My husband has only slept with one other woman besides me in his life.

My husband has only slept with one other woman besides me in his life. This woman is his sister's best friend so we are forced to see her every now and then.

That I can handle and actually don't mind anymore , however we have a son who is just over 3 years old and whenever we see her, it's like my son instinctively wants her attention. Even when he was a baby he would always stop crying when she carried him or he would reach out to be carried by her. And now he always goes up to her wanting to play or does cute stuff to her.

What the heck is going on? Don't tell me he's in love with her too. Is this some sort of trauma passed on from my husband? Why does it upset me and how do I get over myself seeing that I know it's a complete nothing.

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  1. 3 weeks ago

    >Is this some sort of trauma passed on from my husband?
    Do you unironically believe such moronic bullshit? That "trauma" can be passed on to children? Like Black folk pretending that they can feel slavery or israelites who pretend that they can feel the holohax.
    Do you seriously believe that shit is real?

    • 2 weeks ago

      That's actually a really good comparison to how cringe this is lol

  2. 3 weeks ago

    It sounds like you’re experiencing a mix of emotions that are quite understandable given the history between your husband and this woman. It's not unusual to feel a bit unsettled or even jealous in situations like this, even if rationally you know there's no threat.

    Firstly, it's unlikely that there is any sort of trauma being passed on from your husband, or that your son's behavior is anything other than the normal variability in whom children feel comfortable with. Children, especially very young ones like your son, often form attachments or show preferences for certain people without any clear reasons that adults can discern. This can be influenced by a myriad of factors such as the person's demeanor, how they interact with the child, or even more subtle things like their voice or scent.

    Your son's behavior towards this woman doesn't reflect any deeper connection to your husband's past with her. More likely, he simply enjoys her company or finds comfort in her presence for reasons that are entirely his own.

    As for your feelings, it's perfectly okay to acknowledge and accept them. It might help to talk through your feelings with someone you trust or even a professional, if you find it particularly bothersome. Recognizing that these feelings are normal and not indicative of any real problems in your relationship or family can also be reassuring.

    To ease your discomfort, you might try engaging more actively when this woman is around. Join in the play or start a group activity, so you feel more a part of the interactions rather than an observer. This might help you see the interactions in a new light and reassure you about the nature of their relationship.

    Lastly, give yourself time and kindness. Emotional responses can be complex, especially when tied to significant relationships in our lives, and they often don't resolve instantly.

  3. 3 weeks ago

    Just don't let her into your lives anymore, he's probably cheating on you

  4. 3 weeks ago

    A real chip of the ol' block he is, lmao. Guess taste is hereditary.

  5. 3 weeks ago

    >he's in love with her too
    Wow, freudian slip in the wild...
    your husband still loves her? Or is this a personal belief?
    You think your son gives a rip shit about who daddy once fricked? kek
    Wish I was gay so I never had to deal with female neuroticism.

  6. 3 weeks ago

    She must be pretty

    Children like pretty people

    • 3 weeks ago

      I agree, she has got to be a 10/10 and you're insecure that your husband nutted in her before you got together. Had it been a thing of the past and never had to cross paths, it'd be different... but I'm sure that having to see her eye up your man every now and again, has you feeling some type of way... especially when she holds your child (she pretends its hers and your husband's)

      I'm joking about that last part op, but you really gotta stop being so insecure. It just boils down to whether or not you trust your husband. Be honest with him, but do remember, your husband's dime piece of an ex is waiting for you to let the crazy out, and for you to frick up

      • 2 weeks ago

        I didn't mean anything by it. Children simply like people that look good.

      • 2 weeks ago

        >has you feeling some type of way... especially when she holds your child (she pretends its hers and your husband's

        Do you think she does that? It so annoying when people take pictures of her holding him, especially when my husband happens to be in the picture too.

        • 2 weeks ago

          I was joking when I typed that, as I stated in the next line down... however women sometimes do that type of stuff, especially knowing their previous sexual history (you know he had her whole body shaking uncontrollably for hours).

          They tend to not forget those feelings, and especially now thst she sees he's worth far more now than he was before (married, great father to his child)

          She can't not see him as the literal whole package, as he's now the one that "got away"

          On the real, stop being so insecure, but you're probs going to have to (if you're not already) give your husband the most mind blowing sex he's ever had, daily.

        • 2 weeks ago

          Everyone thinks that.
          Even your child.
          She's better than you, and that's why everyone likes her and him together more.

  7. 3 weeks ago

    I think you are sort of projecting your own issues with this woman onto your kids. Children absolutely love attention. Especially from mommy figures and clearly this woman is similar in age to you. It's totally normal for them to want to impress her or go "hey look at Me!" As they do whatever.

    I think you are the one that needs therapy. Which is fine. Everyone has an issue or two.

  8. 2 weeks ago

    Your son instinctively knows who his real biological mother is, that's all. It's pretty normal, honestly.

  9. 2 weeks ago

    She is just less neurotic than you which calms men and babies. Learn to relax, take up meditation and yoga, or something.

  10. 2 weeks ago

    Maybe when you start to feel like that you can frick off since you've obviously on the left and have had way more partners.
    b***h probably can't even go to cheesecake factory without being recognized as the town bicycle
    Also, I can't believe it's taken this long: breasts or gtfo

  11. 2 weeks ago

    He isn't yours. It's just your turn.

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