My bf won't show me his taste in porn. Should I be worried?

My bf won't show me his taste in porn. Should I be worried?

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  1. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    what good or use would this information be to you

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Maybe to please my man more if I know what hes into?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        What if he's not into BDSM or anything you can replicate in your own sex life, but instead just jerks off to women that are way more attractive that you or have different body types?

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        that works if it's something you can do

        if it's just something like "obsessed with Chinese girls" then you'll just be annoyed by it and constantly wondering for your life if he's fricking you secretly thinking about the inscrutable pleasure of Siam

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Lol, you're not sneaky, c**t. have a nice day.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        no. leave him alone and don't worry about his private fantasies. if you want to really please him, invite him to be kinky with you, and be very open-minded to what he might like. you could take the lead if he is hesitant.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Maybe if he didn't watch porn behind your back he would be already satisfied by you and you wouldn't need to try to please him more. Messed up couple, porn is a poison.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >to please my man more
        What will be your source of small children if he tells you what we all know he likes? uh?

  2. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I've met a lot of women who take all kinds of strange slights really poorly
    I'd rather she think I'm into weird shit like feet than have to talk her out of body image issues because she thinks the women I beat off to are hotter than her

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      >I'd rather she think I'm into weird shit like feet
      Liking feet is the most vanilla shit I can think of

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        You need to take a break from porn

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Even if I quit looking at porn permanently, liking feet will still be vanilla. I think it's strange when people don't like feet. If you've never sucked a girl's toes while you frick her you're basically gay.

  3. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Why open this can of worms? You need to be certain you're hot as frick before you ask him to show you the 10/10 camgirls and pornstars he jerks off to.

  4. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >won't show me his taste in porn
    do you really want to compare yourself to something like pic related?
    unless ypu look like that or better, don't ask questions you don't wanna know the answers to.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >zackycha
      She's actually built different. I have a bad feeling she might bog herself soon.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      ew dudes jerk off to this? LMAO

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        >t. envious troony

  5. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Just leave the poor guy alone and talk to him normally about what he’s into. There’s a million ways that looking at his porn could end poorly, and besides, some people get off on fantasies that they wouldn’t actually want to engage in irl anyway.

  6. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No, just ask him what he's into.

    You might get upset if the girls he jerks to are more attractive than you. That's why most of us keep it hidden. He may even show you a specific video if you ask what he wants you to do.

  7. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    No.
    Give the man SOME privacy ffs.

  8. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    I cant be the only one who thinks this question is messed up on so many levels, right? how is porn normalized? how are you, or anyone, okay with the idea that your partner cums while watching other people frick? literally fantasizing about fricking other people.

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >how is porn normalized
      prostitution is the oldest occupation. It was basically normalized centuries ago

      • 2 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        Not even remotely the same

        • 2 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          People in asia were jacking off to ink wood tablatures centuries ago, anon

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      this. only acceptable form of adult entertainment is watching an indonesian camgirl piss on the floor because you threw 25bucks at her while hearing the rooster outside her window. there's just something special about it

    • 2 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      Women do it to themselves, they don't have to date men like this or enter porn at all

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Because she's not always gonna be in the mood to frick you longhoused moron

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Don't know how this is such a hard concept to grasp. If you're not willing to put out whenever I NEED to bust, ok that's fine I won't pressure, gaslight, manipulate, etc I'll just jerk off. Not a big deal and she can do the same if I deny her. We're both open about it and happy.

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        Perfect answer. Very rarely are women willing to put out as often as their men want. It sucks being horny all week because your wife isn't in the mood to give you a hand. It's easier to crank one out and get back to focusing on things that matter than let your horniness consume you.

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      come back when you've been in a relationship for longer than 2 years

      • 1 week ago
        Anonymous

        I've been in one for 5 years, homosexual. My gf hated that I was watching porn, and its fricking normal that she did. I couldnt see how bad porn was back then (this was a long time ago), but now i do, and im not going to put my next gf through this. You do you though.

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          >5 years
          >gf
          not married yet bro? she not the one?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            are you moronic by any chance, bro?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >I've been in one for 5 years,
            implies you're still in it

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            obvious grammar mistake, not everyone is a native speaker

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            that's fine but don't call me moronic because of it.
            And good that you had a healthy sex life for 5 years but for a lot of relationships there is at least some sort of sexual issue by the time 5 years rolls around. If a woman is putting out for her man then she has a right to complain about porn, but if she's leaving him with blue balls then nutting to porn is unironically the safest way to solve the issue without destroying the relationship. Better than cheating.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Not that guy, but a woman isn't obligated to prostitute herself out as a replacement for porn, let alone to do so outside of marriage.
            While porn is better than outright cheating, that doesn't excuse it, since it's still a breach of intimacy.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >since it's still a breach of intimacy.
            And my answer in that situation would be "what intimacy?"
            That's why I'm bringing up long relationships. Any married man reading this knows exactly what I am talking about. Women are allowed to use sex as a tool and withhold it from their husband or boyfriend, but if he wanks to porn, or even complains about it, then he's basically satan.
            >but a woman isn't obligated to prostitute herself out
            The fact that you think a woman making an effort to have regular sex with her husband or boyfriend is "whoring herself out" shows that you either have a very immature view of relationships or you just haven't been in one long enough to know what I am talking about.
            >as a replacement for porn
            The porn is the replacement for the intimacy she is withholding.
            Like I said in my original comment, if the woman is putting in effort to keep a healthy sex life then she has every right to complain. If she isn't then she should be happy her man is nutting to porn in the bathroom and not going out to find someone else to fulfill his needs.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >The fact that you think a woman making an effort to have regular sex with her husband or boyfriend is "whoring herself out"
            The fact that a guy would tie his porn use to the sex he gets is what does it. In effect, demanding that she replace the prostitutes in porn. This is even worse if he demands it without being committed from his end (as in, not married).
            Treating a guy's sexual impulses as something which MUST always be fulfilled, regardless of circumstance, is the problem. You know full well that any guy who does this has also been whacking it to porn outside of a relationship, too. And as soon as he gets in one with that mindset, he expects, whether he explicitly admits it or not, that his gf act like his personal prostitute as a replacement for the porn he's been using all along.
            It's a gross way to approach relationships.

            Mind you, I don't think it's right for women to use sex as a tool. Within marriage, a wife should be reasonably accomodating of her husband, as long as they don't cross boundaries (that is, she still isn't obligated to indulge in whatever fetishes he wants if they make her uncomfortable). That also erodes intimacy, but in a different way. Treating sex/porn as an absolute, indisputable right is a distortion of intimacy itself, rather than a misuse of it.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >The fact that a guy would tie his porn use to the sex he gets is what does it.
            I don't understand what you are saying. Humans have basic sexual needs. If a man's wife isn't having sex with him and he's not allowed to jerk off then what should he do, according to you? I want to hear your genuine answer.
            >Treating a guy's sexual impulses as something which MUST always be fulfilled, regardless of circumstance, is the problem.
            I'm guessing you are a woman? Because it is literally the case. That's why it's easier to just wank into a tissue and move on with your life, because for a mean extended periods of sexual frustration are damaging and unfortunately sexual performance is what men are judged on. If you don't believe me go look at incels, that's what happens when a man loses his mind to sexual frustration. And if you've ever insulted one of these incels, ask yourself if you called him a virgin or a small-dick. Sex is important and if you're acting like guys can just effortlessly move on then you're being obtuse on purpose.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >If a man's wife isn't having sex with him and he's not allowed to jerk off
            Porn =/= masturbation. My problem is with porn in a relationship.

            >I'm guessing you are a woman? Because it is literally the case.
            No, I'm a man.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >Porn =/= masturbation. My problem is with porn in a relationship.
            So jerking off is fine? Well what is he jerking off to? The best possible scenario is that he is making up some fantasy in his head where his wife is actually having sex with him, which is just the most depressing thing ever and will only contribute to the resentment if she continues to withhold.
            Or he is coming up with a fantasy woman and wanking over her, in which case, what's the real difference between that and porn?
            Or, you know, he's wanking over past sexual experiences which is probably way more triggering for a woman than some random pornstar.
            The only other scenario I can think of is he is jerking off without thinking about anything at all because he's scared of committing thought crime in his marriage? Which might be the most depressing option of all.
            So tell me, and don't avoid it this time, what should he do?

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >Well what is he jerking off to? The best possible scenario is that he is making up some fantasy in his head where his wife is actually having sex with him
            Sure.

            >will only contribute to the resentment if she continues to withhold.
            It depends on the situation. If she's withholding sex as a tool, which I already said isn't right, the marriage has deeper problems besides the sex. His resentment, therefore, isn't really about sex. Either way, communicating his issue (not just with sex, but if the relationship is having other problems) is what he should do. Anything else is just putting a bandaid on a wound without addressing what caused it.

            >Or he is coming up with a fantasy woman and wanking over her, in which case, what's the real difference between that and porn?
            The former doesn't involve real people. I don't think it's right to imagine other women, either (and it isn't advisable for his own sake, since he's training himself to be more distant from/less focused on his wife), but it's still less severe than porn, which is less severe than cheating.

            >he's wanking over past sexual experiences
            He shouldn't have any other partners (nor should she), but that's an argument for another time.

            >So tell me, and don't avoid it this time, what should he do?
            Not cheat or use porn. The moral imperative of fidelity is more important than the supposed 'need' for immediate sexual gratification. If the two are in conflict, the former takes precedence.
            I'm not saying that he can't feel dissatisfied with his sex life, or that he has to follow a narrow path to feel better. I'm just saying that porn is not a justifiable thing to resort to.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Don't do that. You're not allowed to have nuance in discussion on this site!

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            piss off with your >this!! comments, you're not making any point and probably samegayging

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >He shouldn't have any other partners (nor should she), but that's an argument for another time.
            What did he mean by this

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            No sex outside of marriage

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >Sure.
            You omitted the second part of what I said when it's the most important part.
            >If she's withholding sex as a tool, which I already said isn't right, the marriage has deeper problems besides the sex. His resentment, therefore, isn't really about sex.
            Not necessarily, I've heard many stories of couples that are basically perfect apart from a mismatch in sexual drives and experienced it myself. Sometimes it really can just be about sex.
            >Either way, communicating his issue
            This is why I am assuming you are a woman. Most men who have been in this situation will tell you that "communication" doesn't do anything.
            >Wife, I do not think we are having enough sex
            >I'm not a prostitute
            >You're a sex addict
            >It's not my job to have sex with you
            Basically anything to minimize the issue and make the man feel bad. He'll drop the subject because man want sex == bad. This will happen over and over until the relationship dies. Go look at dead bedroom stories and tell me how much "communication" works for this specific issue. Spoiler: it rarely does.
            >The former doesn't involve real people...
            So is it okay or is it not?
            >Not cheat or use porn. The moral imperative of fidelity is more important than the supposed 'need' for immediate sexual gratification. If the two are in conflict, the former takes precedence.
            So he can't use porn, he can't imagine other women and he's not allowed to have had other partners before her?
            Your final answer is that he should jerk off to nothing? And you think this is a healthy solution?

            >He shouldn't have any other partners (nor should she), but that's an argument for another time.
            Sorry, I know you're probably christian or something, but that's just not how reality works. If his wife is the only person he's ever slept with, and having more than one partner in your life is taboo, and divorce is probably a sin, then that's just more reason to put effort into your sex life instead of chastising your man for having sexual urges.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >You omitted the second part of what I said when it's the most important part.
            I don't think it's "depressing". Your issue is supposedly that you aren't getting off on demand. That's a way to get off which also doesn't rely on porn. If you're going to say that a man *shouldn't* fap to his wife, then we have nothing more to say to each other.

            >Sometimes it really can just be about sex.
            I was talking about the scenario you described, where his wife is "withholding" sex. That's not just about sex. In the case where it is (leaving aside that it's rather unlikely in the ideal case, where both waited until marriage for sex, since high-libido people are rarely willing and able to do that), sure, the sex itself is the source of frustration. But even then, I don't see how the coping method itself is going to change things. You're telling me that a man who is set on jerking off should actively avoid imagining his wife? That seems completely dysfunctional to me.

            Regarding communication, the main goal is to be open about problems in the relationship in general, to prevent the issue from starting in the first place. The secondary one is simply to practice due diligence. Even if trying to directly discuss the issue often doesn't work, you can only tell after trying; if he finds out that his wife is literally disgusted by him (to the point of shaming him for being attracted to her), the relationship has far deeper problems than a mismatch in sex drives. That's not something which should be left to guesswork, so uncovering that sort of mentality in his wife is already worth the attempt.

            >So is it okay or is it not?
            I explicitly said it's not in the next sentence.

            And no, I'm not religious, nor do I think divorce is always a bad thing. But there should be a good reason for divorce, like abuse, infidelity, or abandonment. Sexual dissatisfaction, in itself (without a moral component, like a disgusting or illegal fetish), isn't a good enough reason to me.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            >I don't think it's "depressing". Your issue is supposedly that you aren't getting off on demand. That's a way to get off which also doesn't rely on porn.
            to be clear the best possible scenario is a healthy sex life. If at any point you're thinking about it as a "demand" then that's not healthy, but those urges don't just disappear and sorry but sometimes the person who is rejecting you regularly doesn't seem so sexy anymore.

            I agree that it would be ideal for a guy to just think about his wife every time, but you are treating romantic relationships with a rational perspective that the majority of them don't have. It's about as emotion-driven as you're going to get. If you factor in the biology then it's no wonder none of what you're saying works in real life. It all works in fricking fairy therapist land but real relationships very rarely end up with both parties sitting down and having a good faith discussion every time there is an emotionally charged problem
            "work through it" isn't a thing until somebody compromises, and sometimes (not every time) that thing is sex.

            I don't know what it's like to be a woman and so I have no clue what the average sex drive is like, but everything I said can and should be applied to the woman's perspective. If a man withheld sex from her, she is definitely allowed to go watch some porn and flick her bean. And she shouldn't be forced into only thinking about her husband who isn't meeting her needs and she probably resents a little at this point.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Anon don't waste your wisdom on them. One day they'll learn. Or maybe they won't who knows.

          • 1 week ago
            Anonymous

            Feel free to answer my question then if you're so wise.

            >Porn =/= masturbation. My problem is with porn in a relationship.
            So jerking off is fine? Well what is he jerking off to? The best possible scenario is that he is making up some fantasy in his head where his wife is actually having sex with him, which is just the most depressing thing ever and will only contribute to the resentment if she continues to withhold.
            Or he is coming up with a fantasy woman and wanking over her, in which case, what's the real difference between that and porn?
            Or, you know, he's wanking over past sexual experiences which is probably way more triggering for a woman than some random pornstar.
            The only other scenario I can think of is he is jerking off without thinking about anything at all because he's scared of committing thought crime in his marriage? Which might be the most depressing option of all.
            So tell me, and don't avoid it this time, what should he do?

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          it's absolutely acceptable to use sexual paraphernalia if your gf is not meeting your needs (sex should be occurring weekly)

        • 1 week ago
          Anonymous

          Your future girlfriend is lucky that you're so considerate anon. My bf is addicted to porn and it kills me inside tbh, idk why I'm even still with him. Probably just fear

  9. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >won't show me
    How did the talk go down? Men don't like to be confronted in obvious ways, even if (You) mean well. It hits us like a pop quiz, or a means of dicking (sleuthing) around for dirt to level at him later, or our moms putting us in embarrassing spots.
    If you can find a more organic way to probe him I encourage doing so, though I recognize that since you're here you're probably an autistic who struggles.
    Many men are porn addicts and if that's true you're right to be wary. If he watches it and isn't a goon then he probably consumes it hastily, moves on, and childishly covers his tracks; this is a double-edged sword.

  10. 2 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    He's doing this because he cares about your relationship.

    Let it go.

  11. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    Have you shown him your's?

  12. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    do you have sex with him often? i don't want to sound too direct but i feel like he should be focused more on sex with you then being a coomer. that being said porn addiction is a problem because it's pushed on men hard. if you don't have sex with him he's going to resort to porn
    >what should i do
    spend more time together and voice your concerns to him about his porn usage. no man will tell you what he watches but at least you can have more sex in your relationship if he puts down the porn

  13. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    I watch a lot of shemale porn and told none of my exes

  14. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    He might be into some weird shit like shit or crossdressing and doesn't want to tell you because he knows you wouldn't take it well

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Define weird. Tbh, I'd imagine any mom, daughter or little sister porn would be weird to a girl, no extreme violence or shit required.

  15. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    He's probably worried you're gonna leave him so he can be with someone hotter. My gf is fat with average breasts and if she ever wanted to see my porn type it's been thin women with macromastia since before we met. She'd feel like shit, like she's been holding me back from what I really want, and the relationship would be over no matter what I said to the contrary. There's a reason he's keeping it secret.
    Could also be he's into gay shit and you're his beard.

  16. 1 week ago
    Anonymous

    No, it’s embarrassing.
    It’s probably not bad, I don’t show my gf just because it’s awkward but the worst I get off to is guro and rape

    • 1 week ago
      Anonymous

      Communication is key! maybe your gf will offer to let you dismember and rape her

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