my bf left me because i cant cum

i've only ever cum in a certain way: completely alone, laying face-down in my bed, watching some kind of porn, and using my clit. i've tried fingering, laying on my back, etc. it feels good but i cant ever finish. my boyfriend left me over it. any time we'd have sex, id have to cry from the pain of certain positions or lay there with only fake reactions. we've been together for nearly a year, i lost my virginity to him a few months in. He got tired of the sex. I dont want a new boyfriend because i dont want to be a prostitute. i dont know what to do.

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  1. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Go check out r/BecomingOrgasmic
    Every other post in this thread will be useless. I urge you to close it now.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      No.... You might not be able to. Again, check out r/BecomingOrgasmic
      Some women just struggle with it.
      OP doesn't have it too bad because she has already found a way to cum. Now she just has to get that into the bedroom.
      [...]
      You don't seem to understand the circumstances of her situation. Yes, I'm sure she tried that (or something quite similar).
      [...]
      True, but she admits to things like consistently having pain during sex and faking her reactions. Definitely perfectly valid reasons that would drive most men to leave (or at least consider it).
      I'm guessing she was terrible at sex too, considering everything else we've heard so far.

      you're moronic for implying it's a fault with her. women don't owe it to men to give them pornographic performance art every time. if she feels good, that should be enough.
      if she wants to cum you should help her yes, but sometimes women just can't or don't even want to. and that is perfectly fine. you're making it out to be some sort of thing she did wrong when it isn't, like she's somehow committing a wrongdoing by not putting on performances

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I completely agree, but
        1) OP seems to want to orgasm during sex
        2) OP is the one conforming to that "pornographic" expectation, not her partner
        3) Most women can orgasm regularly during (good) sex and OP is fundamentally "flawed" in that she can't do that, seemingly. There's no way to get around that.

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Most women can orgasm regularly during (good) sex and OP is fundamentally "flawed" in that she can't do that, seemingly
          no, most women don't orgasm without clitoral stimulation, which requires manual effort and doesn't occur naturally in sexual intercourse outside of the cat position

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Where did you read that anon. Like, who told you that.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >reddit
      You're legit moron

  2. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Posts like this piss me off because I know for a fricking fact I could make you cum because I'm not a low IQ pavement ape that doesn't know what a clit is

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      No.... You might not be able to. Again, check out r/BecomingOrgasmic
      Some women just struggle with it.
      OP doesn't have it too bad because she has already found a way to cum. Now she just has to get that into the bedroom.

      did he try eating you out?
      if not then that's 100% on him, a lot of girls have trouble cumming form their g spot

      You don't seem to understand the circumstances of her situation. Yes, I'm sure she tried that (or something quite similar).

      lmfao you literally got pumped and dumped
      women, lmao

      True, but she admits to things like consistently having pain during sex and faking her reactions. Definitely perfectly valid reasons that would drive most men to leave (or at least consider it).
      I'm guessing she was terrible at sex too, considering everything else we've heard so far.

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Is being that awful at sex such a deal breaker as people make it out to be?

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          It's possible it is for some people, but I don't think so.
          Even still, it is a deal breaker when it's really, really bad - like "unable to have sex because your partner is always in pain" bad or "actively deceiving your partner about what feels good" bad.
          If you are just bad and want to improve and are otherwise a good partner, the person will generally stick through it. It won't be sexy, but it's perfectly fine.
          But put yourself in the position of OP's BF. Her BF doesn't even know if she's being honest because she lied about sex multiple times before. For all he knows, she can orgasm just fine and it's his fault. Further, OP seemingly didn't make much progress in improving things. Major, major issues - like having pain during sex - are brought up and we get no explanation for how they addressed them (so my guess is that they didn't).

          So if you go beyond bad at sex and become a shitty partner in general + refuse to improve, it's a big deal.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            ..I don't think I'll ever be loved.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >don't think I'll ever be
            what why not? anon

      • 3 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        I bet he just tried to jam it in with no foreplay at all
        Yeah no wonder she can't coom
        I think I have a fetish for the female orgasm, because nothing is hotter than that IMO
        There's a process to it though, foreplay, setting, comfort, and then having the skill to follow through

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          Anon, are you slow of mind?
          If the answer was that simple, OP would already know that. She would have told us or, more likely, never would have made the thread at all.
          It also doesn't explain why she struggles to cum during masturbation.
          >I think I have a fetish for the female orgasm
          Everyone feels this way moron

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Well I'm not the moron who has bad sex so

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >>I think I have a fetish for the female orgasm
            >Everyone feels this way moron
            Tell that to Chad who just sticks it in and cums without any care if she cooms or not
            Frick you homosexual go back plebbit

  3. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    did he try eating you out?
    if not then that's 100% on him, a lot of girls have trouble cumming form their g spot

  4. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    lmfao you literally got pumped and dumped
    women, lmao

  5. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I would tease your clit until you brain cant think properly, after that you will be able to cum even when i would fingerfrick you with my pinky

  6. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >laying face-down in my bed, watching some kind of porn, and using my clit.
    That's why you can't cum normally, serves you right for being a dirty porn and masturbation addict.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    he seems like a bad person
    you haven't lost anything
    Hope you find a new bf who's nice and cares about making you comfortable
    >dont know what to do.
    take it easy anon
    you might need some time to get back to feeling normal but you'll be okay, I promise

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    Are you on any medication?
    Something seems abnormal about your situation
    Do you like the idea of having sex?

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      im on an SNRI but ive had this problem since before medication.

      >Bf didn't force you to let him eat you out until you cum
      he wasn't the one sry

      this sounds unpleasant!!

      https://i.4cdn.orgNSFFW1707176114365515.png

      Where did you read that anon. Like, who told you that.

      no this is actually true im afraid

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    be my gf instead
    i won't hold it against you

  10. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    [...]

    >he wasnt bad! he was very kind and understanding
    I don't get you
    bf dumped you just because of sex, instead of trying to make it feel good for both of you, you had to pretend to like it and then cry from the pain
    yes, very kind and understanding

  11. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    That truly sucks OP and I feel for you, but I understand your (ex) partners point of view too. It would be pretty negative and disheartening if your partner was sexually dysfunctional due to abnormal masturbation habits and porn addiction.

  12. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    similar thing happened to me before, twice. i stayed hard but for whatever reason i could not cum.
    Its biology its weird, sometimes it just doesnt work right.
    I feel bad the second time it happend. The girl clearly took it personally like there was something she was doing wrong. She broke up with me shorty after. She said she came once but im not sure if i believe her, i can tell it troubled her.

  13. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Bf didn't force you to let him eat you out until you cum
    he wasn't the one sry

  14. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >pornsick female gets dumped for being pornsick

    Based tbqh, he made the correct decision.

  15. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    i can only cum from a vibrator. how the frick are you b***hes cumming from "touching your clit"

  16. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >Not jerking off to each other
    >Not rubbing himself against your clit and entrance until he explodes all over you
    >Not using your mouth while you go to town on yourself
    >Not tying you up blindfolding, gagging, and putting headphones in and just using you as a toy all day only giving you small bathroom and food breaks
    God I wish I had a gooner gf

  17. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    You arent alone in this. I have never been able to cum from anything internal. Alot of women can only finish with clit stuff.

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