My gf has been emotionally cheating on me with a guy at her work for a year.

My gf has been emotionally cheating on me with a guy at her work for a year. How can I tell her to cut him off without seeming like some super controlling weirdo? He will call on weekdays at like 7:00 pm and talk to her for hours. He has ruined multiple movie nights and I'm fricking sick of it.

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  1. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >How can I tell her to cut him off without seeming like some super controlling weirdo?
    You don't, you leave her.
    Sorry brother, but it's over.

  2. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    You can do better than that, anon. If not, will yourself being capable of doing better into existence.

    >super controlling weirdo
    nvm. You have the simp mind virus. Based on experience I'm afraid it may be far too late for you unless you find the ability in yourself to reverse the polarity of your brain. You have problems that are much more important to fix than this gay relationship that you have

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Not OP but yeah I stopped at
      >super controlling weirdo
      That's women-talk for trying to make you be a doormat. Just like "haha stop being insecure about me sucking another' guy's wiener" type of mind-games.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Not OP but yeah I stopped at
      >super controlling weirdo
      That's women-talk for trying to make you be a doormat. Just like "haha stop being insecure about me sucking another' guy's wiener" type of mind-games.

      Controlling who your gf talks to is objectively toxic behavior.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Having boundaries and standards is only considered controlling when men do it. There's nothing controlling about telling someone what your conditions are for continuing to be a part of your life. Controlling would be if she refused the terms and he tied her up and locked her in the basement.

        That being said as a man in the current year dating market OP really has no power in the relationship. Any power he may have had in the relationship is gone at this point because he put up with this for a whole year. But he probably never had any to begin with.

        I'm sorry buddy but it's over, it's been over. It probably never even begun. You can continue to oofydoofymax if you want but I'd advise to just take this leap sooner than later so you can get through the grieving process and come out on the other side as whatever kind of person you're going to be. Your girlfriend knows that you know she's attracted to this other guy and she knows that you hate that she talks to him. But she'll do it anyway, right in front of you for hours because you're not important to her and she doesn't respect you. She not only doesn't respect you but I'd wager she outright has contempt for you and is getting a sadistic pleasure out of this. If any part of you is telling yourself that she isn't 100% aware of the fact that she's seriously hurting you and is at best ok with it and more likely enjoys it you're sucking on medical grade copium

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Yeah and lining up your next guy while you're still with your current one isn't??? Fricking roast.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        You're objectively moronic.

  3. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    frick the shit out of her and see if she still talks to the other guy for hours. If she does, or if she refuses bed breaking sex, it's over I think

  4. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Just explain to her that he is a pervert and wants to frick her, even if she is your GF. If she won't stop, just leave her, because she is a prostitute.

  5. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    this is what you do:
    next time he calls, and she is jolly ready to answer, you leave the b***h. very simply and calmly
    if she has any dignity and feelings left, she will understand and start weeping, trying to get you back. at that point, she will cut him off without causing problems
    if she doesn't do that, good riddance

  6. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >Hey babe, there's something I need to get off my chest
    >The amount of time you're spending talking to Dave from work is starting to irritate me
    >We make plans and they often get interrupted by him calling then you two speaking for hours on end.
    >Are you aware he probably fancies you, or is there something more going on between the two of you?

    Depending on how she responds to that, depends on your course of action.
    She either puts in some boundaries with the guy and ignores him, prioritising you.
    Or she doesn't, so you dump her and move on

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Most sound advice so far.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      there ya go OP.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Good advice, but I would replace "irritate" with "bother". If it's harmless and she didn't know there was a problem, she might feel attacked by the use of that word.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      Good advice, but I would replace "irritate" with "bother". If it's harmless and she didn't know there was a problem, she might feel attacked by the use of that word.

      She cheats on him emotionally for a year.
      Talks to the guy for hours.
      Fricks up couple plans for him
      >hey babe, umm, there's something I need to get off my chest
      What, that you're a massive doormat in denial?
      Here's the sad truth of it - if your woman DOES this, you're done. You can't actually control her, or condition her, or change her. Even in the best case scenario she stops now because you give her an ultimatum, she'll simply do it again in the future since she already showed you she has 0 respect for you and once you lose that, good luck.

      • 2 months ago
        Anonymous

        Emotional cheating is when you love someone else while in a relationship. OP says she talks to this guy and enjoys talking to him - friends aren't emotional cheating you moron. COULD she be cheating? Yes. Could she also just be good friends with this dude and oblivious to how it's affecting her relationship? Also yes. OP shouldn't torpedo his relationship based on a maybe.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          > friends aren't emotional cheating you moron.
          >with a guy
          You're adorable.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            You can have friends of the opposite sex, you incel moron. I do, and everyone I know does, and none of them are cheating.

            I wonder if women are actually oblivious to what they're doing to guys. Since it's clear that 99% of guys are friends with girls only waiting for a chance to frick.
            Are women really that oblivious or simply milking their "friend" for emotional support and ignoring that he definitely wants more since she doesn't want to give more - yet.

            >Since it's clear that 99% of guys are friends with girls only waiting for a chance to frick.
            The frick? No they're not. My best friends are dudes, I've been married for years and they're all aware of this. What moron would hang onto a married woman who shows zero interest in them for YEARS just hoping to bang instead of going on dates or using Tinder? Even if it started out as them hoping for something more they would have gotten the idea by now and either stopped talking to me or gotten over it.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Ah, you're a woman. That explains the idiocy or the complete lack of awareness.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            [...]
            [...]
            You being a horny creep doesn't mean all men are horny creeps. I know a lot of guys with zero interest in me sexually or romantically who are my friends. Normal adults have friend circles consisting of men and women, who are all friends together, most of them married or otherwise in a healthy relationship. My husband has never expressed concern over my male friends. I am not concerned about his female friends. I am a good enough judge of character IRL that I've predicted divorces years in the future when the couple was only dating and everyone else thought I was an butthole for saying they wouldn't work long term and should break up.

            Either a great larp or an actual moronic woman.
            I actually think it's a woman, because she uses the standard woman logic
            >shame the other person (incel, moron, creep) especially sexually
            >use anecdotal evidence as if it's actual facts
            You're either a mentally disturbed guy or a mentally disturbed woman in her 40s. Either way, ew.

        • 2 months ago
          Anonymous

          if you define friendship as:
          >a relationship between two people who have no romantic interest in each other but enjoy each other's company
          then friendship between women and men is not a thing, it is literally impossible
          the woman may not have any romantic interest in the guy or she may keep him as a "backup", but the guy is always, 100% of the time romantically invested in that woman

          I wonder if women are actually oblivious to what they're doing to guys. Since it's clear that 99% of guys are friends with girls only waiting for a chance to frick.
          Are women really that oblivious or simply milking their "friend" for emotional support and ignoring that he definitely wants more since she doesn't want to give more - yet.

          some times they're really just oblivious about the guy's feelings, but most times they're just keeping him as a "plan b" in case things dont work out with her plan a
          basically that one forced her to choose between her plan a and plan b, and she had to choose her plan a

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Ah, you're a woman. That explains the idiocy or the complete lack of awareness.

            >basically, this thread

            No (straight) guy will EVER have a "friendship" with a woman if he's not interested her for sex, or romantically.

            You being a horny creep doesn't mean all men are horny creeps. I know a lot of guys with zero interest in me sexually or romantically who are my friends. Normal adults have friend circles consisting of men and women, who are all friends together, most of them married or otherwise in a healthy relationship. My husband has never expressed concern over my male friends. I am not concerned about his female friends. I am a good enough judge of character IRL that I've predicted divorces years in the future when the couple was only dating and everyone else thought I was an butthole for saying they wouldn't work long term and should break up.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            If you have any of your "friends" an opening they would have sex with you. I am 100% sure about this.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >have
            gave*

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            You naive b***h. This is why I hate women.

            [...]
            Either a great larp or an actual moronic woman.
            I actually think it's a woman, because she uses the standard woman logic
            >shame the other person (incel, moron, creep) especially sexually
            >use anecdotal evidence as if it's actual facts
            You're either a mentally disturbed guy or a mentally disturbed woman in her 40s. Either way, ew.

            So how does this work, exactly? Are ALL men emotional cheaters? Opportunistic cheaters? Is the take away that no man can be trusted and all of them are scum of the earth? If it isn't, then you're wrong, but if it IS, then there's no such thing as trust and monogamy and therefore a woman "emotionally cheating" is both normal and perfectly fine because all men do it as well.

            >shame the person especially sexually
            Ahhh, but calling everyone a homosexual is totally different!

            You would only feel the need to defend yourself against an "insult" like this if it's actually true. Getting called a troon or a Black personhomosexual or a 40 year old virgin Karen doesn't warrant a real response because it's fake and gay namecalling. Touch grass, and probably boobs.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Yes, men are biologically inclined to spread their genes as much as they can and will always cheat if given the chance.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            My husband likes looking, and so do I, but it never escalates because we have self-control. There's a difference between recognizing you are attracted to someone and trying to pursue someone based on attraction. There are some men I find attractive but I have never approached them (and would reject them if approached) because I love my husband and don't want anyone else. It doesn't mean every man is automatically ugly to me now, it just means I've devoted myself to one so I won't go after any others. I assume this is the same for men, or at least good men. You can be friends with a woman while finding her attractive, and never make a move or allow her to make a move on you because you know you shouldn't. Over time that attraction disappears as you get used to them being around. Do NONE of you have girlfriends, wives, or long-term friends?

            Yeah I'm now convinced you're a middle-aged woman. How the hell did you end up here? Jesus your life must be sad.
            A friendship between a man and a woman can happen only in the case of 0 physical attraction, and men have a very low bar for that. You just might be very unfrickable, Karen.
            >all of them are scum of the earth?
            Ah yes, because wanting to frick means you're scum. Women logic, everyone.
            >, then there's no such thing as trust and monogamy
            Monogamy is a choice, not a lack of attraction to others.
            > "emotionally cheating" is both normal and perfectly fine because all men do it as well.
            If one is an butthole, it makes it ok for the other to be an butthole. Again, woman logic, everyone.
            >Ahhh, but calling everyone a homosexual is totally different!
            You're the only one using that word in this thread, Karen.
            >You would only feel the need to defend yourself against an "insult"
            Haha, you defend yourself therefore I'm right. kek
            >Getting called a troon or a Black personhomosexual
            Cool it with the racism, Karen.
            >fake and gay
            Definitely a millenial. How's hitting 40 looking, Karen? Is it everything you wanted it to be?
            >Touch grass, and probably boobs.
            Not yours, that's for sure, kek.

            >Ah yes, because wanting to frick means you're scum.
            No, being willing to frick at the drop of a hat despite being taken makes you scum.
            >If one is an butthole, it makes it ok for the other to be an butthole.
            If everyone's an butthole, nobody's an butthole. I never said it was okay, just that if literally everyone operates this way then it's not special or "extra bad" if a woman does it or whatever.
            >You're the only one using that word in this thread, Karen.
            Do you know where you are? How did you get this far into a Hindu cardboard folding forum without seeing people call each other homosexual constantly?
            >Cool it with the racism, Karen.
            Black person
            >Definitely a millenial
            I think I'm technically a zoomer? Pretty close to millenial, my husband's a millenial for sure.
            >Not yours, that's for sure,
            Thank fricking god.

            Sorry for hijacking. Issues posting new threads on phone. Figured this was a good thread to ask.

            What do you guys think about a lie my gf told me? We shared with each other about how having old contacts in our phone felt and I said I wasn’t comfortable and deleted contacts in my phone that were old flames or dates. She said she would do the same. We both use iphones. I’m on an old 8 and she’s on a 10 and I have seen different in her os vs mine but only to a small degree of features.

            She texted this:

            “So I blocked a number and can see that number on my blocked list. Then I delete the number and it removes it from the blocked list so they aren’t really blocked.”

            This cannot be possible as far as I’m aware of so am I to assume it’s not wanting to give up contacts incase we don’t work out or am I not seeing the danger in a method of cheating?

            I don't use an iPhone, but could she be mistaken? Try blocking a number and then deleting the number, does it go away from the block list in your phone? It's still technically blocked but she might not know that. This feels like it would be a weird lie to make, and wouldn't cover any cheating.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            The problem is those same steps in an iPhone she’s describing in blocking a contact are impossible. So it was a lie. I understand if a person doesn’t want to outwardly say: “hey I’m not going to give up my source of action if we don’t work out”. The contacts are blocked she just lied to not delete them.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            How did she say she felt about having old contacts on her phone?

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            After explaining to her why I blocked some of my contacts as not being respectful to a relationship if our partner sees them being inappropriate, she says: “ok. Makes sense”.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah... that sounds like a red flag to me. I think she's probably hanging onto them because she thinks you two won't work out.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            Yeah I'm now convinced you're a middle-aged woman. How the hell did you end up here? Jesus your life must be sad.
            A friendship between a man and a woman can happen only in the case of 0 physical attraction, and men have a very low bar for that. You just might be very unfrickable, Karen.
            >all of them are scum of the earth?
            Ah yes, because wanting to frick means you're scum. Women logic, everyone.
            >, then there's no such thing as trust and monogamy
            Monogamy is a choice, not a lack of attraction to others.
            > "emotionally cheating" is both normal and perfectly fine because all men do it as well.
            If one is an butthole, it makes it ok for the other to be an butthole. Again, woman logic, everyone.
            >Ahhh, but calling everyone a homosexual is totally different!
            You're the only one using that word in this thread, Karen.
            >You would only feel the need to defend yourself against an "insult"
            Haha, you defend yourself therefore I'm right. kek
            >Getting called a troon or a Black personhomosexual
            Cool it with the racism, Karen.
            >fake and gay
            Definitely a millenial. How's hitting 40 looking, Karen? Is it everything you wanted it to be?
            >Touch grass, and probably boobs.
            Not yours, that's for sure, kek.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            >imagine LARPING as a Karen on 4 channel dot org
            This is somehow more disturbing that gore threads.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            You naive b***h. This is why I hate women.

          • 2 months ago
            Anonymous

            > know a lot of guys with zero interest in me sexually or romantically
            I bet it's all of them, isn't it Sarah. That's why you come here to pretend you're married kek

  7. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    It might be over already if you're like this kek

  8. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    I've had the exact same situation happen to me. I confronted my girlfriend about it and told her that I didn't liked that she talked so much to the guy and that I was 100% sure that he was in love with her. She said I was crazy and he was just like a little brother to her, they shared everything about their lives.

    So, I told her to give him small advances while I watched over their conversation. She was really defensive at first but I put my foot down and told her "if he's just like your little brother he'd find it weird if you hit on him, right?". She accepted it after some time.

    Next day, he started messaging her, same shit as usual. I started watching their conversation and told her to be slightly flirty with him. He reciprocated all of her small advances. I made her tell him "you looked really cute today" and he told her that she's always cute. Eventually, I told her to tell him "I like you". She did that and he completely folded and told her that he's loved her ever since they met and had been waiting for this moment for the longest time.

    After that she couldn't deny it or call me crazy so she had to decide, either she stopped talking to the guy or we broke up. She stopped talking to him and told him she only liked him as a friend and that he confused things. The poor guy was completely gaslighted but that's how she decided to handle that, I had nothing to do with it.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      I wonder if women are actually oblivious to what they're doing to guys. Since it's clear that 99% of guys are friends with girls only waiting for a chance to frick.
      Are women really that oblivious or simply milking their "friend" for emotional support and ignoring that he definitely wants more since she doesn't want to give more - yet.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      ANON WHAT THE FRICK
      MY EX USED TO DO EXACTLY THAT SHIT

      I wonder if women are actually oblivious to what they're doing to guys. Since it's clear that 99% of guys are friends with girls only waiting for a chance to frick.
      Are women really that oblivious or simply milking their "friend" for emotional support and ignoring that he definitely wants more since she doesn't want to give more - yet.

      I also wonder if they don't really know... But i'm sure they know, she was not an idiot. The guys she talked to even gave her obvious signs and compliments, and she kept talking to them anyways.
      I remember one time I told her to block some guy that was flirting to her, and i'd block too a girl that was messaging me in that way. I did, and she did too.
      Fast forward one week later, that guy created another facebook acc and sent her a request, she accepted, and they started to talk again fricking kek
      She didn't tell me anything about it, until i discovered it again because he left some comments on her posts. What did she tell me?
      >but I blocked him, that's not my fault that he made another account
      <then why did you accept him again?
      >uhhhh *changes topic*

      She always used to call me crazy, but I know what she did. She never told me the truth, but surely, I was not made to be with someone.

  9. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >basically, this thread

    No (straight) guy will EVER have a "friendship" with a woman if he's not interested her for sex, or romantically.

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >literally all of the women said yes
      >literally all of the guys said no
      lmaoooooo

    • 2 months ago
      Anonymous

      >that fricking video
      Holy shit women are actually moronic
      Their brains literally break in the last part kek

  10. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    >How can I tell her to cut him off without seeming like some super controlling weirdo?
    You are so cucked it's not even funny anymore.

  11. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Sorry for hijacking. Issues posting new threads on phone. Figured this was a good thread to ask.

    What do you guys think about a lie my gf told me? We shared with each other about how having old contacts in our phone felt and I said I wasn’t comfortable and deleted contacts in my phone that were old flames or dates. She said she would do the same. We both use iphones. I’m on an old 8 and she’s on a 10 and I have seen different in her os vs mine but only to a small degree of features.

    She texted this:

    “So I blocked a number and can see that number on my blocked list. Then I delete the number and it removes it from the blocked list so they aren’t really blocked.”

    This cannot be possible as far as I’m aware of so am I to assume it’s not wanting to give up contacts incase we don’t work out or am I not seeing the danger in a method of cheating?

  12. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Male-female friendships are weird. Nearly all of my closest friends are men (not including my girlfriend), and then only girl I'm as close to as my male best friends is a girl I used to frick around with when I was a teenager. We're now in a very close but very low maintenance friendship, but she's autistic as FRICK so I think that's why. In every other instance it's basically a case of
    >if a girl is hot, and a lovely person, I will want to date her
    >if a girl is hot, and not a lovely person, I'll frick her
    >if a girl is ugly, but is nice, I'll happily be her friend
    And in the latter case I simply don't have a reason to invest time in ugly women unless they're friends of convenience like housemates or course buddies

    >men and women can't be friends, except when there's either A. no attraction or B. an extremely convoluted series of events that leads to a surprisingly strong friendship
    whereas for men it's just
    >be buddies

  13. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    Talked to my gf about it today and she called me "cute" then told me that he was gay and even dating another man. So I guess everything worked out?

  14. 2 months ago
    Anonymous

    It's over. Bail. At least she's just a girlfriend and not a wife.

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