my gf doesnt want anyone to know were dating including her guy friends and wont tell them.

my gf doesnt want anyone to know were dating including her guy friends and wont tell them. am I overreacting or is this a red flag?

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >guy friends
    >not wanting ppl to know

    Anon...

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      That ain’t your gf bro lmao she is 100% getting dicked down by her “guy friends”. Ghost her immediately

      🙁 is it that bad. I love her

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    That ain’t your gf bro lmao she is 100% getting dicked down by her “guy friends”. Ghost her immediately

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Get out of there anon, run fast and very far away. This is a giant, glowing, neon red flag.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Huge red flag. My cheating ex pulled the exact same shit. Her excuse was, and I quote “I didn’t want others to feel bad, like, some of my friends like uhm, they are single and idk I don't want them to feel bad they are single or liiike rub it in their face yknow?”

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      >my gf doesnt want anyone to know were dating including her guy friends and wont tell them

      Lol you're the side homie

      Huge red flag. The only women I've dated who were worth anything wanted to show me off to everybody.

      she likes you but she thinks you going to ruin her reputation if they know you are together. take it as you will

      >guy friends
      >doesn't want people to know
      RUN homie RUN

      I really love her guys, I don't know. This doesn't feel right

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        >This doesn’t feel right
        I know. That’s why you need to leave. This shouldn’t be something you have to deal with. But here you are, having to deal with it. A good relationship doesn’t have this bullshit, a good one feels right. This one ain’t right. Something is off and you know it. And no matter how your mind tries to rationalize or excuse it, your own gut will tell you otherwise. That sickly pit in your stomach will ache and you’ll know.

        Do not mistake it for butterflies, or love anxiety. This is not love, at all. This is a girl who for no explicable reason is ashamed to call you her boyfriend. This is a girl who does not want males around her to know that she is taken. This is a girl who cares more about appearing available than caring about you.

        It is not love. It’s a crude haunting imitation of it. And you are afraid to lose it because you are desperate to feel loved. And you deserve it, and that’s why you gotta run, fast. Because she will not only prevent you from finding it, but by the time she deals out damage to you, you will lose the appetite for love and become empty and dead.

        Please, leave.

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >Do not mistake it for butterflies, or love anxiety. This is not love, at all. This is a girl who for no explicable reason is ashamed to call you her boyfriend. This is a girl who does not want males around her to know that she is taken. This is a girl who cares more about appearing available than caring about you.

          Maybe you're right. what if she lashes out or retaliates if i break up

          let me guess, you “love her” and have been dating for 2 months? and she’s never said she loves you?

          she kind of says it but I dont know if its real

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Maybe you're right. what if she lashes out or retaliates if i break up
            She most likely will. It’ll probably be in the form of some text or e-mail that really pulls at your heart strings, a full-on scripted essay about how sad and upset she is and how she realises you are the one and how badly she feels for losing you.

            But if you pay close attention, you’ll notice it’ll simply be that - how bad she feels, and how she feels bad for losing what she benefitted from you, and zero mention about how she made you feel like shit or substantial acknowledgement of your feelings at all.

            I know this isn’t reality now and she hasn’t sent such a message, but I am so confident and unfortunately so experienced with dealing with crazies that I know (as do many other men who fell for these succubi) how they usually behave. It’s the same timeless shit with them, it’s predictable.

            Anyway champ, that’s why you go no contact. Completely block, delete, erase everything. Collapse every method for her to contact you and never reach out after you tell her it’s over. That way she can’t ‘retaliate’.

            Also, who cares if she lashes out? She’s already lashing you right now. She’s humiliating and disrespecting the frick out of you by denying the relationship to appease her male friends. You’re already lashed, so even if she does lash out, who cares? You have everything to gain by leaving.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >he most likely will. It’ll probably be in the form of some text or e-mail that really pulls at your heart strings, a full-on scripted essay about how sad and upset she is and how she realises you are the one and how badly she feels for losing you
            Yeah I can second this. Just got out of a relationship with a woman who refused to get a job or do any form of house work for a full year. i tried and pleaded to get more from her during that year, but she always blew me off in one way or another. When i asked her to move out, she started freaking out and went through the whole spectrum of shallow remorse, bargaining, anger, etc. After all her stuff was moved out, she messaged me for the last time asking if I were free to call. I said no and she replied "yeah its not a good idea, sorry, moment of weakness :(". Then the next morning I woke up to an actual Shakespearean masterpiece about how she was just in a rut and I didn't appreciate her at that low point, meaning I don't deserve her at all. She then bragged about how she had a job interview and downplayed the impact of living with a NEET who refuses to do anything. I ignored these too, and within a few hours, she texted me for the final final time, with just "thanks for everything <3".

            Some women are completely batshit insane and have decades worth of defense mechanisms built up to deflect accountability for even the most basic of things. While I was helping her move her shit out, she arrived an hour early and came in without knocking then proceed to complain about how the house smelled. This was also after she wrote "butthole" in the dirt on the site of my car. I confronted her about it, and she basically just smirked and laughed at me for caring at all. Through all this, I kept wondering just how fricked I'd be if I had done the same to her. Some women feel entitled to chimping out like this because they've never had to deal with the repercussions of their actions, but you should oblige them anyway.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            >Some women are completely batshit insane and have decades worth of defense mechanisms built up to deflect accountability for even the most basic of things.
            Holy shit, I need to frame this quote. It explains so much.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I would add to this anon to always stay away from any chick that has diagnosed Borderline OR Bipolar personality disorder, diagnosed depression, diagnosed anxiety bad enough to require strong medication, or any combination thereof. Tried it once, never again. The sex is great but that is IT.
            You don't get it till you've had that special someone, in the span of an hour, u-turn from threatening to call the cops on you because you won't call them RIGHT NOW to begging you not to leave and telling you how much they need you after you decide to ignore the previous messages.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Fricking. Facts. You can strategize, compromise, rationalize all you want, but the simple truth is that you will be wasting time and energy on someone who will NEVER give you the same level of forgiveness and understanding you try so hard to give them.

          • 4 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            sorry anon. that's why you don't date girls that have guy friends she's chummy with

            She's not your girl, it's not even your turn. Leave her, Brohammed.

            Frick

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        let me guess, you “love her” and have been dating for 2 months? and she’s never said she loves you?

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        frick off moron, you got the advice.
        be moronic on another site.

        >This doesn’t feel right
        I know. That’s why you need to leave. This shouldn’t be something you have to deal with. But here you are, having to deal with it. A good relationship doesn’t have this bullshit, a good one feels right. This one ain’t right. Something is off and you know it. And no matter how your mind tries to rationalize or excuse it, your own gut will tell you otherwise. That sickly pit in your stomach will ache and you’ll know.

        Do not mistake it for butterflies, or love anxiety. This is not love, at all. This is a girl who for no explicable reason is ashamed to call you her boyfriend. This is a girl who does not want males around her to know that she is taken. This is a girl who cares more about appearing available than caring about you.

        It is not love. It’s a crude haunting imitation of it. And you are afraid to lose it because you are desperate to feel loved. And you deserve it, and that’s why you gotta run, fast. Because she will not only prevent you from finding it, but by the time she deals out damage to you, you will lose the appetite for love and become empty and dead.

        Please, leave.

        farting in the wind anon, this person will stay until some moron gives them what they want to hear.
        Which in this case is to stay with her.

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        sorry anon. that's why you don't date girls that have guy friends she's chummy with

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >my gf doesnt want anyone to know were dating including her guy friends and wont tell them

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Lol you're the side homie

  7. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Huge red flag. The only women I've dated who were worth anything wanted to show me off to everybody.

  8. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    she likes you but she thinks you going to ruin her reputation if they know you are together. take it as you will

  9. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    >guy friends
    >doesn't want people to know
    RUN homie RUN

  10. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Lol you're being used. How much stuff do you buy her?

  11. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    The reddest of flags. I briefly dated a BPD who became irate when I even hinted that her other guy friends would find out about me. Turns out she was fricking them all. Go figure.

  12. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    She's not your girl, it's not even your turn. Leave her, Brohammed.

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