My partner of 6 years wants to have sex more often but I don't. It has become a chore for me.

My partner of 6 years wants to have sex more often but I don't. It has become a chore for me. She's gained weight and I'm honestly just tired of having sex with her. Everything else in our relationship is good, but this is causing a serious strain. How do I handle this? How do boomers deal with declines in their sex lives?

PS my testosterone levels are 950 ng/dl.

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  1. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >How do boomers deal with declines in their sex lives?
    By introducing new interesting kinks to it mostly

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      We do pretty much everything already.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Have you drank her piss?

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        I had no sex drive for a long time until I realized if she submitted to me I got hard instantly every time
        Realized this when she once spread her legs spread eagle in the bed, legs in the air, truly begging for my dick
        I still get hard from the visual
        Has your gf cried for your pp yet? Kinks are mentally ill and overrated

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          She's submissive, she's just fat. How many times do I have to say it? It's an attractiveness issue

          this sounds like she is either an extremely lame, low energy person, or you two have a very dysfunctional communication style.

          but if it would be the former, why would you two have gotten together anyway?

          why does she have no sense of urgency about that if it seems like she is losing you and she is obviously aware.

          is she depressed or something?

          something here is not quite right.

          i mean if you dump her she will not easily find someone better. does she not believe you will ever dump her?

          She's neurotic and she eats when she's stressed out.

          Send your wife to me and I will sexually satisfy her you fricking homosexual.

          Who said I can't satisfy her? I'm just not attracted to her anymore

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Don't tell her about it literally but try to get her to gym.
            You gotta do it with her though since gyms are like cheating central.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            well i guess if you don't want her anymore, and talking does not work, and she has a mental problem, and she just does not care, i guess it is 6 years down the drain.

            either you get her to care or that is it.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >She's submissive, she's just fat. How many times do I have to say it? It's an attractiveness issue
            >She's neurotic and she eats when she's stressed out.
            Losing fat is not difficult if you just have the knowledge. I work in fitness. Her diet is bad, that is why she has room left to eat. I bet you two (including you) feed on slop.

            Try this, and she'll lose weight immediately.
            Replace your main source for carbs in your house from whatever crap you're eating now to two things: potatoes (ideally) or rice with green peas (or some other veggie, I do diced carrots sometimes) mixed in

            When you have lunch or dinner, eat this.
            The fibrous nature of the carbs will make it sit in your stomach for longer, and you will simply have no appetite for snacks, stressed or not.

            If she knows she's gained weight, tell her you read about this and that it seems like it could easily make her lose weight (she will), and try it for a week, see how much she will snack.

            Down the line, on a normal diet like this, the last thing you'll think about when you're stressed out is force feeding yourself crap that feels terrible. It's more likely you'll just want to leave the house and escape on a walk or something (which, once again, is just good as well as stress relieving)

            Promise me you'll try this or don't ask for advice ever again. You won't get better advice than this from someone who works in the field (for 8 years so far)

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Motherfricker, are you dense? I told you we met at the gym. I've been lifting for 17 years. I bench over 400. I know how to lose weight. She does too, she's just lazy now.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            You're a cuckold, an actual cuckold. Guck you for thinking you deserve more. My wife is 330 pounds and I frick her twice a week

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous
          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            I didn't read your entire thread moron
            >She does too, she's just lazy now.
            Ok so you are basically asking what you're going to do because your gf's deliberately becoming unattractive and decidedly doesn't want to lose weight despite knowing how (and how easy it is)?

            Basically, you are asking how you deal with a turd you've dropped on your own kitchen table? Have you tried removing it? And if you don't want to, how about living with the consequences of having a turd on your kitchen table?

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          It's crazy how powerful this is. Also I have the same problem. Basically I started getting into shape and now she wants to workout to. She sees how other women look at me and she has a fire lit under her ass now.

          I'm still struggling with this but I realized as a man you are responsible for your wife as if she is you. They can be molded to anything you desire. This alone is what has started to repair my marriage which is very similar issue. Sex once a month bad level.

  2. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    within a marriage, men have had affairs, forever. you keep the wife for whatever reason: whether its for public appearances, children, etc. and then you find someone for sex

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      That will make me even less interested in her physically.

      I would simply be blunt and tell her that you will find her more attractive if she loses weight.

      I already have.

      how often are you doing it now and how much more often will you have to do it?

      Once a week typically. Less if I can find an excuse.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        You're bored dumbass. Either spice it up or start cheating cause how you feel won't get any better. Once your brain tells you sex is with a particular person is boring, nothing will fix it naturally.

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        how can once a week already be too much for you? if you value your relationship, and you should, then you should be able to do this thing once or twice a week just to make her happy.

        can you just use toys on her if your dick does not get hard enough anymore?

        see making your gf come as an important relationship skill and get good at that. it should give you joy even if you do not cum yourself.

        if she would tell me she is too bored of you i would tell her to get over herself and just suck dick twice a week. you are a man, it should be easier for you to get over yourself and toy her to orgasm while she is in bondage or some shit like that.

        • 1 month ago
          Anonymous

          >how can once a week already be too much for you?

          She got fat I'm surrounded by attractive girls all day.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            like how fat? how much did she gain?

            i guess if that is a total dealbreaker to you you have to tell her and try to fix this. no idea how to do that tactfully though. but there is probably a lot of advice on the net about that already.

            good luck

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            We met in the gym when she was a tight 19 year old. Now she's stopped working out and she's 145 lbs and she has lunch lady arms.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            145lbs is not even fat, it is an exemplary weight for an adult woman biologically speaking. Its rather than you are mad she grew up and is starting olding.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >145lbs is not even fat,

            Lol what? She's 5'3. Of course it's fat. She looks like this now. Not her but close enough.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            you have a problem with a woman with a little meat on the bone? i'd eat that ass like chicken chow mein

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            That's because you have low standards. I'm used to dating fit girls and hs/college girls with trim waist and smooth skin. She used to be like that but now she's fat and has cellulite. There are currently 2 pregnant girls in our friend circle and she's fatter than both of them. It's embarrassing.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            If being free of the white means becoming like you, then I don't want to be cured

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            What the frick does that mean, Pajeet?

            Its over. If you've been direct and she doesn't listen I believe she got too comfy. It will only get worse until you start to resent her. I was in a similar situation and the second you find them unattractive its over. Only it took me an extra year which wasted so much time. good luck OP hopefully you get a baddie that can stay in shape.

            That's what I'm afraid of. 6 years down the drain. The worst part is that I've rejected multiple women in that period, including underaged girls and a literal fitness model, all to be loyal and traditional. What a load of shit.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            how exactly did you bring up the topic of her being fat and what did she say exactly?

            did you bring it up only once? if multiple times, how did she react differently over time?

            can you maybe find a way to make her jealous of fitter looking girls? usually women want to be desired. does she somehow still believe that you think she is hot?

            can you make a bigger deal about your boner? fake erectile dysfunction? but get really upset about it. maybe say that your dick somehow magically works better everytime you go to gym, where you have been talking to that really fit girl.

            dude idk. she is a woman, somehow you should be able to make her selfconscious about her weight. also she is your partner, somehow you should be able to make her care about your feelings.

            can you lose weight? or maybe gain some weight then say that you want to lose it and she can help by also losing weight. there are studies that say that if one partner can lose weight then the other takes on the good habits as well and loses weight easier.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            She is self-conscious, she just loves food more. She "jokes" about me not being into her anymore because she's gained weight, but we both know it's true.

            Being 'traditional' would include being a man with enough control of his relationship to have no consequence (or fear of such) from saying "you are getting too fat". Maybe you should grow up and respect your relationship enough to actually be honest in it.

            moron. We've already had the "you're getting fat" conversation.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            this sounds like she is either an extremely lame, low energy person, or you two have a very dysfunctional communication style.

            but if it would be the former, why would you two have gotten together anyway?

            why does she have no sense of urgency about that if it seems like she is losing you and she is obviously aware.

            is she depressed or something?

            something here is not quite right.

            i mean if you dump her she will not easily find someone better. does she not believe you will ever dump her?

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Being 'traditional' would include being a man with enough control of his relationship to have no consequence (or fear of such) from saying "you are getting too fat". Maybe you should grow up and respect your relationship enough to actually be honest in it.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >That's because you have low standards. I'm used to dating fit girls and hs/college girls with trim waist and smooth skin.
            Good. Keep doing that and your line will die out. since you're not made for family life. Problem solved.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            >have lots of sex and your line will die out

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            Send your wife to me and I will sexually satisfy her you fricking homosexual.

          • 1 month ago
            Anonymous

            145 pounds on a woman is fricking whale tier are you insane?
            OP you have people giving you advice who dont think 145 is Jabba the Hut territory.

            My girl is 95 pounds and hot and after 3 years I have the same problem, bored of fricking her and it's causing big trouble for the relationship

      • 1 month ago
        Anonymous

        Its over. If you've been direct and she doesn't listen I believe she got too comfy. It will only get worse until you start to resent her. I was in a similar situation and the second you find them unattractive its over. Only it took me an extra year which wasted so much time. Good luck OP hopefully you get a baddie that can stay in shape.

  3. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    I would simply be blunt and tell her that you will find her more attractive if she loses weight.

  4. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    how often are you doing it now and how much more often will you have to do it?

  5. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    This is really simple. You have allowed your relationship to wither by failing to put in the necessary work. You stopped dating her, lost interest and started pinning for the grass on the other side. These are all things of your own doing and well within your power to resolve.

  6. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    >PS my testosterone levels are 950 ng/dl.
    you need to kys
    imagine being a man and caring about t levels

  7. 1 month ago
    Anonymous

    You and me both anon.
    My wife pulled the pin on the fat grenade but still expects me to frick her....
    Then tells me I have a problem when I can't get it up.
    Don't get married anons.

    • 1 month ago
      Anonymous

      I can get it up, but it's not enough. She wants foreplay and passion and all that other shit.

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