mentally ill bf doesnt let me break up what do

I'm 28 femoid, currently pregnant with our second and mom to an almost 2 year old. My boyfriend has crashed his car two weeks ago and since then been taking a sick leave at work for depression since he was really overworked from working fulltime + going to programming classes giving him basically a 60+ hour week. But since then he's been spiraling. I have to walk on eggshells or he snaps. He keeps yelling at me and calling me horrible person and abusive when I'm literally just trying to make conversation to distract him. Like I asked if we never met if he would like to travel the world and do adventures like explore the jungle and he said that he would miss our daughter too much, and I just light-heartedly asked "and not me?" and he just snapped and said I'm a demon wanting to make him feel guilty. I stopped answering him and he got aggressive and choked me and said he's going to kill himself and then next time I do this he'll beat me. I cant continue this shit and he keeps refusing to let me leave him. I said I'm going to my mom's place for some days with the toddler and he said if I did that he's killing himself.
He already is 'getting help' because he's on sick leave but no one actually does anything. In the medical center they just gave him 5 minutes to talk and prescribed him antidepressants and benzos, which he's not taking. I don't know what to do and if I should stay in hopes he will get better eventually

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  1. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    >if I should stay in hopes he will get better eventually
    Get yourself and your kids away from this bpd demon and I'm being 100% serious

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      This.

      https://i.imgur.com/TM2T3p3.jpeg

      I'm 28 femoid, currently pregnant with our second and mom to an almost 2 year old. My boyfriend has crashed his car two weeks ago and since then been taking a sick leave at work for depression since he was really overworked from working fulltime + going to programming classes giving him basically a 60+ hour week. But since then he's been spiraling. I have to walk on eggshells or he snaps. He keeps yelling at me and calling me horrible person and abusive when I'm literally just trying to make conversation to distract him. Like I asked if we never met if he would like to travel the world and do adventures like explore the jungle and he said that he would miss our daughter too much, and I just light-heartedly asked "and not me?" and he just snapped and said I'm a demon wanting to make him feel guilty. I stopped answering him and he got aggressive and choked me and said he's going to kill himself and then next time I do this he'll beat me. I cant continue this shit and he keeps refusing to let me leave him. I said I'm going to my mom's place for some days with the toddler and he said if I did that he's killing himself.
      He already is 'getting help' because he's on sick leave but no one actually does anything. In the medical center they just gave him 5 minutes to talk and prescribed him antidepressants and benzos, which he's not taking. I don't know what to do and if I should stay in hopes he will get better eventually

      People don't really change.
      He can at best spend the rest of his life "managing". Which to you would be at best "less frequent violent episodes" which can translate to injury, trauma to children or death.
      Just leave.

  2. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I second the get tf out se

  3. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Hi, girl here. He is not going to change. I'm sorry. However long you've been together, he's showing his true colors now, and he isn't going to get better. It's what I've noticed in the years I've lived. You need to leave him. If he ever thinks it's okay to beat a woman, that's his permanent mindset, and it's extremely abusive. He is gaslighting you. Threatening you. He isn't letting you go to your mom's house. Girl, you need to leave before he kills you one day, because he will either do that or leave you seriously injured. He's mentally ill beyond repair. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard because you have kids too. But if he abuses you like this, he will abuse your babies like that too. He's threatening to kill himself, he is not in the right mental state to even have kids. It's dangerous. I know it's not easy to leave this relationship. But if you find a way to cut contact, things will get better in your life.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      You do realize she was turned on when he choked her right?

      Lol, theres no way shes leaving him, he just showed her what an alpha male he was kek.

      He can choke her out and kill her next time, she'll still stay with him.

      I bet this dude is tall and good-looking too.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah right nothing sexier than a guy throwing a literal sissy fit because he can't handle even the implication of criticism. Threating suicide like some emo 14 year old girl is some real alpha male stuff.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Once again, if he's attractive enough, she'll eat his shit for all we know.

          I've seen too many examples of women putting up with men who they thing are out of their league. Its funny and sad.

          • 7 days ago
            Anonymous

            ure right in some scenarios obviously, but op’s guy would scare girls off even if he was chad. the whining and talking about suicide makes pussy dry up regardless of bone structure
            in this particular case she has kids and is old so no body else wants her anyway. they’re stuck with eachother. more losers making more loser kids for the goy wheel

  4. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    He's going thru trauma and you're not helping.
    Why don't you ask how he's feeling about things instead of making up moronic scenarios to torture him?
    >yooo would you still love me if I was a cripple
    Shut the frick up. Get him a beer or smt

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      OP, do NOT listen to this. Sure, he's stressed. No, it's not normal to abuse you like this. Do not feel bad for your monster of a boyfriend. Leave him for your own health and safety.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >people act normally and reasonably when under ptsd
        Women are so fricking moronic sometimes

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Its not ever normal to hurt a woman! Especially when she's pregnant! Physically lashing out repeatedly, even ONCE, is mentally ill, not PTSD.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >reasonably
          >chokes out pregnant wife
          He’s backwards even from an evolutionary standpoint. Even from an incel’s grrr woman bad POV who tf jeopardizes their future kid? A mother’s stress does horrible things to a developing baby

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Thanks for making my point, moron
            Women am I right gents

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Man is when hate baby? Ooh ooh ahh ahh?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Yes. Men value strength and masculinity. Foids and children are neither

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Ragebaiting and a homosexual woah

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >smartest woman
            Not surprised. Go bake a cake hon

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Go jerk off and let it calm you down bud kids have enough problems these days

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Yes and I'm helping them solve it. Now keep seething.

            OP, a blowjob also works wonders

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Most believable bait ever

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >everything I don't understand is bait
            Keep it up.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            That wasn’t even me that time KEK nice

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Didn't say it was now did I
            Keep it up too

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            It’s okay it looks like you’ll seethe and samegay all night with or without my encouragement, and that brings me enough peace for a nice slumber. Cope seethe mald and whatnot <3

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Cry about it hon

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        OP this guy is trolling or moronic btw he even did the beer meme don’t take him seriously

        Samegay mad roastie seething here

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          You tried LOL

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Women are basically a hive mind so his point still stands

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            I like how I’m a woman for pointing out bait but trannies get the ywnbaw treatment kek

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Unfathomably based. If femoids don't want to get beaten to death then they should just support you and get you a beer

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      OP this guy is trolling or moronic btw he even did the beer meme don’t take him seriously

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Average incel, you should have a nice day for even having the thought of making this post even if youre trolling

    • 7 days ago
      Anonymous

      She's not obligated to help him with his supposed "trauma", there's something for that and it's called THERAPY. And if that doesn't interest him he can invest in a rope and hang himself. Easy lol

      • 6 days ago
        Anonymous

        >She's not obligated to help him with his supposed "trauma"
        What do you think the point of a relationship is?

        • 6 days ago
          Anonymous

          Ever heard the word "boundaries" he's not acting irritable and barky because he doesn't feel like having a conversation. He's full on physically assaulting her and verbally abusing her.
          I would hope you yourself would understand the line if someone else treats you this way.

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            I'm not condoning physical assault but saying that you shouldn't be supportive, when the person you're with is clearly not well is moronic, asking stupid hypotheticals is the most dumbest shit you can do in this situation

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            My man. It's not a hypothetical. He is acting that way. He is not in control of himself. He is not helpable. She needs to leave. You don't tolerate violence. At all. So your original comment

            He's going thru trauma and you're not helping.
            Why don't you ask how he's feeling about things instead of making up moronic scenarios to torture him?
            >yooo would you still love me if I was a cripple
            Shut the frick up. Get him a beer or smt

            "Furdy durr you're not helping" is not warranted. The line stops at your safety. She is not responsible for him

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            That's not my post, moron, dude was in a car crash and is probably overworked and overstressed, contemplating his life and you get on his ass with moronic shit, can you imagine if your wife got an abortion, hormones all fricked up, she's sobbing on the couch guilt ridden depressed as hell and you walk out of the kitchen eating popcorn and ask "uhh hey babe would you still love me if I had a mole on my scrotum?", like are you mentally moronic or something?

            [...]
            Like it kinda looks like yoy didn't read the op. He is choking her and threatening to beat her. It's like you read the first quarter and thought "oh he's just a little snappy since his accident" that's not what's happening here.

            I don't know his personal history, but I do know that mental breakdown can frick a person up, it is not outlandish to assume that the dude is on the edge

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            Ok but dude, he's attacking her and if it's in his nature to react this way that's bad.
            I had an accident and nearly lost function of my thumb and put me out of work for awhile. Exactly zero irritability anger or physical violence towards my wife about any of it. yeah, I got depressed and bummed and became a bit of a drag, and my wife was supportive of that. But I didn't fricking dtart screaming at her calling her names and beating her.
            Because that's not my nature. If it IS his nature to turn violent like that, that's a huge red flag. We're adults. We should be more in control of ourselves than that.
            I have no idea where you got the idea it's on to have your partner physically assault you and then think"ah they're just on edge". There are hard limits. A thick red glowing line between "on edge" and straight up "zero emotional control or accountability."

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            >dood everyone experiences things the same way as me!!!

            >arguing OP isn't being supportive of a child throwing temper tantrums who's become an actual threat to her safety"
            >calling others morons about it.

            Are you part of the "my dad beat me and I turned out fine" crowd?

            Note that op didn't mention anything about him lashing out before she started asking moronic shit instead of showing an increment of compassion and support towards him, trying to take your husbands mind off of something by asking him about not being together is not support, dumbass

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            Ok let me put it it more simply.

            If your reaction to "trauma" is beating your wife, you don't deserve support, or love, or a relationship. You're right. Not everyone reacts like me. People who react violently need to be alone and save others that bullshit. OK?
            If that's you (the only reason i can imagine youd defend this so fervently), I'm sorry, life isn't fair, this isnt Disney, stay far away from anyone. If you're a threat to people, you don't get to be around people. OK? OK.

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            >well OF COURSE he attacked her, she TRIED TO MAKE CONVERSATION the b***h!
            You know what I think is more inappropriate than misreading a situation or not handling someone else's moods perfectly? Choking your wife. Just me.

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            I can fully yell you're 17 and/or an incel.
            Like zero life experience or awareness on you.

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            >arguing OP isn't being supportive of a child throwing temper tantrums who's become an actual threat to her safety"
            >calling others morons about it.

            Are you part of the "my dad beat me and I turned out fine" crowd?

          • 6 days ago
            Anonymous

            My man. It's not a hypothetical. He is acting that way. He is not in control of himself. He is not helpable. She needs to leave. You don't tolerate violence. At all. So your original comment[...]
            "Furdy durr you're not helping" is not warranted. The line stops at your safety. She is not responsible for him

            Like it kinda looks like yoy didn't read the op. He is choking her and threatening to beat her. It's like you read the first quarter and thought "oh he's just a little snappy since his accident" that's not what's happening here.

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      Dude cmon.
      Lots of us go through shit without nearly choking out our wives. Holy shit you're a dumbass.

  5. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Leave him to ur mom’s as soon as you can but try to be quick frick that bastard for putting his hands on you when you’re pregnant he’s long gone

  6. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Please be bait

  7. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Honestly he sounds like he’s losing it and I feel for the guy ig but as a mom kids come first at this point, you should get the hell out and stay with your mom for a while and let him ape out in solitude— seems he wants solitude anyways even if he’s being autistic about it

  8. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Unfortunately you’ve procreated with a male experiencing a hormone imbalance, either too little or too much T can cause erratic behavior and/or depression. There’s also no such thing as being stopped from leaving someone, you can always leave them no matter how much they “forbid” it. Just call a suicide hotline or cops for him next time he threatens suicide, and use that time frame when they’re talking to him to get the kids and leave. Also wtf who takes sick leave for depression I didn’t know that was a thing

  9. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Femoid also here. It is absolutely not okay for him to be violent to you - it might be a good idea to distance yourself from him physically for a period of time. But he sounds like he is suffering greatly, he is stressed, he has another baby coming and now he's out of work and potentially has a totalled/damaged car. I imagine he is in a lot of mental pain and as his woman, you need to be his relief. You have children together, it's you and him against the world - Try to empathise with him and be passive. I have been in a similar situation with my husband and his anger came from fear, not hatred for you. Also, think about how separating him from his children would destroy his life.

    Best of luck femanon, I hope both you and your boyfriend can have peace and happiness together in the future.

  10. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    You will have my time, my little femoid

    >I have to walk on eggshells or he snaps
    His life struggles are understandable. But him fighting you is unacceptable. He is not a man, he is manbaby. My women are my property, my teammates, my passengers. We are on the same side. Snapping at women means that he has no self control, no understanding how to date women, he doesnt value you (he will do a 180 degree turn when you leave, too late) and he will be a terrible father

    I sympathise with your situation. You are the soldier in dating dynamic, unfortunately you chose the wrong general. That general is not ready yet, he is a boy

    >He keeps yelling at me and calling me horrible person and abusive when
    So he is a woman

    >he just snapped and said I'm a demon wanting to make him feel guilty
    Acts like a woman. Does he even have a dad?

    >he got aggressive and choked me and said he's going to kill himself
    Okay, pay attention my little girl. This is important. You are trauma bonded, kids bonded, you are attracted to this danger by evolutionary biology mechanism, he gives you emotions, you want to fix him out of your feminine programming

    But

    But, this is important. Pay attention. It will never change. People dont change. Therapy, oaths, medicine. People dont change. This is who he is. A truck cant become a boat. It can float for some time, you can add fins to it, but truck is a truck. You have to start killing your emotional attachment, then you will see this situation as it is - unsalvageable. He is a terrible husband, will be a terrible father. And you have terrible taste in men (daddy issues?)

    And so you know, he is well aware of what he is doing. He knows its bad. He knows he hurts you. Same will be with YOUR children

  11. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Just another thread showing why you should really never rush to have children

  12. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Hmm, How tall and attractive is your bf?

  13. 7 days ago
    Anonymous

    Since it's easier said than done, I know it's useless to tell you to leave him but I can't help it. Take your kids and leave him. DO NOT expect him to get "better" he will only become more violent with you. It's not your responsibility to look after a moronic loser who keeps threatening to kill himself just so he can keep you around.

  14. 7 days ago
    Anonymous

    Poor guy is working 60 hours. Jfc what do you do?

    I have 2 kids one is 9 with diabetes and the other is 1.
    I spend 20 hours a week taking care of 1yr old because she works and then we switch off when I work.

    We both work part time and both take care of the kids together. We both make money. We both do all the chores and we still find time once a week for a date and to be intimate.

    This dude is working 60 hours dude. That is not normal. I would have blown my brains out if that was my life and I was in the Marines, I know hard work and long hours.

    Get your life in order this is just as much your fault.

    • 7 days ago
      Anonymous

      You are focusing on the part that resonates with you, because you see it as a personal attack on YOU

      Thus, you are missing out the detail that her husband is a violent, impulsive, unstable, emotional trash from a broken family

      There is no excuse to act like this towards anyone, especially your own family

    • 6 days ago
      Anonymous

      moronic bait

  15. 6 days ago
    Anonymous

    >mentally ill bf doesnt let me break up what do
    how tall is he and how tall are you?

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