my mom is forcing me to break up with my girlfriend

im 21 years old and ive been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years. my mom and sister are threatening to kick me out if I don't break up with her because my girlfriend is not muslim (I'm not muslim either but my family doesn't know that). i promised to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her but I still want to take care of my mom when she gets old. i offered my girlfriend the idea of us getting married after my mom dies but she didn't like it so what do I do?

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >but I still want to take care of my mom when she gets old.
    Tough shit. The b***h wants to force you to be a Muslim and force you to break up but also expects you to take care of her? Just leave your shitty family if you can. If you live in the States then your best bet is to join the military and move your girlfriend in when you eventually get a place (not that difficult to do with BAH).

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      yeah but im currently in uni getting my masters so I can get into medical school. my parents will fund this

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        why not just pretend to have broken up until then?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          my mom checks my phone, she has my passwords to everything and they read my messages/look at call logs and photos. my mom took my phone and blocked her on everything

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            And you can't meet irl then i assume

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            nope, i was with my gf irl and my mom followed us and made her go home

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            So.....how much are you alone in any capacity. Also did you think of having her pretend to be one in the same manner you pretend to be one.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            im never alone, i sleep in the living room and I have no privacy. we managed to keep our relationship private because we went to school together but now shes graduated and its tough now

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Okay, well that's pretty tough, either you have to perform a miracle or something's gotta give.

            they're abusive and manipulative, yet somehow I wanna take care of my mom when she gets old though. i forgot to mention she is going to force me to marry my second cousin.

            ...Are you even living your life for yourself?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            What kind of phone do you have? If you're an itoddler then you're kind of screwed unless you'll feel like doing email or writing letters. If you're on a Samsung then use "secure folder". Pretty self-explanatory as long as you're not an idiot.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            And you can't meet irl then i assume

            im never alone, i sleep in the living room and I have no privacy. we managed to keep our relationship private because we went to school together but now shes graduated and its tough now

            they're abusive and manipulative, yet somehow I wanna take care of my mom when she gets old though. i forgot to mention she is going to force me to marry my second cousin.

            Holy shit, not worth. I'd throw myaelf off a cliff before i let anyone think they can control my life like that.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >mom controls his life, has access to his phone and checks his photos
            And you're telling me a girl fell in love with you?
            Are you sure you're not just slobbering over her and assumed she liked you back

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Literally get a cheap ass android, hide it and stay in contact with your gf that way.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Ask if the military will fund the completion of your degree, in return for a longer contract.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Listen to your family Black person

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      they're abusive and manipulative, yet somehow I wanna take care of my mom when she gets old though. i forgot to mention she is going to force me to marry my second cousin.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You're young so it is possible that you're just being naïve

    Let's assume you both love each other and actually want to stick to your promises.
    1. You're the only one who will live your life, not your parents, not anybody else. You decide who you want to spend it with.
    2. They should have taken this possibility into account if you were brought up around non-Muslims

    Being realistic though, you're still young, and from the other posts it seems that your parents are funding the lifestyle that got you the girl in the first place, cutting them off won't be a smart idea for you nor her, plus you will look fricking stupid if you moved out then she cheated on you or you broke up.

    I'd say try to become independent as fast as you can so they can't hold your education over your head forever.
    In the mean time either keep it a secret or break up with her/explain the situation to her and get another girl in the future once you're stable and away from your crazy controlling family.
    It's not the end of the world

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    Just move out, they’ll get over it eventually.

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >my domineering mother is treating me like a little b***h what do???
    Stop acting like and letting her treat you like a little b***h?

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You should kill your girlfriend so you can forever own her soul. Also, I am racist. Have a totally nice day.

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    YOur relationships with your mother is insane, but if you want to takwe care of her in the old age there is long time till that. You can go no contact right now, and then return after years. She will not say no, in fact she will rethink your relationships in your favour.

  8. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    let them kick you out, live with gf, no more controlling turd family. ez win win

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