Is my GF normal?

I'm dating a girl that always takes the first move.

On a first date she asked me if I want to kiss her, we kissed a lot in my car.

On a second date she asked me if I want to go to her place. After we started kissing, she asked me if I want to do something more, so she gave me a blowjob.

On a third date we had complete sex, and she asked me if I want to sleep together. I didn't want to sleep without her and said yes.

On a fourth date after we had sex again, she asked me if I want to be together. I said yes and now she is my official GF.

This never happened to me before. All the previous dates never made the first move. I had to to everything by mylself and spend a lot of time before something could happen, without scaring them by rushing things to happen.

I have realized that we don't have common friends, so I don't really know if she is not a manipulative bawd.

I just know that she managed to become my GF in four dates.

Did this happen to anybody else here? Is this normal for a girl to be this way?

I feel like I am in a movie with a perfect GF. But I think it's not common for women to take control about dating like a guy.

P.S. She alway pays for herself.

Shoiud I be worrying, or am I just lucky?

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  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Is this normal
    Very unusual.
    She decided you were going to be her boyfriend right at the start.
    You should probably expect her to get bored and dump you or cheat, so don't take it too seriously.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Anon, your abandonment issues are showing.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Someone who moves in fast will move out just as fast.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Anon, your abandonment issues are showing.

      Someone who moves in fast will move out just as fast.

      He is 100% right and I am glad to see this as the first post.
      Not only will she move out as quickly as she moved in, but she made the decision in her head regardless of the OPs actions. This means his actions play a minimal role, which is nice in the beginning, but will suck when she inevitably loses interest, because it's all in her head.
      It ruined a relative of mine's life. He was funny, confident, got his first gf who didn't look like a good match but he was happy, and once she left him he's now still coping, 2 years later, wondering what he did wrong (nothing)

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >It ruined a relative of mine's life. He was funny, confident, got his first gf who didn't look like a good match but he was happy, and once she left him he's now still coping, 2 years later, wondering what he did wrong (nothing)
        ngl, kinda feeling like that guy. It's been a few months now and I'm still coping. She just won't leave my thoughts.
        what do?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >She decided you were going to be her boyfriend right at the start.
      this is every modern relationship. women choose their men. this is why all the young married men also happen to be pushovers. i can think of one exception in my personal life, but even in that case the woman kicked things off and the man took over later. young women have more life experience than young men, they have a wider social circle and more time socializing, they are the sharks in the waters no matter how men claim otherwise, i (male) recognize this and accept it, i've been chosen by women and approached in public, i don't like it so i might never find a partner in life

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >g women have more life experience than young men, they have a wider social circle and more time socializing, they are the sharks in the waters no matter how men claim otherwise, i (male) recognize this and accept it,
        how do i cope with this? im insecure with my gf because she has a more social past than me

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Another autistic incel tard.

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Shouldn't your gf be someone special?

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just focus on enjoying the ride, getting to know her, and don't get too attached in these early stages of the relationship.
    Have fun, she may or may not be the one so hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
    Re-evaluate the relationship s objectively as you can every month or so. What are you putting into it, and what are you getting out of it.

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    it's too rushed, make sure to observe her intentions.
    also don't fall too hard because commitment is something that you would need to earn.
    ALSO, you need to see if she's love bombing you

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      NTA but what's "love bombing"?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        It's an "abuse" tactic. It's like the bait. The bomber basically showers their target with affection to instill a feeling of "now I owe them for all this affection" or a feeling of "maybe things will go back to the good times" when they move on to more controlling tactics.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Dogu-anon

          It's unusual for women to make the first move, but not unheard of. It could be she just really likes you. As long as you don't have a problem with how quickly she put out, then I say go for it.

          Based digits

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Women are rarely that assertive. I don't think it's a red flag by itself though.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you might be her practice bf
    are you rich, good looking or something?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yes. I'm goodlloking and wealthy.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    She sounds super based. No, it's not normal female behavior, so be careful. She clearly likes to take charge and goes for what she wants. Could be a problem in certain circumstances, but so long as what she wants is you and that doesn't change, it's based. But it also means that, if she gets tired of you or wants someone else, she is likely to go for that immediately.

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    She’s a bawd, but you’re the kind of degenerate who likes that, so enjoy it while it lasts. You might also want to get tested for STDs.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      NTA but one of my exes was exactly like OP's gf and she was a virgin

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Can you elaborate? How did she behave?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >exes
        Why is she an ex? Virgins can be manipulative too. The goal is not the sex but the relationship.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        bawds have to start at some point.

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'm trying to imagine what she's thinking when you're not around. Like what is she doing. When she is alone, thinking about you, maybe she likes the idea of having you as her boyfriend, but then that is all in her head and not based really on your actions and in reality.

    This is unusual and sounds like doomed to failure. I would enjoy it if I were you, but not develop some attachment to her. She'll likely lose interest eventually. It's likely not you making her have an interest, but rather some idea in her head.

  10. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    The crab bucket mentality itt is showing strong lol.

    Just be happy, OP.

  11. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You will have my time

    Everything up to the thrird date has happened to me when their attraction levels werr through the roof. But, I knew what I was doing and what each of them craved deep inside, hand tailored attraction. You on the other hand is clueless weak willed nice guy, you are a raw clay toy soldier easy to bend, you are unattractive. Thus:

    >On a fourth date after we had sex again, she asked me if I want to be together. I said yes and now she is my official GF.

    Here is her mask showing brightly. Women go way slower than men emptionally, a lot to explain here. Usually for a healthy girl her asking for relationship is 2 to 3 months if you do things right, 6 months if you do things wrong

    Either she is daddy issues anxious low self esteem garbage confusing love with lust (she will cheat on you soon with zero guilt, easy come easy go) or she is manupilative npd/bpd crazy trash that will hook you on sex and affection and then will turn your life into hell

    Think of it like this, you, an average clueless guy with zero skills suddenly got a CEO job in few weeks without any effort just by saying yes. Not very believable, is it?

    >Shoiud I be worrying, or am I just lucky?
    It will be hard to ditch free sex and validation, so you wont listen to me. But you have to cut her off. Or you will be heartbroken and traumatized like a naive nice guy you are. And for what, months of fun? Dont waste your time

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      I understand your point, but I forgot to tell that we talked a lot during dating.

      Since first date we have spent hours discussing about everything before she asked me to kiss.

      It's not like we just got drunk, had a chit chat and had sex.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah, thats what a date is. But here is a very subtle but crucial detail, who chased who. There are two options:

        1) You are a nice self absorbed clueless guy, you talk about yourself a lot, you talk about what is interesting to you, you wait for her to finish talking to say your part, its 50 / 50 ration of both of you talking, you give everything away easily, you answer ultimative questions on your job, hobbies, religion, siblings tastes right aways trying to qualify to and impress a stranger because deep down you are insucure and confuse you blabbering for connection

        Or

        2) You let her talk 80 precent, with the rest 20 percent is you teasing, playing arpund, asking quality questions, you let the silence to have its place, you actively listen and let her go on after she stopped talking, you playfully evade personal questions to tease her and let her chase for her reward, while remaining an attractive mystery, keeping the conversation personal, emotional (no past, no future, no politics, no religion) and men to woman (not something friends would talk about)

        >we have spent hours discussing about everything

        If its option 1, you did a terrible job of an average clueless self absorbed anti seductive novice. And her actions have sinister purpose

        If its option 2, you did a great job of a seducer, giving her unique personalised masquline experience and she is so excited by that she doesnt want to miss it ever again and iantrying to lock you down

        I know its the first option, you dont know yet. Talking to a woman and listening to a woman are completely different things

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          You sound like an autistic incel.

  12. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Do your best to try, but sounds a little like BPD. BPD is a signal to run fast and far away, not because they are evil or whatever, but because they routinely fail their partners with the only reward being tons of sex.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Yes. I think it was too fast and she took control of everything.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Getting quickly into sexual relationships is a sign of BPD, and just to be clear, I'm telling YOU to run away from HER.

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Anyway, she talks and acts like a normal person.

  13. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    iirc you admitted you talked a ton and went on 4 dates. i frick a girl by first date usually, i won’t go on a third. so you’re slow as frick, and she’s helping you along
    girls will be assertive if everything clicks but you’re not moving the interractions quick enough, it doesnt mean they have bpd or are bawds or whatever moronic asinine shit poorgays who read this board make up in their heads
    a lot of girls will guide you with body language. for instance if she wants you to kiss she’ll lock eyes and move her arm in a “come to me” fashion (i cant explain what it looks like exactly but its cute as frick and they all do it the same). stuff like that. verbal is rarer but isn’t negative. sometimes ive gotten too drunk and forgot wtf i was doing and had girls verbalize to “cmon please!” in their own way. the fact you’d post this means you’re a bit wimpish imo so what the hell is the b***h supposed to do if she thinks you’re her cup of tea? letting girls take the lead can be super fricking hot if you’re into it fwiw, per the obsession with mommy gfs around here

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You are talking about bawds. She doesn't look like a bawd.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >She doesn't look like a bawd.
        All femoids are bawds.

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        the fact im good with women and you arent doesnt make them bawds, it just means you lack experience, per your girl literally having to tell you what to do you absolute basedbody

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Only broke ugly losers brag about being good with women. I'm just better than you and deserve better women than you.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            being successful only triggers the unsuccessful. learn not to out yourself next time homosexual. ask your gf how to be more assertive topkek

  14. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Idk my gf was kinda like that although it seemed that she didn’t want to ask me out. After talking to me for several weeks invited me to Starbucks so I’d “finally get the hint and ask her out” so I guess not really

  15. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >I'm dating a girl that always takes the first move.
    Normal enough
    >Is this normal for a girl to be this way?
    It's not uncommon. Never happened to me but that's because I'm bossy as frick and I'd double down before reaching your point.
    >She alway pays for herself.
    Hang on, that one's actually strange. Look into that one more.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      > Hang on, that one's actually strange. Look into that one more
      gotta agree here, girls usually pay for me as well

  16. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    This entire post seems like a blackpill to me, because I took all the initiative in my relationship, decided I wanted to date my husband and we're gonna be 10 years this year... I never got bored of him...?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Like this whole board complains that women don't take initiative and when they do they're BDP and trouble?

  17. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Enjoy the intimacy and the moments OP. Do be careful.

    Having experienced an NPD/BPD girl during the so-called formative years I now know to examine their motives and character. I was feeling euphoric and happy, its just that it was not a real relationship. She did not really like me, she wanted to "impress" her primary school friend who ditched her a few times as a way to return to that group. She knew I liked her for four years (she responded with an "ugh" when she found out after two years) we were on and off and she got some of her friends to set us up, people from the year for me to talk to her and one time asked me to have a "relationships". She was the one that broke them off.

    Enjoy the intimacy and the moments OP. Maybe you connect really well, she is really likes and she might be the one. Take care.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Actually I think she is a bawd fricking with me.

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