Imma keep this short, since probably no one really cares besides me. I was dating this girl for almost a month.

Imma keep this short, since probably no one really cares besides me.

I was dating this girl for almost a month. First real human relationship really in my entire adult life (I'm 24 lol) since all I did ever since I got out of school was work in order to basically not become homeless.

Anyway, for the first time in many years, man, being with her made me feel good, feel happy. Meeting her after a shitty day at work and going someplace to eat or have some drinks or just walk around the city instead of wasting away at my shitty apartment, even though I was tired at the end of the day, I just went to sleep with a stupid smile on my face every time. It was good to finally have my phone lit up with a notification of a message of someone asking me how I was, what I was doing, etc.

Anyway, something came up basically and I reacted more emotionally than I'd like to (no I didn't start whimpering like a b***h) but turns out showing a hint of weakness/acting like a human instead of a emotionless robot like I do most of the time seems to have been enough for her to dump me.

So yeah it's been a month and I just roam the city at night passing all the places we would hang out at in hopes of maybe seeing her again. She probably doesn't give a frick but this short month I spent with her was the happiest I've ever felt in years.

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  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Yeah, I was always afraid of the same. Women can't respect a man that feels sadness. If it makes you feel better, you can always imagine a woman is a teddy bear to hug. In her mind, you'll be holding her protectively, but in yours...

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >you can always imagine a woman is a teddy bear to hug. In her mind, you'll be holding her protectively, but in yours...
      that hit hard and i will remember it when being hugged.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        same bro, same.

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >turns out showing a hint of weakness/acting like a human instead of a emotionless robot like I do most of the time seems to have been enough for her to dump me

    I'm assuming she was around the same age as you. Trust me, you would have fricking split at some point regardless.

    That being said an immature woman will dump you for that the same way an immature guy will dump a girl for stupid shit.

    Either way you're both young and young people are all stupid as frick. Even adults are stupid as frick, but at least some have grown from experiences.

    You should harden up, but I'm guessing some women appreciate that just not her.

    If it's the first time you've ever done it then I hope you're smart enough to be like "frick her".

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      she was 20

      the thing that 'bothers' me the most is that it was nice for once to have someone actively 'pursue' you and want to be around you, that's all

      Women do not like when you base your happiness on their presence.
      Also, when you rely on her to coddle or sort your feelings (as this is your responsibility in the relationship).
      Her being your only beacon of happiness is a no go in their minds.

      I would advise to find meaning in your life (or at least inch towards it) before looking for a partner. I guarantee you will have a better time all around afterwards.

      like I said, it was just good having someone around that likes being around you and plans things with you that's all... doing things with someone else and sharing time and experiences adds something to whatever it is you're doing

      anyway, it wasn't like I was gonna marry the girl but still shit sucks lol

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >the thing that 'bothers' me the most is that it was nice for once to have someone actively 'pursue' you and want to be around you, that's all

        I hear you. Think about this. Imagine if this had happened before the days of the internet and you had nobody to read your story. How lonely would you feel then?

        Might help you be happy it went down this way in this day and age.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          I don't know man, I just wish she'd call me but I know she won't

          I've been to 2 dates with some other random chicks I met online but it didn't go nowhere since they were boring as shit.

          Meanwhile I just don't feel like going out on a gazillion dates having to weed out girls in hopes of finding one I enjoy spending time with and I am actually physically attracted to but I also want what I had with her back.

          might as well just give up lol

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            I know what you mean. I've been with my wife almost twenty years now. I know I'd miss her if she left as much as I psych myself into thinking "frick it, I'm fine alone" and shit.

            Do you filter these girls by age? You need a girl your age or older really. Try a girl who's like 26 at least.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Dating women older than you is fricked. A man should always be taller, stronger, older and make the money.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >A man should always be taller, stronger, older and make the money.

            What's the point of believing that? Coping mechanism so you know there's always at least one thing you're in control of?

            Or possibly a grandiose confidence built from being such a successful man, that you believe your current success should be the standard or imposed on all other men.

            Either way, sounds too "Braveheart" to me.

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Women do not like when you base your happiness on their presence.
    Also, when you rely on her to coddle or sort your feelings (as this is your responsibility in the relationship).
    Her being your only beacon of happiness is a no go in their minds.

    I would advise to find meaning in your life (or at least inch towards it) before looking for a partner. I guarantee you will have a better time all around afterwards.

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    She's not yours, it was just your turn.

    Sad to say, but as women control dating, and they're precocious at best, that's what you're going to get.

    Women wait at the finish line and frick the winners.

    This is the reality. They're not interesting in romance or being in a long term relationship unless you're a winner and she can show you off like her Prada bag to her friends in their never-ending battle of "who is top b***h".

    you don't have to believe me, but I've been around and been around a lot of women. They're all the same, they have all the same moves. After 46 years of life, and being a half-chad, I speak from my experiences.

    You want to feel love? get a dog. If you only have had a relationship once at 24, the best you can hope for is divorce-rape to return you to poverty. It's the truth. Believe it or not. Focus on yourself. Live life, try everything. Make sure when you're on your deathbed that you know you ticked off every box. If you want a family, go to a country that respects families and has strong male leaders. Otherwise, move to a sleepy town and live a peaceful life.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Also if you want a family pay a surrogate

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Although I cannot provide any help, I do agree with you on the "emotional" side of it. Life just sucks after you grow up. Me personally am stuck in a not so good course and don't have many perspectives atm. Just feel like I'm running towards a shit place and I can't stop and reverse. Obviously we never know what is truly going to happen to us, but damn does it feel hopeless and frustrasting. To have someone you can just forget about everything and dive into a frickton of emotion is just amazing. I've thought about getting into some drugs but probably too sane to do them, but yeah man, having somewhere to just disappear and let the emotional side of you take over is just amazing. I had this once... never happened again, but I remember.

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Stalking places you once spent time together is a bit unhinged

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Anyway, something came up basically and I reacted more emotionally than I'd like to (no I didn't start whimpering like a b***h) but turns out showing a hint of weakness/acting like a human instead of a emotionless robot like I do most of the time seems to have been enough for her to dump me.
    You're hiding something. No you cannot be in a relationship and be emotionally unstable, many people will leave you because you're a train wreck.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      yeah, that attempt at a nonchalant description has me picturing the worst

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >Anyway, something came up basically and I reacted more emotionally than I'd like to (no I didn't start whimpering like a b***h) but turns out showing a hint of weakness/acting like a human instead of a emotionless robot like I do most of the time seems to have been enough for her to dump me.
        You're hiding something. No you cannot be in a relationship and be emotionally unstable, many people will leave you because you're a train wreck.

        man frick you guys for always assuming the worst. It was over a health related issue of mine (physical, mind you).

        being always suspicious of people will get you nowhere

        Although I cannot provide any help, I do agree with you on the "emotional" side of it. Life just sucks after you grow up. Me personally am stuck in a not so good course and don't have many perspectives atm. Just feel like I'm running towards a shit place and I can't stop and reverse. Obviously we never know what is truly going to happen to us, but damn does it feel hopeless and frustrasting. To have someone you can just forget about everything and dive into a frickton of emotion is just amazing. I've thought about getting into some drugs but probably too sane to do them, but yeah man, having somewhere to just disappear and let the emotional side of you take over is just amazing. I had this once... never happened again, but I remember.

        yeah man, I know how that feels now

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          >I reacted more emotionally than I'd like to (no I didn't start whimpering like a b***h) but turns out showing a hint of weakness/acting like a human instead of a emotionless robot like I do most of the time seems to have been enough for her to dump me.

          More context needed. Why in particular do you think THAT alone was the trigger? It sounds like me that the main thing was that you overpursued and you texted her too much and gave her too much of your time. Ever kiss or frick her? Going out with a chick and keeping her coming is a balance.

          >being always suspicious of people will get you nowhere

          Not either of those Anons but the devil is in the details which you aren't giving. You're just gonna get coddled by people who REALLY don't care until you spill the beans and provide the full story.

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Women are like lions in a lion cage and you are the lion tamer. As long as you maintain your cool and control they will obey you and "be nice." Once you slip up a bit the lions will rip your fricking throat out. Same thing with chicks.

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I have had 2 gfs, several years with each of them.
    Anon, I dont know what you are doing wrong, but I have cried several times (!!!!) in front of my 2 GFs (both of them) (!!!!!), and they still loved me very much. We kept dating after that and I still can call them, frick them, cry, give a good dinner and send home.

    No, I didnt do it after one month of talking. I cried when we were already one year being together. Surprise-surprise, it doesnt matter and didnt change anything in my relationship with them.

    My friend explained it to me. Women, who are truly in love with you, won't care if you cried or not. On the contrary, they will love you **MORE** if you do it in front of them. I am not making it up. Because for them, it means that you really care about them.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Can back this up as a woman. Literally ended one relationship because he wouldn’t cry. He would yell at me throw shit and whenever I asked him why he said he was sad but couldn’t cry. I told him so many times he could just cry infront of me I do not care but the yelling persisted. It’s not good to bottle up emotions and women know that.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        >He would yell at me throw shit and whenever I asked him why he said he was sad

        You're one hell of a gaslighting b***h. You ended it with him because he was too much of a fricking butthole and acted like a baby

    • 2 months ago
      MKG

      >turns out showing a hint of weakness/acting like a human instead of a emotionless robot like I do most of the time seems to have been enough for her to dump me.

      >Women, who are truly in love with you, won't care if you cried or not. On the contrary, they will love you **MORE** if you do it in front of them.
      This.

      You can cry and show weakness in a relationship, just not when they need you to be strong.

      Can back this up as a woman. Literally ended one relationship because he wouldn’t cry. He would yell at me throw shit and whenever I asked him why he said he was sad but couldn’t cry. I told him so many times he could just cry infront of me I do not care but the yelling persisted. It’s not good to bottle up emotions and women know that.

      >I told him so many times he could just cry infront of me I do not care
      Just checking, but you know it is likely that it wasn't by his choice, right? Some people just don't cry, usually because of early psychological events. Often grieving people can't cry until the right trigger hits.
      I'm just saying that in that case, you telling him that he could wouldn't change anything.
      Of course, it's possible you know this, idk

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    How did you meet her in the first place?

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