are married or you will end up with a divorce.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Sexless boomer Reddit woman advice

      OP do this if you never want to have sex again as you pathetically try and “woo” your own WIFE

      Well so what's the play if I've said "hey I've noticed we aren't really having a lot of sex anymore and I'd like to have more sex because I think it's good for our relationship" etc. and her reply is just "I know, I'm sorry, I'm just not feeling as sexual as I was"? I can't force her to want to have sex, and otherwise I love her enough to marry her.

      >How the frick can I get some pussy?
      You have to try to figure out what's missing for her without making it about trying to get something. Is she tired/stressed/having some medical thing for example.Did you move in together and she feels overwhelmed or whatever.

      Be sexy and romantic towards her without making it about the end goal. She needs to see you as sexy and know that you see her that way. That will also help her trust you in case there is some external medical or stress thing happening to her

      >some external medical
      She's on hormonal birth control, which is probably at least a little bit of it, but the alternative to that is no birth control since she's tried IUDs and hates them, she doesn't want an implant or patch, and we both hate condoms.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >"I know, I'm sorry, I'm just not feeling as sexual as I was"?

        That is the start of a conversation. Ask her what changed, talk to her about her feelings, be open about your own but try your best not to make anything anyone's fault. Maybe she is just bored and wants some spice, maybe your gaining weight and she doesn't like that, maybe her hormones are getting out of wack and she needs to change her diet. A major mismatch in sex drive can kill a relationship and it is worth working on. I'll give you the words I would use.

        "I know you aren't feeling as sexual as you were when we first got together, and I respect that, but I need that feeling of connection and excitement, so can we talk about why your feelings changed and try some ideas on how to fix it?"

        If she gets stubborn and won't change, don't get married. Relationships take effort and if she isn't willing to try for your needs when you are trying for her's, she isn't the right one.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Don't overlook this birth control possibility either. It's a known thing that can happen to women. Better to figure out if it's the problem first and then figure out how to address it

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        get her off the pill and just pull out, holy frick. Bro you are a fricking spooge thats why she doesn't want to frick you anymore lmao

        >I cant force her to have sex
        GAGAGA holy frick my man holy frick. Literally yes you can, just force her to have sex. Come home, bend her over, and cum on her or in her.

        You not being sexually aggressive is the problem. Shes probably fricking other guys or about to.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Could be partially the birth control, probably just that she isn't actually attracted to you (no I'm not samegayging with the post above this, I'm the same person)

        This might sound really naive, but scarcity creates value. After a month of not wetting your dick, you'll probably have great sex.

        Hilarious reddit tier cope

        She lost her attraction to you. I am so sorry. You aren’t telling us the full story are you?

        She was never attracted in the first place, that's one of the more brutal blackpills of normie relationships.

        [...]
        [...]
        We talked about it a little bit and at first she said she was sorry, and that she's been stressed lately and not feeling very sexual. But then she also implied that she would possibly want to have more sex if I did more chores around the house. She said this is because at the beginning of the relationship, when we were having a lot more sex, she felt like I was doing more to keep things clean.

        Personally I think that implication is a bit bizarre, because not only do I feel like I do plenty of chores but I also don't consider whether or not she's done chores when I think about having sex with her. We've had talks about house chores before and in my view it boils down to the age-old "woman accuses man of not doing chores but really she just is more anxious about chores than him so she always gets to them first"

        Lmao she just wants to train you to do more. She feels like she hasn't gotten enough out of the relationship since she had to settle for your looks. As a result, she's trying to get you to agree to chores in exchange for sex. She'll just keep expecting more and more for you to get sex until eventually she won't have sex with you at all but you'll still be expected to do all of the chores and pay for everything. good luck trying to get a divorce too, since you'll lose half your stuff and have to lose a good chunk of your paycheck for the rest of your life. Prenups are a meme, they can be thrown out for basically any reason the judge wants if it doesn't favor the woman.

        Most of the rest of this thread is reddit advice.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          This. None of the reddit discussions with le your signific**t other matter. Women don't need flowers or split chores or anything else to want sex. Not that you shouldn't do that in a real relationship (the one where she loves you and initiates sex a lot). But in the average normie relationshit none of that stuff is going to make her desire you more. I've been in both kinds, admittedly it's pretty awful to realize you're in the latter.
          t. sex haver & relationship quitter

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >studied hard
    >Had a shit office job but make good money
    >Have a son with wife at 25
    >He is sever autist (you can't detect severe autism during pregnacy)
    >He is 9yo
    >Can't talk only makes weird noises
    >Only play with baby toys
    >He have to wear diapers because somedays he refuses to go to the bath
    >Some days he becomes agresive and destroys the house
    >He only sleeps 3-4h
    >No sex with wife (sex drive goes to 0 when you don't sleep a full night for years)
    >Only fun thing of my life is playing some vidya in the bus to work
    >Regret not being a comfy happy neet.

    Enjoy your peace

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >How the frick can I get some pussy?
    You have to try to figure out what's missing for her without making it about trying to get something. Is she tired/stressed/having some medical thing for example.Did you move in together and she feels overwhelmed or whatever.

    Be sexy and romantic towards her without making it about the end goal. She needs to see you as sexy and know that you see her that way. That will also help her trust you in case there is some external medical or stress thing happening to her

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Sexless boomer Reddit woman advice

      OP do this if you never want to have sex again as you pathetically try and “woo” your own WIFE

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This might sound really naive, but scarcity creates value. After a month of not wetting your dick, you'll probably have great sex.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    She lost her attraction to you. I am so sorry. You aren’t telling us the full story are you?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      Don't overlook this birth control possibility either. It's a known thing that can happen to women. Better to figure out if it's the problem first and then figure out how to address it

      >"I know, I'm sorry, I'm just not feeling as sexual as I was"?

      That is the start of a conversation. Ask her what changed, talk to her about her feelings, be open about your own but try your best not to make anything anyone's fault. Maybe she is just bored and wants some spice, maybe your gaining weight and she doesn't like that, maybe her hormones are getting out of wack and she needs to change her diet. A major mismatch in sex drive can kill a relationship and it is worth working on. I'll give you the words I would use.

      "I know you aren't feeling as sexual as you were when we first got together, and I respect that, but I need that feeling of connection and excitement, so can we talk about why your feelings changed and try some ideas on how to fix it?"

      If she gets stubborn and won't change, don't get married. Relationships take effort and if she isn't willing to try for your needs when you are trying for her's, she isn't the right one.

      We talked about it a little bit and at first she said she was sorry, and that she's been stressed lately and not feeling very sexual. But then she also implied that she would possibly want to have more sex if I did more chores around the house. She said this is because at the beginning of the relationship, when we were having a lot more sex, she felt like I was doing more to keep things clean.

      Personally I think that implication is a bit bizarre, because not only do I feel like I do plenty of chores but I also don't consider whether or not she's done chores when I think about having sex with her. We've had talks about house chores before and in my view it boils down to the age-old "woman accuses man of not doing chores but really she just is more anxious about chores than him so she always gets to them first"

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >she always gets to them first
        This is the problem. She's telling you exactly what's wrong. She feels things are out of balance and could even be physically worn out from household stuff. Neither of those feelings are hot

        > I also don't consider whether or not she's done chores when I think about having sex
        It's not like she's enumerating some chore list in her head before sex

        it's does she feel like she can trust you to be fair to her and look out for her in ways she cares about. Help her be more relaxed in her life by doing the dishes or whatever because you care about her and it will be fine

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >But then she also implied that she would possibly want to have more sex if I did more chores around the house.
        This is manipulation. Do not accept. The real answer is you have to show her other women are interested in you.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          and this. Dread game (making them jealous, making them feel insecure ie that you might leave them) is very powerful.

          Next time she doesn't frick you leave the house, tell her your going to the bar.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        It isn't an A>B thing. When you see someone taking care of the house it signals they are a good caretaker. Would you want to live with someone who doesn't do dishes? Its even more impactful for women. When they see you doing chores, you are taking care of the house 'with' her. You are doing things that make her space nicer and taking care of labor she feels needs to be done. If you spent every weekend building an addition onto the house I'm sure she would be sucking your soul out of your dick.

        and this. Dread game (making them jealous, making them feel insecure ie that you might leave them) is very powerful.

        Next time she doesn't frick you leave the house, tell her your going to the bar.

        get her off the pill and just pull out, holy frick. Bro you are a fricking spooge thats why she doesn't want to frick you anymore lmao

        >I cant force her to have sex
        GAGAGA holy frick my man holy frick. Literally yes you can, just force her to have sex. Come home, bend her over, and cum on her or in her.

        You not being sexually aggressive is the problem. Shes probably fricking other guys or about to.

        I walk away for a day and BOOM the morons invade.

        >she always gets to them first
        This is the problem. She's telling you exactly what's wrong. She feels things are out of balance and could even be physically worn out from household stuff. Neither of those feelings are hot

        > I also don't consider whether or not she's done chores when I think about having sex
        It's not like she's enumerating some chore list in her head before sex

        it's does she feel like she can trust you to be fair to her and look out for her in ways she cares about. Help her be more relaxed in her life by doing the dishes or whatever because you care about her and it will be fine

        This guy gets it.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          Serious question to the women here like you, do you really think it's okay to neglect your partner's sexual needs because you don't want to have sex?

          It doesn't matter if you don't want to have sex, you should still do it out consideration for your partner.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            My friend, I am married man who's wife begged me to frick her in the ass two weeks after giving birth to our first child "because I love you so much and this is the best way I can show it at the moment".

            If you seriously haven't figured out that women don't view sex as transactional, then you will never know love.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    That's how women work, as soon as they feel like they've figured you out the attraction disappears.
    The only real answer her is dumping her. You don't want to get married to a b***h who doesn't want to frick you.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    If she's Japanese, she might let you see a prostitute.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    imagine not just raping your woman

    some of you guys, I don't think you get it.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You are going to have a dead bedroom if you get married. She is probably settling for you because you have some resources she wants but she isn't actually attracted to you, and she will resent you forever as a result of this. Do not continue with the relationship, she does not love you and is not attracted to you. The only reason she used to have sex with you is because she needed to placate you for long enough to get the ring and now that she has the resources secured she's just doing what she truly wanted to do this whole time. The relationship will only get worse if you stay with her.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    why dont you ask if she's cheating

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You are not chad simple as. Now that she has secured your resources she does not feel the need to pretend she finds you attractive.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Ask her to go to the sexuologist or urologist. If she doesn't go, the problem is not with her sex drive, the problem is with her attraction to You.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      [...]
      [...]
      We talked about it a little bit and at first she said she was sorry, and that she's been stressed lately and not feeling very sexual. But then she also implied that she would possibly want to have more sex if I did more chores around the house. She said this is because at the beginning of the relationship, when we were having a lot more sex, she felt like I was doing more to keep things clean.

      Personally I think that implication is a bit bizarre, because not only do I feel like I do plenty of chores but I also don't consider whether or not she's done chores when I think about having sex with her. We've had talks about house chores before and in my view it boils down to the age-old "woman accuses man of not doing chores but really she just is more anxious about chores than him so she always gets to them first"

      She said it upfront that Op doesn't clean enough.
      If OP actually does do enough cleaning, then he should start making his efforts more obvious. (If he vaccums, leave the vaccum out to signify, etc, and discuss with her how to make her feel better about your efforts)
      Comfort her you moron.

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