My girlfriend

She is driving me nuts! I feel like killing my self, confronting her, breaking up or just forgetting everything atm….

Some backround on us;
We’ve been together for 2 and a half years or so
We are young and around the same age
She sometimes says she wants to be with me ’til we’re old, never felt love like this etc
We’ve had fights etc along the way but always forgave eachother in the end

So the things is, I don’t trust her anymore and feel like she has done things with other men that I wouldn’t like at all but never told me about. Why I feel this way? I decided this morning to snoop around her phone, because we have both said to eachother that we have nothing to hide etc, but I was feeling strange about her new guy friend (which is her friend’s old tinder fling??) who was with us at a concert. I only looked at three places. Instagram, photos and sc.

There were no posts on her ig that I was in or mentioned (but then again I don’t have ig anymore). I knew she has really never posted pictures of me or mentioned me, but she did post a picture of me along with many other photos a few months back. She has now deleted that post despite having another post with a guy who she talked to for like one summer.

She had photos of a recent trip to a bar that she told me about briefly when I was away working. She told me she went there with one of her friends, an old friend from school and some other friend of a friend. Yet I see in the photos the same guy friend she got to know a few months back posing for photos etc and never she mentioned that he was there with them. She just told me that the four of them where there late and went to sleep at a friends house.

And lasty I find one dude who sent her some time ago a photo of her being tied up covered in a blanket from her 18th birthday where my gf and two of her other friends were at these guys’ house drinking and celebrating while I was home sick. ”remember this”, or something…

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  1. 1 month ago
    Op

    I’m sorry for bad english and hasty wording but I just want quick answers if I should talk to here about what I found on her phone and how this all makes me feel or something else entirely. Maybe just slit my wrist and jump under a train idk

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >And lasty I find one dude who sent her some time ago a photo of her being tied up covered in a blanket from her 18th birthday where my gf and two of her other friends were at these guys’ house drinking and celebrating while I was home sick. ”remember this”, or something…

      Shit man, break up save your self. She doesnt sound like a good person for you.

      Also, dont have a nice day. You will recover. Why kys over a bad person? She wont care.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I'd break up if you don't trust her, trust your instincts...
    no need to kys over a girl tho.

    • 1 month ago
      Op

      Whether your suspicions are correct or not, one thing is certain: You aren’t enjoying this relationship. I was in a similar relationship to yours, and I tried to keep it going for 7 years. It was a waste of time and it ultimately crashed and burned. When the trust starts to break down, it’s the sign you need to leave.

      If a home is on fire and the ceiling is starting to collapse you need to Gtfo. That’s where your relationship is at. If you stay put, you’ll simply get crushed and burn when it all falls down. And don’t despair OP. Life is bigger than relationships, no matter now special the other person feels. You can always find a relationship, even a better one than what you’re in now.

      >And lasty I find one dude who sent her some time ago a photo of her being tied up covered in a blanket from her 18th birthday where my gf and two of her other friends were at these guys’ house drinking and celebrating while I was home sick. ”remember this”, or something…

      Shit man, break up save your self. She doesnt sound like a good person for you.

      Also, dont have a nice day. You will recover. Why kys over a bad person? She wont care.

      But I feel like breaking up with her would literally ruin both of us. Maybe everything is a big misunderstanding and I’m just playing this up in my head or something. I feel like this can’t be happening right now and I’m just over reacting.

      Why wouldn’t she tell me about all of this when we basically share daily what we’ve been up to with texts or calls (I often work away from home for days or weeks, but my work has been like this for 8 months and will stop in june)

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        then talk to her and explain how you feel.

        You have to talk to her man. Conversation.
        Allow both of you to explain their side.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          but honestly man, OP my man.

          Honestly.

          In which scenario in the WORLD, is okay for a 18yrold most horny age for a woman, to be tied under a blanket, at a guys house, on her birthday, while her BF is not there?

          EVEN IF YOU WERE THERE!!!! Especially since u werent.

          BRO, its written with BOLD LETTERS.

          RUN!

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            AND THEN

            The guy sends her a photo ofthat with caption "Do you remember?"

            DUDE!!!!

            Nobody respects you in her circle, and she neither.

            LEAVE immediately. GO COLD turkey on her ass.
            Just leave her delete everything and go pay a hooker and frick your brains out.

            You are young, you will recover. 15-25 is hardest to survive girls wise.

            When u get to 30 you mellow out and realize many other things are there to life.

            Just end it since she or her friends dont respect you at all my brother in Christ.

            Take care.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Women are better liars than men.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      seconded

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Whether your suspicions are correct or not, one thing is certain: You aren’t enjoying this relationship. I was in a similar relationship to yours, and I tried to keep it going for 7 years. It was a waste of time and it ultimately crashed and burned. When the trust starts to break down, it’s the sign you need to leave.

    If a home is on fire and the ceiling is starting to collapse you need to Gtfo. That’s where your relationship is at. If you stay put, you’ll simply get crushed and burn when it all falls down. And don’t despair OP. Life is bigger than relationships, no matter now special the other person feels. You can always find a relationship, even a better one than what you’re in now.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    while you were home sick,
    she was gobbling dick,

    while you were needing her,
    he was feeding her,

    while you could use a hug,
    he was stuffing her mug,

    now you sit confused?
    was your gf used?

    The answer you dont wanna face,
    is someone else she did embrace!

    take care my anon friend,
    keep your life, its not the end.

    Women will come women will go,
    but self respect you have to show,

    dont let her have pleasure,
    of kys - a drastic measure.

    Instead just break up and take rest,
    for you exist a girl that's best.

    Leave the difficult women, to themselves,
    they want no master but satan's elves.

    Respect yourself, respect your life,
    Joy still exist, say no to strife.

    Many hugs to you anon,
    take care, love you son.

    • 1 month ago
      Op

      then talk to her and explain how you feel.

      You have to talk to her man. Conversation.
      Allow both of you to explain their side.

      AND THEN

      The guy sends her a photo ofthat with caption "Do you remember?"

      DUDE!!!!

      Nobody respects you in her circle, and she neither.

      LEAVE immediately. GO COLD turkey on her ass.
      Just leave her delete everything and go pay a hooker and frick your brains out.

      You are young, you will recover. 15-25 is hardest to survive girls wise.

      When u get to 30 you mellow out and realize many other things are there to life.

      Just end it since she or her friends dont respect you at all my brother in Christ.

      Take care.

      but honestly man, OP my man.

      Honestly.

      In which scenario in the WORLD, is okay for a 18yrold most horny age for a woman, to be tied under a blanket, at a guys house, on her birthday, while her BF is not there?

      EVEN IF YOU WERE THERE!!!! Especially since u werent.

      BRO, its written with BOLD LETTERS.

      RUN!

      Women are better liars than men.

      I know it’s crazy right? Dude my exgf was a cheating b***h. She cheated several times. Yet every time I dwelled on leaving, there she was, right next to me, with “what’s wrong babe?”. It confused the shit out of me too. Don’t feel bad for feeling fricked up over how it doesn’t make sense.

      Just remember one thing: It doesn’t make sense. And when a relationship stops making sense, then it’s time to call it quits. Relationships are supposed to make sense.

      One thing I don’t understand that I want an answer to…why is SHE with me still, IF she has cheated, or something along the line, for almost our whole relationship? Why hasn’t she left ME yet? I’m not emotionally supportive, useful, rich, smart, handsome, succesfull or anything special….. why would she build our lives together, move together make plans about our life with me in mind if she really didn’t give a frick about me?… I very lost right now

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        DO you really need to know that? People are crazy man. Some people.

        You need to know what yu want from relationship, and did she give you that.
        If not, go.

        Some women want one stable guy to have always on their side, because they fear loneliness and other guys to frick for fun.

        In any case, whatever it may be, you dont need an answer. She was not who you thought she was.
        Would your ideal girl do what she did? NO.

        So dont get caught up with her words. Judge her actions.

        She may cry, threaten suicide etc, it all means she is deeply wounded, fricked up and its not your job to save her bro.
        BRO! You are not a psychiatrist.

        You are a normal loyal dude. YOu deserve a normal loyal woman.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        How is your sex life? Does she want to frick more than you do?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        you're the back up plan in case her other flings don't pan out

  5. 1 month ago
    Op

    I don’t want to think about this right now anymore. Everyone is telling me to leave her and how she’s a c**t. She’s right next to me atm wanting to know what’s wrong. How has everything come to this

    this feels bad, it literally hurts in my chest

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I know it’s crazy right? Dude my exgf was a cheating b***h. She cheated several times. Yet every time I dwelled on leaving, there she was, right next to me, with “what’s wrong babe?”. It confused the shit out of me too. Don’t feel bad for feeling fricked up over how it doesn’t make sense.

      Just remember one thing: It doesn’t make sense. And when a relationship stops making sense, then it’s time to call it quits. Relationships are supposed to make sense.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        well said anon.

        I don’t want to think about this right now anymore. Everyone is telling me to leave her and how she’s a c**t. She’s right next to me atm wanting to know what’s wrong. How has everything come to this

        this feels bad, it literally hurts in my chest

        she has borderline personality disorder. RUN!

        No matter what she says, JUDGE HER ACTIONS not her words.

        Women speak more with actions. Everyone does actually. But men tend to be more aligned with what they say and do.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >No matter what she says, JUDGE HER ACTIONS not her words.
          I would have saved myself years of trouble if I had listened to this advice and internalized it when I was younger

  6. 1 month ago
    Op

    I will ask her about the birthday photo, since that bothers me the most. I hope she has a good explanation and doesn’t change the subject entirely to how I was looking through her phone. She is sad and upset at the moment because I’ve been going through this in my head all morning and haven’t revealef her what’s wrong…

    Wish me luck, because this might be it. I will either accept her or start considering my life options… it was very one sided advice, but I guess the whole situation sounds x5 times worse on text on a computer. Many things unmentioned good and bad, but I got a pretty clear picture of what most of you would do here. Maybe it’s cultural?….

    Anyway wish me luck, maybe there’s something to live for out there somewhere if this goes sour…

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      >Anyway wish me luck, maybe there’s something to live for out there somewhere if this goes sour…

      Look in the mirror and you’ll find something to live for. If you ever feel lost and can’t find something out there, remember this post. Because the answer is that it’s not ‘out there’, it’s in there, in you. It’s always within.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Relationships require trust to form, and trust to be sustained. The moment trust is gone, so is the relationship.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    NOTHING you describe is worthy of your paranoia.

    • 1 month ago
      Op

      How so?

      I told her about the photo and she of course got angry and confrontional right away. According to her her friends did it too etc etc and how she doesn’t even know him anymore. She also told me (I didn’t notice it at all) how her ”thanks so much” answer to the photo was to a another message and snap just hadn’t saved the other chat the reply was related to

      I do believe her and she admitted how strange the photo looks but she ended up turning the convo onto me and why I don’t trust her, she now feels like shit, I ruined her whole morning because I didn’t immediately tell her about my find etc etc!

      I won’t break up with her about this and try not to ever look at her private stuff again since it only brings me harm mentally. What I will do is confront her about things I don’t like, be more honest, and in general value myself the most going forward. If I catch her lacking, I’ll make sure she’ll remember it…. And of course slit my wrists because this whole thing has had me question everything about us

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        you're a fool dude, don't bother posting here when you learn the truth.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Frick off and never come back. You get cucked and don’t want to accept it.
        Weak man deserves this prostitutes

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        >she ended up turning the convo onto me
        RIP man. Of course I can't know for sure, but I'd say this dude is in for years of torment before one final, crushing heartbreak.

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