My girlfriend was offered a job promotion in New York and is going to move there (at least temporarily) for 18 months.

My girlfriend was offered a job promotion in New York and is going to move there (at least temporarily) for 18 months. I am sort of tied down due to my own job until my contract ends after a year. Should I break up with her or go long distance?

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  1. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    what is your job and when does she go

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      she is leaving in 2 weeks. i could probably find another job in new york with my credentials but its just that we would only see each other maybe 5 times in person for the next year

      • 4 weeks ago
        Anonymous

        have you brought up wanting to move with her and im assuming she already has housing covered? does she have roommates or does she live alone? apts are expensive in nyc so splitting bills is always welcome.

        if she's open to you moving with her i would go for it. give her a solid plan - i.e. for the next 2 cut down on expenses and save everything you can. apply for nyc/remote jobs nonstop and if you can't find anything by the end you move with her and help split costs with your savings while you look for any job you can find to help out.

        life is an adventure OP; i would take the chance. if it doesn't work out you'll be young and single living in the best city in the whole goddamned world and at least you'll know you tried. i guarantee you in 5 years you'll be fantasizing about the what if instead of thinking "man im glad i didn't move to nyc with my gf and stayed at my contract job!"

        • 4 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          >best city in the whole goddamned world
          lol

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            where do you live?

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            Calgary, the best city in the goddamned world.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            I go back and forth between socal and central valley

        • 3 weeks ago
          Anonymous

          You're gross.

          • 3 weeks ago
            Anonymous

            you're sad, lonely and your autobiography will be 3 chapters and 50 pages long. lmk when you're on your death bed and i'll happily take 15 minutes out of my day to do the audiobook

  2. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It doesn't really matter, you'll be broken up in a few months anyway.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      this tbh. difficulties of LDR will be hard on your both. she will be around tons of guys in New York. you will be lonelier than her. the only way it could possible work is if Jesus himself intervened and granted you one free miracle.

  3. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Long distance relationships rarely ever work.
    You also have to acknowledge that she will cheat on you repeatedly, most likely with black men.

  4. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    if you dont move its pretty much over, kinda sucks shes going with the job promotion over a supposedly loving relationship

  5. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If your relationship is a few years old, go long distance for a year and then move with her. If your relationship is less than a year old, break up.

  6. 4 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    If she made the decision without you break it off. If she included you in the decision consider trying LTR

    • 4 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      if you dont move its pretty much over, kinda sucks shes going with the job promotion over a supposedly loving relationship

      if you were given the opportunity to make 200k for the rest of your life but you would have to move away from your significant other for 2 years would you do it? guarantee you 95% of the people take the job.

      it doesn't matter if she made the decision with him or not. the question is whether or not she wants him to come with her and if she would reciprocate if the time came where his career objectives were demanding him to move.

  7. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    "Girlfriend" should be a (brief) prelude to (brief) "fiancee" and then to "wife." You shouldn't be doing the bf/gf thing as a permanent arrangement, unless you're subhuman.

    • 3 weeks ago
      Anonymous

      This. As the poet Nabokov said
      >There is a tide in the affairs of men
      >Which, taken at the flood, leads on to fortune;
      >Omitted, all the voyage of their life
      >Is bound in shallows and in miseries.

  8. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    Easy. Ask her if she would like you to go to live with her and maintain you until you get another job.
    If he says no, ghost them.
    I have never been in a relationship with a woman that would not do that for me.

  9. 3 weeks ago
    Anonymous

    It's over. Just accept it, and break up with her in order to save a bit of face.

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