>meet guys online when in 16 and hes 22. >grooms me into a ddlg/cgl esque relationship

>meet guys online when in 16 and he’s 22
>grooms me into a ddlg/cgl esque relationship
>become insanely reliant on him in every way
>we end up splitting up once i turn 18
>thought it was good for me at first
> now 6ish months mater noticing how miserable i am without him
> pretty sure he blocked me and changed his username so it’s impossible for me it get in contact with him again
How do i stop thinking about him?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    He left when you were no longer fun and useful to him. Maybe some other daddy won’t.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      yeah i’ve talked to a few, but so far i haven’t found a very good replacement :(. i am being kinda picky but i don’t wanna put my time into a relationship that is just leaving me hanging

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I wish I could say I knew of a way to make a search like that easier for you. Most of the people into this on the dom side have always seemed pretty messed up about it all to me. It makes sense I guess that you’d have to worry about how they will act. Try not to make yourself all that truly vulnerable and maybe search the background of anyone you’re talking to if they have one you can find. I used to indulge myself and felt I was pretty good at it but I only met anyone by chance and these days I’m with someone who isn’t into it.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          yeah, i’m kind of starting to date this guy and i open wines up to him about my past with it and he didn’t understand like the concept of ddlg or cgl or anything like that. Yeah it sucks, someone will come around. I just keep reminding myself he knew what to say to make me feel good since he’d been doing the same thing over and over and knew how to make a insecure teenager feel good (wich honestly cringe, get a life).

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Your best bet is probably a dom who knows not to try anything with actual minors. Might seem really rare considering everything but that’s the only way I could sleep at night doing this. Sorry you had to experience being manipulated in such a way. The whole point should be that it’s safe and not exploitive.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >he knew how to make a insecure teenager feel good

            You should get over him by reminding yourself that he's a pedo.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            i’m trying but atp i don’t even care anymore. Becoming a ‘adult’ has showed me that more and more men that i’ve trusted are petofiles so like why not date one if there’s no good men

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >more and more men that i’ve trusted are petofiles so like why not date one if there’s no good men

            Woman logic

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            You’re mostly right. The reality is that humans reach sexual maturity far younger than current laws would suggest. It’s more about mental and emotional maturity and the risks involved with exploitation of the youth by adults. Our species is weird and in a weird spot culturally. But just like child labor being prohibited it’s good this is too. That said, you will find a ton of men into this and at the same time you’ll find plenty who stay far and clear away from it on principle or instinct or because they understand the injustice of exploitation

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            thank you for the words of encouragement :D. I’m thinking of getting a fetlife account but i feel like it might cause more problems than it would solve

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Becoming a ‘adult’ has showed me that more and more men that i’ve trusted are petofiles so like why not date one if there’s no good men
            1.doubt every men in your life is a pedo and if they are then you have reallt bad luck
            2.pedos not longer want you
            3.if they wanted you, they would only use you for their pleasure and that’s not good. respect yourself.
            4.not all men are evil
            5.seek help. go to therapy. you’re crazy

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        yeah, i’m kind of starting to date this guy and i open wines up to him about my past with it and he didn’t understand like the concept of ddlg or cgl or anything like that. Yeah it sucks, someone will come around. I just keep reminding myself he knew what to say to make me feel good since he’d been doing the same thing over and over and knew how to make a insecure teenager feel good (wich honestly cringe, get a life).

        i’m trying but atp i don’t even care anymore. Becoming a ‘adult’ has showed me that more and more men that i’ve trusted are petofiles so like why not date one if there’s no good men

        thank you for the words of encouragement :D. I’m thinking of getting a fetlife account but i feel like it might cause more problems than it would solve

        You're asking for trouble trying to get into a relationship by putting your sexual preferences first. Not only is the internet/world filled with men like the one who abandoned you, but the ddlg fetish in particular is 99% manipulators and groomers. You are going to get hurt over and over again if you keep this up, anon.

        You can still find someone with that personality you like, but you need to stop advertising it in the open and instead search for someone who is compatible with your need for love and affection first, acceptance second, and your physical desires third.

        Take it from someone who's been a dom bouncing from sub to sub for years now. Even when you find someone, before you know it you'll be sad and alone again because you're going about it backwards.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          thank you that makes a lot of sense. How can i tell if someone seems like a loving person without getting ‘in too deep’? I sound like such a aspie but i feel like irl i’ve only attracted ‘cold’ guys which is really unfortunate and also really unattractive

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            It's simple, you have to get to know them first. Don't just jump into love headfirst; guard your heart and temper your emotions by keeping in your mind the very real possibility that this person could have selfish intentions and want to use you for sex, approval, or anything else just like the person who broke your heart before. They could also be a great person, but simply not the right one for you.

            You like cold guys because they give the impression that they are strong, have a backbone and can take care of you. But keep in mind there are plenty of men who are the strong, silent type. Look for the guys who are obviously capable and masculine, but not obnoxious, arrogant or mean about it.

            Alternatively, if you're a boy: stop dating men and just find a girl, because all girls are mean lol.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            thank you for all the advice 🙂 i’m starting a new job on monday and hopefully will meet some nice boys that fit the bill! And yeah i am a girl lol

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I'd tell you to avoid crazy at all costs, but you're on this site.

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    you are not a woman

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Find someone who can meet your needs without being a creep about it.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    why the frick men can’t stop grooming underage girls?
    why the frick underage girls frick adult men knowing that’s a wrong idea?

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