I've been arguing just a little with my boyfriend.

I've been arguing just a little with my boyfriend. We both have dogs, and they get very excited whenever one of us gets home from work.
They started running around chasing each other when he got home from work, and my dog got caught on his headset cable on his computer and in a panic tugged his computer tower over.
The screen keeps flickering now. I offered to get it fixed for him, but he says I just need to let him try anal with me. I've never done anal with any guy, it seems like it would hurt and I don't feel like he should get to name his price when it makes the most sense just to let me get his computer fixed.
I got his cables secured to his desk with some tape now so the dogs don't get tangled in them again while playing. Is it wrong of me to feel like this is his fault more for leaving the cables out loose like that in the first place? I really don't want to do anal.

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    > offered to get it fixed for him, but he says I just need to let him try anal with me
    My god what kind of manipulate douchebag are you dating? Does that seem normal to you? This completely predictable accident happens and in return he wants to frick you in the ass to make amends? He is a creep. You should break up with him.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      fpbp. His request is psychotic. He could've asked like a normal person.

      Bet you a dollar that your manipulative jerk of a bf is going to tell you that the "debt" isn't fully paid afterward.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I offer as tribute

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This shit reads like a porno, but it shouldn't because you're in a relationship.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You should be chuffed that you just have to take it up the ass for like 5 minutes instead of driving to a computer repair shop then back home. Then driving there and back to pickup. Plus you’d have to pay.

    I’d exert my female privilege if I were you.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    That's completely random and weird to come out with. Also, his fault for having his computer in a shit spot where dogs can knock it over. If anything, he needs to get pegged for being an butthole.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Sex and sexual acts should never be a bargaining chip, especially for something you're not down for or interested in. Even if you DID like it, the fact that it's not a mutually decided, exciting thing for you is a problem, as well as that he's using it as "compensation". Don't start down that path because it leads nowhere good. Never hold sex over his head, nor let him use it that way with you. Set your boundaries and make a character judgement about him based upon his reaction.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >but he says I just need to let him try anal with me
    lol wtf
    if this isnt bait you should probably get out

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    Sounds to me that you're not going to listen to any of the advise that follows. You're hopelessly attached to your abuser.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >You're hopelessly attached to your abuser.
      Aren't all women? I've never heard of an abusive boyfriend being cheated on or not given second, third, fourth, tenth chances.

      But I could tell you so many IRL friend stories of good guys being told they are "too nice" or "sorry I'm confused right now"

      I hope he gets to the beating her stage soon

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Wildly based assertion

        Thousands of battered women in this world, yet I still prefer mine plain.

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    I'd dip dip potato chip as soon as practicable, even to the point of leaving him with the lease. That sounds toxic as shit b***h, and the fact that he has a "justification" means he thinks he can justify any poor behavior through that lense. If you won't stick up for yourself then take it in the ass I guess.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      [...]
      >This is going to sound terrible, and it kind of is. He doesn't "believe" in boundaries in a relationship, and he has this whole religious argument behind it that I don't like to get into with him whenever it comes up. I know I'm a doormat for it, but we're on a lease together and I want to keep the peace as much as I can.

      This is a deal breaker and red flag that you needed to have watched out for a while back. I get you said he stuck it out with you at a hard time, but a good guy is gonna respect what you're comfortable with. Not coerce you into a position you don't wanna be in and also that this whole computer situation is HIS fault. He should claim responsibility, not move the blame to you and getting you to pay up with anal. Especially with this
      >I've brought up the cables with him before, because of how his computer is positioned even I've tripped over them when it was dark. I held his computer steady to keep it from falling the times I tripped though.

      If you're in hopes to make it work, sit down and have a talk with him if anything regarding this and the boundaries issue. Couples counseling if need be so you have a third perspective in the room because it's certainly not good if you're a doormat as you say and could use someone else so you don't get put into pressure from him. If this isn't the future father of your kids, you're wasting your time and need to get out when you can.

      >Is it wrong of me to feel like this is his fault more for leaving the cables out loose like that in the first place?
      Even if we told you that was more his fault than yours, you wouldn't do anything differently.

      He's going to gaslight you into thinking its your fault and he'll abuse you further as 'payment'. You won't leave him and you're going to post in a few weeks on /adv/ about him giving you a black eye or whatever. Don't waste our time if you're going to do nothing but make excuses for him.

      Come on, OP. Come back.

      Refuse. You owe him some compensation for the computer, but you don't owe him sex. It's manipulative, creepy, and honestly a little sociopathic for him to demand sexual favors because of this, especially if you already offered to get it fixed.

      Tell him you'll pay for the cost of repairs, and if he still insists on using this as a sexual blank check, forget the compensation and dump his sorry ass. (If I was in your situation, I'd just leave him right away because he seems like a complete piece of shit. But that's just me.)

      Thank you for the feedback here. I hadn't really considered it before because I felt like leaving him might be an extreme response, and I was worried about the lease - but with all these responses, I feel like I'd be an idiot to stay with him at this point.
      I called my dad to come help me move out tomorrow, and I'm planning to let my bf know we're done once my dad isn't far.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I'm very happy for you, anon. Ask your dad to bring a pocket knife for self defense.

        And don't accept his inevitable "I'm sorry. I've changed" phone calls. Abusers do that shit all the time. (And weak women fall for it all the time)

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    >This is going to sound terrible, and it kind of is. He doesn't "believe" in boundaries in a relationship, and he has this whole religious argument behind it that I don't like to get into with him whenever it comes up. I know I'm a doormat for it, but we're on a lease together and I want to keep the peace as much as I can.

    This is a deal breaker and red flag that you needed to have watched out for a while back. I get you said he stuck it out with you at a hard time, but a good guy is gonna respect what you're comfortable with. Not coerce you into a position you don't wanna be in and also that this whole computer situation is HIS fault. He should claim responsibility, not move the blame to you and getting you to pay up with anal. Especially with this
    >I've brought up the cables with him before, because of how his computer is positioned even I've tripped over them when it was dark. I held his computer steady to keep it from falling the times I tripped though.

    If you're in hopes to make it work, sit down and have a talk with him if anything regarding this and the boundaries issue. Couples counseling if need be so you have a third perspective in the room because it's certainly not good if you're a doormat as you say and could use someone else so you don't get put into pressure from him. If this isn't the future father of your kids, you're wasting your time and need to get out when you can.

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >Is it wrong of me to feel like this is his fault more for leaving the cables out loose like that in the first place?
    Even if we told you that was more his fault than yours, you wouldn't do anything differently.

    He's going to gaslight you into thinking its your fault and he'll abuse you further as 'payment'. You won't leave him and you're going to post in a few weeks on /adv/ about him giving you a black eye or whatever. Don't waste our time if you're going to do nothing but make excuses for him.

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    He's creepy.

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Bumping this thread again because I want OP to respond and not have to make another thread.

  14. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    >He doesn't "believe" in boundaries
    Tell him you'll peg him, anal duties fulfilled

  15. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Come on, OP. Come back.

  16. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Refuse. You owe him some compensation for the computer, but you don't owe him sex. It's manipulative, creepy, and honestly a little sociopathic for him to demand sexual favors because of this, especially if you already offered to get it fixed.

    Tell him you'll pay for the cost of repairs, and if he still insists on using this as a sexual blank check, forget the compensation and dump his sorry ass. (If I was in your situation, I'd just leave him right away because he seems like a complete piece of shit. But that's just me.)

  17. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Tell him you're cool with it but only if he buys the strap on and cleans his ass really thoroughly beforehand

  18. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You are a stupid prostitute, trying to blame him for your failure because your stupid mutt broke his computer. You should do what he wants and consider yourself lucky that he doesn’t beat you and rape you every day.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      [...]

      I'm guessing it snowed by you and schools closed tomorrow? Dangerously edgy posts

  19. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    [...]

    You are a stupid prostitute, trying to blame him for your failure because your stupid mutt broke his computer. You should do what he wants and consider yourself lucky that he doesn’t beat you and rape you every day.

    Did someone on /b/ link to this post or something?

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