i want to work on my hobbies and studies and pour all of my time into them but if i wait too long before finding a boyfriend/husband then i'm goi...

i want to work on my hobbies and studies and pour all of my time into them but if i wait too long before finding a boyfriend/husband then i'm going to be too old. but it's a lot of effort finding someone i can talk to i think

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    find a boyfriend who shares your hobbies and studies and work on them together

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      What are your hobbies? You'll likely meet someone through those if you're biologically a woman

      they're all indoor/autistic hobbies, or just art/writings/other work that i don't share anywhere. I'm sure someone with similar tastes would be just as confined.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Oh well, best you just do what you love then. As long as you don't look like a troll, whenever you decide to be social, the odds of you meeting guys is higher than not.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          i've started taking care of myself and all, just sort of blackpilled. thanks though, anon

          maybe you're just avoidant.

          i am very much so. just don't feel very lonely even though i have been alone for a while

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            meh
            frankly, i think for lots of women, they end up sensing theyve overprioritized education and careermaking for too much of their life. nothing wrong with it, some women like it, some women are pushed into believing they value things that they don't for some greater, more dignified purpose. who the frick knows
            what do women even want? i dunno kek

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            also
            i feel like lots of people end up feeling this way. so hope you know youre not alone anon

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          She can meet guys but it's unlikely she'll meet the right one.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        https://i.imgur.com/98onPO6.jpg

        i want to work on my hobbies and studies and pour all of my time into them but if i wait too long before finding a boyfriend/husband then i'm going to be too old. but it's a lot of effort finding someone i can talk to i think

        You are literally me except I am a dude.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          I would think that the type of man who I would get along with best would be this way as well.

          meh
          frankly, i think for lots of women, they end up sensing theyve overprioritized education and careermaking for too much of their life. nothing wrong with it, some women like it, some women are pushed into believing they value things that they don't for some greater, more dignified purpose. who the frick knows
          what do women even want? i dunno kek

          >some women are pushed into believing they value things that they don't for some greater, more dignified purpose.
          It was just my parents pushing me to pursue education over anything, but they never forbid me from dating or anything, I just never wanted to or thought I'd deal with it later.
          >what do women even want? i dunno kek
          I don't know what anyone wants, honestly. I thought I would just meet someone through hobbies but then I realized none of these are social.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            did you have authoritarian parents growing up? i feel like having a parental figure constantly look down on you for not prioritizing (x thing) in your life enough makes you grow up not knowing what makes you happy, and whos company you enjoy. was it kinda like that or different

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        want to be my gf? i also have autistic hobbies like painting miniatures

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          what else? that's cool though, I want to try gunpla, I paint air-dried figures I make but they're pretty simple.

          also
          i feel like lots of people end up feeling this way. so hope you know youre not alone anon

          yeah. I've always felt like it would be impossible to find someone with the same amount of passion I have for shit I like. Thanks anon.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            if you want to talk about painting miniatures and stuff you can add me on discord (mines: suno_). i've never tried gunpla myself but a lot of the techniques i use like applying decals would transfer over. i mosty paint little pewter casted dudes.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I don't really like discord but I could try it, but I'd like to know if we have any other hobbies in common first. I'm guessing you like history in general but I also am really into retro games.

            did you have authoritarian parents growing up? i feel like having a parental figure constantly look down on you for not prioritizing (x thing) in your life enough makes you grow up not knowing what makes you happy, and whos company you enjoy. was it kinda like that or different

            strict, and pretty weird, but I never wanted to try going outside and doing shit other kids did. Though now they lambast me for not having any friends. What about you?

            Again, how old are you? What are you studying? This stuff all matters, you know? There's a difference between being 18 and 25.

            20. Life sciences. Just didn't want to answer personal questions. Even though this is an anonymous board.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            yeah i also like retro games. it may be cliche but pokemon red is my favourite lol, played through it multiple times with my brother. i don't know if ps2 counts as retro at this point but there's some games on there i really like such as soul calibur 2 and duelist of the roses. for pc things like heroes of might and magic 3 and warcraft 3 are gude. i also like reading manga and mystery/thriller visual novels.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'd consider PS2 retro, a lot of the games I like the best are either on there/their series originated from there. I never liked Warcraft though, just classic WoW. What visual novels are your favorite?

            yeah, i had a dad who was very punitive with small behaviors. it was nothing outright abusive, but i remember i got screamed at for long periods of time if i did something he didn't agree with, even something like laughing too hard at the table
            i dont think i am doing badly as an adult but i am pretty awful at understanding my emotions or regulating them. i don't really know what i like and socialization is anxiety inducing to the point of becoming a hermit. i think trying to pay more attention to my feelings helps but eh i have no social life and similar feelings to you so idk what to do

            i don't think I'm doing that bad either, I make myself happy doing what I always have been and have always loved, but thinking about having to find friends and such is stressful and anxiety inducing. Are you a complete NEET?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i really like the r07 ones (umineko, higanbana, higu) and i'm reading through dies irae at the moment. i also played classic wow but i'm done with it now. i used to play on the old vanilla wow pserver nostalrius and a few others before classic came out. was fun until my guild imploded due to server drama lol. what games do you like the most? also here's a recent dude i painted.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            no. im in college. sorry, thought you meant you were a student
            its not like anyone is destined to find friends and a sense of belonging in education anyways. maybe you just have to learn where to find people like you, some people can't really just intuit that kind of thing with others.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i'm 25, a guy and i live in england. i like pokeymans and painting miniatures. i wageslave for long hours so can't play games or voice until the evening. looking to meet nice people. i have never talked to a girl online and my irl life has zero women but my mum in it

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            wtf are you literally me

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I just found your posts in the archive and thought I'd troll you. Do you feel trolled?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i thought as much haha. i'm just trying to put myself out there!

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            yeah, i had a dad who was very punitive with small behaviors. it was nothing outright abusive, but i remember i got screamed at for long periods of time if i did something he didn't agree with, even something like laughing too hard at the table
            i dont think i am doing badly as an adult but i am pretty awful at understanding my emotions or regulating them. i don't really know what i like and socialization is anxiety inducing to the point of becoming a hermit. i think trying to pay more attention to my feelings helps but eh i have no social life and similar feelings to you so idk what to do

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I could save you, and I could save OP. But she seems a bit dull, doesn't she? No, no, nobody is getting saved today.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i honestly prefer dull people to those that are very loud or intentionally disruptive (all the time)
            certain personality types soothe the nervous system while others activate it. very much fight vs flight

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Dull versus disruptive? They are not exactly on opposite ends of a continuum are they? You can be non-dull without being disruptive. What I mean is that, there is no life emanating from OP's post. She just seems a bit too placid, a bit too content with rotting on some small parcel of land in some small room painting her little figurines (that she won't even show anyone!). She's not even interested in having a boyfriend, it's just FOMO for her, some responsibility she has to meet before it's too late. She has no Faustian spirit, she has no will to power. She's BORING! BORING! (And she refused to answer my personal questions too.) Okay. Now I'm being disruptive. It's okay, I'll stop. Do you feel soothed? I can soothe you too. Chill lo-fi beats to study to? Nujabes? Uyama Hiroto? Lounge Jazz?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i dont think you get that some people are okay and prefer being placid and boring. some people socialize by being more thrilling and it's a difference in personality, there's nothing inherently wrong with being boring.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            okay with*
            god what is with my typing

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I do understand. I wasn't make a value judgment on OP, but stating my personal preferences. She made this thread in an attempt at resolving her problem. Whether it was known to her or driven by some hidden unconscious process, she created this thread to attract male attention. The ideal outcome being that she finds her boyfriend in this thread and lives happily ever after. Well, okay. Fine. Could that be me? So I asked a few questions, and then determined, no, it shouldn't be me. It's not even as if I have a problem with boring girls, in the sense that they have no ambition and just want to stay at home. It's that OP seems so passive and uninterested in a relationship at all, it seems driven by FOMO rather than a genuine desire for a human connection or all of the other benefits of a long term relationship. Make sense?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            a lot of women do not know what they want. is this really like some surprising thing. you think the issue is that she doesn't have a boyfriend when in reality, she knows that's not the issue, but some feeling indicating a bigger problem in her life. or something along those lines
            obviously i am just projecting a lot but sometimes people don't want what they say they want, and the fixation on what you perceive to be the problem due to your own biases misleads you

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I do think you are projecting yeah. It seems pretty straightforward to me, and OP doesn't seem very confused (unlike you). My advice to you is simple, stop lying. You don't want what you say you want because somewhere along the line you lied to yourself about something and let a story you told yourself, about yourself, get out of control. You have to pay attention to your reactions to things, and not try to stifle them because it makes you feel bad, or look bad, or this or that. I'm just guessing, you know?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            And perhaps, this has some tie to your strict father you mentioned earlier. You are afraid to just naturally react to things, the punitive father is always watching over you, making sure you do not laugh too hard. You've internalized this and even though the father is not around, you still have a psychological circuit in your brain suppressing your behavior, the father is internal. Or, something like that. It's just a guess, yes?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i mean
            i don't know. i dont even really know what you're asking. i was mostly just pointing out that some people don't know what they want, punitive father or not.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Sigh, it's okay. That is all.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Dull versus disruptive? They are not exactly on opposite ends of a continuum are they? You can be non-dull without being disruptive. What I mean is that, there is no life emanating from OP's post. She just seems a bit too placid, a bit too content with rotting on some small parcel of land in some small room painting her little figurines (that she won't even show anyone!). She's not even interested in having a boyfriend, it's just FOMO for her, some responsibility she has to meet before it's too late. She has no Faustian spirit, she has no will to power. She's BORING! BORING! (And she refused to answer my personal questions too.) Okay. Now I'm being disruptive. It's okay, I'll stop. Do you feel soothed? I can soothe you too. Chill lo-fi beats to study to? Nujabes? Uyama Hiroto? Lounge Jazz?

            so how old are you bro

            no. im in college. sorry, thought you meant you were a student
            its not like anyone is destined to find friends and a sense of belonging in education anyways. maybe you just have to learn where to find people like you, some people can't really just intuit that kind of thing with others.

            i dont think you get that some people are okay and prefer being placid and boring. some people socialize by being more thrilling and it's a difference in personality, there's nothing inherently wrong with being boring.

            you sound like iris

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i honestly can be pretty loud and annoying, so not really, but i wish i was more calm. i definitely "like myself" more when im boring and dull. i dont like having my nervous system activated

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I'm 30. Too old for this board, or NSFFW really. But I am just one of many late bloomers left behind with no hope.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >30
            ew every girl here is like 18 get out gramps

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >ew every girl here is like 18
            Yes, and? Where do you think we are, Instagram or something? Do you think anyone here cares about that? By the way, I was here before you. Know your place, swine.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            My brother did the same, now he's 40 and insanely depressed that he doesn't have a child. But at least he can still try to have one.
            Do not be my brother, as a woman.

            Actually, do you wanna meet him? You two sound eerily alike

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yes, post his Discord right now.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            The guy's 40 so yeah no discord
            Also I just read the posts and noticed how weird this thread is and that OP isn't 30, sadly

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Post his phone number right now and I will call him. If that won't work, give me his email. If that won't work.. why did you even offer? You think this is a joke or something?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            op if you ever check this thread again and still want to talk hit me up at

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Again, how old are you? What are you studying? This stuff all matters, you know? There's a difference between being 18 and 25.

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    What are your hobbies? You'll likely meet someone through those if you're biologically a woman

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    maybe you're just avoidant.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >someone i can talk to i think
    And that someone? Chad.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How old are you now? What exactly are you looking for? What race are you? Have you ever come close to finding someone like that? What were they like?

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You can do both, when you are in a relationship, you aren't glued to each other 24/7

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    in the same boat. i want someone so badly to share my life with and talk about our hobbies with and just be in each others presence but guys probably dont care about girls' hobbies anyway. gahh

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you all scared op off already

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