Is it common to be unhappy in marriage? Why do most marriages end in divorce?

Is it common to be unhappy in marriage? Why do most marriages end in divorce?

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  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Is it common to be unhappy in marriage?
    Look up statistics.
    >Why do most marriages end in divorce?
    My personal opinion: Because people are more often than ever unable to communicate their desires and expectations towards their partner.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >My personal opinion: Because people are more often than ever unable to communicate their desires and expectations towards their partner.

      I won't deny, you're kinda right but personally I'd blame that on internet and people's weakness, conviction thet they will find perfect partner.

      Back in the days people from the same city/town/village were getting together but now it all grew into international rivalry.
      Lot of people got that better-person-around-the-corner syndrome and might dump already great partner because there might be someone with 1 inch of height more or few thousand in the bank more.

      We're no longer trying to save relationships, to grow together, to build together - we just move in and expect everything to be perfect and if it's not, we're continuing that cycle with another person and so on...

      In the effect we're losing, fricking up everything because our stupid brains can't get the common sense and don't want to accept the fact that our life won't be perfect, our partners will have some imperfections, that we aren't perfect so we shouldn't expect the same from others.

      Tl;dr: frick the israelites and all people brainwashed by them. I hate you all

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      After several years of unhappiness i clearly communicated to my partner recently my desires and expectations

      She did not receive the message well

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Well maybe the message was not received very well because you have both sunk a lot of time and effort into a relationship that existed on a flawed premise, and you knew about it, but failed to get your shit aligned.

        I would be pissed if I was her. That's what dating is for. And that whole time you spend getting to know one another.
        Don't you ever talk about shit that you want in a relationship? Like "Hey babe, do you wanna have children? Oh, that's a hard no for you? Oh, right we're married for 5 years already, I guess I should have told you that I really really wanted a big family."

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >after several years of unhappiness
        So you allowed for a status quo to very comfortably establish not voicing your concerns or standing up for yourself then were shocked years in when your partner was upset about a sudden upheaval to a routine she was well established into that could have been avoided years ago?
        I'd also bet it had nothing to do with her or anything she did or could do and more to do with you not managing your life properly.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >hurr durr, you're just not communicating hard enough.

      Being obligated to only have sex with one person for the rest of one of your lives is not sustainable. That's why people cheat.

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Women are unhappy when married to beta buxxers and men are unhappy because either the woman doesn't show affection or is ugly & someone below his smv. Only top dog Chads and stacies have the option to truly love each other because they're by definition the genetic elite, the envy of all people below them in terms of genetic value and smv

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

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  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Marriages between people with low body counts are much more stable.
    Just something to consider.

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I think it is a lack of spirituality: Here is a dilemma. Would you rather be alone and know that you would be given someone perfectly compatible for you, even if you had to go through a lot of shit. Or get something else, in an earlier span of time, but have it be way less, in compatibility, than what you wouldve received if you waited? See the main consideration in this "dilemma" is a question of Faith. If you have Faith, that god or the forces of the universe, will align together to give you your "the one", in which you would begin to question your sanity "does this person even exist?" Look at all the couples I see outside. they look content. They're holding hands. They probably have intimate sex. What's their deal? Faith in reality, is a question of spirituality. Faith is just a non-physical consequence of letting go and realizing that only by completely letting go of what you want, will you eventually, get it back. In due time. Which brings up the topic of patience. What if you had to wait your whole life? what if you died waiting for that person. At first I said knowing whether you would be given anyone. A lot of people just die lonely. Unfortunately for me I think I will share that faith with them. But see when you talk about "Marriage" it has nothing to do with love, but that is what we associate it with. In reality, Marriage was created to protect the children and women. Marriage has nothing to do with love. So it can be called a misnomer. Or we are just projecting our ideals onto what marriage truly is. Would you rather be married to a woman, who doesnt give you as much love? Or never get married to a woman who gives you a ton of love? Why not have both: Marry a woman who gives you a lot of love. All in all the problem is men, socially, barely have anything to pick from. Only a dumb Male would reject the advances of women who wanna hit on them, right? Even if he is a virgin and lacks friends and is lonely. He must be insane to reject any women's advances.

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Guy marries a woman under the agreement of her being a housewife and him being the provider
    >Kids go to school
    >Husband tells wife to become both housewife and provider
    >Wife doesn't need a man anymore so she divorces him
    It's almost as if he did it to himself

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >men exists
      >cares about the ones close to him
      Wow what a disgusting pedophile cannibal rapist. This is why we cant have nice things. You're right. MEN ARE WORTHLESS!!!!!

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        No, the man is a moron for telling his wife to get a job and refusing to help out at home when she did.
        It was not her idea to get a job.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Ok I just read the image in OP.
          She is moronic because instead of retaliating by changing her situation, she decides to literally ruin the kids life (which is what 99.9% of all women want: is to ruin the lives of everything and everyone around them, you learn that from experience) by initiating divorce. Now she ruined herself for any decent prospects. She is either a single mom (fricking disgusting) or single divorcee with no kids (used up bag of salami trash)
          Also I like the entitlement she builds up for herself
          >women bonding with the kids
          Women can take care of kids but they cannot raise them. A child cannot raise a child.
          >so your man ONLY has to go to work to focus on a career for himself
          This would imply he is actually a shitty dad and a husband. Which we dont have the context of. If I was a woman, with a married man, I would bring it up to him. Why keep quiet? If he is doing things which frick with me, just bring it up. Same if I was married to a woman.
          Also look at what she says later:

          >so I ended up working for a builder making as much as my husband and then I divorced.

          Bro she cheated. Got knocked up by the builder, who was probably just more sexier to her than her husband. Women emasculating men does that. That's why you gotta beat them and take no shit from them. She probably got pumped and dumped by the builder.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >same anon

            >I wanted him to pick up the slack
            What slack? He is already making as much money from you. the question here would be why he even wanted you to work in the first place. I think the husband was cheating aswell and just wanted a way out. Read between the lines.
            >he refused
            >very next line says "we got divorced"
            That's not how that works lmao. There is always a build up of something that leads to an effect of something else. A pipe doesnt just burst from a little bit of pressure???????? You dont just have a husband that goes "I dont wanna do fricking housework when I work so much" and then "ok I'm divorcing you" unless neither of these people respected each other in the first place. Being given the context we are given OPs pic, she missed out on a lot of heat. That's why I say either one of them cheated or both cheated. Cheating usually happens when that initial fire that the couple first had when they were dating, just weakens out. You can call it a "fire" but really its just the energy in which both people are giving to each other. To do anything you have to give some sort of energy. Caring about something is a form of energy. If I care about you it means I'm giving you energy. Which can be seen as love.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >same anon
            As a matter of fact, she is shooting herself in the foot by divorcing him. If they're both middle aged then she is fricking herself, and the man is better off divorcing and just finding someone younger. If he is well respected and his career is as good as its pointed out. His only problem will be if she snatches the kid up. Which she will ruin the life of as a single mother, considering women cannot raise a child. I think the story from OP is actually just rage bait anyway. But it's good to discuss on it. Anyways if she is an old hag, like it was already mentioned, good luck to her finding a chump to deal with those worms.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >What slack? He is already making as much money from you.
            She clearly states she wanted him to pick up the slack AT HOME. This probably means equal split of household chores, which is reasonable considering he demanded she works all day like him. It was his mistake, she now has the same money that he had which was enough to supply a family of three, and if she divorces him she now also has less household chores to do (cleans up for two people instead of three). From a purely logical standpoint makes perfect sense she'd divorce him here. He isn't contributing in a significant way anymore, only adding up onto the chores. It's a failure on his end.
            >You dont just have a husband that goes "I dont wanna do fricking housework when I work so much" and then "ok I'm divorcing you" unless neither of these people respected each other in the first place.
            Pretty much agreed, but they're working equally so him refusing to do his part of chores leads to wife working more, thus unbalancing the entire relationship.
            I don't think this necessarily is a result of cheating. When relationship is unbalanced in one way or another it can fall apart just from that.

            >same anon
            As a matter of fact, she is shooting herself in the foot by divorcing him. If they're both middle aged then she is fricking herself, and the man is better off divorcing and just finding someone younger. If he is well respected and his career is as good as its pointed out. His only problem will be if she snatches the kid up. Which she will ruin the life of as a single mother, considering women cannot raise a child. I think the story from OP is actually just rage bait anyway. But it's good to discuss on it. Anyways if she is an old hag, like it was already mentioned, good luck to her finding a chump to deal with those worms.

            She's only shooting herself in the foot if you assume she cannot lead a full, satisfied life without finding a partner in the future. Right now she is cutting off someone who only became a source of extra work, and ngl anon, many older women with kids still find men, it's harder, but it's not as impossible as redpill believes.
            t. have 5 friends who rode the dick carousel and got pregnant relatively young, and had no issue dating as single moms later. Either way, it's an interesting thing to discuss.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            > assumes divorce was an L for the guy

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            The only one who made the assumption is the anon I was responding to.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >the anon
            When did I say the divorce was an L for the guy? It's literally only an L for him if he loses his own damn kid. Otherwise he is chilling, since he can just find younger. And with a career it will be even easier.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            And yet you put it into my mouth just fine for no reason whatsoever. I never said it's L for anyone. Assuming otherwise is projection on your end.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >The only one who made the assumption is the anon I was responding to.

            You put it in my mouth that I assumed it was an L for the guy. When the anon at

            > assumes divorce was an L for the guy

            (not me)
            said you assumed it was an L for the guy. Anyways. Honestly the biggest problem with this story is how it is literally just a rage bait because nothing makes sense. and the only real concern for these two would be what happens to the child. Since they're both adults with enough intelligence to learn skills, the kid is the only dependent here.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I do apologize, I assumed it was you responding to my posts all along.
            I do agree the OP story is rage-baity as frick. Either that, or both adults involved completely lack conflict resolution skills, in which case the kid is fricked regardless.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            and if the exwife is earning more, no payments to make.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Marriages are often built on the promises a couple has made to each other. When those promises are broken, the marriage is weakened. It is common for people to struggle to be honest about what they want or to be aware of what they’re capable of giving.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    people often value the wrong things in a relationship. I was the same. I just hit 30 now and got out of a 5 year long relationship with a woman I cared for but never really loved in a real sense. you can delude yourself into hoping forever for something to change, but if it doesn't feel real than you're just wasting time. most people are like that

    I've been dating again these last two months, and I'm falling in love like a teenager. something I never thought possible. and even though she's only 20 and very inexperienced ( I have to guide her through sex) we can talk for hours and hours and just lie down and stare in each other eyes without it being uncomfortable . the contrast is striking. if it doesn't feel genuine, don't waste your time

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That's good. There is some quote by some dead moron who said along the lines of, roughly: A good relationship between two people is measured in how they handle each other when bored. Eye-contsct is pretty boring but it can be super intimate. I met a woman like that once. All we ever wanted to do with each other was stare into each others eyes for minutes on end. Proof of soulmates?

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    > Is it common to be unhappy in marriage?
    Yes. Why?
    First thing is women are physically unable to be happy. So you are legally shackling yourself to someone who is probably going to take that legal contract and anally rape you with it.
    Second thing is called The Coolidge Effect. This is a physiological effect which happens in all mammalian males. They become bored with their mate, the dopamine boost they get from sex with their partner lowers over time. It becomes a chore. The purpose of this is to encourage the male to go find other new females to spread his seed. In marriage this isn't possible and leads to dead bedrooms, cheating, porn use etc.
    So half of marriages fail, and of the remaining ones, about half suck.

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    most people refuse to be happy

  10. 2 weeks ago
    6_2_oppie

    >Why do most marriages end in divorce?
    Because everyone settles. And then you have to listen to that person's shit, while knowing they want to frick their coworker.

  11. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >men are unhappy because either the woman doesn't show affection or is ugly & someone below his smv
    yeah my last gf was below my smv and we were very different

  12. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I mean, it can be or it can't be but the answer is right there in the post..
    Dude demanded she get a job, expected her to maintain her full duties at home, refused to help out.
    It's extremely clear what happened here.

    Love your partner, support your partner, help your partner, be fair, use your fricking brain, and your marriage will be fine.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      https://i.imgur.com/uCwQVB9.jpeg

      Is it common to be unhappy in marriage? Why do most marriages end in divorce?

      Oh and pick someone who will do the same.
      That's where people fail though. Picking. Choose a partner with your brain. Not your penis or insecurities.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >It's extremely clear what happened here.
      He found a younger woman and needed to get rid of the wife without having to make huge payments.
      prdy clever.

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