marriage

Is being "assigned" to an older man ok?
almost twice the age
family:
>he's good
yeah he's pretty square, religious guy, prays before eating
he has no hobbies except grinding on his business and on the Bible
his life is to work and work and work

go for a fun younger guy instead?

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  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >women's """problems"""

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      uhhhhhhhhhh your point being?

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Fpbp

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >women's """problems"""

        I don't understand
        why are you doing this
        not. funny. didn't. laugh.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Fpbp

      This is the correct response to dumb women bemoaning their easy life

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        ohhh, so that's why
        ok...

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Tell me I'm wrong, and provide in detail why

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            I can't, you're right

            men have to win bread, the proof is in the bread, no bread no proof.
            while the women... it's like pickinig up puppies, you pick by the breed and the character, can't really prove the strength because the puppy is too young

            but I feel you are the argument type and you're a little bit foul mouthed and you make me feel a little bit down

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            You're very immature, so you take any correction to your inexperience of life as a personal attack.

            Would you rather someone lie to you, and applaud your stupid choices, or would you prefer being told the truth, so you can actually make a smart decision?

            You're free to be young and dumb, but do not come here complaining about how your shit choices didn't magically bring a fantasy life to fruition, when it inevitably backfires on you.

            You're also allowed to have fun. That doesn't exclude the dude you're looking to marry. If you think it does, that's on you for the disconnect of concepts

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            thanks for the foul mouthed advice...
            >bemoaning
            he..he..

            I'm not gonna lie I just said that to rile up incels tbh

            incels... they seem kind of smart and funny
            don't exactly know why they get rejected
            are they ugly or low execution or both?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Lol you're welcome. I toned it down a lot for you, my Black person

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >88
            ehhhhh....

            so
            why Do incels they get rejected?
            they make the best memes
            I need to know

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Marriage is moronic. Also there’s like a million moronic stories about marrying for love vs. obligation. Use your peewee brain to find one

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It is wrong for older people to marry younger people. Young people should be marrying each other and having kids.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      First honest post itt

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >Young people should be marrying each other and having kids.
      that's not what young people do with each other though, so i'd say marrying an older guy is better

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Neither "good" nor "fun" make for a functional marriage. Get your priorities straight

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Older is better, always

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      why?

      Neither "good" nor "fun" make for a functional marriage. Get your priorities straight

      hmmmmm right...

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        It worked in the past. You could see what the young man would settle into and not risk him blowing his life on some ridiculous venture.
        Doesn't work today because single men are single for a reason and your 40yr old man could decide to come out as a little girl.

  6. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Do you think you could love him?

    You don't have to up front, but could you grow to see the man as he is and not just as he presents himself?

    I'd bet he's kind, working hard and holding religion so close. Could you be the spark he needs to start having fun?

    It all depends what you bring to the table. If you're going to honor his hard work and respect him as a person then it might be a good move. If you expect a romance to sweep you off your feet and to not have to out effort into making things romantic you might be better off looking for a younger man.

    >t. young workaholic who needs to be reminded to have fun sometimes

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      thank you so much
      that makes sense

      but I cringed every time you said fun or spark
      i.... am not a fun person myself tho
      I like to read books, I read the whole civil law book once, and sometimes I fly my DJI drone and be a creep on people, lookin into other people's windows at different communities and see what they're doing in the morning, yikes
      what I'm actually worried when I said go for a fun guy instead is, if I get assigned to him, will I just be a worker ant family?

      >waht I bring to the table
      I donno?
      the best I can do is shut up when taking offenses and not be passive aggressive

      you're a workaholic? how workaholic are you and what do you do?

      you like to hear the things I saw with the DJI drone?

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Sorry for the cringe, a lot of guys don't really remember how to unwind and enjoy their time, these days I'm one of them so "fun" and "spark" were the best I had to describe that lol

        Reading a law book for fun is wild, you've got an attention span I could only dream of. The drone is an awesome hobby too, though invading peoples privacy is a little risque for my taste.

        >what I'm actually worried when I said go for a fun guy instead is, if I get assigned to him, will I just be a worker ant family?
        It depends on how receptive the man is to hobbies, adventures and taking breaks. Are you comfortable asking for the things that interest you, or making plans for things that you like?

        >>waht I bring to the table
        >I donno?
        >the best I can do is shut up when taking offenses and not be passive aggressive
        Sounds like you've got some civil law knowledge under your belt for starters.

        >you're a workaholic? how workaholic are you and what do you do?
        I do *something* every day, I work about 50 hours a week as an industrial mechanic on a slow week and then have projects on the go at home, do handyman work for my girlfriends family, fix computers, love cooking... I basically only sit still when I'm too tired to move, and when I finally sit down to do nothing I watch anime or play old video games.

        >you like to hear the things I saw with the DJI drone?
        Sure!

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >a little risque for my taste
          >Sure I'd like to hear
          what the...

          so I flew over some density high rise apartments on day
          the high rise apartments were about 30 stories high, each tenant are like living in small matchboxes, costing about 20 years of constant waging for an average person, I checked the price on real estate app

          there was a woman, dyed hair, black to blonde, bobby hair, making breakfast, watching tiktok. she was watching tiktok and eating
          from the outside she rather looks high class, the house interior even looks upper middle class, but the fact that I'm looking into a high density apartment on the suburb basically tells her financial situation.
          that's so sad...
          imagine being a wagie and eat and watch tiktok at the same time, and dress yourself nice, I mean... I hate it when people don't have focus, and dressing up nice when your financial situation is bad is . either watch tiktok or eat right? like...

          • 1 week ago
            ;)

            Or maybe she is saving for a house. Maybe she lives to eat while watching tiktok? Like all these "it's not my taste so therefor she must hate it too", is kinda poor taste. She might not care about where she lives. Her financial situation is also pretty good if her appartment cost >about 20 years of constant waging for an average person, I checked the price on real estate app. What is your point again? You're on NSFFW asking easy question you should be able to answer yourself. "Do I want to be with an old goat that will have nothing to do with me because of his constant work? Also did I mention he is a religious nutjob?

            You should probably be careful judging others.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >t. slop eater

          • 1 week ago
            ;)

            Damn eating with your phone in your hand and you are here by a sloppy eater. Your parents must have been awful to you. Hope it gets better.

            eating while watching tiktok is an instant give way that someone is a drone
            >don't judge people
            why?

            Sure you judge. Just kinda moronic how you don't reply to anything else I typed. Don't talk about "drone people" when you are willing to marry someone brainwashed by religion. That is just too hypocritical even for religious people.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            eating while watching tiktok is an instant give way that someone is a drone
            >don't judge people
            why?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            you sound interesting, don't settle for an arranged marriage with someone boring

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          the law book thing, it doesn't require much attention span, just set a goal for 30 pages every day and soon it's finished

  7. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    He sounds boring I can't lie. I think you need someone exciting, someone interesting. A bad boy maybe.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      I hate bad boys tho
      they're the boasting and slacking type
      they're going to get stuck in middle aged fat wearing a wife beater and blaming me

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I'm not gonna lie I just said that to rile up incels tbh

  8. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    have a nice day zelligtroon

  9. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Live yourself zelligcis

  10. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    No, that's not okay.
    You could do much, much worse in an arranged marriage, but unless you live in a place where there are no other options and your male relatives would kill you for choosing your own spouse, you don't need to do it.

  11. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Typical zelligtroony behavior

  12. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    You sound like a nonwhite since arranged marriages are a nonwhite practice. Hope you take option 3 instead which is killing yourself

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      the white practice would be an assigned marriage between two men

  13. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I think people should date within their age range. Every time I see a problem child I find out their parents had a huge age gap of some kind.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >sauce
      >my ass
      Problem children are most found in broken homes, single mother, or rascal "bad boy" father... Why does Age have anything to do with it?

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Especially single mothers, the children go troony because they're too weak to win women so they want to be women and pleasure themselves.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      This is unironically true. My dad is one of 3 kids from parents with a 15 year age gap and they all have huge problems which have passed on issues to me indirectly, since I have to deal with all the moronic family drama. Then my grandmother turns around and asks why people can't just get along kek

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        what kind of not getting along? is it serious, or just bickering?

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          My grandfather married the love of his life when he was around 22. His wife was the same age. They loved each other a lot and were basically best friends from the age of 14, but his wife tragically died from cancer when she hit 28. It tore him up and he barely left the house other than for work for like 3 to 4 years. Barely saw his friends at the pub. That sort of thing.

          Eventually one of his family members saw how depressed he was and thought they were the world's biggest genius. They said they knew a girl who would be perfect for him. He didn't really want to get married since he said he'd never get over his wife dying. Months of arguing later and he just gave up and gave into their wishes (bad mistake) and married my now grandmother, who I love, but realistically she created a lot of problems for my grandfather.

          She was from a small village in the English countryside and as such didn't really have much education or knowledge about anything. Her immaturity basically made my grandfather life a headache. Constant keeping up with the Joneses, nagging, complaining all the time, being emotionally abusive to her kids due to her own immaturity etc...

          I love my grandmother since according to my dad she mellowed out when the grandkids were born but by all accounts she was quite the headache due to her immaturity. I believe she was 20 when she got married and my grandfather was 35.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            My grandfather spent a huge chunk of his latter life seemingly depressed other than when he spent time with his grandchildren. Needless family drama and his kids lives having turned out not as planned would wear you down. Especially when compared to how you felt about your first wife and whatever you were planning with her.

            My grandfather had kind of a tragic life in general though since his mum died when he was 2 and he only had his dad. Who then died when he was 27, just before his first wife died. So he was basically by himself after his first wife died. I can't begin to imagine his pain. I feel sorry for his soul truly.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            My grandfather spent a huge chunk of his latter life seemingly depressed other than when he spent time with his grandchildren. Needless family drama and his kids lives having turned out not as planned would wear you down. Especially when compared to how you felt about your first wife and whatever you were planning with her.

            My grandfather had kind of a tragic life in general though since his mum died when he was 2 and he only had his dad. Who then died when he was 27, just before his first wife died. So he was basically by himself after his first wife died. I can't begin to imagine his pain. I feel sorry for his soul truly.

            seems to be a problem of "eating the wrong medicine out of panic". that IS tragic, sorry to hear that
            not as tragic as passing away without the mercy of Jesus
            is your grandfather a believer and baptized by any chance?

            I couldn't get my grandparents to believe, YET. I'd be sad.
            sighhhhhhhhhhhhhh

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            sorry
            >eating the wrong medicine out of panic
            it should be
            >eating the wrong medicine out of desperation
            it was an idiom in Chinese, kind of hard to translate

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      This is unironically true. My dad is one of 3 kids from parents with a 15 year age gap and they all have huge problems which have passed on issues to me indirectly, since I have to deal with all the moronic family drama. Then my grandmother turns around and asks why people can't just get along kek

      every marriage in my family (except my parents, who are 1 year apart and divorced when I was young) is between a guy who's at least 12 years older than the wife, and I'm the only frick-up in an extended family of dozens of children.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Anomaly id guess. But in my experience a huge age gap is not conducive to healthy children. Depends on the parents and their maturity though

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          age gaps are the only relationships that ARE conducive to raising healthy children. young, healthy, fertile mother plus older, more mature, financially established father who's no longer a young buck with raging hormones looking to frick anything that moves.

          the instinctive "ideal" age gap to women is like 5-6 years minimum, but there are a lot more women who like an even bigger age gap than there are women who want a man very close to their own age, and women who want a younger man are statistically irrelevant.

  14. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Just get BLEACHEDRAW same as always

  15. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    why is ongezellig here?

  16. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >arranged marriage between a young and ignorant girl and a man presumably in his forties
    If you're okay with being treated like a cumrag with zero autonomy then sure, go it. If you live in america than just refuse to play these bullshit cultural games and live your own life.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      an old man has next to no sex drive
      a 20yo wants to coom all the time

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      She's white if you read the thread

  17. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    gem

  18. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    if you want to have fun for the next ~5 years of your life then be miserable for the following 60, go frick around with "fun younger guys"
    if you want to "maybe" be miserable for the next 5 years then have a family and be satisfied for the following 60, go for the arranged marriage.

    though I find it hard to believe that it's your choice either way if you live in a culture with arranged marriage to begin with.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      thanks that makes a lot of sense
      I guess young people will drop the cool acts once financial reality hits

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