I'm losing my mind I can't get over my past boyfriend

I'm losing my mind I can't get over my past boyfriend

He dumped me 6 and a half months ago and found a new one 5 months ago (they're still together) but I can't look at anyone new in my mind we're still pair bounded and nothing I tried can change it

I'm losing my mind I don't even like the person he became or want to be with him again but deep in my moronic brain he's still the man I fell in love with in 2020 and he's still my other half

Is there anything I can do to fricking move on and untangle my brain from the memory of him?

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  1. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Reason #425 why you should NEVER date a girl with a past bf
    It's that simple folks.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      So it was true, oh lord maybe the people who wanted a virgin were right

  2. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Lol, Im laughing at your pain, good for him, total foid emotional suffering til the end of time. You are losing your mind, you will never be enough, and I wish you a terrible day.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      I'm a homosexual dude

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        Honestly, you should just have a nice day, you worthless shit.

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        Same sentiment, since youre obviously femoid brained

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          I mean is that a bad thing? Is wanting to share a life together with someone and have a nice home and a family really so bad?

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            >I mean is that a bad thing?
            Yes.
            >Is wanting to share a life together with someone and have a nice home and a family really so bad?
            Thats not why youre femoid brained, dumb gay

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        you're op, we already knew that

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        I can relate. I'm supposed to be a straight guy and yet I fell in love with some random guy online who was more thoughtful than anyone else I've ever met. He gave me a lot of affection but then we fought over some trivial bullshit and he dumped me. Now he moved on and he's with a girl. I know that the person I loved is gone and that he will never return to how he was since he hates me now, but there's still this pair bonding in my brain. I tried getting a gf but I couldn't, my heart needs time to heal. Unfortunately there's no shortcut to healing emotional pain, you need patience and courage.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          honestly ever since I found out he found my replacement month and a half after dumping me I feel the pressure to get over him as soon as possible like it's pathetic to miss someone who clearly never gave much shit about you in the first place despite what he said

          But yeah I guess I understand

          I had a guy like that in HS, we never met but we talked every day over skype for a year and it hurt like hell when it ended. I thing a large part of the reason why those things hurt is precisely because they're immaterial, it's like you're talking to a voice in your head and it's never concrete enough to truly experience the negatives while being super easy to project your ideal relationship onto it

          Don't pull other people into your bullshit. No one likes being the rebound. Don't be an butthole.

          I would be very clear upfront about the nature of the relationship

          For all my flaws I'm not manipulative or dishonest which I guess I'm somewhat blind to it

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            >honestly ever since I found out he found my replacement month and a half after dumping me I feel the pressure to get over him as soon as possible like it's pathetic to miss someone who clearly never gave much shit about you in the first place despite what he said
            Same, he clearly didn't give a shit about me as much as I thought and he moved on pretty quickly. I feel like I'm getting closer to moving on but it still hurts a bit sometimes.

            >a large part of the reason why those things hurt is precisely because they're immaterial, it's like you're talking to a voice in your head and it's never concrete enough to truly experience the negatives while being super easy to project your ideal relationship onto it
            That's very well said, it's exactly like that. I'm sure if I actually talked to him irl it wouldn't hurt as much but the immaterial aspect made me idealize him way too much I think. Thanks, you gave me some food for thought.

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            No problem man, I'm thankful for your input as well

  3. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    What was the reason he dumped you?

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      He just wanted us to be friends and doesn't believe he can be in a long term relationship

      2 months prior he was telling me he wants us to grow old together

      we're not friends and haven't seen each other since October btw, he found this new guy in November and they're still together

      Maybe it would be easier to get over him if he was honest all the while instead of gaslighting and manipulating me

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        >he found this new guy
        oh you're a fricking homosexual

  4. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I feel like I'll be the same way if I ever date someone else besides my ex girlfriend, only it'll be worse since my heart will be even more scrambled. Break up with your bf, and get over your ex properly before trying to date again. It's not fair to yourself, or your boyfriend.

  5. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    Learn how to lock away memories. If you can't skill issue IG.

  6. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    this is the type of hoe to blow up your entire relationship the second her old ex breaks up and chats her ass up for a booty call

  7. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    my ex abused me and i loved him
    i fell for him hard
    but deep down i knew it would end one day
    i knew one day i would be on my own
    remember this
    you can stand on your own
    you dont need anybody
    if you havent gone no contact i suggest you do

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      <3

      I have gone no contact even though he sent me some messages to say happy birthday, NY and stuff but I don't even wanna text him

      He deleted his instagram profile but I occasionaly go look up his new bf one, that's how I know they're still together

      I think some people are naturally attuned(?) to some 'soul mate' theory or hypersensative to love hormones, be through atypical levels/sensativity to hormones or life expereince, or both.
      I'm one of these people. I had a gf in high school I am still in love with her a decade later (though to a much lesser extent and she only enters my mind infrequently now). When she dumped me then continued to use me for a couple of years she was still the only thing that made me happy, euphoric like a drug, I spent 3 years slowly coming out of catatonic depression. Her car had a very distictive engine sound and whenever something similar drove by I'd run to the window and check if she was there. objectively she was a horrible gf though, full on bi-polar, extreamly underminding and so agressive that I would have to pin her down to stop her from beating me.

      I swore by the time I got over her I would never let someone have that much emotional control over me again which was really unfair on my ex...

      My only advice is try to meet someone else, approach men you like, the balls in your court as a women, eventually you'll find someone and notice you haven't thought of your ex in ages.

      Sorry to hear that man

      I genuinelly don't understand how you can stop loving someone, I can understand how you can get over someone or not love the person they become but what is the quality of your love if you just lose interest in someone you once supposedly 'loved'

      I still sometimes dream of my childhoold friend and I haven't seen him since I was like 11 years old

      • 4 months ago
        Anonymous

        I don't know either. I feel like if you genually loved someone and were together for at least 3 months there would always be a spark if you happen to run in to them. Idk though, we can only perceive the world through our interpritation. Also you have to remember time doesn't stand still we change, we age, we have new experiences. Never expect someone to recripcate emotions just because you want them too, its just not the way humans work.

        Anyway like I said, get back out there, try to find someone who makes you happy. Youth is fleeting, hopefully you can be one of the lucky ones that beats this lonliness epidemic.

        • 4 months ago
          Anonymous

          Thank you, I'm determined to at least get a rebound guy lol

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            Good luck. Please be careful not to let you get used for sex, be sauve, aloof and feel things out, make sure there not fricking someone else. Once your sure embarace the relationship. At least that worked for me as a straight dude.

          • 4 months ago
            Anonymous

            Don't pull other people into your bullshit. No one likes being the rebound. Don't be an butthole.

  8. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    my benis has the cure

  9. 4 months ago
    Anonymous

    I think some people are naturally attuned(?) to some 'soul mate' theory or hypersensative to love hormones, be through atypical levels/sensativity to hormones or life expereince, or both.
    I'm one of these people. I had a gf in high school I am still in love with her a decade later (though to a much lesser extent and she only enters my mind infrequently now). When she dumped me then continued to use me for a couple of years she was still the only thing that made me happy, euphoric like a drug, I spent 3 years slowly coming out of catatonic depression. Her car had a very distictive engine sound and whenever something similar drove by I'd run to the window and check if she was there. objectively she was a horrible gf though, full on bi-polar, extreamly underminding and so agressive that I would have to pin her down to stop her from beating me.

    I swore by the time I got over her I would never let someone have that much emotional control over me again which was really unfair on my ex...

    My only advice is try to meet someone else, approach men you like, the balls in your court as a women, eventually you'll find someone and notice you haven't thought of your ex in ages.

    • 4 months ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/5xse5nk.jpg

      I'm losing my mind I can't get over my past boyfriend

      He dumped me 6 and a half months ago and found a new one 5 months ago (they're still together) but I can't look at anyone new in my mind we're still pair bounded and nothing I tried can change it

      I'm losing my mind I don't even like the person he became or want to be with him again but deep in my moronic brain he's still the man I fell in love with in 2020 and he's still my other half

      Is there anything I can do to fricking move on and untangle my brain from the memory of him?

      More about the some people naturrally being predisposed. There are people who go completely psycho over a break up. Murders, beatings, tourture, stalking, 2yo intensity tamtrums. I remember a chick from hs said her older brother ex would constatly be stalking him, trying to break into thier house, a whole bunch of yandere shit. I have to admit I had some not so pleasent thoughts because I wanted to die anyway and my hs ex cheated. I'm not violent though, it's scary where you're mind can take you

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