My [27f] husband [30m] opened up to me about recently losing his job.

My [27f] husband [30m] opened up to me about recently losing his job. Instead of feeling supportive, I felt strange and uncomfortable.

He's acted very strange lately. Goes in and out every morning, like he usually does; but his demeanor was completely off. He seemed less happy, almost as if he had to force himself smile and exaggerate his happiness. Other than that, he became quieter and more withdrawn--much slower, and very, very distant. His sex drive disappeared, and he just seemed tired all the time.

Yesterday, he sat me down, and said he had something very important to tell me. I knew something was up, so I listened carefully, and he proceeded to explain how was made "redundant at work", and no longer had a job there. He described how it hit him like a stack of bricks, and how incredibly hurt and disappointed he felt in himself. It was at this point, he started crying, telling me how he felt no strength to carry on, no motivation to continue, and that he feels weak and useless now (he seemed weak just from the way he was talking).

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    2/2
    While crying, he put his head on my shoulder, and hugged me for support--but I just gave him a half-hug back. I'm not sure why. I know I was meant to say something, I know I was meant to be empathetic; he's my husband, after all. But I couldn't stand the situation, and just wanted to get out of there. I knew I should be supportive, and everything; but it didn't come naturally to me. I just felt so disgusted and put off by the whole thing (especially the crying). I just couldn't find it in me.

    I don't know what to do. Is it normal for a wife to act this way? To feel no urge to comfort my own husband in such a difficult time, and instead feel grossed out by it (and myself)? I feel bad for even feeling this way.

    tl;dr: Husband revealed to me that he lost his job, and came to me for support. Instead of being supportive, I felt disgusted and uncomfortable, and wanted to get away. I don't know if it's okay for a wife to feel this way. I don't know what to do.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I don't know who's more pathetic your husband or you. It's such a silly thing. You're blowing everything out of proportion.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >I felt disgusted and uncomfortable
      His vulnerability is bringing out your own. You expect him to be strong at all times but that's a childish fantasy you're holding on to. People get smacked by life and go down. It happens to everyone. To be honest, if you're not strong enough to support someone you love just because they're going through a bad time, you have to grow up a bit.
      > I feel bad for even feeling this way.
      Good, shows you have to work on that side of yourself.
      >I don't know if it's okay for a wife to feel this way.
      It's not. Your husband is human, just like everyone else and he will from time to time break down when bad stuff happens. It's when he needs you most.
      >I don't know what to do.
      Be strong and support him just like you'd want the same for you when you'd go through a very bad time.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >I don't know what to do. Is it normal for a wife to act this way?
      Yes. He acted like a total pussy over nothing. He can always get another job and work in construction or any other manual labor. Only time a man is allowed to cry in front of somebody is when somebody in his family dies.

    • 1 month ago
      Sage

      COOL bait

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Excellent bait, guaranteed 300+ replies

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      ^

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Maybe you have asd, you should be able to comfort your husband or get his spirits up by helping him. You sound depressed or indifferent. Are you okay?

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >he started crying
    lol, that fricking loser is about to get divorced too

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Something something don't ever cry in front of your woman, something something the ick. Nice bait, friend.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >don't ever cry in front of your woman
      If a woman can't be supportive of her man when he's down, she's not a woman, she's a little girl.
      It doesn't even have to be "omg I'm so sorry" type of support but even making jokes, or "come on pussy, you can do it, I believe in your ass and I'm here to help"
      What a woman doesn't do is shit her pants and feels like running away at the first sign that her man isn't Superman.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    And his, boys and girls, is why you NEVER show weakness to your woman, EVER. She got the ick, its literally over. I repeat, NEVER show weakness, NEVER open up, fake it till you make it, the moment women see you as weak theyll despise you.

    On the other hand, if you want out of a relationship and don't know how to, cry in front of her and just sit and watch, you'll be free in no time

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      lmao women get the ick over everything. Barber trimmed off too much hair? Ick. Sneeze in a semitone too high? Ick. Android phone? Ick. It’s best to just not give a shit.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Baaaaaaaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiitttttt
    just another really easy one where you know the supposed demographic wouldn't be posting here, and wouldn't use that image.
    Come on now... really?

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >and wouldn't use that image.
      Anime has a huge female fanbase, Anon. It's been mainstream for decades now.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Tl;dr it's okay to cry infront of your wife unless you're married to a fricking child. Bait post yada yada sage

  9. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I hope none of you Black folk fall for this obvious ragebait. c'mon anons

    also OP you're a huge piece of shit troll for trying to make men even more emotionally repressed

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >to make men even more emotionally repressed
      Oh, Anon. Just living society does that already.

  10. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Post breasts with timestamp. This is clearly bait. Anyone below me who falls sans evidence is a dummy

  11. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    TIME TO FRICK ONE OF 20 DUDES ORBITTING YOU!!!
    THAT WILL TEACH HIM A LESSON NOT TO CRY!!!
    YOU'RE ACTUALLY DOING BOTH OF YOU A FAVOR!!!
    ICK ACTIVATED = TIME TO MOVE ON!

  12. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Shitty ragebait

  13. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    One of the worst things to happen to anyone, male or female is losing a job and means of support. It will happen to everyone at some point in their life and while its happened to me its hard to describe a pathway out of the despair short of finding other suitable employment. All I can say to you OP is it will happen to you and then you will understand. In the meantime if you want to remain married just fake sympathy and understanding.

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