I'm going to be alone forever because of my sex repulsion.

I'm going to be alone forever because of my sex repulsion. Virgins don't exist and the thought of being with a sexhaver and having sex makes me want to vomit. I can't help it, I'm not one of those delusional anons who demands a virgin tradwife who will cook and clean for me, I just have this involuntary psychological response.
I just want to be loved, I just want someone to hug me. It's not fair.
Is there any hope?

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  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    everyone can be horny dipshit, it came free with your fricking instinct.

    anyway i feel sorry anon, but i don't have any advice other than go to professionals or exposure therapy. But from your lines, it seems like a trauma of sort, so maybe start from that

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >go to professionals or exposure therapy
      to what end? I don't exactly want to stop feeling disgusted by it, rather I just want to be with someone who doesn't disgust me.
      like if someone told you to go to therapy to make the idea of eating dogshit less disgusting to you you'd probably say "why can't I just not eat dogshit?"

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    How old are you? I used to be like this -- I found sex conceptually revolting to the point where I thought I may be asexual, but I eventually got over it.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I'm 22

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        I was like this until about 20/21. I just found sex gross and anything having to do with genitelia was nasty to me. I'm partially autistic which explains it. I got over it by not analyzing everything so in depth. Like veganas used to be the most disgusting thing to me but now I'm just neutral towards it

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          for me it's the act itself and its social and psychological implications.
          it always seems degrading, dehumanizing, traumatic or otherwise harmful. men valuing women solely for their sexual value, wanting to own and dominate them, women being attracted to violence, wealth, social status, wanting to control and exploit men, both sexes sexually manipulating each other like it's some sick game. it turns my stomach and they call it "love". I see it in my own unwanted sexual feelings, they reduce both me and the object of lust into empty shells that serve no purpose but to be defiled. I hate it.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >men valuing women solely for their sexual value, wanting to own and dominate them, women being attracted to violence, wealth, social status, wanting to control and exploit men

            Okay, I used to think like this 100% when I was in my teens. You've heavily dosed yourself on redpill stuff to the point where you developed an incredibly toxic view of all relationships. Yes, there are guys who just want sex and girls who want to use guys for money or whatever. It's like a prostitute - she gets his money, he gets her body.

            It's really hard to break away from this once you bought into it (literally took me years to reorient my mind), but, and not to sound cliche, most relationships are not like that. The girl and guy like each other's company which eventually leads to sex which both parties enjoy. Women have sexual drives just like us - they like having a dick wiggle in there, believe it or not.

            There are shallow people motivated by self-interest (the tate people and feminists) who try to destroy this dynamic, but please know that there are still plenty of relationships which are not grounded on exploitation

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >The girl and guy like each other's company which eventually leads to sex which both parties enjoy.
            why can't I have that but without the sex? why can't we just be asexual and hug? why does everyone have to have lost their virginity at 14?
            >You've heavily dosed yourself on redpill stuff to the point where you developed an incredibly toxic view of all relationships.
            not really, I just see the way most people talk about it and it's disgusting to me. I know that not everyone is like that because I'm not like that but I don't have any hope of finding someone like me.
            >please know that there are still plenty of relationships which are not grounded on exploitation
            how many are grounded on real love rather than sexuality? does real love even exist?

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Sex is a part of "real love".
            There's nothing "disgusting" about something so fundamental to the human experience.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >Sex is a part of "real love".
            so do you have sex with your mother? or your best friend? your dog?
            why is "real love" that involves romantic affection but not sex inconceivable?
            >There's nothing "disgusting" about something so fundamental to the human experience.
            there are a lot of disgusting things that are fundamental to the human experience, actually. disgust itself is fundamental to the human experience.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >so do you have sex with your mother? or your best friend? your dog?
            why is "real love" that involves romantic affection but not sex inconceivable?
            Go get a mother, best friend, dog etc.
            You're wanting love from a significant other while you're clearly lacking something in your life

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            You're mentally unstable anon, you clearly have some kind of extreme sexuality and are distressed by it and so successfully repress it, but you shouldn't assume that it's the same for everyone. There are perfectly normal and wholesome sex havers out there. They don't post very much online, but they exist, and you can be one of them too. You just need time, self-acceptance, and a good partner.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >There are perfectly normal and wholesome sex havers out there. They don't post very much online, but they exist, and you can be one of them too.
            but I don't want to. I just want a hug, that's all. is that really so much to ask for?
            >You're mentally unstable anon
            yeah, I know
            >you clearly have some kind of extreme sexuality and are distressed by it and so successfully repress it, but you shouldn't assume that it's the same for everyone
            I think the fact that sexuality has the capacity to be so harmful is an indication that it's not a basically good thing like people seem to think it is.
            I don't see how rape, bestiality, pedophilia, extreme fetishes etc. are really all that different from "normal" sex, same subject different object. something fundamentally good doesn't spontaneously turn into the worst thing ever when you give it to someone who didn't ask for it.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >but I don't want to. I just want a hug, that's all. is that really so much to ask for?
            No you don't "just" want that, you just admitted that you have strong sexual desires, you are just repressing them. You are dictating what you want instead of actually looking at your wants and needs.
            >I think the fact that sexuality has the capacity to be so harmful is an indication that it's not a basically good thing like people seem to think it is.
            That's what you think, because it's been harmful to you. You are overgeneralising on the basis of your own subjective experience.
            >I don't see how rape, bestiality, pedophilia, extreme fetishes etc. are really all that different from "normal" sex
            You do, because you just distinguished between them, so clearly there is some difference. Otherwise we would not have different words to describe all those things.
            >something fundamentally good doesn't spontaneously turn into the worst thing ever when you give it to someone who didn't ask for it.
            The good thing = sex, the "worst thing ever" = rape. Sex =/= rape, so as you can see, it's literally two different things.
            People with extreme paraphilias are usually psychologically aberrant and are suffering the effects of some kind of trauma. Some people make this trauma and aberrancy their identity - these people are screwed. But the rest can always seek healing.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >No you don't "just" want that, you just admitted that you have strong sexual desires, you are just repressing them.
            experiencing sexual feelings and having sexual desires are different things. I experience sexual feelings, they are unpleasant to me and I don't want them. I have no desire to engage in the act of sexual intercourse.
            >That's what you think, because it's been harmful to you. You are overgeneralising on the basis of your own subjective experience.
            isn't the fact that I've had that experience proof of my point that sex has the capacity to be harmful and therefor isn't inherently good? you can argue that it's not inherently bad either but that wasn't necessarily the point I was trying to make.
            >You do, because you just distinguished between them, so clearly there is some difference.
            I distinguished between them because other people do. I'm not saying there's no difference in severity but they're all fundamentally the same act. same as how "neutralizing an enemy" and "friendly fire" both fundamentally refer to killing a man.
            >The good thing = sex, the "worst thing ever" = rape. Sex =/= rape, so as you can see, it's literally two different things
            you can make anything true if you play with definitions like that. rape is sex.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            You're not going to convince anyone that sex is bad, no matter how much you espouse your delusions.
            You can either try to get help with your problem (and it IS a problem) or just be content with platonic relationships.
            If you want to try to rope someone into a hollow relationship like what you're describing, then you could probably find some lonely dude to go along with it, but sooner or later he'll get sick of it and leave you or become abusive from the stress of an unfulfilling relationship.
            >but why can't I get a romantic relationship without sex
            Because that's not the way people are, and there's something wrong with you if you can't get that.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >experiencing sexual feelings and having sexual desires are different things. I experience sexual feelings, they are unpleasant to me and I don't want them. I have no desire to engage in the act of sexual intercourse.
            This is basically exactly what I said but in a different language. Your body and emotions clearly want sex, but your conscious mind is forbidding it (or "repressing" it, if you prefer).
            Trying to bottle this shit up won't work very well, as I am sure you will eventually find out. The goal is to find a healthy, fulfilling expression of one's sexuality - not to repress everything.
            >isn't the fact that I've had that experience proof of my point that sex has the capacity to be harmful and therefor isn't inherently good? you can argue that it's not inherently bad either but that wasn't necessarily the point I was trying to make.
            Sure, but then we get to the question of whether it is good FOR YOU or bad FOR YOU. And if it is bad for you, the ideal would be to make it good for you, especially because like it or not there's no getting rid of it. Sexuality is constantly present not just to you, but to everyone else around you as well. If you spend all of your time hating it, you're going to be miserable.
            >I distinguished between them because other people do. I'm not saying there's no difference in severity but they're all fundamentally the same act. same as how "neutralizing an enemy" and "friendly fire" both fundamentally refer to killing a man.
            Those are also very different things, on the basis of who is killed and the manner of death (accidental or deliberate). These are not details, they are essential features. The same applies to sex. Both sex and sexual paraphilias are sexually engaging, but only normal sex is natural (meaning present by design) and healthy.
            Cont

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >you can make anything true if you play with definitions like that. rape is sex.
            And is sex rape as well? If it's not, then what I said earlier holds up. Only very few feminists hold that all sex is rape, and their reasoning is very shoddy. I doubt you hold the same position. Sex and rape are obviously very different things.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Interesting because sex is anything but dehumanizing. It is part of our species' long legacy. Yeah, if you're hyperfixating cuz NSFFW has some fricking AWEFUL porn, you'll not appreciate that sex is an extension of love. But also, keep in mind sex is just that- an expression. It isn't love itself. Anyone who says otherwise is a fool. It is a way to have some kin, leave a mark and embrace your lover more than just saying 'I Love You'. You are physiologically expressing it in two ways; (1) the pleasure craved through (2) making a child.

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I can relate. I hate how rare it is for someone to agree with us

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Someone as broken as you sound would not make a good partner, nor be pleasant to cuddle with. Another one of you would only end up with you two disgusted with each other.
    Go ask your father for a hug

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