met a girl but she is still legally married to her ex. is this too much baggage?

met a girl but she is still legally married to her ex. is this too much baggage?

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    yes

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i meet people all the time, are you saying you want to date her?
    or are you just bragging about being social

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      she and i went on a date and after a few drinks was all over me.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        she's a bpd prostitute lovebombing you

        married to her ex
        it's not an ex moron

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Depends on the circumstances. I got with a chick who was in a marriage arranged by her parents that fell apart in less than a month. The guy was a fat pig.
    Honestly affected our relationship so insignificantly that I would forget a lot that she was legally married to someone else

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >I got with a chick who was in a marriage arranged

      This isn't a flex, jeet

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Not flexing and also not a jeet. Just saying people get into marriages that hold such little emotional significance they may as well have been single the entire time

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If she is even half as good looking as the woman in your picture, you need to get your willy inside her asap.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      well she's cute but she doesn't look like that lol

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Unless she's lying and is just having affairs, you're in the clear. Go for it.
        Divorces can take ages. If you're not shagging her, someone else will be by next week.

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No just have your fun but don't marry her obviously

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Depends what kind of married.
    Married for 18 months and are now splitting? Nah get in early before every dude in the tri-state area floods her DMs.
    Married for 5 years and they have two kids and a house? Yeah that's way too much baggage. Wait till that gets settled.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      married 5 years but don't have any kids. only property owned between them is a car she doesn't drive

      Nah it's fine for just casual sex just don't get yourself into a relationship with her she'll do the same thing to you

      he dumped her like 3 months ago and she started dating a week ago

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        That's what she told you

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    homie that's not just "baggage" that's a fricking cargo ship

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Nah it's fine for just casual sex just don't get yourself into a relationship with her she'll do the same thing to you

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I met my current gf while she was in the process of leaving her ex husband. They were not legally married, so there was very little paperwork but she ended up getting basically nothing out of it as she chose not to bother with trying to negotiate with her ex over what kind of stuff she would take (they had pooled their belongings obviously).
    The point is that she was very much already done with the relationship at that point and was ready to leave. It was pretty clear she had nothing but resentment for her ex husband (mostly because from what I can tell he was pretty inattentive) so I decided against my better judgement to go along with it once I found out she was technically married. I had initially had no idea and, had I known before I started seeing her, I would have probably shyed away from it as I think generally it's a bad idea to date girls who are fresh out of relationships because no matter what they say, their feelings usually aren't all gone.
    That was three years ago. Since then, our relationship has been really solid and I've never had to worry about her. She's moving to my city and we are looking into moving in together. She hardly ever mentions her ex, has no desire to go back to the life she lived and seems generally happier than when I first met her.
    So basically, it worked for me so far and if you think you have nothing to lose but time and nothing to risk but heartbreak, I say see it through. You may not end up as lucky as I am though, be prepared for that possibility.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      another concern is she said she is absolutely done with her husband, doesn't outright hate him though. and wants to be friends still. she said she wished he cheated on her because she wants to hate him

      That's what she told you

      well obviously... she doesn't seem bad but i am cautious

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >another concern is she said she is absolutely done with her husband, doesn't outright hate him though. and wants to be friends still. she said she wished he cheated on her because she wants to hate him
        DANGER DANGER anon that is a RED FRICKING FLAG do not bother, repeat, do not bother!

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Second this. I wouldn't even advise social sex with this lady. ABORT MISSION!

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Why not frick WHAT could happen honest question I don't get attached easily

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >another concern is she said she is absolutely done with her husband, doesn't outright hate him though. and wants to be friends still. she said she wished he cheated on her because she wants to hate him
        Yeah man, that's not really a great sign. I mean, I would never have gone along with my current gf if she hadn't been pretty open about being totally done with her ex. The only good thing she ever said about him was "He's not a terrible person, but he was an awful partner and friend. I want nothing to do with him." I guess it helped a bit that when she did finally leave, he cursed her out and called her a bunch of names through text lol.
        If she had said what your girl is saying, I would have been pretty uncomfortable and probably wouldn't have continued. I've been in similar situations before where a woman is "done" with her ex, but still in contact with them for various stupid reasons and it always ends the same. I reckon if she's not so sick of him that she doesn't want to see him again, there's always the chance that he could pose an issue because obviously there's not enough ill will for her to justify cutting him off.
        I say you either make it clear that her being friends with her ex and in contact with him is a red line for you and that you ask that she respects it, or you just don't pursue an actual committed relationship with her. Just the fact that you're posting here is proof enough that something doesn't feel right. Don't you agree?

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >another concern is she said she is absolutely done with her husband, doesn't outright hate him though. and wants to be friends still. she said she wished he cheated on her because she wants to hate him
        This one is not loyal in the slightest, and doesn't have a moral compass. I wouldn't touch her.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >"I would have probably shyed away from it as I think generally it's a bad idea to date girls who are fresh out of relationships because no matter what they say, their feelings aren't all gone"
      Exactly. Women and people in general need time to process their relationships or failed marriages. If you're just gonna get into another one, then it'll fail or be just as rocky as the previous one. She probably still has feelings for him.

      another concern is she said she is absolutely done with her husband, doesn't outright hate him though. and wants to be friends still. she said she wished he cheated on her because she wants to hate him

      [...]
      well obviously... she doesn't seem bad but i am cautious

      >"another concern is she said she is absolutely done with her husband, doesn't outright hate him though. and wants to be friends still. she said she wished he cheated on her because she wants to hate him"
      There it is. She still has feelings for him. Those 3 years are probably gonna be over soon because if you guys get into some kind of argument, she'll run to him.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >Those 3 years are probably gonna be over soon
        What 3 years?

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If she looks like ur pic, do not let her go yet. Do not get too involved with her until she leaves the ex though. Even then, you aren't required to. Yes, she might not be your forever girl, but stop taking it too seriously and have some fun, enjoy yourself. She's enjoying herself too

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Divorcees are not relationship material anon.

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Update: after light resistance got her to my place and then fricked her twice. Then she asked if im looking for long term. I said perhaps. Yeah im probably headed to a trap but i got my nut

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      You fricking moron.
      You will sooner or later find out that it was in fact, not worth.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        All i have to do i dump her? I don't get it

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        All i have to do i dump her? I don't get it

        I think the problem is she is going to trap you using sex thanks to our brains being programmed to follow that regardless. At best, she gets rid of you like she did with her husband, or at worst she gets a lot of money out of you, and then does the same thing.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Supposedly the husband dumped her

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Remember this thread when it all goes down, anon. See you on the other side.

          • 2 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Supposedly

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Avoid her like the plague.
    She'll manipulate the shit out of you.
    And I'm speaking from experience about a woman who claims to be honest.

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Baggage is emotions.
    Legal status isn't baggage.
    If she's in frick mode and service mode with you, rather than complain mode or doubt mode? She's baggage free, get it.

  15. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    > is this too much baggage
    For anything serious? Frick yes.
    For getting laid? No.

  16. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I fricked a married woman who told me her marriage is in ruins for some time.
    The next day she called me and said he told her husband everything.
    It turned out she was just angry at him and now they're happy together again.
    Don't get used, anon.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      *she

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      well honestly i have a hard time getting attached

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