I'm 30 now and still had no love in my life. This is really frustrating.

I'm 30 now and still had no love in my life. This is really frustrating. All the art and poetry and songlyrics are full of 'the magic and mystery of love' ... and I just don't get some. What does one have to do to find love? Is there a trick?

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i don't have a answer for you question, however, there's a philosopher named jiddu kristnamurti, he has great insights about love, you could check it out

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Hm, ok.
      >your comment was not original

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    your life is ruined, they'll just start calling you a commie/nazi and have you gassed/fired

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Because I'm 30 and single?

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Do you go out or have friends? That's usually how you meet someone, or maybe dating apps but I don't like those at all. I have no job and no friends so it's basically impossible for me to find a girl.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      not OP but it's impossible for to find a girl as well, i can't even fricking sustain myself

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What do you mean?

        You need to get yourself out there. Clubs. Conventions. Bars. Dancing parties. There are a lot of places to go.
        >in before I'm introvert who can't speak to a woman without dropping all my spaghetti.
        Well there's the problem then. To get a girl you have to talk to them first. They can't read your mind and only staring at them is creepy.

        Those are places you go to with at least one friend. What if OP has no friends? People like us who've lost motivation aren't going to go to a convention on their own and start talking to strangers. It's awkward and again, most people are there with their friends.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          i'm a depressed suicidal mentally ill who can't find a job nor make any money at all, tried getting a job, tried working online, and even with education and certification, i can't get any jobs because i always get ghosted no matter how hard i tried nor qualified i am

          i have better chances killing myself than succeding a interview!

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Dunno what to tell you anon. I might as well not have a CV because I have no meaningful experience or qualifications, but if you got both then maybe you're writing it wrong or just presenting yourself wrong in the interview.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            it's neither, i do everything i fricking could, i dress professionally, act professionally, shake their hands, answer all question simply and directly, but after every single interview, it's all in vain because they always ghost me, with no responses, explanations, reasons, apologies, nothing, and every time this shit happens i want to kill myself harder and i already am suicidal

            not just suicidal, but to cry until i die, and i'm just a absolute waste of human life

            but also, FRICK them to death and i truly hope they fricking die, i tried my absolute hardest, i have the qualifications for the jobs i fricking apply to, but they ...they keep doing this fricking absolute bullshit, of ghosting me, again and again, with no responses at all, even when i needed a job the most

            i don't think i can go to another fricking interview, i don't even have a vehicle/driver's license

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Not sure where you're from, but where I live it's extremely rare (like 0.1%) for an employer to contact you if you're turned down for a job. I send my CV and pretty much never hear from them. Even if I think that I'm 100% fit for the job (not just hopium, but legitimately), they still don't call me. It can be fricking infuriating, I agree, but I've learned to accept it. Depending on your tolerance, maybe apply for an entry level job?

            Hm no, I can make people like me. It's not so difficult. Basically just listen and don't be rude. If the views and opinions are too different it won't work, not because I would have a problem with it, but because the other one doesn't like my opinions, and I'm honest with them, I don't want to fake it.

            But having a nice conversation doesn't bring me closer to love. It might result in friendship (but usually not because most people are not that inteesting).

            Well I'm a guy, and I've pretty much given up on trying to meet someone. I'm invisible on dating apps (the algorithm doesn't help) and have no friends, and therefore cant be introduced to anyone. I'm not sure whether you're trying to meet someone online, because if you are, it's probably stupidly easy to have people on NSFFW line up in your DMs if they think you're a girl. I'm 31 so I can't be bothered with competing for anyone's attention, and meeting someone online is very sketchy with how simple it is to fake stuff. No idea what you talk about to guys you meet, so that's another thing.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            it's worse than that, because not only i send send and apply, i actually go to those fricking interviews and dress and act professionally, but they all keep ghosting with no responses, i hate this more than words can't describe because they literally left me for death and i hate this and i hate them

            it makes me suicidal as well, because iwas already supposed to have a job and be able to sustain myself but can't

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            But have you tried entry level jobs? Something like a call center, warehouse employee or whatever fits your personality? I worked in a warehouse and it was nice because I was alone 70% of the time. I know nobody wants to work these jobs if they have qualifications and whatnot, but if you have to financially support yourself and can't get help from the government or whatever then there's not much wiggle room, sadly.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            yes, STILL got ghosted in all of them

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    get on every single dating up and start liking everything that has a pulse

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You need to get yourself out there. Clubs. Conventions. Bars. Dancing parties. There are a lot of places to go.
    >in before I'm introvert who can't speak to a woman without dropping all my spaghetti.
    Well there's the problem then. To get a girl you have to talk to them first. They can't read your mind and only staring at them is creepy.

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    In order to find love you actually have to go outside and socialize, anon. I'm not doing any of these things neither and i'll probly end up kms at older age once last remaning family member i care about dies.

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Well, I'm female, and the point is not how to get in contact with people. I know how to do that (even if I'm introvert and aspie, and it's effort, but with alcohol I can do), but the last 10 years of doing that didn't brought me closer to finding love. Especially bars and clubs seem to be entirely about hook-up and not about love.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe you come off like a b***h. I talked to someone with Asperger's once, granted in was a troon, and he came off as a huge c**t. I know it wasn't on purpose, but the way he treated me made me not want to talk to him again.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Hm no, I can make people like me. It's not so difficult. Basically just listen and don't be rude. If the views and opinions are too different it won't work, not because I would have a problem with it, but because the other one doesn't like my opinions, and I'm honest with them, I don't want to fake it.

        But having a nice conversation doesn't bring me closer to love. It might result in friendship (but usually not because most people are not that inteesting).

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    should have talked to that shy cute girl in hs
    it's over afterwards if you are not a normie

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just work with her in a casual atmosphere, maybe a small office. Trust develops much quicker since you see each other for 8 hours a day.

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I work in an office and there are no women I want to fug, very uncool

  10. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    what do you do for work OP? do you make money ? are you in a position of power or a high status job ? (doctors, lawyers etc) I wouldn't consider engineer or IT high status . yeah they make good money but does that spark an interest in a females mind ? do you go out with friends? do you have female friends you can make connections with seeing they have anyone single ? do you go out to bars or clubs or whatever and make an attempt for a girl ? probably a shit example but you can still find a relationship at a club. prostitute or not , just gotta dig into a girls brain. you can't have that mentality that all women are prostitutes , a LOT are now , but not all keep that in mind.
    does love exist ? it does but here in western countries , really slim because females expectations. but like I said , there's girls out there looking for stability and with barely any bodies (1-2) .

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >what do you do for work OP?
      Nothing.
      >do you make money?
      No.
      >are you in a position of power?
      No.
      >do you go out with friends?
      I don't really have friends.
      >do you have female friends you can make connections with
      Some girls from school I still know, but they're married or moved away now and we have basically no contact.
      >do you go out to bars or clubs or whatever and make an attempt for a girl?
      I'm a girl. I did for a while but it felt kind of hopeles after some years.
      >you can't have that mentality that all women are prostitutes, a LOT are now, but not all keep that in mind.
      Ok 🙂
      >does love exist?
      Yeah, I guess so.
      >in western countries, really slim because females expectations.
      I only expect love. From both sides, I love him and he loves me. But I guess that's rare.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Hm, ok.
        >original

        Judging by your replies it's obvious to me why you can't find anyone. You're boring. You don't add anything of value to the conversation, just react to what the other person is saying without evolving the conversation. I'd probably ghost you after a day.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        If you're a woman who is at all interested in men, I'm 25/M/US and I will be your boyfriend. 30 and hasnt found love is something that I would likely kill myself over, I need somebody to be able to say good morning and goodnight to and to call sweet names and watch things with and talk to and pour affection on. I have very little motivation to live otherwise. My problem is that I come on too fast with affection and it makes me seem untrustworthy, its why my first and last last NSFFW GF ghosted me. If you can try to love me add itscatanon on discord and we can get to know eachother.

  11. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    there is no love for people like us, we are meant to suffer alone in silence

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Hm, ok.
      >original

  12. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Love is developed over time - theres no such thing as love at first sight. Thats just infatuation, but obv can lead to long lasting love. All my exes I fell in love with after being friends with them for a long time so uhhh join a hobby group and dont try to hook up just try to make genuine lasting friendships.

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