Is male love just veiled possessiveness?

I thought my bf loved me, but my friends have been telling me that men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+, and that for guys "love" is just what they call possessiveness.

I didn't put any stock into what they told me at first, but the longer I've thought about how my bf acts the more true it feels.

Is this the case? Is there a way to know for sure?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    nick

    is this one of those gay traps again

    where if i describe some of the intricate nuance of love it means i'm a homosexual because of your friends axioms

    nice try, i'm not falling for it

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I'm not trying to trap anyone into being gay, its just do guys actually feel love or is it just a want to control and keep someone to themselves that they call love?

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    this is high school grade bullshit, you gonna leave him for not being manly enough if he sniffs a flower or something?

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >unless they're LGBT+
    Why would this be any different?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      The modern left literally dehumanizes straight men, saying things like they're not capable of love is part of that. Non-straight men (for now) get enough left-points to be viewed as human.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        They do the same to bisexuals. Bisexuals don't belong in LGBT because unlike LGTQP, they're more sexually functional than heteros. B includes H and G and L, even in how the English and Latin letters are designed.
        While LGT are infertile by sexual orientation, queer just means fetish dependent, and with pedophillia I need not explain even.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        They do the same to bisexuals. Bisexuals don't belong in LGBT because unlike LGTQP, they're more sexually functional than heteros. B includes H and G and L, even in how the English and Latin letters are designed.
        While LGT are infertile by sexual orientation, queer just means fetish dependent, and with pedophillia I need not explain even.

        You completely made that up.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          It's literally happening in this thread lol.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >but my friends have been telling me that men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+,

      >Why would this be any different?
      LGBT+, you mean SODOMITES, they're not capable of love. Love doesn't tear another man's anus and give him prolapsed rectum. Love doesn't legalize pedophilia in California of 24 year old men raping 14 year old boys.

      Love and lust are not the same thing.

      I. John 3:16 Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.
      I. John 4:8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.
      Revelation 3:19 As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.

      >men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+
      Men in general aren't capable of love but some straight men can mimic it through commitment. Gay and bisexual men are mentally ill freaks.

      >Men in general aren't capable of love
      Have fun facing the Lord Jesus Christ and having to give an account of those words.

      St. Matthew 12:36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >but my friends have been telling me that men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+, and that for guys "love" is just what they call possessiveness.
    That is completely moronic. It's possible he doesn't love you but that doesn't mean that he or men in general are incapable of love.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Well I don't know what you call love is.
    Tell me what you think love is.

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Leaving the gay shit out. When a man says he's in love it is both lust and possessiveness. Sexual possessiveness. This has nothing to do with heartfelt unconditional love which men are incapable. Men do have bro love, they can be fond of a dog or their guy friend but when they put their penis in a vegana to them they own that pussy and the female its attached.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >When a man says he's in love it is both lust and possessiveness. Sexual possessiveness. This has nothing to do with heartfelt unconditional love which men are incapable. Men do have bro love, they can be fond of a dog or their guy friend but when they put their penis in a vegana to them they own that pussy and the female its attached.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >unconditional love
        Only children get unconditional love anon.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      realistic description.

      >Is male love just veiled possessiveness?
      No. Only weak men bother to veil that. Male love should be open and honestly possessive. The problem isn’t that it’s possessive. The problem is that it’s veiled. Only manchildren bother to do that.

      A man’s love is possessive. He wants his woman, he claims his woman, he keeps his woman. If he should be a good man, he will want to keep her for life, ‘till death to them part. And in his possessiveness, he will care a great deal about her. He will wish to provide for her, to protect her, and to move impossible obstacles for her. He will break himself so that his woman can feel secure and healthy, so that she can have a safe place to blossom and thrive as a woman, to nurture their children.

      Marriage is a garden. Women are the flowers, the children are the saplings. And the man is the sturdy dependable iron fence that keeps that garden protected. And he happily does this because there is nowhere else he would wish to be a part of.

      Your ‘friends’ do not like this kind of love. Because they are too drunk with the love for self. They are narcissistic and cannot comprehend why another person would wish to join so closely with another.

      If you listen to their ‘advice’, you as the flower of his garden will wither, rot, and produce poison. And sooner or later, you will be left alone in a field of despair with no man around you.

      Choose wisely.

      idealistic disney shit.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Not for me. I am a feminist - women should get equal pay, get equal opportunities and be forced to go to war when one breaks out. Tampons should not be free unless men are also paid for the fact that we have to eat more than women. But my love is definitely not possessive.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >be forced to go to war when one breaks out. Tampons should not be free
      These are not feminist positions.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yes, they are. Men and women should be equal in all things. I know that there are lesbians who hate men, trannies and other intellectually bankrupt people who disagree, but this is what feminism is and I won't let actors with an agenda corrupt it.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          the hero we need but dont deserve

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >unless they're LGBT+
    lmao, this is so funny. at least 90% of men are incapable regardless of their sexuality. fricking in gay saunas and meeting a new guy every week off grindr is not true love.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Is male love just veiled possessiveness?
    No. Only weak men bother to veil that. Male love should be open and honestly possessive. The problem isn’t that it’s possessive. The problem is that it’s veiled. Only manchildren bother to do that.

    A man’s love is possessive. He wants his woman, he claims his woman, he keeps his woman. If he should be a good man, he will want to keep her for life, ‘till death to them part. And in his possessiveness, he will care a great deal about her. He will wish to provide for her, to protect her, and to move impossible obstacles for her. He will break himself so that his woman can feel secure and healthy, so that she can have a safe place to blossom and thrive as a woman, to nurture their children.

    Marriage is a garden. Women are the flowers, the children are the saplings. And the man is the sturdy dependable iron fence that keeps that garden protected. And he happily does this because there is nowhere else he would wish to be a part of.

    Your ‘friends’ do not like this kind of love. Because they are too drunk with the love for self. They are narcissistic and cannot comprehend why another person would wish to join so closely with another.

    If you listen to their ‘advice’, you as the flower of his garden will wither, rot, and produce poison. And sooner or later, you will be left alone in a field of despair with no man around you.

    Choose wisely.

    • 3 weeks ago
      nick

      gay

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This was well said.
      I'm entering middle age. The sacrifices made in the early years paid off and my wife and I do not regret them. She gave up her career. I gave up mine too, and chased money, shifting my dreams to practical things. Now with the hard years behind us for now, we travel, pursue meaningful hobbies, sex is frequent and satisfying and our kids are mostly independent. The payoff for both parties in a marriage is fulfillment.
      Posession? It' s a thing. Mutual accountability coupled with the necessary prioritorization of the others' needs. If you want to call mutual accountability and support a form of posession, it suggests an incomplete understanding of the level of committment required for success.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Indeed. And well done to you and your wife.

        >Posession? It' s a thing.
        And a good thing when healthily expressed and executed.

        Going back to my analogy of the man being the iron bulwark, the strong fencing for that garden - women will instantly become possessive too, especially if he watches that fence start to enclose around another flower, a different woman.

        You can ask any woman what they think if their man were to emotionally support another woman. Not even sexually or romantically, just ask how they’d feel if their man were to be a rock for another woman, if they would be OK with watching him be her shield and open up emotionally for her and her problems.
        Women turn vile wih envy at this and cannot bear it. Women want to be the only thing in that man’s care and possession, and for good reason. Possessiveness is what keeps a relationship stable provided both parties are honest and adult enough to lay down those boundaries.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Hot damn, VERY well said.

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+
    hahah are you kidding me

    >guys "love" is just what they call possessiveness.
    let me guess: you wanna sleep around as if you were some type of gay, but still pretend you're in a monogamous relationship with someone as if that could make any sense whatsoever?

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Why isn't lust and possessiveness also considered love?
    Of course you want to have complete control over the things you love to, why is that somehow not love anymore?
    Possessiveness isn't a replacement for love, it's a manifestation of it.

    Like do you not understand how the yandere trope works at all? It's just an extension of that.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That isn't love, that's possession because it doesn't account for my feelings and independence. Its super toxic.

      stop hanging around sociopaths (you wont because you're a broken person.)

      Are you calling my bf or my friends sociopaths?

      >possessiveness
      Sorry but the male idea of love is having someone faithful. If you can't do that then yes break up

      I'm not trying to be unfaithful but if I want to stay out late with my friends bc they're celebrating something I should be able to without a fuss.

      Men are usually easy enough to please, and male love looks different than how a woman might express it. That doesn't mean he does or does not really love you, but him being somewhat possessive is natural, because we like exclusivity and security, and him not constantly needing to remind you of his affection doesn't mean it's not there, he might just consider it an obvious established fact that doesn't bear repetition. If that's what you need then ask him for it and see if he can compromise with you.
      [...]
      If you are seriously worried about him using physical intimidation against you, or this has happened before, then quit being moronic (a woman) and leave. If it's just in your head in the form of "could if he wanted to" then get a grip and stop judging people based upon imaginary hypotheticals, take his actions and words as his character, not your fantastical brainrot ideas.

      Maybe, just maybe, be an actual mature adult and talk to him about your concerns rather than your dipshit secondhand judgemental friends or moronic queers on the internet. Yes, men can love very strongly, just don't expect us to act like women about it writing flowery poems and gushing like schoolgirls all day. That's not how the majority of straight men work.

      It's hard not to be intimidated. He's always nice to me, yes, but I've seen him mad and fighting another guy once and I was pretty shook thinking all that anger was just bottled up inside him. What if I do something at some point without meaning to that makes him that mad at me?

      [...]
      >I've just been feeling like he treats me like I'm a belonging of his sometimes.
      You belong to him. And he belongs to you. Both of you can let go of belongings should you wish.

      >I feel like baggage he's just protective of.
      Does he tell you this? Does he tell you that you are a burden or baggage? If not, then that feeling is coming from you, not him. That's low-self esteem. And it isn't up to a partner to play therapist or parent their partner, no matter how bad you want it or even how bad he may wish to.

      >it feels like he doesn't care about any of that as long as we are still having routine sex.
      Yeah he's a man. Believe it or not, that's our way of showing and receiving love. We're physical creatures. When the sex dies down, us men will panic and question the relationship or even ourselves or our partner.

      Does he know what you want in return? Does he still date you? (Take you out, show you a good time, bond with you over activities and conversation?)

      >I feel like there's something you're leaving out of this, that male possessiveness can feel intimidating.
      It shouldn't. And if it does there's either an issue with his expression of it, or your perception of it. A man should never bare his fangs to his woman. His woman gets to see his gentleness and no one else. His fangs should be pointed towards intruders, invaders, liars, snakes, anyone who poses threat to you or himself. How does he express his possessiveness? What makes it intimidating to you?

      >No, I just imagined like LGBT people felt a little more at ease with each other. Like a guy is gonna understand another guy.

      LGBT people understand nothing about it. They are by default not orientated towards traditional gender roles and they do not possess what it takes to create functional family models. They are also often more likely to come from high dysfunctional families, and are riddled with mom issues or dad issues - their perspective is crooked as a result.

      >Does he know what you want in return? Does he still date you? (Take you out, show you a good time, bond with you over activities and conversation?)
      He still takes me out and stuff. He doesn't like our area though, and acts like I'm going to get murdered if I'm not like righr beside him the whole time whenever we're out. He says its because the city's a terrible place, but I kind of worry he might be racist.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >If you're possessive about your car it means you don't give it regular maintenance and washes

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >I'm not trying to be unfaithful but if I want to stay out late with my friends bc they're celebrating something I should be able to without a fuss.
        And what are you doing, and where? And are you inviting your BF to come with you?

        It's one thing if my girlfriend is going over with her other female friend to the spa and watch romance movies together.
        It's another if my girlfriend is going out to clubs all night or hanging with her male friends until the early hours of the morning.

        The two are not equivalent. And while I understand women have male friends, I expect her to not be moronic and understand there's an issue about hanging out all night with other men while you're dating someone. So if you're going to be doing so, I expect to be invited to be there, otherwise it just looks like you're hiding something.

        >It's hard not to be intimidated. He's always nice to me,
        Then you're moronic. Shut the frick up.
        Men will fight other men, that's how men work. If he's not hitting you then it's because he's not a man child and knows how to control and direct his anger appropriately.

        >boohoo he's being protective of me in a shitty part of town

        You know what, break up with him. He deserves better.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What other anon said, break up with him, you're clearly not mature enough for a relationship, and he deserves better than your judgmental ass.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >It's hard not to be intimidated. He's always nice to me, yes, but I've seen him mad and fighting another guy once and I was pretty shook thinking all that anger was just bottled up inside him. What if I do something at some point without meaning to that makes him that mad at me?

        What if you grew a tail and everyone called you a jackass? What if the world was made of pudding? What if, what if, what if? That's an awfully active imagination for shit that didn't happen to you. Surprise to you, but most men treat men and women differently. Most men are very aware of the power disparity, and treat women extra gentle in ways we wouldn't with guys because of it. Biologically, we're naturally wired to be protective of women. Some morons can't hang due to ego and small pp issues. If he was that kind of guy, you'd know it by now. Women live to piss guys off, intentionally or otherwise, and the fact that they don't get rocked regularly for insane behavior is a testament to the patience of men and the respect they have both for women and their own strength. If you want to live afraid of your imagined hypotheticals, feel free. Talk to him about it, I'm sure he'll be upset because you're judging him for shit he didn't do and probably considers dishonorable, which means you don't respect him. If you can't give your own partner the benefit of the doubt, then there's no point in you being together. Newsflash: treating men like monsters that are always on the edge of insane actions makes us feel like shit. Consider those feelings rather than your own for once.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >That isn't love, that's possession because it doesn't account for my feelings and independence. Its super toxic.
        Possession is a part of love. And it does take into account your feelings and independence. Because you are presumably a grown individual. It takes two grown individuals to make a relationship. And you invested your individuality to be with another individual. A relationship. You gave yourself to him to possess, as he gives himself to YOU to possess. It is called 'reciprocity'. Welcome to relationships!

        >I'm not trying to be unfaithful but if I want to stay out late with my friends bc they're celebrating something I should be able to without a fuss.
        I'm nta by the way. But your boyfriend has a concern. And you should listen to that concern. That doesn't mean submit to his concern, but it does mean listen and possibly compromise.

        >He doesn't like our area though, and acts like I'm going to get murdered if I'm not like righr beside him the whole time whenever we're out. He says its because the city's a terrible place

        Listen to him. He is a man. And we are hardwired to spot dangers effectively. No this isn't sexism or stereotyping, this is cold hard reality. I had this argument out with my now-wife, back when we were bf/gf. I did not like her area. I knew why it was dangerous. I have street smarts. She doesn't. She kept demanding to go on late walks with the dog at night, never listened to me.

        Know what happened? A drunk idiot took his car into the walk, driving and drifting and almost hitting people on purpose. She and our dog almost got hit, she had to cower behind a tree. She came home crying and shaking and trembling. She began to listen to me, and we are no longer in that shit hole.

        That is his job. So trust him to protect you.

        So far you admit:
        >He's always nice to me
        >He still takes me out and stuff

        What is the problem exactly?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Are you calling my bf or my friends sociopaths?
        Nta but the fact you don't even know which that anon was calling a sociopath and that you have a hard time guessing which is which is absurd. You should know instantly. Here, I'll help you:

        >Your boyfriend: Committed, faithful, always nice to you, routinely takes you out 'and stuff'.

        >Your 'friends': Drag you to clubs and late night venues to presumably get fricking wasted. Whisper in your ear and shit-talk your own man in front of you, trying to convince you that your relationship - which is yours and your man's alone - is 'toxic' and 'bad', on little evidence and preposterous measures of judgement.

        And here you are right now, spending more energy defending the people you don't even love romantically, who turn you against the man who does love you. For all to see.

        Take a wild fricking guess which is which.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        You’re literally moronic

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >t doesn't account for my feelings and independence
        You have no real will fortitude or mind of your own and will be cheating every time we let you free
        >stay out late with my friends bc they're celebrating something I should be able to without a fuss.
        they'll get you drunk and you'll cheat even if you dont mean to

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    stop hanging around sociopaths (you wont because you're a broken person.)

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >possessiveness
    Sorry but the male idea of love is having someone faithful. If you can't do that then yes break up

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Men are usually easy enough to please, and male love looks different than how a woman might express it. That doesn't mean he does or does not really love you, but him being somewhat possessive is natural, because we like exclusivity and security, and him not constantly needing to remind you of his affection doesn't mean it's not there, he might just consider it an obvious established fact that doesn't bear repetition. If that's what you need then ask him for it and see if he can compromise with you.

    [...]

    If you are seriously worried about him using physical intimidation against you, or this has happened before, then quit being moronic (a woman) and leave. If it's just in your head in the form of "could if he wanted to" then get a grip and stop judging people based upon imaginary hypotheticals, take his actions and words as his character, not your fantastical brainrot ideas.

    Maybe, just maybe, be an actual mature adult and talk to him about your concerns rather than your dipshit secondhand judgemental friends or moronic queers on the internet. Yes, men can love very strongly, just don't expect us to act like women about it writing flowery poems and gushing like schoolgirls all day. That's not how the majority of straight men work.

  15. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    >I've just been feeling like he treats me like I'm a belonging of his sometimes.
    You belong to him. And he belongs to you. Both of you can let go of belongings should you wish.

    >I feel like baggage he's just protective of.
    Does he tell you this? Does he tell you that you are a burden or baggage? If not, then that feeling is coming from you, not him. That's low-self esteem. And it isn't up to a partner to play therapist or parent their partner, no matter how bad you want it or even how bad he may wish to.

    >it feels like he doesn't care about any of that as long as we are still having routine sex.
    Yeah he's a man. Believe it or not, that's our way of showing and receiving love. We're physical creatures. When the sex dies down, us men will panic and question the relationship or even ourselves or our partner.

    Does he know what you want in return? Does he still date you? (Take you out, show you a good time, bond with you over activities and conversation?)

    >I feel like there's something you're leaving out of this, that male possessiveness can feel intimidating.
    It shouldn't. And if it does there's either an issue with his expression of it, or your perception of it. A man should never bare his fangs to his woman. His woman gets to see his gentleness and no one else. His fangs should be pointed towards intruders, invaders, liars, snakes, anyone who poses threat to you or himself. How does he express his possessiveness? What makes it intimidating to you?

    >No, I just imagined like LGBT people felt a little more at ease with each other. Like a guy is gonna understand another guy.

    LGBT people understand nothing about it. They are by default not orientated towards traditional gender roles and they do not possess what it takes to create functional family models. They are also often more likely to come from high dysfunctional families, and are riddled with mom issues or dad issues - their perspective is crooked as a result.

  16. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >possessiveness
    No. It's not that simple. We like you being there for us, not necessarily us having you. Does that make any sense?

    When you're absent, it makes us anxious because we think you're not there for us. We don't want to hold you in place necessarily, but our desire for you to be there may look possessive to someone observing from the outside.

    Basically, we feel loved when you choose to be there for us, and not when you don't. Forcefully possessing someone doesn't make us feel loved. A woman has to willingly be there for the magic to work.

  17. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    For women love is a feeling for men love is a choice.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Damn, I wish someone would have told me that. I would have just chose to stop loving when it hurt.

  18. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    How did this thinly veiled b8 get so many replies lol. It's definitely summer.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      My girlfriend is currently having a freak out over innane nonsense so I just genuinely assume all women are moronic right now.

  19. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >year of our lord 2024
    >falling for bait
    ISHYGDDT

  20. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    A guy is possessive because he cares about you. Investment creates possessiveness and protectiveness. You protect and guard what you love dearly. That's how it works.
    If I am not protective or possessive, it's because I don't give a shit.
    Is that true, selfless love? Not necessarily. To truly, truly, truly love another is a special feeling know to very, very, very few people. To love in the same way that a gardener loves a garden - that is true, perfect love. But the desperate erotic love of someone who feels that he will suffocate or starve to death if he can't see his beloved - that is the next best thing. Simple affection and conventional sentimentality, like the love of a comfy chair or a "pleasant person" is the lower limit.

  21. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You’re being groomed by lesbians to think like that

  22. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    We act that way because straight women like it, the same way they keep running into abusers over and over. Sadly only 20% of women are straight, the rest are bi and you sound like you're bi so just do us all a favor and leave.

  23. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Your friends are fricking stupid and you need to cut them out of your life asap. They're fricked in the head for thinking men aren't capable of love. Let me guess, they're also chronically addicted to social media as well...

  24. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous
  25. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+
    top kek lgbt+ don't know love they know lust and are the bawdtiest people humanity has to offer right now. love IS possessive. in a good way. you are special to him and belong with your man and we dont want to share you. its really simple, unless you try to think too much about it, and then wind up chopping off your breasts. Analysis is an enemy of love. If you are dissecting something its already dead.

  26. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If you want to feel less loved just ask your boyfriend to ignore you.

    That way youd be able to do the mental gymnastics of "oh my boyfriend didnt love me much anyway im gonna cheat because im a prostitute that surrounds herself with other prostitutes"

    Get rid of one please. Be it your boyfriend or your entire friend group.
    We both know you cant be wife material and hang with THEM at the same time.

    CHOOSE WISELY

  27. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+
    how does having a double or triple digit body count make you capable of love?

  28. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+
    Men in general aren't capable of love but some straight men can mimic it through commitment. Gay and bisexual men are mentally ill freaks.

  29. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Hey everybody, there's a lot of replies and I only have a little while to respond here so I'll be brief and won't have a chance to reply to everyone.

    I talked to my bf and he said he's possessive because nobody wants to let something good slip through their fingers.
    For the people saying my friends are lesbians, you're mostly right. They've made advances on me before, but respected it when I told them I'm not a lesbian so I doubt they meant anything harmful with their advice.

    I apologize for upsetting anybody with my question, guys are just so different sometimes that its hard to tell we're the same species and it leads to a lot of weird notions about how their brains work I guess.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Do you see the situation yet? Your lesbian friends just want your pussy. Your BF is getting possessive because he doesnt want to lose you... why cant you see this?

      You worry him, no wonder he has to guard you.

      Cant be trusted. Associates with the worst kind of prostitutes. Parties. Doesnt want the man you supposedly love to come along.

      I wouldve dropped you the first time we met. Never again am i dating a dumb girl who cant see what shes doing wrong and has a bunch of friends who made it known they want her to cheat.

      Honestly i hope youre baiting and not this numb and unable to see real situations.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Cant be trusted
        I have never betrayed his trust. I have always been faithful.
        >Associates with the worst kind of prostitutes
        My friends aren't prostitutes. They respect my boundaries and are very kind people. They were interested in me initially in a sexual way, yes, but they discarded those feelings when I made it clear I'm not a lesbian.
        >Parties
        Why is going to a party bad?
        >Doesnt want the man you supposedly love to come along.
        It's a girl's night out type of thing. He could come but he'd probably not feel too interested in what we do and talk about. I don't expect him to include me when he goes to hang out with his guy friends.

        >They've made advances on me before, but respected it when I told them I'm not a lesbian so I doubt they meant anything harmful with their advice.

        Yes they do mean you harm. You rejected them and insisted you have a boyfriend. And now they tell you your boyfriend is ‘toxic’ and a ‘problem’. They wish to remove the obstacle so they you no longer have a reason to reject them next time.

        Do you think that is a happy coincidence? Or are you going to play naïve again?

        Whether or not I have a bf doesn't change that I'm straight.

        >guys are just so different sometimes that its hard to tell we're the same species and it leads to a lot of weird notions about how their brains work I guess.

        No, no, no. You don’t get to hand-wave this whole thing off as a “Heh. Men — can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em amirite??” You have WAY bigger problems. Ones that go beyond gender. Chief among those issues is your fricking people-pleasing.

        Don’t for one second think you are a nice person. Review your own thread. Make a nice list for your own eyes to witness:

        >Be you
        >Have bf
        >have lesbian friend group
        >bf is nice to me all the time
        >bf takes me out and stuff
        >bf never abuses me
        >bf told me that I am too good to let slip past his fingers
        >lesbian friend group tried to make advances on me, most likely sexual
        >i told lesbian friends thanks but no thanks
        >i didn’t see the blatant disrespect from their advances, how they advanced despite knowing i am not lesbian and in a relationship
        >I was too coward to leave the friend group, i dont want to be ‘meeeeaaaannn’ 🙁
        >I keep ignoring my bfs feelings and concerns
        >I listen to the lesbian friends the same ones who disrespect me and my relationship
        >they tell me he is super toxic and a problem
        >I listen to them instead, not bf
        >I make a big thread on NSFFW. I throw bf’s name under the bus. I create a narrative he is borderline abusive and controlling
        >I defend lesbian friends publicly instead, I doubt they mean harm
        >…but I throw doubts at my bf whose only crime was to try and love me.

        If you call yourself ‘nice’ after acknowledging this then you are a liar to yourself. You know what the right thing to do is. The trouble is you are too chicken shit to do it. You are easily manipulated by these ‘friends’ because that is your low self esteem they take advantage of. They know you have craved to ‘fit in’ and have a friend group. They know you are desperate for friends. they don’t care unless you frick them.

        >how they advanced despite knowing i am not lesbian and in a relationship
        They did not know either of those things when they made those advances. They apologized as soon as I explained.
        >create a narrative he (bf) is borderline abusive and controlling
        I never said that he was, only that I had anxiety that he could be. I'm sorry that I'm a terrible person for recognizing he could easily overpower or kill me if he had a bad day and felt like it.
        >You know what the right thing to do is.
        Abandon my friends and apologize for ever having insecurities?

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >They did not know either of those things when they made those advances. They apologized as soon as I explained.

          Yes they did. Social media is so widespread it cannot be ignored. Unless you want to admit you don’t bother listing your boyfriend in your socials as a relationship + that you don’t bother including him in your life and actively make it a point to not tell anyone you are taken.

          >They apologized as soon as I explained.
          So what? Talk is cheap. Their actions show you they are not sorry. The actions of how they are STILL whispering in your ear that he is a bad person when you know for a fact he isn’t. They haven’t stopped those advances. All that has changed is they stopped the direct advances, and are indirectly advancing. Making your boyfriend the target.

          >I'm sorry that I'm a terrible person for recognizing he could easily overpower or kill me if he had a bad day and felt like it.

          Cute. Now you are getting passive with me and pouting like a little girl. What you should be sorry for is being so gullible and allowing these ‘friends’ to manipulate you as they have. And that apology belongs to your boyfriend. You need to apologise to him.

          >Abandon my friends and apologize for ever having insecurities?
          Leave your friends and apologise for LETTING YOUR INSECURITIES drag you and your boyfriend into a giant fricking problem. There’s nothing wrong with insecurity. There is a massive thing wrong with how you control it. Currently, you do not control it. It controls you. And so far, it has brought you to a pack of lesbian friends who advance on you and have now resorted to poisoning your perception on a good man who loves you.

          YOU let that happen and allow it to continue every time you exchange words with these ‘friends’. Every single time you hang out with them is a choice. You choose to listen to them. you lie to yourself you are in control and they can’t control your mind at all.

          Yet here you are after dissing your BF.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            LASTLY OP

            https://i.imgur.com/2wCdshV.png

            I thought my bf loved me, but my friends have been telling me that men aren't capable of love unless they're LGBT+, and that for guys "love" is just what they call possessiveness.

            I didn't put any stock into what they told me at first, but the longer I've thought about how my bf acts the more true it feels.

            Is this the case? Is there a way to know for sure?

            Read what I have just told you. Multiple people, maybe dozens have now identified that they ARE indirectly targetting your relationship, the man you claim to love, the one you are supposed to possess. YOUR man. They are trying to drive a wedge.

            This is the man you are meant to love.

            So WHAT are you going to do about it? What you do next (or refuse to do) will define your relationship. It will define who you are as a person. So choose very frickin’ wisely. Good luck.

            >All that has changed is they stopped the direct advances, and are indirectly advancing. Making your boyfriend the target.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Dude this is too complicated a concept. She will not understand you, she will not think people actually plan their next move instead of simply existing and letting things happen.
            Its obvious this woman lets her friends do all the thinking because she is unable to do any. Shes gonna get used so bad her friends are so toxic and she doesnt even realize it.

            A real modern tragedy

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Yep. And OP has yet to realize that her insecurities don't just make her a little misunderstood girl to everyone else. There are people who see her as easy prey. And she doesn't understand that social predators wear a smile on their face and will always act like your best friend and slowly lure you into trouble.

            OP is clearly someone whose parents never bothered their ass to teach her about this shit.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >My friends aren't prostitutes. They respect my boundaries and are very kind people. They were interested in me initially in a sexual way

          >My friends aren’t prostitutes
          >They did try to make sexual advances on me yes

          Yeah? How did those sexual advances go down? Point on the dolly where they touched you. Tell us all what filth was said to you.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Imagine a thought but its an anti thought because it destroys any truth in your head.

          Boyfriend likes you. truth
          You belong to your boyfriend. truth
          Your boyfriend belongs to you. truth

          Your female best friends are lesbians. truth (basically men with veganas)

          What if your lesbian friends are taking the role of the classic "the girlfriends male best friend" stereotype? They are feeding you nonsense about your bf so youre more likely to completely join them.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >They've made advances on me before, but respected it when I told them I'm not a lesbian so I doubt they meant anything harmful with their advice.

      Yes they do mean you harm. You rejected them and insisted you have a boyfriend. And now they tell you your boyfriend is ‘toxic’ and a ‘problem’. They wish to remove the obstacle so they you no longer have a reason to reject them next time.

      Do you think that is a happy coincidence? Or are you going to play naïve again?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      "HEY CAN WE FRICK YOU?!?!"

      "im not a lesbian sorry"

      "OOHHH OKAY. WE WILL TOTALLY STOP WANTING TO FRICK YOU.... Hey you should totally break up with your boyfriend hes so toxiccc ughh and like possessive youre your own girlie!!! BREAK UP WITH YOUR BF NOW I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU PLSPLSPLS"

      "uhmmm stop being so weird. First you want to have sex with me. Then you want me to break up with my boyfriend that i love. I see through your manipulation and how you just want to take me away from the man who just loves me. Stay away from me you all are just disgusting.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >guys are just so different sometimes that its hard to tell we're the same species and it leads to a lot of weird notions about how their brains work I guess.

      No, no, no. You don’t get to hand-wave this whole thing off as a “Heh. Men — can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em amirite??” You have WAY bigger problems. Ones that go beyond gender. Chief among those issues is your fricking people-pleasing.

      Don’t for one second think you are a nice person. Review your own thread. Make a nice list for your own eyes to witness:

      >Be you
      >Have bf
      >have lesbian friend group
      >bf is nice to me all the time
      >bf takes me out and stuff
      >bf never abuses me
      >bf told me that I am too good to let slip past his fingers
      >lesbian friend group tried to make advances on me, most likely sexual
      >i told lesbian friends thanks but no thanks
      >i didn’t see the blatant disrespect from their advances, how they advanced despite knowing i am not lesbian and in a relationship
      >I was too coward to leave the friend group, i dont want to be ‘meeeeaaaannn’ 🙁
      >I keep ignoring my bfs feelings and concerns
      >I listen to the lesbian friends the same ones who disrespect me and my relationship
      >they tell me he is super toxic and a problem
      >I listen to them instead, not bf
      >I make a big thread on NSFFW. I throw bf’s name under the bus. I create a narrative he is borderline abusive and controlling
      >I defend lesbian friends publicly instead, I doubt they mean harm
      >…but I throw doubts at my bf whose only crime was to try and love me.

      If you call yourself ‘nice’ after acknowledging this then you are a liar to yourself. You know what the right thing to do is. The trouble is you are too chicken shit to do it. You are easily manipulated by these ‘friends’ because that is your low self esteem they take advantage of. They know you have craved to ‘fit in’ and have a friend group. They know you are desperate for friends. they don’t care unless you frick them.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        cont.

        and you ask:

        That isn't love, that's possession because it doesn't account for my feelings and independence. Its super toxic.
        [...]
        Are you calling my bf or my friends sociopaths?
        [...]
        I'm not trying to be unfaithful but if I want to stay out late with my friends bc they're celebrating something I should be able to without a fuss.
        [...]
        It's hard not to be intimidated. He's always nice to me, yes, but I've seen him mad and fighting another guy once and I was pretty shook thinking all that anger was just bottled up inside him. What if I do something at some point without meaning to that makes him that mad at me?
        [...]
        >Does he know what you want in return? Does he still date you? (Take you out, show you a good time, bond with you over activities and conversation?)
        He still takes me out and stuff. He doesn't like our area though, and acts like I'm going to get murdered if I'm not like righr beside him the whole time whenever we're out. He says its because the city's a terrible place, but I kind of worry he might be racist.

        >Are you call my bf or my friends sociopaths?

        Take a wild fricking guess. GUESS WHO IS GROOMING YOU SLOWLY AND SUBTLY INTO FRICKING THEM. For frick sake woman, WAKE UP.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      this has to be bait
      if not
      YOU ARE BEING GASLIT
      your lesbian friends are trying to sabotage you because they're jealous

  30. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    ^go and use this lesson how you think it should be used

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